Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

shellygrrl

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Recently, I've had a bit of a falling out with a friend. We didn't get into a fight or anything like that, honestly we've both just been busy and haven't had time for each other. Completely understandable. We used to date for a few months and agreed it wouldn't work out. This was like two years ago. And it really hurt me, not gonna lie. But I don't have feelings for him in that sense anymore. What hurts me now is that he remained friends with people who hurt me, who I've forgiven and moved on. He's also gotten into the habit of rubbing in how much he makes, where he's going on vacation, how nice his apartment is etc. Its gotten to the point where I've blocked him on social media because I don't want to see the pictures. It even bothers me more because I've literally clawed my way to where I am and he makes significantly more than me and is able to do these things without effort it seems. The last time he talked to me was about a month ago, right before my CPA and he asked me to proofread a paper for him for grad school. No hey, how are you. No how's the CPA studying. Nothing. I called him out and said that I wouldn't help him. He got pissy and whiny about it and we haven't really talked except for a few texts. Again, Nome of which he's asked me about how I'm doing or anything. Its always all about him and advice/favors. Part of me is saying just cut the cord and move on. This kid is seriously an ass hole and I have no clue what I'm holding on to. I'm no longer friends with that group so its not like we are in the same circles. I just don't feel like I deserve this.
You don't deserve this. :down: Cut him off.
Back into Low-Buy mode I go. All of those latest hauls made me realize that in most cases it's better for me to stick with what I know, brand and product wise. Too often I end up not liking something and going back to my old faves.
See, you learned something from your spree! Now you can use this information going forward to keep on track. :nods:
 

Glitteryvegas

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Awww YOU LADIES!!! You make me so happy! Thank you for all of your compliments and encouragement, it means the world to me! I love being here. It's a great place to be!

I purchased RRVG2 gloss and lipstick - returned the lipstick. Felt like a creep returning an item/money for charity. UGHHH. But honestly, it would've gone to waste as it wasn't my shade. Yet another time I let a salegirl sell me something that wasn't right for me! Lesson learned, for at least a while anyways!

@veronikawithak- love that your working your way through products & I really love that you are keeping track of expiry dates, etc. It's important for cleanliness of course and health in general. The other day I had to throw out a scrub that had gone off (the smell was strange) - what a waste. Paying attention to those details helps to keep us in good form and use up our products 'in order'. When was your birthday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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in case I already missed it! I always identify so strongly with your posts too! I feel like we could be 'in real life' friends! When are you moving?! (not to sound like a creepy stalker - when's your birthday?! when are you moving across Canada? WHEN CAN WE BE IRL FRIENDS?!!!
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@PixieDancer- Aww GIRL! You are so sweet. Thank you, Thank you for all of your wonderful words! Over-analyzing is the enemy and stands in the way of achieving greatness and self-acceptance, I think. I love LOVE your new pic that you posted! Will you be performing in Vegas during Oct 10-13? I'll be in town then (hubs doesn't know - tee hee - for his 30th birthday!) & if you are I would love to see you perform! How's your palette rotation going?! The NARS lippies sound great - you've been a good girl by not totally lemming!

@Ajigglin - did you hear about your job interview? Sounds like a great opportunity! I know you've been working so hard at finding the right career and job path - it's so, so important to like what we do! Proud of you for sticking with it even though it must be so difficult sometimes!

@Maris Crane - Thanks for your comments :) I'm so happy about the weight loss. It's like...a weight off my shoulders! haha!
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You are right about the blog accountability factor - if you have followers or people who are interested, it definitely keeps accountability up! Also the Use It Up section or something like it is a great idea!
The next time you're lemming for a product - think of RUSSIA! Maybe keep a picture/postcard of it in your wallet so you can remind yourself of your bigger goals?

@lyseD - I just got Plumful and I LOVE IT! (if you're still in the market for a perm. MAC lippie).

@MissTania- You are so right about the 'hoarding' aspect girl - I can't tell you how many products I've given away or thrown out recently because I didn't need them or I had dupes of them. Just remember- ONWARD AND UPWARD! As we all know cosmetics have an expiry and we need to keep that in mind when we're purchasing! As Peter Walsh says, every item takes up 'real estate' in our homes and we are paying for this by paying for rent/mortgages - so really every item in our home is costing way more than the sticker price. He says "Never throw good money after bad money,' meaning don't waste your good money (mortgage/rent/mental energy/etc) on bad money (items that we've purchased that we don't need).

