mel33t
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Osbournes got nasty really quickly...I felt really bad and got out of there.
Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?
- Thread starter PixieDancer
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Do a running total. The number will really shock you, and it will slow you down. $300 a month is $3,600 a year, which is a lot to spend on makeup. And if you aren't keeping track, it's likelier to be more than that. Better to know you're near $3,000 half-way during the year, and slow yourself WAY down, than look back when it's too late and realize you spent $5,000 on makeup or more in just one year! You have to track drugstore MU too, since that adds up to more than you think. My rule is even if I buy more than I should, I have to track it. No exceptions. Doing this with weight loss, too, and it's helping me curb my bad habits. Still very far from perfect, but as long as I track, it holds me in check at least a little bit. And something is better than nothing. I'm firmly of the philosophy of don't let perfection be the enemy of the good. Perfect isn't sustainable but doing better is.
I guess that would be me, lol.Welcome new members & welcome back to not-so-new members.I'm so happy this thread is more active again.
Loving the challenges people are posting. @PixieDancer another vote for you to keep posting your challenge! I really enjoyed seeing what you used. @jennyap I like your challenge too! Reminds me of those closet challenges where you turn the hangers backwards. When I did a "use all the things" couple months ago it really opened my eyes to how much I had and how many days I could go without repetition. Good luck!
I've been working on unsubscribing from as many threads as possible.. Finally got down to 6!: Moody Blooms (for Black Ivy fluidline), Simpsons (curiosity), Collections Calendar (fear of missing out), Early Buzz (curiosity), TEAMLOWBUY (OBVIOUSLY), and just added Theme Makeup (inspiration).
I've always believed in reducing the elements in your life that affect you in a negative way, but I've been failing to apply that to this forum. I love talking to people who have the same interests, but the roller coaster of threads is becoming too much for me and outweighing the fun. From the rush of it being up, to the lists and "double dipping" that goes on when people see what everyone else bought, to not-so-secret pms, to the items selling out, to people getting upset that they missed out, to people starting unnecessary drama.. and just the sheer repetitiveness of it all. It's not my style and I don't really fit in with that cycle. Thought about it a lot before bed last night and I'm over it - or at the very least I need an extended break. Subscribing until the collection releases and then unsubscribing before all the madness starts will have to be my compromise I think. I'll miss the awesome looks people do with their new items but I can always check out FOTD posts or the theme makeup thread right?
I'm so glad that we're all feeling similar about needing to take a step back. It's been kind of an overwhelming couple of weeks here.. I know I've been swept up in it as well.. I'm partly thrilled because I've discovered some things I never thought I'd enjoy (metallic glosses & bronzer). BUT, now that I have them I want to make sure I give them as much love as I thought I would when I bought them.
I guess those big collection releases have some people stressed so they can overreact easily, which is annyoing for everyone else. Plus certain people kinda trolling where I believe I'm the only one who notices/knows... long story. Before my mod days, but still annyoing. I know I shouldn't let the dislike for one person get to me. I'm definitely trying my best to keep it nice and to calm the situation down when it gets a little heated. I would hope that everyone knows that they can always PM me, or any other mod, if they feel the need to talk about anything or have any questions...
Or if you have any personal questions, no need to PM others about me, you can ask me directly...
In other news, I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my MAC collection low-buy. If I'm not forgetting anything, it's still just three LE items this year so far!
kerry-jane88
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I've felt anxious thinking about whether I should or shouldn't buy something, makeup included. I've felt guilt from overspending, making me anxious about my life choices. Im increasingly aware of it, I don't think it does anyone any favours to pretend that shopping for non essentials like makeup isn't an emotionally fuelled experience, because it is. Im trying to step away from hype because reading about people trying to make crazy haul orders isn't where im at at all. I like to think im a helpful person, so I see snarkiness as unnecessary, but then were all different in our ways for different reasons.
NaomiH
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That's awesome Naynadine!I hope not... Not gonna lie, I have a little trouble keeping up with the threads in the last couple of days as I don't feel too good and the threads are moving fast, so it takes quiete some energy reading all of it. Haven't caught up with the Osbourne thread yet.
I guess that would be me, lol.
I guess those big collection releases have some people stressed so they can overreact easily, which is annyoing for everyone else. Plus certain people kinda trolling where I believe I'm the only one who notices/knows... long story. Before my mod days, but still annyoing. I know I shouldn't let the dislike for one person get to me. I'm definitely trying my best to keep it nice and to calm the situation down when it gets a little heated. I would hope that everyone knows that they can always PM me, or any other mod, if they feel the need to talk about anything or have any questions...
Or if you have any personal questions, no need to PM others about me, you can ask me directly...I won't rip your head off... unless I'm heavily PMSing.
In other news, I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my MAC collection low-buy. If I'm not forgetting anything, it's still just three LE items this year so far!
