Boyfriend and I broke up after 3 1/2 years :(

[jenee.sum]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 Why would you want to stay with someone who treats you that way?

when you're in love, or you THINK you're in love, it can make you do some prettttttttttty stupid things.

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Originally Posted by BloodMittens I've been asking myself that for 24 hours actually. Can't seem to bring up an answer except I loved him?

SEE! EXACTLY! it's like love makes people stupid which then causes them to do stupid things! (BloodMittens: i'm not calling you stupid! LOL but u kno wat i mean right? ^^)

i hope ur feeling better! go shopping!! GO BUY SOME MAC!! Glam yourself out, to the point where you're sooooooo freakin drop dead hot sexy smokin and on fire!!!! and that ASS is gunna regret ever treating you like that! and when he comes crawling back to you, tell him your too good, hot, sexy AND classy for him!

cuz you and i (and everyone at specktra) know that's true.

 

[kimmy]

if he's that much of a dick, you're better off this way.

i stayed with my first boyfriend for a long time because i "loved" him, even though he was doing some really awful and terrible things. it's been a long time, and i finally see what i wish i would have seen all along: he was not worth it.

just like this guy. he isn't worth the heartache, so don't beat yourself up over it. you learned from what you did and you got rid of that asshole, too. two birds with one stone. right now, losing him may not seem like a good thing...but trust me, it is.

 

[yodagirl]

I'm so sorry your hurting right now, big *hugs* to you

But just remember, karma will come back and bite him in the ass...and hopefully it bites him really, REALLY hard.

 

[chdom]

Sounds like he's a jerk! All I can say is that God works in mysterious ways! You needed this to happen in order for you to move on. I know it may seem like you won't can't get over this, but in time you will. Keep your head up- it can only go up from here.

*Hugs*

 

[BloodMittens]

Thanks guys

You guys are really cheering me up! And apparently cheering me on, lol.

I'm trying really hard to calm myself down and be civil, I find myself crying all the time but I know you have to shed some tears to get over things. I just never thought this would happen

We sat down and talked about it, and we both agreed on a mutual breakup, because he was wrong in everything he did, and I was wrong for what I did. We both agreed that after we better ourselves and we're single something might happen, but we don't know. At least I don't have to worry about him bringing around some bimbo (we both have the same group of friends) to our friend's houses. He's not like that.

So now I just gotta go. Have my interview (AT MAC!!!!) in two weeks, and totally BLOW that away

GET THE JOB! And just keep getting better! I'm a strong girl, I can do this

 

[jenee.sum]

BloodMittens: Hey, if this situation can help you two live, learn and grow, then be happy it happened.
a wise man/woman is not defined by what they are, but by their growth in life and who they choose to be. learn from your falls, do great, and then be great. if something shall happen in the future btwn you two when things are better, i hope all of this taught you guys something very important.

he may be a jerk now, but who is it to say he won't change for the better? no one is perfect; we all err. it's whether we can learn from our mistakes that's important. and if he does (and you do too), then good for the both you! and i'll wish you two the best. but in the meantime........

who's going to MAC tomorrow?

PS. GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD LUCK ON YOUR INTERVIEW!!!

 

[BloodMittens]

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Originally Posted by jenee.sum BloodMittens: Hey, if this situation can help you two live, learn and grow, then be happy it happened. a wise man/woman is not defined by what they are, but by their growth in life and who they choose to be. learn from your falls, do great, and then be great. if something shall happen in the future btwn you two when things are better, i hope all of this taught you guys something very important. he may be a jerk now, but who is it to say he won't change for the better? no one is perfect; we all err. it's whether we can learn from our mistakes that's important. and if he does (and you do too), then good for the both you! and i'll wish you two the best. but in the meantime........ who's going to MAC tomorrow? PS. GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD LUCK ON YOUR INTERVIEW!!!

Thank you SO MUCH! I want this job SOOO bad

I have for a long time and I have only made it to the first interview the past time

But I have honed my skills and I will do AWESOME! RAWR! Hear me ROAR >:3

 

[BloodMittens]

Um.. bad news? I just took some preggor's tests because I was wondering why I kept getting sick

So yeah. All three said positive. This just makes everything worse...

 

[snowflakelashes]

I'm sorry sweety, you have a board full of spektralites that hope things turn around for you!

 

[BloodMittens]

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Originally Posted by snowflakelashes I'm sorry sweety, you have a board full of spektralites that hope things turn around for you!

Thank you love

 

[Sario]

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Originally Posted by BloodMittens So now I just gotta go. Have my interview (AT MAC!!!!) in two weeks, and totally BLOW that away GET THE JOB! And just keep getting better! I'm a strong girl, I can do this

Bravo!