@VAL4M - WOW! You've accomplished so much! I love it! Can't believe you did a marathon. Running is so good for weight loss, but you're right - finding an activity that you love is so important. I've done a 1/2 and thought I was going to die lol! My hubs and I ran it 2 weeks before our wedding last year and it was quite the challenge. I loved it and would love to do another one. We ran Seawheeze in Vancouver :) And yes, I could see having your child as the #1 accomplishment of your life! Sounds like you have created a very full life for yourself!
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@burghchick - Hey Girl!
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Thanks so much for your lovely and encouraging comments! I agree - we sound like two peas in a pod! I also believe that the world would be a better place if people had more empathy or more open about their feelings. I think people often get burned and that's why they retreat into themselves. It happens to everyone. The key is to know who to trust with those feelings and who should be avoided, while not becoming bitter about the world in general ("The world is full of untrustworthy people," etc). I think empathy and openness are keys to great careers, but they are usually careers that are stressful or emotional! They key there is balance, of course. I'm a teacher right now and it's so hard. I'm only a sub, but honestly - sometimes it's very emotional. You see children going through so many challenges and difficulties. The world truly does benefit from those people who are brave enough to share their vulnerability!
HAHAH about the book recs - I have a few of those rented from the library - great minds think alike! The one about giving up one thing a month & the overspent American - do you recommend both? I have those out right now! hehe.
A big part of happiness I think is striving every day to do little things that are working towards a greater goal. Like you said, sometimes people have crappy years and good years - but the key is to stick with the struggle of the crappy year to get to the good one. Sometimes it seems as if everything is going crappy, but if I can separate parts of my life I can see which parts are going really well and which parts need work. I usually generalize ("I'm struggling right now..." etc) but if I really break it down it's one part of my life that I'm struggling in. Not every part of my life. So that drives me forward and keeps my momentum up! Good for you for striving forward even when you feel like progress is stagnant - sometimes that's all we can do before we get to the next part that's waiting for us! xo

@shellygrrl - Love the pic you posted! The lipstick is gorgeous and so are you (but you look a little shellshocked about something? The price of the NARS lippies perhaps?! haha).

@kait0 - as per your rec I just started Queen of Versailles. Halfway thru and having a hard time relating to these self indulgent people lol. Trying hard not to be too judgmental, but HOLY MAN. Can't believe it. What a lifestyle.

@dodotheextinct - LOVE THIS DRESS!!! Beautiful! I agree, a neutral type eye would work great w/gold/brown tones.

@mel33t - about this boy/shopping situation. It sounds like he's already made it pretty clear that you're a 'low' priority to him because he only reappears when he needs you for some help or an ego boost. You do not deserve this treatment. You've earned everything you've got and you seem lovely. I think you know what you want and need to do but I get that it's hard. Sometimes people from our past remind us of happy times or memories that we'd like to hold on to. But unless you want to reconnect in the future, I would say it's pretty clear that you need to cut ties for yourself. He will not like it and he'll probably bitch about it to mutual friends/acquaintances. You may feel like he's trying to paint you as 'a bitch' etc. for not talking to him/helping him/etc. Any smart person who listens to his stories will understand the probable truth, that you had to get away to help yourself. But honestly, you do not deserve this treatment and you shouldn't accept it. From my experience, I can say that any man who truly wants to reconnect in a romantic way will make you the priority you deserve to be and will let you know that you are a priority.

What are you getting out of this relationship? It doesn't seem like much, or anything at all. Just someone who reappears when it's convenient for him. I think especially given your romantic past, it's important to cut those ties. Those ex-boyfriend/romantic feelings still have an impact on us unconsciously, even if we don't necessarily want a future with someone. At least that's what I believe to be true.

Also - stay strong and resist your urges to 'shop your way out' of these feelings. Come on here - vent - PM us if you need to! Go do your fav. hobby or activity, see friends, etc. Keep busy and avoid, avoid, avoid the malls and online shopping, just like you've been doing. You're doing great girl. xo (I hope you don't take offence to what I'm saying! I'm so sorry if I'm talking way, way too much here).




