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[kittykit]

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Originally Posted by LMD84 MIL's can be a nightmare! what is she 'requesting'? i take it she is basically trying to take over certain planning aspects? just remember that it is your big day - nobody else matters but you and your future hubby! apart from the MIL are you excited for your big day?!

She tries to change some plans, adds new ones...

Telling my fiance not to spend too much on the wedding and asking us why we hire wedding planner, etc... 2 weeks ago, she insisted we must pay for the guests accommodation (my fiance's extended family members). That means we'll have to add additional 1k euro or more on the top of the budget. We're paying for the wedding out of our own pockets. I really don't want to have any tension between both of us before the wedding. I'm not happy but I don't know what else can I do? I'm on the phone with my parents everyday... just to get my anger out before I turn into a mad woman.

I'm very excited with the big day

I'm really glad to have the wedding planners. They definitely make our life easier looking for vendors and planning the entire wedding. It will be a small wedding in a chateaux with 45 guests. My family is flying over to spend 2 weeks with me. I can't wait to see them!

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Originally Posted by Miss QQ What does MIL stands for? Maid in ?

Mother-in-law

 

[LMD84]

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Originally Posted by Miss QQ What does MIL stands for? Maid in ? Sorry I'm late to see this. I bought the new n/p from Chanel, Illusion D'or, Gold Lame and Black Velvet. They are gorgeous, especially Illusion D'or! The pink flakies and gold glitters are dazzling. I know some of you here are n/p fanatics, so check out Illusion D'or if you have the chance!

oooohhh the polishes sound lovely! i shall have to look out for swatches! sadly i can't bring myself to buy Chanel cosmetics though.... super expencive and i know nick would kill me!

woah - she expects you to pay for family accomodation?! that's crazy! what me and nick did was tell people that to make up for the fact they'd have to stay in a hotel not to get us a wedding gift - we'd rather have them to share our day than get a gift.... could you do this? because 1k is alot of extra money to find! or perhaps you could offer to pay for half the expences... i really don't see why your MIL would say you must pay for extended family to stay!!

me and nick paid for everything with our own money too, we found it better that way because we didn't feel guilty about doing things certain ways. i'd have felt if my mum or whoever paid for things i would have to do and get what they wanted rather than i wanted!

your wedding sounds like it's going to be a wonderful day! i hope we get to see some piccies on here!

 

[Miss QQ]

kittykit! Sorry to hear about your MIL troubles. I look forward to your pics, the wedding sounds lovely already!

Lou, Illusion D'or is stunning. But OPI and ChG have great n/p as well, and affordable! No guilt buying those!

 

[kittykit]

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Originally Posted by LMD84 woah - she expects you to pay for family accomodation?! that's crazy! what me and nick did was tell people that to make up for the fact they'd have to stay in a hotel not to get us a wedding gift - we'd rather have them to share our day than get a gift.... could you do this? because 1k is alot of extra money to find! or perhaps you could offer to pay for half the expences... i really don't see why your MIL would say you must pay for extended family to stay!! me and nick paid for everything with our own money too, we found it better that way because we didn't feel guilty about doing things certain ways. i'd have felt if my mum or whoever paid for things i would have to do and get what they wanted rather than i wanted! your wedding sounds like it's going to be a wonderful day! i hope we get to see some piccies on here!

We did mention they do not have to get us any gifts if they could pay for their accommodation. Our wedding planner told us she has organised so many weddings in the past 10 years and the couples never paid for the guests' accommodation. Now you see why I'm

 

[LMD84]

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Originally Posted by kittykit We did mention they do not have to get us any gifts if they could pay for their accommodation. Our wedding planner told us she has organised so many weddings in the past 10 years and the couples never paid for the guests' accommodation. Now you see why I'm

well yeah! it's just really weird that she would demand you pay for all this! perhaps your planner could also say how this never happens so perhaps your MIL will see that she is being un-reasonable.

ooohhh i buy plenty of china glaze, opi and orly with the odd essie thrown in too! no guilt there at all!

 

[banana1234]

can you not put your foot down or i can see this becoming a big problem with your mother in law forever bossing you around? what does your hubby to be think of all this? i have never heard of the bride and groom having to pay for the accomodation

 

[kittykit]

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Originally Posted by banana1234 can you not put your foot down or i can see this becoming a big problem with your mother in law forever bossing you around? what does your hubby to be think of all this? i have never heard of the bride and groom having to pay for the accomodation

He think it's ridiculous and he's telling her that we're not paying for everyone. My parents think that's so unreasonable. My poor dad has to listen to me whining about things like that everyday *lol* I'm not going to change my wedding plans because someone doesn't like it. It's our money, our wedding. In fact, I can't wait until the wedding is over. I'm getting really frustrated and sick of having the IL sticking their nose into our business.

 

[LMD84]

^ sadly if your in law's are anything like mine they'll always stick their nose in your buisness! so don't wish your wedding away hoping it'll stop... sadly it won't! luckily we live a 3.5 hr drive away from them though so they don't visit often!