Jaymuhlee
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Updating my spreadsheets is like my favorite part of hauling. It's the only proper organizing I've been able to do with my makeup because my room is in shambles. Almost all of my makeup is just sitting in empty Sephora/Ulta boxes while I declutter and organize the other junk in the room... Which of course leaves me using the same few things over and over again. I started an inventory spreadsheet since I only just started tracking my purchases last year, but that one is taking a lot longer to get up to date. Soon!
Thank you Naomi
Paint&Ink Chick
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Just hit the reset button girl lol. I've gotten a few items, but think I'm done for a minute. I'm looking at those purchases for good grades lol Hey...
CrimsonQuill157
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I just unsubscribed from Osbournes. Got the lip swatches I was waiting for and...
mel33t
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Whoa...a spreadsheet for organizing makeup. Why did I never think of that?!? That'll really help me
I'm actually fairly good with money, I save, I'm able to somewhat provide for myself, its just lately with makeup I've been buying just to buy. And its not who I am. Don't get me wrong, I love wearing blush and having options...but its gotten out of control for me and I'm changing it
CrimsonQuill157
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Quote: Originally Posted by HerGreyness
Why in the world does anyone get "anxious" about cosmetics? there is something intrinsically wrong with people who get upset about cosmetics. Let's be honest.. it's not life, liberty or the pursuit of happiness.
I think many things are posted easily and off the cuff... and many of the "old timers" or "veterans" are usually for the most part, very amenable to responding to questions be they what they may be. It does get irksome sometimes when people who just joined ask questions which are easily found either online or in the thread itself. There is no need for insults, or trying to put others down. I don't see many people (the veterans ) doing that. In fact, any of us try to help as much as possible.
So what is the crux of this bellyaching? Basic things,, I think if you are going to pay money (your own) to buy a product, you should research it yourself. don't rely on other's opinions or other's ideas. you should by now know what you want and how to get it. Forget Specktra exists and do your due diligence. The most I can ever do is suggest something.. but it is ultimately their choice. If we have total newbies who join and want a full breakdown of what to buy or not to buy it.. well, they might get jumped. Or so it might feel to them. Maybe their skin is too soft for the internet.
From this low buy thread, most of us have been absent and buying like crazy from other threads.. and now we come in here to gripe.
i think it's time to grow up a bit.
and, unlike Debbs, i have not been declawed.
make of this what you will... I too need detox (no lion kings or what not) just common sense will do.
It's not the makeup, it's the back and forth bickering. It's always made me anxious. I can't stand it. I don't do confrontation well lol
Why in the world does anyone get "anxious" about cosmetics? there is something intrinsically wrong with people who get upset about cosmetics. Let's be honest.. it's not life, liberty or the pursuit of happiness.
I think many things are posted easily and off the cuff... and many of the "old timers" or "veterans" are usually for the most part, very amenable to responding to questions be they what they may be. It does get irksome sometimes when people who just joined ask questions which are easily found either online or in the thread itself. There is no need for insults, or trying to put others down. I don't see many people (the veterans ) doing that. In fact, any of us try to help as much as possible.
So what is the crux of this bellyaching? Basic things,, I think if you are going to pay money (your own) to buy a product, you should research it yourself. don't rely on other's opinions or other's ideas. you should by now know what you want and how to get it. Forget Specktra exists and do your due diligence. The most I can ever do is suggest something.. but it is ultimately their choice. If we have total newbies who join and want a full breakdown of what to buy or not to buy it.. well, they might get jumped. Or so it might feel to them. Maybe their skin is too soft for the internet.
From this low buy thread, most of us have been absent and buying like crazy from other threads.. and now we come in here to gripe.
i think it's time to grow up a bit.
and, unlike Debbs, i have not been declawed.
make of this what you will... I too need detox (no lion kings or what not) just common sense will do.
It's not the makeup, it's the back and forth bickering. It's always made me anxious. I can't stand it. I don't do confrontation well lol
Paint&Ink Chick
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[quote name="HerGreyness" url="/t/185789/resolution-low-buy-2014-who-wants-to-play/7080#post_2665068"] Why in the world does anyone get "anxious" about cosmetics? there is something intrinsically wrong with people who get upset about cosmetics. Let's be honest.. it's not life, liberty or the pursuit of happiness. I think many things are posted easily and off the cuff... and many of the "old timers" or "veterans" are usually for the most part, very amenable to responding to questions be they what they may be. It does get irksome sometimes when people who just joined ask questions which are easily found either online or in the thread itself. There is no need for insults, or trying to put others down. I don't see many people (the veterans ) doing that. In fact, any of us try to help as much as possible. So what is the crux of this bellyaching? Basic things,, I think if you are going to pay money (your own) to buy a product, you should research it yourself. don't rely on other's opinions or other's ideas. you should by now know what you want and how to get it. Forget Specktra exists and do your due diligence. The most I can ever do is suggest something.. but it is ultimately their choice. If we have total newbies who join and want a full breakdown of what to buy or not to buy it.. well, they might get jumped. Or so it might feel to them. Maybe their skin is too soft for the internet. From this low buy thread, most of us have been absent and buying like crazy from other threads.. and now we come in here to gripe. i think it's time to grow up a bit. and, unlike Debbs, i have not been declawed. make of this what you will... I too need detox (no lion kings or what not) just common sense will do. [/quote] AMEN! It's just makeup, girl please, get over it. I refuse to get anxious or upset about makeup. Steal for that matter to, as I've been swap lifted ...smh. I've had a couple ppl on her be rude, but like Jigga, I got 99 problems but a ___ ain't one. So appreciate all you lovely ladies in here. Plus it's not that big of a deal, I got kids if I was worry or be anxious lol.