ALLLRIGHT Girlies. That's all I got for now. Love the chats going on in here! xoxo


PS - I decided to post a link to my wedding photos from 2013, simply so you can see who I am ;) names to faces always helps me! (This is a big step for me - I'm pretty private, but honestly - I've been in here for so long and haven't ever posted a pic...thought it might be time to share!). I thought since I want to start my blog project, I'd better get used to some internet 'publicity' haha. And you can see my hot hubs too
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GAWWWWD he's da best.

Engagement: http://www.kevintrowbridge.com/2013/06/24/melissa-trevor-fly-away-with-me-vintage-airplane-engagement-session-in-kelowna-bc/

Wedding: http://www.kevintrowbridge.com/2013/10/07/melissa-trevor-colourful-fun-the-owl-and-the-pussycat-themed-wedding-at-the-harvest-golf-club-in-kelowna-bc/
 

veronikawithak

Well-known member
[@]Glitteryvegas[/@] Lol! My birthday isn't till February, but I was talking about shopping for my man's which is on the weekend. And we're planning to move next summer.. so we can be IRL friends then! :) Ps. Love the photos! You look stunning.. and I love the engagement setting too.. the suitcases and passports are adorable.. is Mr. Glitteryvegas a pilot?
 

Glitteryvegas

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@Glitteryvegas Lol! My birthday isn't till February, but I was talking about shopping for my man's which is on the weekend. And we're planning to move next summer.. so we can be IRL friends then!
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Ps. Love the photos! You look stunning.. and I love the engagement setting too.. the suitcases and passports are adorable.. is Mr. Glitteryvegas a pilot?
Oh shoot my bad! I read you got him some good presents so I should've clued in! haha. And OMG you're moving HERE?! AHHHHH! So exciting!!! YES!

Thank you so much re: photos! We had such an amazing time at our wedding and our engagement shoot was unreal too. Nope, he's an electrician - the plane was my idea because we love to travel so much!
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haha. Can't believe our photographers hooked that up for us! Amazing.
 

veronikawithak

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Quote: Originally Posted by Glitteryvegas
Oh shoot my bad! I read you got him some good presents so I should've clued in! haha. And OMG you're moving HERE?! AHHHHH! So exciting!!! YES!

Thank you so much re: photos! We had such an amazing time at our wedding and our engagement shoot was unreal too. Nope, he's an electrician - the plane was my idea because we love to travel so much!
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haha. Can't believe our photographers hooked that up for us! Amazing.



Yes! If it works out that's where we're hoping.. If I remember correctly you live in Van right? Love the travel idea! Especially love the last photo where a plane is flying overhead too. Good timing!
 

PixieDancer

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@Glitteryvegas OMG OMG OMG!!! Your albums are just precious! What timeless and treasured memories you had captured so beautifully! You look stunning and deeply in love. You and your hubby look like the picture of perfection. I don;t think I've ever seen such a unique and personalized wedding theme!! It means so much that you would share those with us... I know all too well how difficult that can be to share a part of who you are with strangers on the Internet. It means a lot that you consider us friends... as we do YOU (Melissa
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VAL4M

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Awww YOU LADIES!!! You make me so happy! Thank you for all of your compliments and encouragement, it means the world to me! I love being here. It's a great place to be!

I purchased RRVG2 gloss and lipstick - returned the lipstick. Felt like a creep returning an item/money for charity. UGHHH. But honestly, it would've gone to waste as it wasn't my shade. Yet another time I let a salegirl sell me something that wasn't right for me! Lesson learned, for at least a while anyways!