 

[banana1234]

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Originally Posted by kittykit He think it's ridiculous and he's telling her that we're not paying for everyone. My parents think that's so unreasonable. My poor dad has to listen to me whining about things like that everyday *lol* I'm not going to change my wedding plans because someone doesn't like it. It's our money, our wedding. In fact, I can't wait until the wedding is over. I'm getting really frustrated and sick of having the IL sticking their nose into our business.

this is why my other half and i always say we are getting married with immediate family and a couple friends some where tropical like barbados and then having a party back home for everyone else!

i find it funny that my boyfriend and i plan our wedding, we arent even engaged yet!

 

[LMD84]

me and nick had a small wedding with family only. it cut the costs down massively and neither of us were into a huge wedding. we wanted to spend more money on our honeymoon than the actual wedding.... which we did and loved it!

hope all you bimbos are doing well and i hope you're all planning a great weekend! i'm seeing SATC2!

woo hoo!

 

[Miss QQ]

Did you enjoy SATC2? I'm going to watch it this Saturday or Sunday!

I just watched SATC, the first movie, and I love it! It is so fun to watch and drool at their clothes, bags and shoes!

 

[LMD84]

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Originally Posted by Miss QQ Did you enjoy SATC2? I'm going to watch it this Saturday or Sunday! I just watched SATC, the first movie, and I love it! It is so fun to watch and drool at their clothes, bags and shoes!

i shall let you know what i think when i havce seen it... sunday morning at 10.45am!

so excited! and i always drool over the shoes the most.... i freaking love shoes!!

 

[Susanne]

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Originally Posted by LMD84 hope all you bimbos are doing well and i hope you're all planning a great weekend! i'm seeing SATC2! woo hoo!

Nope, I am not really well.

I have a big crisis in my relationship - don't know what went wrong during the last weeks, but somehow I have reached a point from which I can't go on together. We have had plans that I would move to my boyfriend's house in summer - but I think this won't happen.

I was really sad and disappointed the last days - but since yesterday I think: If not moving, than making the best of my small apartement!

I want to change my bedroom with more space for a new makeup storage solution (yay!) and my living room. I have saved some money for moving - so I can invest it there now.

I will see SATC2 on Tuesday with the girls!! So excited.

Have a great weekend you all.

 

[InspiredBlue]

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Originally Posted by Susanne Nope, I am not really well. I have a big crisis in my relationship - don't know what went wrong during the last weeks, but somehow I have reached a point from which I can't go on together. We have had plans that I would move to my boyfriend's house in summer - but I think this won't happen. I was really sad and disappointed the last days - but since yesterday I think: If not moving, than making the best of my small apartement! I want to change my bedroom with more space for a new makeup storage solution (yay!) and my living room. I have saved some money for moving - so I can invest it there now. I will see SATC2 on Tuesday with the girls!! So excited. Have a great weekend you all.

Oh no, I am sad that you are going through this.

I remember you've been talking about the upcoming move for a while. I hope you can use the money to do things you've wanted to do for yourself. Maybe get a new handbag?

 

[Susanne]

Yep, a Speedy 35

for sure. A great present just for myself.

Let's think positive.

 

[LMD84]

Susanne i'm so sorry that you and your boyfriend are going through a hard time right now

are you guys taking a break from each other for a while? if you need to chat you know where i am.

and yes, spend any money saved on decorating your place and buying that Speedy! so not only will you look fabulous, but you'll have a fabulous place to live too.

 

[Susanne]

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Originally Posted by LMD84 Susanne i'm so sorry that you and your boyfriend are going through a hard time right now are you guys taking a break from each other for a while? if you need to chat you know where i am. and yes, spend any money saved on decorating your place and buying that Speedy! so not only will you look fabulous, but you'll have a fabulous place to live too.

I think it is sure now I will stay in my apartement and won't move. At least not this year.

We both will take some time now for ourselves to think what the relationship means for us, how or if we can start newly and what we are able to give.

 

[LMD84]

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Originally Posted by Susanne I think it is sure now I will stay in my apartement and won't move. At least not this year. We both will take some time now for ourselves to think what the relationship means for us, how or if we can start newly and what we are able to give.

sounds good. everything happens for a reason. and some time apart could be good for you! you'll have more time for yourself and things that you want to do.

just stay postive and things will work out whichever way is best for you.

 

[Susanne]

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Originally Posted by LMD84 sounds good. everything happens for a reason. and some time apart could be good for you! you'll have more time for yourself and things that you want to do. just stay postive and things will work out whichever way is best for you.

I truely believe in that.

And yes, never forget or loose yourself

I look forward to spend some time, money and ideas in my apartement. I will share pics with you of my new vanity area during the summer vacations then.

 

[banana1234]

no matter what happens, everything does happen for a reason, i just hope it involves the least heartache for you susanne