Making love vs. ......?

CantAffordMAC

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Hey everyone. I'm wondering if you guys think there is a difference between having sex and making love. I guess it may sound like a dumb question to some..
I always thought that making love was the slow, romantic, long sex. no dirty talk and no smacking and hair pulling lol. I don't even think love making exists anymore...I've never had it and its not like you can plan something like that "Oh honey, lets not just have sex tonight...let's make love!"

I dunno. What do you guys think? Do you find yourself having sex more or "making love"? Maybe its because I'm so young...
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BeautyPsycho

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I do both..
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And I think it is different...
When making love, there is more kissing, touching, looking into eyes and sweet whispering, its slow... romantic... mmmmm
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Sex- it can be done anytime, anywhere... rough, dirty... hehehe
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MACATTAK

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I hate romantic/gushy type talk...so I only know the words.."have sex, or F***. I had a boyfriend ask me if I wanted to "make love," and I almost laughed in his face. I don't know that language. I know it's different for everyone, but that kind of talk doesn't do it for me.
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banjobama

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I would say I'm making love when I feel really emotional or connected to the other person, regardless of the amount of time. Kind of like pleasing him pleases you. If we're just doing it to do it, then it's f*cking. My boyfriend and I do and like both.
 

CaraAmericana

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Making Love is with your husband
Sex is with your boyfriend when you dont want your husband
Fucking is with "Ritchie" from the downtown club when you husband is at home with dirty boxers on and your boyfriend is at a different club fucking "Rita"


Will I have to edit this?
 

user79

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I think making love is when you love the person. You can still have kinky, hair pulling, scratching, dirty talk sex with someone you love and it's still making love. That's my opinion.
 

SparklingWaves

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Making Love is with your husband
Sex is with your boyfriend when you dont want your husband
Fucking is with "Ritchie" from the downtown club when you husband is at home with dirty boxers on and your boyfriend is at a different club fucking "Rita"


That is so funny! I love this.
 

SparklingWaves

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This is what I was told by guy years ago and I never forgot it. It may be totally unrelated to your question, but it really stuck with me. I never saw things the same way.

"Guys will tell a girl she is pretty, they love her, and she is the only one to get in her pants. I don't know any guys that are not "horny". They want to have sex and any way they can get it. If you know what I mean. Girls will drop their pants faster after they have had a drink or two. Guys get lucky and girls fall in love. They all say they want to have your baby and they don't even know who you are. (laughing) None of these girls are what I call Playboy material, so I have to do a lot of fantasizing." - he said.


Scary.
 

NicksWifey

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I've had to go through some serious frogs before I met my prince, ya know?
When I think back with the only other two guys I've slept with before my beloved now, I think of straight up sex. There was no emotional connection, purely physical. And after it was over, there was no cuddling, just "Call me when you want to fuck again."

I had planned on making my boyfriend wait 6 months before we actually had sex, but I could only last a month and we had it on our 1 month anniversary. Everytime we're together in the bed, I never think of sex, I always think of it as love making. It feels so special and intimate and everything is nice and slow...okay, TMI you guys, I know, LOL!
But anyway, I think it all depends on your state of mind and the person you are with. Trust me, I think making love is beautiful, but there are times I want to have sex like the porn stars, LMAO.
I hope you guys don't barf after reading my post
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a914butterfly

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to me, making love is sex with feelings and love and putting your emotions and heart and soul into it. and making love can be sweet and mushy or hard and rough kinky sex too.
having sex, on the other hand, is what you do with little or no meaning as in an affair or fling, or someone you picked up for some no strings attached. i also think having sex is what you do when you are dating someone new, since you know you dont love them yet.
just my opinion!?!?!
 

CantAffordMAC

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Originally Posted by CaraAmericana
Making Love is with your husband
Sex is with your boyfriend when you dont want your husband
Fucking is with "Ritchie" from the downtown club when you husband is at home with dirty boxers on and your boyfriend is at a different club fucking "Rita"


Will I have to edit this?


maybe i'm just slow...but this made no sense to me lol
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CantAffordMAC

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Originally Posted by NicksWifey
I've had to go through some serious frogs before I met my prince, ya know?
When I think back with the only other two guys I've slept with before my beloved now, I think of straight up sex. There was no emotional connection, purely physical. And after it was over, there was no cuddling, just "Call me when you want to fuck again."

I had planned on making my boyfriend wait 6 months before we actually had sex, but I could only last a month and we had it on our 1 month anniversary. Everytime we're together in the bed, I never think of sex, I always think of it as love making. It feels so special and intimate and everything is nice and slow...okay, TMI you guys, I know, LOL!
But anyway, I think it all depends on your state of mind and the person you are with. Trust me, I think making love is beautiful, but there are times I want to have sex like the porn stars, LMAO.
I hope you guys don't barf after reading my post
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yeah I agree with you. I had sex with only 2 guys before my boyfriend now, and it was the same way. I felt pressured with my first and he was way older than me. My second was just..someone i used to get over my first. It was just sex and I was being used.