@veronikawithak- love that your working your way through products & I really love that you are keeping track of expiry dates, etc. It's important for cleanliness of course and health in general. The other day I had to throw out a scrub that had gone off (the smell was strange) - what a waste. Paying attention to those details helps to keep us in good form and use up our products 'in order'. When was your birthday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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in case I already missed it! I always identify so strongly with your posts too! I feel like we could be 'in real life' friends! When are you moving?! (not to sound like a creepy stalker - when's your birthday?! when are you moving across Canada? WHEN CAN WE BE IRL FRIENDS?!!!
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@PixieDancer- Aww GIRL! You are so sweet. Thank you, Thank you for all of your wonderful words! Over-analyzing is the enemy and stands in the way of achieving greatness and self-acceptance, I think. I love LOVE your new pic that you posted! Will you be performing in Vegas during Oct 10-13? I'll be in town then (hubs doesn't know - tee hee - for his 30th birthday!) & if you are I would love to see you perform! How's your palette rotation going?! The NARS lippies sound great - you've been a good girl by not totally lemming!

@Ajigglin - did you hear about your job interview? Sounds like a great opportunity! I know you've been working so hard at finding the right career and job path - it's so, so important to like what we do! Proud of you for sticking with it even though it must be so difficult sometimes!

@Maris Crane - Thanks for your comments :) I'm so happy about the weight loss. It's like...a weight off my shoulders! haha!
yahoo.gif
You are right about the blog accountability factor - if you have followers or people who are interested, it definitely keeps accountability up! Also the Use It Up section or something like it is a great idea!
The next time you're lemming for a product - think of RUSSIA! Maybe keep a picture/postcard of it in your wallet so you can remind yourself of your bigger goals?

@lyseD - I just got Plumful and I LOVE IT! (if you're still in the market for a perm. MAC lippie).

@MissTania- You are so right about the 'hoarding' aspect girl - I can't tell you how many products I've given away or thrown out recently because I didn't need them or I had dupes of them. Just remember- ONWARD AND UPWARD! As we all know cosmetics have an expiry and we need to keep that in mind when we're purchasing! As Peter Walsh says, every item takes up 'real estate' in our homes and we are paying for this by paying for rent/mortgages - so really every item in our home is costing way more than the sticker price. He says "Never throw good money after bad money,' meaning don't waste your good money (mortgage/rent/mental energy/etc) on bad money (items that we've purchased that we don't need).

@VAL4M - WOW! You've accomplished so much! I love it! Can't believe you did a marathon. Running is so good for weight loss, but you're right - finding an activity that you love is so important. I've done a 1/2 and thought I was going to die lol! My hubs and I ran it 2 weeks before our wedding last year and it was quite the challenge. I loved it and would love to do another one. We ran Seawheeze in Vancouver :) And yes, I could see having your child as the #1 accomplishment of your life! Sounds like you have created a very full life for yourself!
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@burghchick - Hey Girl!
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Thanks so much for your lovely and encouraging comments! I agree - we sound like two peas in a pod! I also believe that the world would be a better place if people had more empathy or more open about their feelings. I think people often get burned and that's why they retreat into themselves. It happens to everyone. The key is to know who to trust with those feelings and who should be avoided, while not becoming bitter about the world in general ("The world is full of untrustworthy people," etc). I think empathy and openness are keys to great careers, but they are usually careers that are stressful or emotional! They key there is balance, of course. I'm a teacher right now and it's so hard. I'm only a sub, but honestly - sometimes it's very emotional. You see children going through so many challenges and difficulties. The world truly does benefit from those people who are brave enough to share their vulnerability!
HAHAH about the book recs - I have a few of those rented from the library - great minds think alike! The one about giving up one thing a month & the overspent American - do you recommend both? I have those out right now! hehe.
A big part of happiness I think is striving every day to do little things that are working towards a greater goal. Like you said, sometimes people have crappy years and good years - but the key is to stick with the struggle of the crappy year to get to the good one. Sometimes it seems as if everything is going crappy, but if I can separate parts of my life I can see which parts are going really well and which parts need work. I usually generalize ("I'm struggling right now..." etc) but if I really break it down it's one part of my life that I'm struggling in. Not every part of my life. So that drives me forward and keeps my momentum up! Good for you for striving forward even when you feel like progress is stagnant - sometimes that's all we can do before we get to the next part that's waiting for us! xo

@shellygrrl - Love the pic you posted! The lipstick is gorgeous and so are you (but you look a little shellshocked about something? The price of the NARS lippies perhaps?! haha).

@kait0 - as per your rec I just started Queen of Versailles. Halfway thru and having a hard time relating to these self indulgent people lol. Trying hard not to be too judgmental, but HOLY MAN. Can't believe it. What a lifestyle.

