Good for you on the low buy girl, sounds like you have a lot of positive things going on here. Your net reduction is going well, it does take a while to figure out what you're willing to use up, what needs to be thrown out, what can be passed on, etc. Stick with it! OUCH about the roof!! How are things going now??! UGHHH that sounds super annoying, hope things have picked up since then! Hey
@burghchick - The struggle when you're grieving is so real. How have you been feeling? It takes such a long time. For us it was months and months of such sadness, I truly hope you are finding an effective way to communicate and deal with your sadness. For us, it was just talking about our loss and a simple acknowledgment that we were sad (sometimes just saying it out loud) or frustrated or angry about our loss. I also bought a pandora charm for our little girl (two actually!) and even though I don't wear it often (I find pandoras get in the way of typing, etc for work) knowing that I commemorated my loss helped. I also printed off some pictures of her and I am still meaning to put a few in frames. I think a bit of retail therapy is completely acceptable and normal. You'll never be 'over it' as it's a huge void in your life, but you can come to terms with your loss by speaking about it with people that you trust. I think also finding a way to be involved with animals may help....it took us a year to adopt again, but I sent in a story to our local shelter's magazine about our Suzie and that was so great for me. It was helpful to share our love for her with others. I'll DM you the article so you can see what I mean. The loss that you're feeling is so vivid right now and will lessen but never go away completely. I'm thinking of you girl!!! I LOVE THIS. Lots of great reminders in here!! YES about tastes changing, I'm finding that too. I find that I buy things with such good intentions (vitamins are a great example lol) & then I don't use it right away and put it somewhere. Makeup is also a good example of doing this. I have found that doing regular purges and having a spreadsheet for my makeup has helped immensely. I get a little self conscious though that I need a spreadsheet for my makeup (like seriously....who needs that lol....ME!), but being able to see what I have so quickly (and how much I've given away!!!) has really helped. Thanks so much for sharing all of this with us, I loved your post! WHEW!!! What a great post, lots of indepth thinking/reporting here and of course, self reflection. Looks like you've conquered a lot so far this year and really kept yourself accountable. Love it, way to go!!! As for me, I have a lot of news! In June, I paid off my credit card!!! It was seriously SO EXCITING. I may have gone to my car, called hubs and cried. We were both so happy. I can't even remember the last time it was paid in full - it's been years. Now I have like three manageable bills that go through on it and that will be paid in full every month, as it's built into my budget to pay for those expenses. No more shopping sprees, trips, etc put onto the card. I keep getting notices to increase my limit too (the girl at the bank when I paid it off offered me an increase BAHAHAHAHA). They make me laugh. That has really recharged my focus to pay down my LOC debt. Husband is really helping me too, so it's a team effort. We are both doing really well with our no buys. I still haven't bought ANY makeup, which is seriously so exciting. I think I told you guys that my mom bought me the MAC 15 pan palette and Miley Viva gloss for Easter - those are the last makeup items I've rec'd and I've spent $0 on makeup this year. I truly didn't think I'd make it this far. I remember a time when I couldn't last a week. I love reading all of your updates, because it sounds like we are really moving forward in this thread. Sometimes it's one step back, but the momentum is forward!!! Hubs bought us a juicer with his OT money & we consider that a 'health' purchase, not a 'fun' purchase (even though it is fun to get into shape and be healthy lol!). I've bought a few starbucks here and there (one to celebrate paying off the CC!!!), but overall we're still sticking to it - no eating out. We are doing so good with our year, I'm proud of us. One thing that we've given up is the TV limitations. That one seriously was terrible. I'd like to watch less, for sure...but right now, it's getting us through. One thing at a time, I guess. I have to celebrate my victories as they happen, rather than focusing on what we aren't doing. Big bro is getting married this month, so there's been temptations there for sure. My mom bought me a beautiful dress and it's tempting to go all out (accessories, shoes, etc). I'm still toying with the idea of buying a second outfit (it's going to be HELLA hot and it's casual...so for pics I'll wear my dress, but I'm thinking of changing after). I was going to buy a pair of dressy shorts and a top....but the other day i went to the shops and I didn't buy anything. Then UNDER MY BED I found a rubbermaid box of SUMMER CLOTHES. Seriously. With black dressy shorts in it. YAY!!!! I may still buy a new top, but I think I'm going to just keep the black shorts/shoes I have and use those and bring some flip flops to change into. I keep thinking to myself - will buying a new pair of shoes matter in a year? Do I need the shoes? Can I get around buying this thing? My whole mindset is so different now. I feel renewed and positive. It's really liberating. In makeup matters, for the wedding it's getting 'complicated' lol. I'm not a waterproof mascara girl, so all my stuff seriously climbs down my face if I cry. And I'll probably cry during my bro's wedding. So herein lies the problem. I'm doing my own makeup and my mom doesn't have waterproof mascara. I have mini disposable wands, so that was my plan - use hers. Now I'm like AHHH What am I going to do? I guess I could just try not to cry. Lol. I'm really hoping to make it all year w/o buying any products, so this is kinda bumming me out lol. Suggestions are welcome!!! Hope ya'll are having a GREAT Summer and getting in a lot of R&R as well as decluttering, saving, and playing with our well loved products!!!