Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[veronikawithak]

my Pedro order? ... lol.. you bad bad veronikawithak..
my order for Pedro: P E D R O and a back up

I had to! The only glosses I have are the Rose set of 12 minis from Bite and only like 2 full sized.. all cream shades with no sparkle or metallic. I want to branch out! I'm in a creative (but still hopefully somewhat sensible) phase right now. Also when I graduate next year it'll be toned-down neutrals at work so I want to explore the wild side while I still can.

At least I'm not being

about it. Whenever I buy, I come to confess. Somehow that makes it feel less bad! Now I know how some religious people feel about confession lol.

Also.. I've been really good about not picking up multiple things I'm not sure will work on me all at once. I'm slowly introducing one new element at a time and really learning how to work with it and incorporate it into my style.

 

[DarylandCarole]

Aww, sorry your feeling down chick. Big hugs! I know some families don't like to talk about things, but it actually helps. My family isn't that close, well I don't talk to a lot of them, but when my granny died that's all me & a few cousins did. About things she said, did. She may not have any of his items, but you'll Always have your memories. But it would be nice if you could have a Lil piece, momentum of his. The car would be nice & you'd think she'd want a family member to have the car. I think you should try to talk to her, let her know how your feeling, you'd like to have a little something to remind you of your father, even if she doesn't want to give you the car. I think it helps to cry, but like I said it helps to talk about it and you ll Always have the pics & memories, no one can take that from you. Hugs!

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. Death seems to bring out the worst of people at a time when everyone needs support and community the most. I lost my father to cancer as well, in September 2012. My mother is saving a couple of small items for me so I'll have something of his. There are other larger items I would have kept but it wasn't practical for me at the time. But she constantly puts him down and complains about how he didn't get his affairs in order before he passed.. which is stressful for a child. I know this doesn't resolve your situation in the way that you might want.. but I try not to attach the significance of a person to any kind of physical item (except my engagement ring). My memories are my most valuable possessions I have of my father and other loved ones and I want it to stay that way. My mother lost her mother and was shut out of getting any of her belongings by her stepfather.. to this day she is still extremely bitter and resentful about it (after 20 years) and very much places her worth on possessions rather than memories and experiences. You deserve much better than that! I hope you find peace and happiness soon. :support: On a different note.. perhaps you could sort out a payment plan for the car? Or ask again for a keepsake? Or find a nice photo frame to put up with pictures of him so you have something that you can see every day that keeps him close?

I agree with Veronika. Don't focus on the car because your stepmother has all the control over the item, so by doing that you are just giving her control over you. The car is just a symbol of your father, and probably wouldn't be a practical choice if you were to buy a car, anyway. Focus on what the car really means, which is your memories. Nobody can take those away from you. All the car really does is bring up memories of your father, which you already have. So maybe think of some way you can honor your father that nobody else can interfere with, like making a small donation to a cancer society or take a long walk and really think hard about some of the things he taught you and what you learned from having him in your life. It's better to experience the feelings rather than try to suppress them-- go through it, not around.

I agree with the others that have posted. If you really do want to buy the car, maybe see if your stepmom is willing to work out a payment plan with you to buy the car. Explain to her how much this item in particular means to you. Good luck!

Thank you, guys! You are right, the car is just a car, and it wouldn't be practical for me to have it. The winters where I live would rust it out. I do have a lot of photos, thank God, and some things that he bought me over the years. Right now I live with my Mom who has been divorced from my Dad for 29 years, but she's still bitter. I don't dare even bring him up in conversation let alone have a photo of him out. It's not that he was bad to her, either, she just hates that he wanted a divorce. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow, I was just caught off guard by reading that my stepmom was selling the car. I tried to stay in touch after my Dad died by calling and emailing but she didn't respond often. She got upset with me when I went there before my Dad died. I wanted to be there to talk to the Dr. About his prognosis and she told me she didn't want me there. Long story but that opened my eyes to what she thought of me. Anyhow, I'll let the thread go back to the make-up topic, but I truly appreciate the helpful advice and will carry it with me today in my mind. I hate feeling sad but I guess we all do sometimes.

