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Originally Posted by xxainixx
it's my birthday today... miserable bday ever..
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Happy Birthday
Seriously, consider this, you proved to yourself as well as all of us that you are strong enough to walk away from an abusive relationship. Its not an easy thing to do and the longer you would have stayed with him, the further he would have pulled you down, until you reached a point where leaving him would have been nearly impossible.
Abusive relationships are complex and one of those 'through the looking glass' situations where, unless youve been in one before, you dont fully understand them.
Your ex is evil, simple. He lied and manipulated you throughout the entire relationship, he convinced you that he sincerely loved and cared for you, until he got you right where he wanted you, and began to abuse you. He toyed with your emotions, thats abuse, he hit you, thats physical abuse and he did all this knowing that you loved him, that is just an ultimate low.
Now that youve broke up with him, hes seeking revenge by flaunting his new relationship in your face! He knows hes hurting you when hes doing this.
Be sad, cry get it all out of your system, regardless of how badly he treated you, you still loved him so naturally your going to be heartbroken but please remember, the reason why you feel so alone and upset, is because of him. He put you in this situation, I bet he made you choose between him and your friends too? He wanted to get you all alone, so that you would depend on him, he wanted to trap you in the relationship - that shows what kind of 'man' he was.
You will build your life back up, in time, its not going to be easy or quick, he spent a good year destroying it, but youve still got your family to lean on and if your ever feeling particularly low, youve got us too, just post here or PM us, even if its just to vent.
Youve done a big thing to get away from him, alot of women dont get away in time. Dont go back to him, he wont change, even with counselling because most men dont.