veronikawithak
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To clarify, I wasn't talking about the existence of the secret pm system. I support that completely! My only problem is the open flaunting of the system that is supposedly secret.. lol. It doesn't make sense to me, and seems to only serve the purpose of creating tension. And trust me, the trolling is noticeable even for those who have no idea what the situation was!I hope not... Not gonna lie, I have a little trouble keeping up with the threads in the last couple of days as I don't feel too good and the threads are moving fast, so it takes quiete some energy reading all of it. Haven't caught up with the Osbourne thread yet.
I guess that would be me, lol.
I guess those big collection releases have some people stressed so they can overreact easily, which is annyoing for everyone else. Plus certain people kinda trolling where I believe I'm the only one who notices/knows... long story. Before my mod days, but still annyoing. I know I shouldn't let the dislike for one person get to me. I'm definitely trying my best to keep it nice and to calm the situation down when it gets a little heated. I would hope that everyone knows that they can always PM me, or any other mod, if they feel the need to talk about anything or have any questions...
Or if you have any personal questions, no need to PM others about me, you can ask me directly...I won't rip your head off... unless I'm heavily PMSing.
In other news, I'm pretty proud of myself for sticking to my MAC collection low-buy. If I'm not forgetting anything, it's still just three LE items this year so far!
I've noticed you trying to calm things down, kudos for that! I'm not sure there's any resolution.. there will always be personalities that clash and the Internet just exacerbates that.
GOOD JOB on the 3 LE items! You're my hero!
CrimsonQuill157
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Exactly! You said it much better than I could.@HerGreyness It's not the cosmetics we were necessarily talking about being anxious about - although I think that's a legitimate problem for some people - just the culture in the threads. For whatever reason, tensions always start to run high at certain points. I completely agree with everything you've said about due diligence. I can also see where some of the new members are coming from. However, neither of those points are really at issue for me. My main complaint is that I needed a break from the cycle - and I don't think that's an unreasonable thing to say. I'm sure you can understand that it's exhausting reading the same comments over and over again. This is the first time I've tried to keep up with a few major threads at a time and I got burnt out really fast. That's all.
Also, I've tried to keep up with this thread while I've been making purchases, but I don't see it as abandoning the thread and coming back only to complain. (I hope everyone would call me out on it if that's what it seems like I'm doing.) I'm just getting myself back on track and talking out what went wrong and how I can do better next time, with people who may be feeling the same things. That's exactly what this thread is for IMO.
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To clarify, I wasn't talking about the existence of the secret pm system. I support that completely! My only problem is the open flaunting of the system that is supposedly secret.. lol. It doesn't make sense to me, and seems to only serve the purpose of creating tension. And trust me, the trolling is noticeable even for those who have no idea what the situation was!
I've noticed you trying to calm things down, kudos for that! I'm not sure there's any resolution.. there will always be personalities that clash and the Internet just exacerbates that.
GOOD JOB on the 3 LE items! You're my hero!
veronikawithak
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Quote: Originally Posted by CrimsonQuill157
It's not the makeup, it's the back and forth bickering. It's always made me anxious. I can't stand it. I don't do confrontation well lol
It makes me anxious in the way that neighbors hoarding bags of garbage on their lawns makes me anxious.. You just watch them pile up and shudder..
It's not the makeup, it's the back and forth bickering. It's always made me anxious. I can't stand it. I don't do confrontation well lol
It makes me anxious in the way that neighbors hoarding bags of garbage on their lawns makes me anxious.. You just watch them pile up and shudder..
mel33t
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I'm an accountant... Trust me I know exactly where my money is and how much I've spent. Unfortunately I went through a pretty nasty quarter life crisis and still going through it and makeup became my little escape. It always made me feel awesome to have a new blush or eye shadow and play with new looks. Its still okay to do that, but I need to channel my feelings into something productive
CrimsonQuill157
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Thanks to skipping Osbournes, I was able to get a back-up of Enchanted One!!!!!
CrimsonQuill157
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This has certainly taught me a lesson... Because I didn't buy some things that I liked but more wanted for the "must have ALL the lipsticks" vibe, I was able to get something I know I will use. I was afraid I would have to hoard my Enchanted One because it was just too perfect a nude, and now I don't. Thank you ladies for your encouragement!!!!
veronikawithak
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That is such a success story!! LOVE IT!
I feel that way about MB.. there are a couple of things I'm on the fence about.. but FALL IS COMING. AND WINTER. And so on. There will always be new shiny.. and down the road there might be that perfect item that's worth holding out for!