 

[CrimsonQuill157]

Thank you, guys! You are right, the car is just a car, and it wouldn't be practical for me to have it. The winters where I live would rust it out. I do have a lot of photos, thank God, and some things that he bought me over the years. Right now I live with my Mom who has been divorced from my Dad for 29 years, but she's still bitter. I don't dare even bring him up in conversation let alone have a photo of him out. It's not that he was bad to her, either, she just hates that he wanted a divorce. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow, I was just caught off guard by reading that my stepmom was selling the car. I tried to stay in touch after my Dad died by calling and emailing but she didn't respond often. She got upset with me when I went there before my Dad died. I wanted to be there to talk to the Dr. About his prognosis and she told me she didn't want me there. Long story but that opened my eyes to what she thought of me. Anyhow, I'll let the thread go back to the make-up topic, but I truly appreciate the helpful advice and will carry it with me today in my mind. I hate feeling sad but I guess we all do sometimes.

I am so sorry about everything you're going through. I can't imagine going through that. I'm not good with comforting words but I wish you peace.

 

[CrimsonQuill157]

Today is mine and Rob's anniversary. We were going to go out to eat but I think I'll go pick something up - he's feeling better but he's said he doesn't want to go out looking the way he does. Both he and his grandfather said they are done dealing with the law. They feel it's completely failed them and they don't want to put more time and resources into it. Plus his grandfather has heart trouble and I don't think he can take much more of this.

 

[veronikawithak]

Anyhow, I'll let the thread go back to the make-up topic, but I truly appreciate the helpful advice and will carry it with me today in my mind. I hate feeling sad but I guess we all do sometimes.

Yes it sounds like you might have been more upset about how your stepmom has treated you and how she's handled everything rather than wanting the car itself. Which is understandable! I'd be very upset too. I like this quote which goes: "Sometimes the people in your passenger seat are the ones who should be in your rearview mirror." It's about letting go of toxic relationships and those people who only make you an afterthought when you make them a priority. Don't let interactions with others diminish you or your grieving process. I know it's harder with family sometimes but I think it can still apply.. you deserve positive and loving people around you.

 

[NaomiH]

Anyhow, I'll let the thread go back to the make-up topic, but I truly appreciate the helpful advice and will carry it with me today in my mind. I hate feeling sad but I guess we all do sometimes.

I'm sorry you're having a rough time, Burghchick and I hope everything gets better for you soon.

 

[Sylvia60]

Thank you, guys! You are right, the car is just a car, and it wouldn't be practical for me to have it. The winters where I live would rust it out. I do have a lot of photos, thank God, and some things that he bought me over the years. Right now I live with my Mom who has been divorced from my Dad for 29 years, but she's still bitter. I don't dare even bring him up in conversation let alone have a photo of him out. It's not that he was bad to her, either, she just hates that he wanted a divorce. [ . . . ]

Just about the last thing a woman who's still smarting from a divorce thirty years on needs is to have the fella's old car rusting away in her driveway.

Have a heart, burghchick! Shower your love and affection on the parent you have at hand!

 

[liba]

We intend to contact the DA. We're just not sure where all their damn strings are.
Quote: Originally Posted by CrimsonQuill157

Today is mine and Rob's anniversary. We were going to go out to eat but I think I'll go pick something up - he's feeling better but he's said he doesn't want to go out looking the way he does.

Both he and his grandfather said they are done dealing with the law. They feel it's completely failed them and they don't want to put more time and resources into it. Plus his grandfather has heart trouble and I don't think he can take much more of this.

I'm sorry this whole thing has been so dispiriting, they're feeling like they're done with the law. You know that even when you can't get criminal charges pressed, you normally can EASILY start a civil lawsuit to demand damages and medical expenses - those are way easier to initiate and also way easier to get a settlement from. There are always lawyers that go for taking on cases like that, because there's usually money in it for them (at the very least - I know that's not altruistic to say). Once you have a lawyer on it, it's pretty great, since the law firm will do ALL the work and shield you from having to communicate directly with anyone. I've had to take people to court, when I was a freelancer, and have done it on my own as well as with legal help and doing it with a lawyer is a really relieving feeling. You get what you pay for with them, normally - and you won't necessarily need to pay a penny up front. It doesn't matter if the police were willing to press charges or not to start a civil suit, so don't let that get in the way! Talking to the media can point you in the direction of a decent lawyer too, btw.

