Chikky
Well-known member
Really, I don't know why I try anymore.
I've been at my job for 4 years now. I'm GOOD at my job. Most days it doesn't bother me. Some days it does.
No one knows I am there. Literally. Someone sat in the desk next to me for two hours before realizing I was there and working. A manager came in today and there were three of sitting there and she says 'Oh, A, you look so pretty today! And B! You do, too!' Then totally ignored me, didn't say hi and walked off.
At the end of the day someone left and there was me and another girl and they told her goodbye, stuck their head in another office to say goodbye to them, then ignored me and left.
I do all the work, really. I don't want to go into details, but I do alot of extra stuff no one else does. And almost every person who has started after me has been promoted BUT me. I was actually told that I didn't have 'the look' to be promoted, and that they 'like 'A'', so she got to be promoted'.
The worst part is when I get frustrated and complain to my man. I think I totally frustrate him. Then I get feeling even worse and I say things that even I know are stupid and sound like I have no self confidence. So we both get argumentative, I feel worse, apologize, and feel like an idiot for even caring about these people at work. I feel weak and inferior and like a CHILD for caring and for complaining to him. It makes me look weak in his eyes, in my eyes. It makes me seem... petty or something. Now he'll look at me as someone with no self confidence and who cares what others think. I even said 'so I'm only pretty enough to sit and answer phones'? to him. I'm so dumb.
So I apologized because I kept him up late, and he said that apologizing doesn't change any part of it. Only stopping my frustration would be the best apology.
I feel like such a child. Why can't I either A) shut my mouth, B)stop caring or C) get people to like me?
I've been at my job for 4 years now. I'm GOOD at my job. Most days it doesn't bother me. Some days it does.
No one knows I am there. Literally. Someone sat in the desk next to me for two hours before realizing I was there and working. A manager came in today and there were three of sitting there and she says 'Oh, A, you look so pretty today! And B! You do, too!' Then totally ignored me, didn't say hi and walked off.
At the end of the day someone left and there was me and another girl and they told her goodbye, stuck their head in another office to say goodbye to them, then ignored me and left.
I do all the work, really. I don't want to go into details, but I do alot of extra stuff no one else does. And almost every person who has started after me has been promoted BUT me. I was actually told that I didn't have 'the look' to be promoted, and that they 'like 'A'', so she got to be promoted'.
The worst part is when I get frustrated and complain to my man. I think I totally frustrate him. Then I get feeling even worse and I say things that even I know are stupid and sound like I have no self confidence. So we both get argumentative, I feel worse, apologize, and feel like an idiot for even caring about these people at work. I feel weak and inferior and like a CHILD for caring and for complaining to him. It makes me look weak in his eyes, in my eyes. It makes me seem... petty or something. Now he'll look at me as someone with no self confidence and who cares what others think. I even said 'so I'm only pretty enough to sit and answer phones'? to him. I'm so dumb.
So I apologized because I kept him up late, and he said that apologizing doesn't change any part of it. Only stopping my frustration would be the best apology.
I feel like such a child. Why can't I either A) shut my mouth, B)stop caring or C) get people to like me?