Can a man and woman EVER be JUST friends?

[Beauty Mark]

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Originally Posted by snowflakelashes See I think they can, maybe I've just experienced that because I'm supremely unnatractive? But my pretty friends have also had long term friendships with guy that never crossed any lines. Dunno.. then again I have other girlfriends who seem incapable of spending time with men without it becoming sexual... I think Its about compartimentalizing though which not everyone seems to be capable of doing, some people feel and attraction and can't resist acting on it. Others probably feel it in passing, ignore it and move on for the sake of deeper intellectual and emotional connections.

I don't think that if you're unattractive it's why nothing has happened. Some people can just not be attracted to those with whom their friends.

Not all guys find the same girl attractive. For whatever reasons, there just isn't that connection.

 

[kaliraksha]

I think the main key is if one party finds the other attractive. If they aren't your type then you may never consider them sexually. However, if you do find each other attractive it doesn't mean anything will happen. It's can be an effort for both parties involved to stay platonic, but it's possible.

 

[brokenxbeauty]

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Originally Posted by little teaser i totally agree^^^ i also think it is possible for a man and woman to be just friends as long as one or the other have zero attraction for the other. i have never had it work for me seems like at some point the guy always trys to make a move so i feel if a guy is nice and trys to befriend me he has alternative motives..i could be wrong about some but i rather stay in safe waters and not take a chance.

I agree with your post. I believe that a man and woman can be friends, but I think best friends is a bit much. In my experience anyway, any guy that I have been very good friends with had either previously had or developed a crush on me (except for my best guy friend who's gay!) so yeah, I'm not sure I would trust people's motives either.

 

[TDoll]

I think that there is always that certain case where yeah, a guy and a girl can be friends.
But then take my husband and I for example.... He was my "just a friend" for almost 10 years...lol. Then we started dating, and now we're married...go figure.

 

[miszjenny]

I have a best friend of 3 years. He was really such a romantic, gentle, and handsome man. We were both in a different relationship then. The attraction was there...but we knew we couldn't make our friendship into the next level. He broke up with his then gf though. I really felt bad because I felt like I was responsible for it. Ashamed to admit but we kissed but it felt so right...until we realized we didn't want to ruin our friendship so we stayed to be just friends. He said he wanted to keep me in his life for a long time. I totally agreed on that... We're still friends up to now. He is now married and I am happy with my boyfriend. I think that it is really up to the individuals. Males and females can be friends but they have to know their limitations...especially if they are in a relationship.

 

[ambicion6]

It is definitely possible!!! assuming he's gay of course....lol just saying out of my experience...

 

[florabundance]

It's probably best that you distance yourselves from eachother. How can a friendship be reformed, when it meant completely different things to the people involved? It's sad for sure tho

But i'm sort of glad this was brought up. I'm really close with a guy friend, and i see him as just a friend, nothing more. But it's been brought to my attention just how "friendly" he is toward me, and it's beginning to bother me. Like, we laugh and joke about the same things. But i'll pick up my phone in the morning and have texts from him like "i miss u" when we had just spoken the day before. He also compliments me on my appearance..but not like "nice shirt", like "you have the greatest body" etc etc. and when in public he like touches my leg and always asks for hugs n shit and that weirds me out a little because i wouldnt want it to be assumed we were a couple, so i'm confused - he's a very sensitive guy, quite touchyfeely...but i cant work out if he's into me or if that's just the way he is....???

k, this isnt even my thread so sorry to intrude but anyone have an opinion??

 

[winkietoe]

One of my closest friends is a guy, and people would ask us all the time if one of us liked the other or if there was something going on between us. Each and everytime we denied it and said that it was quite possible for a boy and a girl to be friends, and have nothing going on between them. We'd have talks and understand that we were friends with each other and nothing more.

Then one day, he just freaks out on me for not hanging out with him, and just gets mad at me for little things like that. After few nights later at a club after a few drinks, we get into a heated argument about the way hes been acting and he then admits to me that he has feelings for me.

So can a man and woman be just friends and not have romantic feelings for each other? I honestly believe it can happen, just not in my current situation.

 

[06290714]

Yes, a man and woman can be JUST FRIENDS. 90% of my friends are guys and I could NEVER see myself liking them more than just a friend let alone ever being with them. Now their part, IDK. Lol, single or not single I would never date my guy friends, maybe it's because I'm one of the guys?

 

[Boasorte]

I think it's possible!
Ihave this one guy friend whom I like to call my soulmate, but we are great friends, and no romantic feelings whatsoever

 

[gildedangel]

A woman and a man can be just friends. I have plenty of guy friends who I have maintained platonic relationships with for years, I was never attracted to them past being friends, and they were never atttracted to me. Now that is not the case with all of my guy friends, but it is with a few of them. It is completely possible, but I could see how for some people that might not be the case. I think that it depends on the personalities of both parties.

 

[Shadowy Lady]

a guy and girl can be friends, but not super close friends. IMO, no guy can be as good of a friend as a girl to a girl, except a partner. Men just can't listen like women do. Plus, every single guy I became close to started hitting on me, so this is based on my own experience.

I have mostly guy friends actually, but I don't consider any of them as close of friends as my girls

 

[angereye]

I must agree with you on the female/male relationship.

 

[MissResha]

yea its possible.

one of my best friends is a guy. he's gay, but he's still a guy. and absolutely my favoritest person evar

 

[ginger9]

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

 

[xLongLashesx]

^^ LOL I've had the harry/sally conversation many times with various male friends! It's all true.

 

[Arisone]

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Originally Posted by Raerae I totally agree. I think women can be friends with guys, but i dont think a man can be just friends with a girl. At least thats my expierence anyways. Even if they are great friends, I truly believe that deep down, they want more than just a friendship.

I feel the same way. I would love to have a guy friend, but most try to hit one me at least once. Unless the guy is gay, I doubt that I could ever have a male friend.