Long Distance

[Miss Pumpkin]

Today has been the hardest day of my life...

I met my boyfriend on the Internet. We always knew it was going to be a hard relationship, him being in Australia and me being Spanish... For two years and a half all we did was talk for hours every day and dream of the day when we could be together.

Last June we finally got to be together and these have been the best 3 months of my life. We spent every single second together, night and day, for 90 days... And every day I fell in love with him more and more. Every day was perfect.

Today his tourist visa expired and he had to leave to Europe for 3 months until he can return for another 3... He promised me he will be with me soon, and I'm already counting down the days... He's only been away for 15 hours and I miss him soooooooo bad already.


Sorry for rambling so much... I guess I just want to share this with other people in the same situation and ask you girls to wish us good luck...

I know everything will be fine because we love each other so much and it's only 3 months, but right now I just wish I had him here to hold me in his arms...

 

[girlstar]

Aww.. I know how you feel.. the first couple of days definitely hurt the most! My boyfriend and I currently live 7 hours apart.. soon to be 3 but that doesn't really make things any better. We see each other for a weekend, every month.. (if we're lucky). It's hard to co-ordinate visits to see one another when we both have work, and extra-curricular things.. and money and bills get in the way for sure!!

For him to move here, it's going to be a PITA with the immigration paperwork. I wish he could move here right now, but he'd only be able to stay for 6 months.. if his immigration wasn't approved by then, I assume he'd be kicked out of the country.. and he'd have no where to go.. blah.. love knows no bounds, but the government sure does!!

Good luck.. I'm sure the three months will go by quicker than you think. Keep yourself busy with things you enjoy, and make sure you email him and speak on the phone a LOT

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Thank you!

Yes I know what you mean about inmigration laws... My boyfriend needs one stupid paper to get his visa, a "formal job offer form" that we haven't managed to get... That's why he was here with a tourist visa. But at least we spent summer together and it's been the most amazing time of my life, and I know soon we will be together again... It's just scary and painful at first.

I'm going to record him a message right now and send it to his email so he can listen to it as soon as he gets to Melbourne

I can't wait for him to land and be able to talk to me, I know if I talk to him every day and I hear his voice I will smile again.

 

[eye_pr0mise]

oh i sorta know how you feel .. i mean ive been in a long distance relationship too .. its hard at the time but of course when things get back to the way you want them it seems to be much better. i guess the best thing i can say is dont worry and hang in there .. just try not to think of it as such a bad thing. i mean, distance makes the heart grow fonder right. well there you go. hope this helps. feel free to vent out on specktra. we're hear to listen and support

 

[girlstar]

A whole summer together is wonderful.. I'm jealous!!

The pain of a long distance really hurts.. but the relationships that survive are so incredibly strong, and make all the pain worthwhile!

I hope you get the paper he needs to get his visa soon! Good luck, and like the above poster said.. if you need to vent, definitely do it here! We'll give you any support you need

 

[circusflavouredgum]

I know exactly how you feel chick. My husband and I met on the net, he was in England and I was in Los Angeles.

It was very hard because neither of us had the money to keep flying back and forth, as it is very expensive (even more so I would imagine from Australia to Europe!)

We missed each other terribly and just used phone cards to ring and texted loads.

I wish you all the best, immigration has been a nightmare for us. My husband only got his residency 6 months ago and we have been married for 3 years. We had to have 3 separate interviews and it was really stressful.

Let me know if you need an ear to sympathise cos I have been through the same thing.

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Thank you for your support girls!
I got an email from him a while ago, he was in transit in Kuala Lumpur... He wrote how much he misses me and loves me, and it made me sooooo happy... He's getting there in a few hours and hopefully I can talk to him soon... Counting down the seconds to be with him again.

Now he will come back in 3 months, but I think I'm going to start investigating what I need for a visa to Australia, because I'm planning to go there as soon as I finish Uni (around July next year)

I miss him so bad

 

[giz2000]

I am such a sucker for romance....and this is VERRRRRY romantic....hang in there!

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Thank you girls... I think it gets harder every day... It's strange. In a way it feels better because we're one day closer to being together again, but at the same time it's one more day without him... I feel so empty, I just want to cry today...

 

[battipatti]

Sweetie I know just how you feel! I live half a country away from my future husband and its torture to be away from him, but the way I see it is that since you do not get to be around them you don't waste your time together on trivial, petty things you get to know who the person really is, and the time that you do get to spend together is just that more special. It's very very hard to deal with, but I know I would not want anyone else other than him ever and would not change what we have together for anything, not even MAC! Whenever you feel down and miss him, just remember how much you love him and how much he loves you, it really helps me. *hugs*

Oh my gosh! Is his name Matt?! I saw that in your photoshoot thread, my hun's name is Matt too! what a coincidence!

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Hehehe yes, his name is Matt!

I was talking to him yesterday because sometimes I worry that distance will get in the way and he will think I'm not worth this hassle and pain

But he told me that he wants to be with me, that I am the only person he wants to be with, whatever it takes.