@dodotheextinct - LOVE THIS DRESS!!! Beautiful! I agree, a neutral type eye would work great w/gold/brown tones.

@mel33t - about this boy/shopping situation. It sounds like he's already made it pretty clear that you're a 'low' priority to him because he only reappears when he needs you for some help or an ego boost. You do not deserve this treatment. You've earned everything you've got and you seem lovely. I think you know what you want and need to do but I get that it's hard. Sometimes people from our past remind us of happy times or memories that we'd like to hold on to. But unless you want to reconnect in the future, I would say it's pretty clear that you need to cut ties for yourself. He will not like it and he'll probably bitch about it to mutual friends/acquaintances. You may feel like he's trying to paint you as 'a bitch' etc. for not talking to him/helping him/etc. Any smart person who listens to his stories will understand the probable truth, that you had to get away to help yourself. But honestly, you do not deserve this treatment and you shouldn't accept it. From my experience, I can say that any man who truly wants to reconnect in a romantic way will make you the priority you deserve to be and will let you know that you are a priority.

What are you getting out of this relationship? It doesn't seem like much, or anything at all. Just someone who reappears when it's convenient for him. I think especially given your romantic past, it's important to cut those ties. Those ex-boyfriend/romantic feelings still have an impact on us unconsciously, even if we don't necessarily want a future with someone. At least that's what I believe to be true.

Also - stay strong and resist your urges to 'shop your way out' of these feelings. Come on here - vent - PM us if you need to! Go do your fav. hobby or activity, see friends, etc. Keep busy and avoid, avoid, avoid the malls and online shopping, just like you've been doing. You're doing great girl. xo (I hope you don't take offence to what I'm saying! I'm so sorry if I'm talking way, way too much here).




ALLLRIGHT Girlies. That's all I got for now. Love the chats going on in here! xoxo


PS - I decided to post a link to my wedding photos from 2013, simply so you can see who I am ;) names to faces always helps me! (This is a big step for me - I'm pretty private, but honestly - I've been in here for so long and haven't ever posted a pic...thought it might be time to share!). I thought since I want to start my blog project, I'd better get used to some internet 'publicity' haha. And you can see my hot hubs too
eyelove.gif
GAWWWWD he's da best.

Engagement: http://www.kevintrowbridge.com/2013/06/24/melissa-trevor-fly-away-with-me-vintage-airplane-engagement-session-in-kelowna-bc/

Wedding: http://www.kevintrowbridge.com/2013/10/07/melissa-trevor-colourful-fun-the-owl-and-the-pussycat-themed-wedding-at-the-harvest-golf-club-in-kelowna-bc/
Really cool your pictures! LOVE them, I love travelling too, just cost so much money.
Little anecdote : We purchase a bigger condo in June of this year, i was in the process of storing-packing my makeup when my husband asked me how many weeks in an all inclusive down south my makeup collection was worth and my answer was: - '' I do not know we never been down south! But at LEAST 3 weeks in Europe!!!" (I already been to a couple of city in France (Paris, Toulouse and Avignon), Spain and Ireland in the last 8 years) I laugh but then I felt miserable afterward because i wish I could go travelling every year and not every 2-3 years like we are doing now. So maybe doing a long term low-buy will make it easier to go travelling more often.
 

VAL4M

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Also do not put me on the black list but those Nars lipstick are a big meh for me. No lemming whatsoever.
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veronikawithak

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So I just found out that the MUFE deal where you get a discount if you buy multiples of their new eyeshadows doesn't apply in Canada.. that sure puts a damper on my lemmings. I'm thinking I might just get one for now, if any..

Also going to pass on the Give Me More Lip set, too many reds and it's $70!

Things seem so expensive this year.. is anyone else feeling this way?
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PixieDancer

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So I just found out that the MUFE deal where you get a discount if you buy multiples of their new eyeshadows doesn't apply in Canada.. that sure puts a damper on my lemmings. I'm thinking I might just get one for now, if any..

Also going to pass on the Give Me More Lip set, too many reds and it's $70!