Have a great anniversary celebration and forget about all this crap for a night!

 

[Dominique33]

And thanks so much for being the kind of people that I feel comfortable enough talking to.

This is a sad story. I am so sorry for your loss and what's happening to you now. We have been fighting against cancer ( my late mother, my father, aunts, ) and losses for years. My best friend took his own life in 2013 and all previous " friends " ( all of them ) let us down, it means no friends, no family anymore whatsoever. Boyfriends well, love is another story. My life is about illness and funerals, nothing else so far I know. That's why I understand what you feel. It's hard to be strong and believe in anything except myself. I can't stop thinking about people who are currently suffering from hunger, wars and poverty. Billions of people, children, women, they will never hear of MAC or Chanel, worst of all they will never hear about water or food.
So keep strong, life is made of sorrows, tears and sometimes pièces of dreams of joy.

 

[liba]

This is a sad story. I am so sorry for your loss and what's happening to you now. We have been fighting against cancer ( my late mother, my father, aunts, ) and losses for years. My best friend took his own life in 2013 and all previous " friends " ( all of them ) let us down, it means no friends, no family anymore whatsoever. Boyfriends well, love is another story. My life is about illness and funerals, nothing else so far I know. That's why I understand what you feel. It's hard to be strong and believe in anything except myself. I can't stop thinking about people who are currently suffering from hunger, wars and poverty. Billions of people, children, women, they will never hear of MAC or Chanel, worst of all they will never hear about water or food.
So keep strong, life is made of sorrows, tears and sometimes pièces of dreams of joy.

beautifully put. believing in yourself is your best bet in the long run, even if it's lonely. we see our world from inside our heads first, before the eyes even get involved and that's where we can make the change between seeing beauty or pain.

 

[liba]

I poked my head in the Pedro thread, but I think it'll be better to just come here to say it again:

The lipsticks aren't very unique or amazing, not to mention they are all the sort of reds that could be very unflattering and harsh looking if you're trying them on the wrong skin tone. If you can't try before buying, it won't be any big loss to skip them. Stalking is not necessary for this particular collection.

The glosses are really nice but they're a strong statement and I can guarantee that most people will not get regular use out of them. They're for nighttime or for people who can handle a strong, unnatural look. Also, Mirror is a very grey silver, so it's not going to be as good on everyone. If you're young, it's going to look weirder, in my opinion. I love it and even I am not going to back it up, and I am one of those daring makeup people.

 

[Rainbunny]

I poked my head in the Pedro thread, but I think it'll be better to just come here to say it again: The lipsticks aren't very unique or amazing, not to mention they are all the sort of reds that could be very unflattering and harsh looking if you're trying them on the wrong skin tone. If you can't try before buying, it won't be any big loss to skip them. Stalking is not necessary for this particular collection. The glosses are really nice but they're a strong statement and I can guarantee that most people will not get regular use out of them. They're for nighttime or for people who can handle a strong, unnatural look. Also, Mirror is a very grey silver, so it's not going to be as good on everyone. If you're young, it's going to look weirder, in my opinion. I love it and even I am not going to back it up, and I am one of those daring makeup people.

Liba, I'm NC-15 like you, with blue eyes. In your opinion, which of the reds work for our skintone? I really liked Mangrove and Head in the Clouds on me, Riri Woo was too much on me, and have come to the conclusion that I like warm-toned orangey-reds on but not blue-reds. Do you think either Ruby and True Red would work? I'll try them on, but would be interested in what you think about them for NC-15s generally.

 

[Dominique33]

beautifully put. believing in yourself is your best bet in the long run, even if it's lonely. we see our world from inside our heads first, before the eyes even get involved and that's where we can make the change between seeing beauty or pain.

Thank you Beautifully put too, I agree.

 

[Ajigglin]

Yes it sounds like you might have been more upset about how your stepmom has treated you and how she's handled everything rather than wanting the car itself. Which is understandable! I'd be very upset too. I like this quote which goes: "Sometimes the people in your passenger seat are the ones who should be in your rearview mirror." It's about letting go of toxic relationships and those people who only make you an afterthought when you make them a priority. Don't let interactions with others diminish you or your grieving process. I know it's harder with family sometimes but I think it can still apply.. you deserve positive and loving people around you.

