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[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by ♥MiCHiE♥ Well, hell.....what category would you put prison inmates? Some of them swear up and down that they're not gay/bisexual. But, if it wasn't rape, what was it? Ah, yes....Desperation. But, for 10 years?

I dunno what catagory. Thats why I'm not a supporter of the 3 part classification, Gay/Strait/bi, because I think sexuality is so much more complicated than that.

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And, as far as the industry, can they not turn down the money? I mean, damn, I'll use my right hand man before I sold my sexuality. But that's just me.

If your doing porn or prostitution, I really dont think you care who your sleeping with.

Could you imagine?

Yah, i'll let hundreds of guys fuck me at the same time, but eat pussy? Not for $1,000,000 dollars!

ROFL...

 

[*Stargazer*]

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Originally Posted by Raerae I dunno what catagory. Thats why I'm not a supporter of the 3 part classification, Gay/Strait/bi, because I think sexuality is so much more complicated than that.

I totally agree with you. Add into the fact that some people fall into more than one classification but would consider themselves "non-practicing" in one or more areas, KWIM?

 

[Raerae]

Kwim?

 

[Shimmer]

know what I mean...

 

[Beauty Mark]

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Originally Posted by ♥MiCHiE♥ Well, hell.....what category would you put prison inmates? Some of them swear up and down that they're not gay/bisexual. But, if it wasn't rape, what was it? Ah, yes....Desperation. But, for 10 years? And, as far as the industry, can they not turn down the money? I mean, damn, I'll use my right hand man before I sold my sexuality. But that's just me.

I don't know what it's like to be an inmate. Not saying that being gay/bi is a sign of craziness, but I would imagine that being in such an unusual situation like jail may make you behave out of character.

When people are hard up enough for money and most likely addicted to some kind of drug (and possibly suffering a string of mental illnesses), they'll do almost anyone if it pays.

 

[*Stargazer*]

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Originally Posted by Raerae Kwim?

Sorry, I try so hard not to fall into chatspeak but sometimes I'm just a lazy bitch.

I think this is very similar to Shimmer's comment in the other thread about not defining someone else's relationship. You can't define someone else's sexuality, either.

 

[MiCHiE]

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Originally Posted by Raerae If your doing porn or prostitution, I really dont think you care who your sleeping with. Could you imagine? Yah, i'll let hundreds of guys fuck me at the same time, but eat pussy? Not for $1,000,000 dollars! ROFL...

Exactly my point. So, what's the difference if they're labeled "bi", "try" whatever. That's society's categories....doesn't exactly have to be how they define themselves.

Like I said. That's just me. That's why I do nails...and di*ks, not flicks.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by ♥MiCHiE♥ Exactly my point. So, what's the difference if they're labeled "bi", "try" whatever. That's society's categories....doesn't exactly have to be how they define themselves. Like I said. That's just me. That's why I do nails...and di*ks, not flicks.

Because plenty of people dont fit a label, or more specifically, the label YOU want to put on them.

I personally consider myself strait, but according to other people in these threads, I woulnd't be. Who's right?

Thats my point.

 

[DevinGirl]

I've since lost track of where the posts have veered off to, lol. Ah we've gone through the whole labeling thing. I think as humans in general we sort of want to put names on things...y'know classify them & put them in their neat order. Meticulous-like. I just think that there are too many people with individual tastes to ever accurately come up with a system of terms to please any one or group of people. In the scheme of things, I don't think it really matters - what word or term you use to describe your sexuality.

The prison inmate thing always threw me for a loop. Not what to term the ones that go same-sex while in the joint...but the idea of doing it. I'd have to say a few might dabble into it b/c of survival. Then with that harsh strict environment it sort of makes the person snap a little then they lose whatever they thought they knew about themselves. Very interesting...

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by DevinGirl The prison inmate thing always threw me for a loop. Not what to term the ones that go same-sex while in the joint...but the idea of doing it. I'd have to say a few might dabble into it b/c of survival. Then with that harsh strict environment it sort of makes the person snap a little then they lose whatever they thought they knew about themselves. Very interesting...

Well if you think about it... Prison is one of the few places where being bi, or gay, or whatever, is OK for guys to do, and not have anyone question their masculinity. And if anyone does question it, they have a "get out of jail free card" (pardon the pun LOL) and can justify their behavior because they were in Prison. So it's natural that some men who are secretly bi-curious, but would NEVER act on it outside of prison, might dabble in it while they are in jail.

Just like how more girls have probably kissed other girls, compared to the ratio of men who have kissed other men. Because it's not really that big a deal for girls to do that, as long as they are hot ;p

 

[NutMeg]

You know, I don't even like the Kinsey scale because it seems to be defined by actual "encounters". I am not interested in doing anything sexual with a woman. It would creep me out, and I don't think I could ever enjoy it. That being said, I get turned on by gay porn (as in two guys) and I do sometimes fantasize about women. So what am I on the Kinsey scale?

 

[Shimmer]

Normal.
Liking taboo things doesn't make you gay, bi, tri, or frogsexual.
It makes you NORMAL.

Studies have shown that when people read/see child porn, parts of their brain are stimulated that indicate arousal.
That doesn't make them pedophiles.

The allure of the taboo is more powerful than many give credit for.

 

[Raerae]

Very very true Shim.

Thats why i say get out of the ordinary with you sex life lol... Doesn't have to be creepy wierd, but doing stuff thats "naughty" is always going to be a bit hotter, than the same ole bedroom lol...

 

[ginger9]

DevinGirl,

I'm probably too late in adding my 2cents on this topic and maybe you may call me a big square but I just don't think this whole threesome business is worth it. You are happily married and love your husband dearly and I believe you said he's your soul mate. Imo you don't ever want to mess with that or take it for granted. I mean this kinda stuff you can do till your *#@% falls off or till you turn blue when you are single but once you've found The One there's a lot more at stake.

Just perspective from a single chick

 

[giz2000]

I am a little late to the party...but I'll add my two cents' worth...

Things have definitely changed socially since I was in my late teens - early 20's..."straight" girls didn't make out with other girls in public (at least I never saw any) even if they were drunk, there was no "Girls gone Wild" stuff going on...you get the picture.

However, I think the "secret" attraction a lot of women have towards other women has existed forever. It's just more open now. Yes, men love to see women together. My own DH of 14 years has told me that it is one of his fantasies (he just wants to watch). I am not going to play the prude and say that the thought has never crossed my mind, because I'd be lying, but at least for me, it one of those things that is better left a fantasy. BUT...if I were ever to be with another woman, DH would NOT be there...it would be something just for me. Then the dilemma becomes: do I tell him or keep it a secret and let the possible guilt that would accompany it eat me alive? I honestly couldn't answer that...

This is an interesting topic....

 

[Beauty Mark]

If you ever think exploring that side is a possibility, I recommend being honest. Honesty is always better. You may think you have it down to a science of not getting caught but stuff happens.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by giz2000 However, I think the "secret" attraction a lot of women have towards other women has existed forever.

It's just biology... If you look at the past, especially Greek/Roman times pre christianity, there is lots of evidence to support that there wasn't the stigma surrounding same sex relationships as there is today.

 

[xbeatofangelx]

Ahahah the prison posts remind me of 40 y/o virgin where the black guy goes... "I have guys friends that f*ck other guys....... in prison"

honestly though, isn't it only society which gives us any of these labels at all? I personally don't care for it. I try to judge people the same, regardless of whatever "label" they have. Having a different label doesn't mean you're of a different species.

If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. That's the bottom line, no matter what the issue is.