Things seem so expensive this year.. is anyone else feeling this way?
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YES!! I thought I was just more in tune with my spending than I was last year... Could that be what has us so aware of the costs now!?
 

shellygrrl

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Staff member
@shellygrrl  - Love the pic you posted!  The lipstick is gorgeous and so are you (but you look a little shellshocked about something?  The price of the NARS lippies perhaps?! haha). 
:lol: No shellshock at all, actually! What happened was the picture I took before the one I posted here had me looking down at the home button, so I had to force myself to look up toward the camera part and not at the button. Serious Wide-Eyed Concentration Face, which ended up a bit deer-in-the-headlights. :haha: In other news: LOOKIT YOU TWO PURDY LOVEBIRDS! :heart: :sigh:
 

NaomiH

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Hi guys! It's been a while since I've popped in here and boy do I have some catching up to do! I've been doing pretty well with my low buy and have been having smaller hauls than planned the last few collections which is always nice. My last large splurge was in June with Osbournes and Moody Blooms. Osbournes I grabbed 2 lipsticks, both blushes, an MSF and cranberry liner. Moody Blooms I grabbed 1 sheen supreme, 3 fluid lines and a blush that I ended up returning. I didn't really buy anything in July that I recall besides a few staples and a lippy or two if I recall correctly. August had me buying two items from ANR and two perm lippies. September so far I have gotten both Simpsons blushes x2 and a gloss x2. The double Simpsons buys were because I got the same items for my niece Hayli. I think I should be good the rest of the month until October when I plan to go a bit nuts with RHPS. Matte Lip will probably be a small haul or a skip and I plan to grab maybe one or possibly two lipsticks from Heirloom Mix. Everything else that has been announced so far is a skip, though I may grab that Brooke palette at some point. We shall see about that though. I then plan on no buying the rest of October until the end of November or beginning of December so I can prepare for Christmas. As far as my current collection goes, I've been weeding things out slowly and have either trashed or passed along things I no longer have need or want of. I'll probably be moving by the end of the year or beginning of next year and hope to have it more fine tuned by then so I don't have to pack and move so much. I hope all you ladies are doing well in here! Are there any upcoming collections you're really excited about?
 

NaomiH

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[@]Glitteryvegas[/@], I love your wedding and engagement pictures! You look so beautiful and you and your husband make a great couple. :)
 

veronikawithak

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No black list at all! I just wished I felt that way! Would've helped me a TON the other day! HeeHee

YES!! I thought I was just more in tune with my spending than I was last year... Could that be what has us so aware of the costs now!?
At first I thought it might be because I'm more aware of my spending too.. but then I started comparing.. and prices are definitely creeping up!

Example: 2013 Buxom Dolly's Opening Act set 6 x .07 lipgloss = $36 / 2014 Buxom Winner Takes All set 6 x .07 lipgloss = $40

$4 increase in one year. You're still getting the amount of 3 full sized lipglosses for $40 instead of $69 (or $13 each instead of $23).. but.. seems like a big jump from last year.

At least this makes me even more aware of where my $ is going.. and sadly it's not going as far. :(

If anyone's curious about the math for last year's sets, check this out: http://www.brightestbulbinthebox.com/2013/11/a-guide-to-sephoras-winter-2013-makeup.html
 

dodotheextinct

Active member
Thank you for those who helped me decide what sort of makeup to wear with my dress. I hope y'all don't mind the photos. I really like the look though I think I would have liked to go a little bit more highlighter crazy haha.



Makeup Used:
Holika Holika Aqua Petit BB Cream
Cargo Tonga Blush
MAC Soft&Gentle
Too Faced Chocolate Soleil Bronzer
MAC Brun (eyebrows), Woodwinked (all over lid), Expresso (outercorner and bottom lashline)
Urban Decay 24/7 Pencil in Perversion
Benefit They're Real! Mascara
Rimmel Kate Moss Matte Lipstick in 101
MAC Abalone Suntint
 

mel33t

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@veronikawithak @Glitteryvegas @shellygrrl @awickedshape @PixieDancer @dodotheextinct

Thank you guys so much for the kind words and advice today. I took some time to think it through and a lot of you brought it up too - what's this kid bringing to my life. Right now, nothing. He's bringing negativity to me and I'm unhappy and frankly life is too short. I'm cutting the cord but I'm not deleting his number. If he ever needs me for something other than proofreading or just to talk, I'm not going to leave him hanging in the dirt, that's just not me. But I'm going to make an effort to just move on... and certainly not put my frustration into shopping. Instead I went for a run, which I hate. I hate running. But it felt good to pound the pavement as they say and although I felt like I was gonna puke, I felt better.