You just preached a word! I felt that over here.

I poked my head in the Pedro thread, but I think it'll be better to just come here to say it again: The lipsticks aren't very unique or amazing, not to mention they are all the sort of reds that could be very unflattering and harsh looking if you're trying them on the wrong skin tone. If you can't try before buying, it won't be any big loss to skip them. Stalking is not necessary for this particular collection. The glosses are really nice but they're a strong statement and I can guarantee that most people will not get regular use out of them. They're for nighttime or for people who can handle a strong, unnatural look. Also, Mirror is a very grey silver, so it's not going to be as good on everyone. If you're young, it's going to look weirder, in my opinion. I love it and even I am not going to back it up, and I am one of those daring makeup people.

Thanks, Liba!

 

[Prettypackages]

I don't really know how they smell when they are outright bad... but I've gotten rid of some that just smelled "off"... You know how they smell when they are new, and then they get to a point where they don't smell right. That and if the consistency seems off. If there is visible liquid separation in the tube. I really wish there was an easier way to tell.

I had my lipsticks organized by shade, but then realized the finish is a huge factor for me when selecting a lipstick. So I reorganized them by finish and then by shade.

I have always felt weird about buying or selling used glosses too. So unless it was a family member or close friend that I would just give it to, I usually just B2M or throw away the ones that I am done using.

thank you for all the suggestions!

 

[liba]

Thank you Beautifully put too, I agree.

Thank you! It's my basic philosophy of life.

 

[jennyap]

I thought Ruby looked the most exciting and unique on me, but it was reminiscent enough of the red from Divine Night that I felt it was resistible for my taste. True Red was cute, but I have plenty of Scarlet Ibis, which I feel is more of a statement because of its finish. Roxo was third and was rather nice for a browner color, but this is one of my lesser worn types of red and Fixed on Drama will take care of the urge if it arises.

Mangrove is the best MAC red for me this year, in terms of color plus uniqueness and modernity. I like VG Riri a touch better than Head in the Clouds, which I felt had cheaper quality pigment in it than VG Riri. I have to wear the gloss over VG Riri for it to look its best though. It's still my other favorite red so far. If MAC did another red frost that was more of a vibrant scarlet than VG Riri, I would get all worked up, but for now, all my red needs for 2014 have been satisfied with Mangrove and the VG Riri combo platter.

Thank you! It's my basic philosophy of life.

Mangrove is barely red on me at all, it's pretty much a deep neon orange!

 

[Prettypackages]

I thought Ruby looked the most exciting and unique on me, but it was reminiscent enough of the red from Divine Night that I felt it was resistible for my taste. True Red was cute, but I have plenty of Scarlet Ibis, which I feel is more of a statement because of its finish. Roxo was third and was rather nice for a browner color, but this is one of my lesser worn types of red and Fixed on Drama will take care of the urge if it arises.

Mangrove is the best MAC red for me this year, in terms of color plus uniqueness and modernity. I like VG Riri a touch better than Head in the Clouds, which I felt had cheaper quality pigment in it than VG Riri. I have to wear the gloss over VG Riri for it to look its best though. It's still my other favorite red so far. If MAC did another red frost that was more of a vibrant scarlet than VG Riri, I would get all worked up, but for now, all my red needs for 2014 have been satisfied with Mangrove and the VG Riri combo platter.

Thank you! It's my basic philosophy of life.

Did the brown one remind you of Runaway red?

 

[awickedshape]

Yay!
Going to get caught up.

I've been quite bad so just one item from MAC x Pedro, a Chanel RC lipstick and maybe a NARS one to try and one as-yet-unknown item until Christmas. Fingers crossed.

I'm quoting my own post.
I was bad. I ordered more that one item from MxP

I hope to do better in the next few months!

 

[CrimsonQuill157]

Just about the last thing a woman who's still smarting from a divorce thirty years on needs is to have the fella's old car rusting away in her driveway.

Have a heart, burghchick! Shower your love and affection on the parent you have at hand!

I think it is burghchick who is in need of love and affection from us right now rather than criticizing her choices.