It is soooooooo hard not having him around after spending 90 days practically stuck to him like a leech... hehe that's what he calls me for fun, "a big leech"

But there is good news, his grandfather is irish so he could apply for his irish citizenship, that way he would get an irish passport and therefore be entitled to work anywhere in Europe without a visa, including Spain

Now we thought the processing period was 14 months but he rang the embassy and they said he could get it in about 3-4 months!

So everyone please fingers crossed for us and keep wishing for us, I hope this option works out.

I need to be with him so much, I never thought I could love anyone like this... Every second without him hurts.

 

[brandiisamonkey]

I hope that he gets his citizenship that would ROCK! You two have something very special, you can see it in you photos. Its magical. I did the long distance thing but not for long and not on the scale that your doing it so I can kind of understand.. Hang in there though you will be together soon

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Thanks! I hope he gets it soon too.

It is sooooooo hard being far from him

I've been trying to keep myself busy, I am working in lots of congresses and events, doing 12 hour shifts... at least I don't stay at home sinking in my own tears, and I get money out of it, which we are going to need for our plane tickets and stuff.

I also have Uni, and I'm downloading a Pilates DVD to do something when I get bored... and of course I'm talking to him everyday, which helps a lot too.

Distance doesn't seem so huge when I can hear his voice every day.

 

[vgarcia]

omg, ur ticker is so cute. im a hopeless romantic! i was sorta in a long distance relationship. i met my boyfriend when i was 18. i lived what is supposed to be an hour away from him but with traffic it was always a 3 hour drive. it doesnt seem too bad huh? well, i did not drive. for a whole year he commuted for at times it the time we would hang out was shorter than the commute. i love my boyfriend and i will say, love is amazing. we never lost hope in eachother and this sunday is our 2 year anniversary. as for you, oh man girly, this must be so hard for you. i wish you the best of luck and if you guys have made it this far, whats another 3 months. overall, u are such a lucky girl to be in love and to have your soulmate, there are people that go through an entire lifetime looking for their soulmate, you are so so lucky to have yours!

-vania

 

[CrystalStars]

Oh man..can I relate to this! The current relationship I am in is via the internet. We have yet to meet due to so many factors. (one main one is the fact im having trouble finding a job and I am so deep in debt)

I think relationships over the net are a great thing because you get to know that person on a very deep level, and personality is a huge thing. Its not a physical thing, as you cant just hook up and go from there. Its a very deep connection. However not letting the distance get to you...its hard, really hard. And I find a lot of my friends dont really understand the whole idea behind it and sometimes look down on my choices. Or think just because he isnt here, its not real. And that part hurts, I want my friends to understand that this is the person I care about the most in the world. I dont care how far apart we are. In time, we will be together and thats all that matters.

When times get tough like they are for you right now Pumpkin just remember..all the time apart makes you value and appreciate the time you will be together that much more. Love wil lget you through it and youve got all us here who are in the same situation as a support group!

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

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Originally Posted by CrystalStars I think relationships over the net are a great thing because you get to know that person on a very deep level, and personality is a huge thing. Its not a physical thing, as you cant just hook up and go from there. Its a very deep connection. However not letting the distance get to you...its hard, really hard. And I find a lot of my friends dont really understand the whole idea behind it and sometimes look down on my choices. Or think just because he isnt here, its not real. And that part hurts, I want my friends to understand that this is the person I care about the most in the world. I dont care how far apart we are. In time, we will be together and thats all that matters.

I know people don't understand this sometimes. But trust me, when my friends saw how happy I am with Matt, everyone kept telling me how amazing our story was and how happy and beautiful I looked.

Don't mind what people say, stay true to your feelings. Eventually everyone will see that what you had is special. If you need to talk about it, I'm here to listen too! Our relationship went on for more than 2 years over the net before we were together!

Good luck hun, and remember love knows no distances!

 

[girlstar]

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Originally Posted by vgarcia for a whole year he commuted for at times it the time we would hang out was shorter than the commute.

This is what me and my boyfriend almost seem to be doing now. He is always travelling to come here and see me.. and it takes 7 hours. It used to take 14, because he lived twice as far away, but he just reccently moved. Just this weekend, he left Thursday night around midnight, and didn't actually get here until 2:30 on Friday because of bus route mixups and ticket errors

We spent the weekend together until today, at 2:30 I had to drop him off so he could go back home, and he won't be getting there for another 2+ hours.

I'm just glad he loves me enough to do that.

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

I think that too, I'm glad he loves me enough to go through this and willing to wait for me.

I just get so scared sometimes that he will find a more beautiful and amazing woman there and he will think, "screw long distance".

I'm so scared of losing him

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

I miss him so bad today I'm going insane...

 

[girlstar]

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Originally Posted by Miss Pumpkin I think that too, I'm glad he loves me enough to go through this and willing to wait for me. I just get so scared sometimes that he will find a more beautiful and amazing woman there and he will think, "screw long distance". I'm so scared of losing him

I just think, if that was going to happen, my boyfriend would've done it before spending all his time making treks out here to see me..

From the pictures I've seen, you guys look totally in love with you, and it sounds like it, if you've been talking for so long and he made the journey to come see you all that way. I'm sure he misses you like crazy too!!

All the sad, crappy times will end up being worth it, I'm sure!