However I don't think that everytime we have sex its making love. Almost every time its fast, dirty, slutty sex and theres no way I can feel that I'm making love to him, even though we're IN love...its just good (great) sex.
I actually slept with my boyfriend the first night we met (big mistake) but it didn't really change anything between us...its a long story but we've been together a year and a half and we've been through a lot.
 

MACATTAK

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"Guys will tell a girl she is pretty, they love her, and she is the only one to get in her pants. I don't know any guys that are not "horny". They want to have sex and any way they can get it. If you know what I mean. Girls will drop their pants faster after they have had a drink or two. Guys get lucky and girls fall in love. They all say they want to have your baby and they don't even know who you are. (laughing) None of these girls are what I call Playboy material, so I have to do a lot of fantasizing." - he said.

I agree with some of this statement. However, unless he's a GQ model, or Playgirl material...then some of those girls might have to do some fantasizing as well. I love how some guys have such high expectations, when they look like booty themselves!
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ritchieramone

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK
II had a boyfriend ask me if I wanted to "make love," and I almost laughed in his face. I don't know that language. I know it's different for everyone, but that kind of talk doesn't do it for me.
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I would find that *very* off-putting.
 

SparklingWaves

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reply to MACATTAK

This guy was not attractive at all, but he thought he was Joe Stud. I can't tell you how many guys I have heard say similar statements about a girl/women to me or my husband. They want perfection and they are far from perfection.

I hear the truth from what guys tell my husband. "Oh she is hot, but I don't want to bring her around my friends, because she has too many tattoos, or her fake boobs don't look good without clothes, etc." These same guys have a lot of girls friends that get serious with them all the time and they find that a major turn off. They get a lot of sex from these girls all they while they are playing on the side. The girls have NO clue. They tell everything about what these girls do and show off their love notes as trophies. Then, they dump them when they get bored. They are going with late teens, married woman, older women, sisters, you name it. GRRRRRRR!

My husband is floored, because I tell these guys exactly what they are doing and what they really look like. They must think I am a Hell cat.
 

Raerae

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I think you can fuck anyone (even husband/boyfriend), but you can really only make love to someone your emotionally attached too.

I dunno... It's tuff. I don't think the pace of sex really has to do with it, or if your being dirty or whatever (thats really a relative term anyways). I think it really has to do with the emotional attachment at the time, which makes it love making, vs just sex or fucking.

There are times when I'm just really into my boyfriend, and we make love. And it's all about pleasing each other, and makeing sure were both really enjoying it. He pays a lot of attention to me, and I pay at lot of attention to him. And we make sure were both getting enjoyment out of it. Typically I know he's really in a emotional mood when he tells me how much he wants to go down on me, since like, he generally won't do that if were just fucking.

Wheras fucking I think is more about pleasing yourself. And the person your hooking up with comes second to that.
 

anaaliyahfan03

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*everything i am about to say is just my opinion*

making love slowly for me has been a little boring..i do believe in making love like a porn star..porn stars are usually fast and hardcore with a bunch of clapping sounds
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(not necessarily kinky cause i dont like kinky) but it does depend on the person you are with because which ever way you do it, there are feelings...if ya dont love the person, then yea its just a fuck or like a booty call (the "im just horny feeling")...if its the person you are in love with, then there are emotions and probably moans and screams that really mean something (the "im so in love with you, make love to me..with all that other sexy, nasty talk that i am way to embarrassed to say feeling")
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so i do believe there is difference between fuckin and making love, i just dont believe making love always to be slowly..u can still be kissing and touching and doing it like a porn star and cuddling afterwards and sweating
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and still be making love..ok i said my piece AMEN!
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PRETTY MUCH LIKE WHAT RAERAE SAID...i started writing this at 6:30..im busy at work and she posted before me
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MACATTAK

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This guy was not attractive at all, but he thought he was Joe Stud. I can't tell you how many guys I have heard say similar statements about a girl/women to me or my husband. They want perfection and they are far from perfection.

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Just a side note here: I know it just depends on what type of wording you prefer, but the people that have asked me to "make love," were people that I, in fact, did love and was emotionally attached too...just hate that "making love" phrase.
 

eowyn797

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i am profoundly in love with my fiance...but i can't say or hear the phrase "making love" with a straight face
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i'm like a little kid, i swear.

i agree with what most people said about emotions being the dividing line between making love and having sex. when it's just about the physical, it's sex, when it matters *who* you're gettin' physical with, it's making love. i don't think it matters how you do it, just what you feel for the other person while doing it and after.
 
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