Ladies: Have you cheated?

[BeccalovesMAC]

I have dumped my bf when I was tired of his crap. I dated other people like 2 weeks after that but I have never had a full blown affair. I have been tempted but my man is too damn good in bed, I haven't been with a better lover than him. I seriously think that's why we always get back together. We have been off and on for 10+ years. Hey just because you cheat doesn't mean you are a whore. If your relationship is shitty, do what you gotta do. You only live once.

 

[Mabelle]

Nope.
But that doesnt mean i havent entertained the thought. Ive been with the same guy for 5 and a half years. Hes my frist real relationship and we plan on getting married. I would and will never cheat on him, however, every now and then the thought crosses my mind, and i feel disgusted with myself for entertaining the idea for ever a second.
My boyfriend once told me "if you ever cheated on me, no matter how sorry you were, i would break up with you" and ive never forgotten that. I know he's telling the truth too... not that thats the only thing keeping me from cheating. I love him with every fiber of my being and cant imagine disrespecting him like that or hurting him. Hell, i feel bad even day dreaming about my future marriage to Ryan Gossling.

 

[kpenn]

I have certainly emotionally cheated. My best friend from highschool and I have always had this cat-and-mouse game going on, but he's been in a serious relationship for as long as I've known him, and I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now. I love my boyfriend dearly, but I'll admit that I definitely have feelings for my best friend, too. It's not an easy situation to navigate, and I harbor a lot of guilt about it.

 

[MACPixie]

I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years. It was a summer fling in the summer after grade 12 and before leaving for university. Never slept with the other guy (he was my first boyfriend who I got re-acquainted with), but we had feelings for each other. Turned out the only thing we had in common was our mutual enjoyment of making out with each other. We split when I left for University.

I never told my boyfriend the whole truth, and we're still together 4 years later. I love him and can't imagine my life without him. I don't regret cheating for that reason, I would never have realized it otherwise. I also don't regret not telling him. I am sorry I did it and would never do it again. I won't hurt him just to ease my conscious.

We've worked through a lot of our issues in the last 4 years and are stronger than ever. And I would never ever cheat on him again. Unless Robert Pattinson came along...

 

[kpenn]

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Originally Posted by MACPixie And I would never ever cheat on him again. Unless Robert Pattinson came along...

ahahaha same here, same here!

My bf and I have a Robert Pattinson / Eva Mendez pact. If ever RP offered me sex or EM offered my bf sex, we have an agreement that it would only better our relationship to take them up on that offer!

 

[kaliraksha]

I guess I've emotionally cheated. I've felt closer to another guy than my boyfriend, and preferred his attention/conversation. I was a little neglected for attention and someone offered it to me under the innocent pretense of friends I went along. Until one day I realized I was starting to have feelings for this "friend." I explored it without crossing any lines, but realized it was that I was lacking attention in my current relationship, not that I wanted this new guys specific attention. I told my boyfriend and we worked on it.

I'm always a firm believer that if you want to be with someone else, especially physically... then be with him, just leave your current partner first. If the new guy is worth it, he'll wait.

 

[MamaLaura]

I have in the past. I did it when I was in my teens, because I was stupid and insensitive. I hadn't experienced it myself, so I didn't know what it felt like. Then I had it happen to me several times in a row. Karma's a bitch. The last time I did it was last year, but I did it while knowing that I was ending my relationship in a matter of a couple of days. I was wanting to end the relationship in person and was waiting for that opportunity. I did cheat in the meantime. Not great, but I did it.

 

[snkatha]

I have cheated. but the bastard i was with at the time cheated on me too. I considered it a revenge cheat...but to be honest i regret the choices i made at the time

 

[RedRibbon]

The honesty in this thread is refreshing.

I personally have never cheated, I thought about it before when I was in an abusive relationship and the thoughts only came about when I found out that he had cheated but I broke it off instead because cheating on him would make me just as bad as he was.

Now, I'd never do it because I'm more than happy with the guy I have.

Also, I feel it's all to easy to judge someone when they say they would cheat but you have to remember that perhaps not everyone has the "perfect lovey dovey" relationship that you have.

 

[Blushbaby]

No, I haven't. Being in a LDR you'd think I'd have been tempted at least once, but nope, never.

 

[finchkittie]

Never have, never will. I find it really disrespectful. There's no reason to cheat, in my opinion. I get that people "get caught in the moment" but it's just not my style.

 

[Cupid]

I've never cheated. I have a fair amount of friends who have thought...I find it really disrespectful and selfish. I love my BF and can't see myself with anyone else. Plus I cannot even fathom the idea of keeping such a secret from my BF it would kill me.

 

[VenusEarthGirl]

I was in an impulsive, unhappy relationship with my then-boyfriend: he just wasn't for me. I have a very nervous disposition and was so scared to end it because he seemed simultaneously so needy and yet so controlling and could cut me down as quick as he built me up in ways that still stick with me. He restricted me as a person and didn't understand my upset after my last relationship.

My now-boyfriend, a friend for five years who I have always had feelings for, finally came back into my life and said he was in love with me. We kissed one night while I was still with the afore mentioned boyfriend and it's the one thing I've always wished I'd have done differently. I felt so much pressure from this guy to be committed to him but honestly he scared me, took advantage of my nature and used me just to fill the void in his own life. I could have been any girl to him and I felt unloved and somewhat trapped. I'll never justify what I did but I am utterly thankful to be in a loving relationship now. Although some would call it 'just a kiss,' it wasn't a testament to who I am and I'm not proud of it. Just because he was emotionally abusive to me, didn't mean he deserved that hurt. I will always deeply regret the hurt I caused him, but I'm in a way glad I finally took control of my feelings and embraced a real relationship.

 

[urshz]

No never. I am still young and in long distance relationship so I could do it, but it is not my cup of tea... I don't quite see point of it, if you don't like the guy just tell him, rather than cheat on him. At the end you split up anyway...

 

[alyxo]

No. I've never cheated on anyone. And I never will. I'm a very open, honest and blunt person. I would rather tell someone that I don't love them and that I don't want to be with them then lie and sneak behind their back. I value honesty so much with all of my relationships. I give honesty and I expect it in return. To me, when you're cheating on someone, you're also cheating on yourself. All the lying and sneaking is just too much effort and it's not fair to you or the other person. Things happen and the love goes away and that's okay. It's just a better option to be honest and open. I'm not judging anyone who has cheated on a partner, it's none of my business. I understand things happen and people change. It's just my opinion and the way I work.

 

[stormm]

never cheated although i did start dating another guy while we were on a break and did not break up properly.

 

[JaMK]

Wow half have cheated and half havent that voted so far according to the poll...me personally I never have. Why do people have to be selfish to cheat? They should just break up with who they are with rather than betray the other person!! unless kids are involved then it's different I suppose. I would never cheat bc I feel it's just wrong and I would never want the other person to cheat on me!

 

[ohmissdee]

I have never physically cheated but I think I may have emotionally (which I feel is worse). I just think that if you're going to cheat on someone then you should just break up with them. I do understand that it is more complicated if you are married with kids..but that still doesn't justify cheating on a person.

 

[natalis88]

I have never physically cheated but I think that I have emotionally cheated. I have an ex that texts me every now and again to see how I am doing and he always asks about my relationship etc. I tend to give home TMI and then for a few days he'll continue text me, we have a good rapport and it's comfortable talking to him. I then catch myself and stop texting him. I realize that he is re-attaching himself to me and then I detach. I think that would be considered emotional cheating no? SO yes, I have emotionally cheated.

 

[rigato]

No, I love my bf and I don't need anyone else around him