So thanks!!! :hug:
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mel33t

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Awww YOU LADIES!!! You make me so happy! Thank you for all of your compliments and encouragement, it means the world to me! I love being here. It's a great place to be!

I purchased RRVG2 gloss and lipstick - returned the lipstick. Felt like a creep returning an item/money for charity. UGHHH. But honestly, it would've gone to waste as it wasn't my shade. Yet another time I let a salegirl sell me something that wasn't right for me! Lesson learned, for at least a while anyways!

@veronikawithak- love that your working your way through products & I really love that you are keeping track of expiry dates, etc. It's important for cleanliness of course and health in general. The other day I had to throw out a scrub that had gone off (the smell was strange) - what a waste. Paying attention to those details helps to keep us in good form and use up our products 'in order'. When was your birthday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
pompom.gif
in case I already missed it! I always identify so strongly with your posts too! I feel like we could be 'in real life' friends! When are you moving?! (not to sound like a creepy stalker - when's your birthday?! when are you moving across Canada? WHEN CAN WE BE IRL FRIENDS?!!!
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@PixieDancer- Aww GIRL! You are so sweet. Thank you, Thank you for all of your wonderful words! Over-analyzing is the enemy and stands in the way of achieving greatness and self-acceptance, I think. I love LOVE your new pic that you posted! Will you be performing in Vegas during Oct 10-13? I'll be in town then (hubs doesn't know - tee hee - for his 30th birthday!) & if you are I would love to see you perform! How's your palette rotation going?! The NARS lippies sound great - you've been a good girl by not totally lemming!

@Ajigglin - did you hear about your job interview? Sounds like a great opportunity! I know you've been working so hard at finding the right career and job path - it's so, so important to like what we do! Proud of you for sticking with it even though it must be so difficult sometimes!

@Maris Crane - Thanks for your comments :) I'm so happy about the weight loss. It's like...a weight off my shoulders! haha!
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You are right about the blog accountability factor - if you have followers or people who are interested, it definitely keeps accountability up! Also the Use It Up section or something like it is a great idea!
The next time you're lemming for a product - think of RUSSIA! Maybe keep a picture/postcard of it in your wallet so you can remind yourself of your bigger goals?

@lyseD - I just got Plumful and I LOVE IT! (if you're still in the market for a perm. MAC lippie).

@MissTania- You are so right about the 'hoarding' aspect girl - I can't tell you how many products I've given away or thrown out recently because I didn't need them or I had dupes of them. Just remember- ONWARD AND UPWARD! As we all know cosmetics have an expiry and we need to keep that in mind when we're purchasing! As Peter Walsh says, every item takes up 'real estate' in our homes and we are paying for this by paying for rent/mortgages - so really every item in our home is costing way more than the sticker price. He says "Never throw good money after bad money,' meaning don't waste your good money (mortgage/rent/mental energy/etc) on bad money (items that we've purchased that we don't need).