*huge hugs!* Funny thing, that love stuff, huh? It makes you do all sorts of weird things
Like you said though, you're a strong, beautiful force of nature and you can and will conquer this. You've got great things to look forward to and I know you'll blow the interview out of the water. You have our full support.

 

[Beauty Mark]

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Originally Posted by BloodMittens Um.. bad news? I just took some preggor's tests because I was wondering why I kept getting sick So yeah. All three said positive. This just makes everything worse...

I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know how to advise you on it, but make the best decision for you.. If you are indeed pregnant, please realize that the baby will not erase any of the problems you and your ex had.

 

[BloodMittens]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't know how to advise you on it, but make the best decision for you.. If you are indeed pregnant, please realize that the baby will not erase any of the problems you and your ex had.

Oh I know. I have no intentions of getting back with him because of a pregnancy. Whatever happens, happens. If we do end up getting back together then that's the way it will be.

But he's always been kinda responsible about these types of things so I know, together or not he'll support me

 

[Beauty Mark]

Well, that's good. I hope you take care of yourself, no matter what your decision is re. the pregnancy. First thing, though, go to a doctor.

 

[cowsmoo]

from what it sounds like, i think your boyfriend just used money as an excuse to break up with you. i know that might sound harsh, but ive seen it happen to myself and my friends. its like when the guy gets so frustrated and they just want to end it, they pick up some BS reason to break up with you! and most of the time, its not even your fault at all.

with myself, my boyfriend and i of 2 years broke up and he went on to "experiment" with other girls since i was his first. within a month, he came back. but nope! i didnt take him back! until 8 months later. and he completely changed; he takes a lot better care of me now.

 

[BloodMittens]

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Originally Posted by cowsmoo from what it sounds like, i think your boyfriend just used money as an excuse to break up with you. i know that might sound harsh, but ive seen it happen to myself and my friends. its like when the guy gets so frustrated and they just want to end it, they pick up some BS reason to break up with you! and most of the time, its not even your fault at all. with myself, my boyfriend and i of 2 years broke up and he went on to "experiment" with other girls since i was his first. within a month, he came back. but nope! i didnt take him back! until 8 months later. and he completely changed; he takes a lot better care of me now.

Sadly. That sounds like him

 

[crystalic_oxyge]

im sorry to hear that.... but not so much that you broke up, more that you are still crying and heartbroken because of such a jerk. thats what im sorry for. seriously. this guy isnt normal... what you did wasnt a horrid thing, sure it isnt the best option, but a loving person would understand that or forgive you... but not do all the things he did to you. seriously it sounds like this guy has serious problems or a complete brain damage. sorry im just so angry to hear that such idiots exist, and then women still cry after them. there are thousands of better men out there, that can and will treat you as of how you are worth being treated. and believe me, every single woman is worth being treated like a woman and a darling. so dont be sad, just think about what everyone said, and remember that your not supposed to cry after that guy.
cheer up, forget him and ALL THE BEST for your interview =)

 

[BloodMittens]

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Originally Posted by crystalic_oxyge im sorry to hear that.... but not so much that you broke up, more that you are still crying and heartbroken because of such a jerk. thats what im sorry for. seriously. this guy isnt normal... what you did wasnt a horrid thing, sure it isnt the best option, but a loving person would understand that or forgive you... but not do all the things he did to you. seriously it sounds like this guy has serious problems or a complete brain damage. sorry im just so angry to hear that such idiots exist, and then women still cry after them. there are thousands of better men out there, that can and will treat you as of how you are worth being treated. and believe me, every single woman is worth being treated like a woman and a darling. so dont be sad, just think about what everyone said, and remember that your not supposed to cry after that guy. cheer up, forget him and ALL THE BEST for your interview =)

Heh. Everyone here sounds like my girl friends, they are trying to get me away from him and I keep missing him much to their hate. I mean I can't stop loving the guy after a week... and now suddenly he's starting to be a sweetheart to me. I don't know if he misses me or if he's trying to take care of me because he messed up or the pregnancy. Or all those combined. But at least we're being civil and not at each other's throats.

 

[glamdoll]

Honestly babe, this is the best thing that could have happened to you. You deserve someone who will treat you right. You deserve to be respected called beautiful and be loved. Not to be called all sorts of names.

You should read the book "The Secret" its a good book, some people are skeptical but it makes me just actually feel like I can get what I want. Which you should too.

Just try to keep your head up, and dont beat yourself up over it. Its not worth it.

 

[Beauty Mark]

It's confusing, but I think it's really mature that you two aren't being awful to each other. Some people make better friends than lovers