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Beauty Mark

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There is straight (if you strictly like the opposite sex), gay (if you strictly like only your own sex), bi (those who like male & female) & then their are sexual deviants (people involved w/children *worst criminals of them all, animals, corpse and objects, etc.)

The shades of grey come in for me, because there are people see bi as being a perfect split (50-50 chance of you ending up with male or female). A lot of times, the interest simply isn't like that. Some people are more likely to end up with a guy than a girl or vice versa.

Some people have a snow ball's chance in hell of ending up with one or the other, but they still allow for that chance.

I think you can totally label it, but I don't think it's necessarily a three category system. It gets complicated, because some people consider themselves gay but wouldn't get with a transgender/transexual.

You also forgot the asexuals.
 

Ms. Z

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Originally Posted by eighmii
I disagree. There are people who are basically straight but have sex with the same sex occasionally "in the heat of the moment", There are people who like to have sex with the same sex but would not want to date them, and so on.

I used to not consider myself bi when I was even younger because I could never see myself dating girls, I just wanted to do sexual things with girls.

There are shades of grey.


Spur of the moment or one night stands (w/a same sex partner) still count as bi-sexual (physically attracted enough to someone to have intimate relations), just because you don't go out on an actual date doesn't change it.
 

Ms. Z

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark
The shades of grey come in for me, because there are people see bi as being a perfect split (50-50 chance of you ending up with male or female). A lot of times, the interest simply isn't like that. Some people are more likely to end up with a guy than a girl or vice versa.

Some people have a snow ball's chance in hell of ending up with one or the other, but they still allow for that chance.

I think you can totally label it, but I don't think it's necessarily a three category system. It gets complicated, because some people consider themselves gay but wouldn't get with a transgender/transexual.

You also forgot the asexuals.


Oh c,mon, it depends on it being equal?
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So, for example if Ellen Degeneres (is this spelled correctly) has been w/for example 1 man & 9 woman in her lifetime, she is only 90% lesbian?
 

eighmii

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Originally Posted by ZLoves2Shop
Spur of the moment or one night stands (w/a same sex partner) still count as bi-sexual (physically attracted enough to someone to have intimate relations), just because you don't go out on an actual date doesn't change it.

Ok, well. Last year after prom (I know.. so cliche) I had sex with a girl and I know for a fact she doesn't consider herself bi. Its not because shes afraid to admit it or anything like that.. She just does crazy things like that at the spur of the moment. Shes fun. Sure, she would have sex with a girl if that just started happening, but she doesnt have feelings for girls.

To me this is a shade of grey.
 

Beauty Mark

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Oh c,mon, it depends on it being equal? So, for example if Ellen Degeneres (is this spelled correctly) has been w/for example 1 man & 9 woman in her lifetime, she is only 90% lesbian?

If she considers there's a small chance she could get with man again, I'd say she isn't 100% lesbian.

It's not cold and fast numbers. Let's take one of my friends, who's predominantly lesbian (for the sake of language, she describes herself as a lesbian) but doesn't oppose the idea of getting with a man and has had romantic feelings towards males.

Let's take one of my friends who doesn't ever see himself with a woman ever. If we are to do a comparison, I'd say he's more gay than my female friend.

The infamous Kinsey scale. I think it's a decent measure of one's sexuality.
 

MiCHiE

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But, what's more important/accurate? What you're thinking about or what you're doing? I can look at 2 women engaged in foreplay and think, "That's hot...". But, when I wanna recreate it, I'm calling my man. Does that make any sense? The same as guy on guy action....I can look at 2 men and say, "I wanna do that to G" or "I want him to do that to me."......Or maybe I'm just a big ol' freak...
 

Shimmer

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Exactly, the "taboo" of the g/g action or the b/b action may be the trigger, whereas the actual activity is not.
 

Beauty Mark

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I think it's your actions/willingness to do something that makes you x, y, z, etc.

When people regards somene as "hot" or "sexy", it's usually based upon some quality. For you, two women together may be hot or sexy not because you want to with a women, but to see that kind of pleasure re-enacted or carefree behavior or whatever have you. For others, it might be because they want to have sex with one or both of the women or remember how it feels to have a woman's body against theirs.
 

MiCHiE

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Right. I see the good in ALL sex. I've learned a fair share from FM, FF and MM actions, so I surely say, "Keep doing whatever you do!". I just have no desire to please another female.
 

Raerae

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Originally Posted by ZLoves2Shop
Spur of the moment or one night stands (w/a same sex partner) still count as bi-sexual (physically attracted enough to someone to have intimate relations), just because you don't go out on an actual date doesn't change it.

I completely disagree with this.

Not to mention your also not accounting for people like prostitutes or porn stars, who may engage in sexual intercourse with people of the same sex, but not because of ANY physical attraction, but for money, and money alone.
 

Raerae

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark
I think it's your actions/willingness to do something that makes you x, y, z, etc.

When people regards somene as "hot" or "sexy", it's usually based upon some quality. For you, two women together may be hot or sexy not because you want to with a women, but to see that kind of pleasure re-enacted or carefree behavior or whatever have you. For others, it might be because they want to have sex with one or both of the women or remember how it feels to have a woman's body against theirs.


I use hot and sexy for a lot of things... Most of which have little to do with sex lol.
 

Raerae

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark
When I was typing that, I thought of Paris Hilton.

*blushes*


Thats hot.
 

Raerae

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Originally Posted by little teaser
men are bi curious. even if they dont admit it

I'm sure some are. There is just a lot more social pressure on men to not engage in that type of activity compared with women.

But to say all men are bi curious, is as wrong as saying all women are.
 

little teaser

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curious.. as to what it would be like to be with the same sex.. im noting saying they want to but wonder what its like. im sure the thought has cross ones mind at least once.. thats what i mean.. just someone bring up the conversation of sex with the same sex feeds the imagination. maybe not
 

sexypuma

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I am quite late on this one but i wanted to say that you should base your decision on your values, what is acceptable to you, what you feel comfortable doing. That is in no case being selfish. Remember that you are going to live with your actions the rest of your life. There is no taking anything back. So as much as you want to please sb else, you also want to make sure that you are ok with what you are doing. He might be disappointed because he will not always get what he wants out of you, but he will respect you for living according to your principles.
 

DevinGirl

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I am certainly grateful for all of the feedback I've received. You all have helped out so much. So much in fact that not only have I talked with dave...he's decided to post his own damn thread. Read on!
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Beauty Mark

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Originally Posted by little teaser
curious.. as to what it would be like to be with the same sex.. im noting saying they want to but wonder what its like. im sure the thought has cross ones mind at least once.. thats what i mean.. just someone bring up the conversation of sex with the same sex feeds the imagination. maybe not

Then technically everyone is something-curious. I wonder what it's like to be a cat, a millionaire/billionaire, Britney Spears, Queen Elizabeth...

Bi-curious is more reserved for people who have any inkling that they may be bi but aren't sure.
 

MiCHiE

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Originally Posted by Raerae
I completely disagree with this.

Not to mention your also not accounting for people like prostitutes or porn stars, who may engage in sexual intercourse with people of the same sex, but not because of ANY physical attraction, but for money, and money alone.


Well, hell.....what category would you put prison inmates? Some of them swear up and down that they're not gay/bisexual. But, if it wasn't rape, what was it? Ah, yes....Desperation. But, for 10 years? And, as far as the industry, can they not turn down the money? I mean, damn, I'll use my right hand man before I sold my sexuality. But that's just me.
 
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