@VAL4M - WOW! You've accomplished so much! I love it! Can't believe you did a marathon. Running is so good for weight loss, but you're right - finding an activity that you love is so important. I've done a 1/2 and thought I was going to die lol! My hubs and I ran it 2 weeks before our wedding last year and it was quite the challenge. I loved it and would love to do another one. We ran Seawheeze in Vancouver :) And yes, I could see having your child as the #1 accomplishment of your life! Sounds like you have created a very full life for yourself!
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@burghchick - Hey Girl!
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Thanks so much for your lovely and encouraging comments! I agree - we sound like two peas in a pod! I also believe that the world would be a better place if people had more empathy or more open about their feelings. I think people often get burned and that's why they retreat into themselves. It happens to everyone. The key is to know who to trust with those feelings and who should be avoided, while not becoming bitter about the world in general ("The world is full of untrustworthy people," etc). I think empathy and openness are keys to great careers, but they are usually careers that are stressful or emotional! They key there is balance, of course. I'm a teacher right now and it's so hard. I'm only a sub, but honestly - sometimes it's very emotional. You see children going through so many challenges and difficulties. The world truly does benefit from those people who are brave enough to share their vulnerability!
HAHAH about the book recs - I have a few of those rented from the library - great minds think alike! The one about giving up one thing a month & the overspent American - do you recommend both? I have those out right now! hehe.
A big part of happiness I think is striving every day to do little things that are working towards a greater goal. Like you said, sometimes people have crappy years and good years - but the key is to stick with the struggle of the crappy year to get to the good one. Sometimes it seems as if everything is going crappy, but if I can separate parts of my life I can see which parts are going really well and which parts need work. I usually generalize ("I'm struggling right now..." etc) but if I really break it down it's one part of my life that I'm struggling in. Not every part of my life. So that drives me forward and keeps my momentum up! Good for you for striving forward even when you feel like progress is stagnant - sometimes that's all we can do before we get to the next part that's waiting for us! xo

@shellygrrl - Love the pic you posted! The lipstick is gorgeous and so are you (but you look a little shellshocked about something? The price of the NARS lippies perhaps?! haha).

@kait0 - as per your rec I just started Queen of Versailles. Halfway thru and having a hard time relating to these self indulgent people lol. Trying hard not to be too judgmental, but HOLY MAN. Can't believe it. What a lifestyle.

@dodotheextinct - LOVE THIS DRESS!!! Beautiful! I agree, a neutral type eye would work great w/gold/brown tones.

@mel33t - about this boy/shopping situation. It sounds like he's already made it pretty clear that you're a 'low' priority to him because he only reappears when he needs you for some help or an ego boost. You do not deserve this treatment. You've earned everything you've got and you seem lovely. I think you know what you want and need to do but I get that it's hard. Sometimes people from our past remind us of happy times or memories that we'd like to hold on to. But unless you want to reconnect in the future, I would say it's pretty clear that you need to cut ties for yourself. He will not like it and he'll probably bitch about it to mutual friends/acquaintances. You may feel like he's trying to paint you as 'a bitch' etc. for not talking to him/helping him/etc. Any smart person who listens to his stories will understand the probable truth, that you had to get away to help yourself. But honestly, you do not deserve this treatment and you shouldn't accept it. From my experience, I can say that any man who truly wants to reconnect in a romantic way will make you the priority you deserve to be and will let you know that you are a priority.

What are you getting out of this relationship? It doesn't seem like much, or anything at all. Just someone who reappears when it's convenient for him. I think especially given your romantic past, it's important to cut those ties. Those ex-boyfriend/romantic feelings still have an impact on us unconsciously, even if we don't necessarily want a future with someone. At least that's what I believe to be true.

Also - stay strong and resist your urges to 'shop your way out' of these feelings. Come on here - vent - PM us if you need to! Go do your fav. hobby or activity, see friends, etc. Keep busy and avoid, avoid, avoid the malls and online shopping, just like you've been doing. You're doing great girl. xo (I hope you don't take offence to what I'm saying! I'm so sorry if I'm talking way, way too much here).




ALLLRIGHT Girlies. That's all I got for now. Love the chats going on in here! xoxo


PS - I decided to post a link to my wedding photos from 2013, simply so you can see who I am ;) names to faces always helps me! (This is a big step for me - I'm pretty private, but honestly - I've been in here for so long and haven't ever posted a pic...thought it might be time to share!). I thought since I want to start my blog project, I'd better get used to some internet 'publicity' haha. And you can see my hot hubs too
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GAWWWWD he's da best.

Engagement: http://www.kevintrowbridge.com/2013/06/24/melissa-trevor-fly-away-with-me-vintage-airplane-engagement-session-in-kelowna-bc/

Wedding: http://www.kevintrowbridge.com/2013/10/07/melissa-trevor-colourful-fun-the-owl-and-the-pussycat-themed-wedding-at-the-harvest-golf-club-in-kelowna-bc/
You're so pretty!!!!!!
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Your dress looked stunning, you looked stunning the pictures look amazing! And the flowers! I love the bright bouquets! What an amazing idea. Everything looks so beautiful :)
 
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