Making love vs. ......?

[CantAffordMAC]

hmm...looks like i'm by myself then lol.
Maybe its because I've always "had sex/fucked" and I can't tell the difference. Out of all 3 guys, I only loved one of them, yet we all "fuck" the same way. It has only really been great with my boyfriend now, and its more passionate and just..better. But still...I have never ever done it slow. Ever. And I was always under the impression that making love was romantic and...sensual. Obviously the one you are making love to/with is gonna be a person that you're in love with. But I would NEVER consider the kind of sex I have romantic at all.
I have disgusting kinky pull my hair smack me around f*ckmef*ckmef*ckme kinda sex (TMI) haha

hey as long as its good right

 

[Iridescence]

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC hmm...looks like i'm by myself then lol. Maybe its because I've always "had sex/fucked" and I can't tell the difference. Out of all 3 guys, I only loved one of them, yet we all "fuck" the same way. It has only really been great with my boyfriend now, and its more passionate and just..better. But still...I have never ever done it slow. Ever. And I was always under the impression that making love was romantic and...sensual. Obviously the one you are making love to/with is gonna be a person that you're in love with. But I would NEVER consider the kind of sex I have romantic at all. I have disgusting kinky pull my hair smack me around f*ckmef*ckmef*ckme kinda sex (TMI) haha hey as long as its good right

haha, well if you're interested...try to make one particular time slow and see how it goes? If you get bored with it, then you can go wild!!!! Think of it as a challenge. It'll be different for both you and your man. See if it is different afterwards!

 

[CantAffordMAC]

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Originally Posted by Iridescence haha, well if you're interested...try to make one particular time slow and see how it goes? If you get bored with it, then you can go wild!!!! Think of it as a challenge. It'll be different for both you and your man. See if it is different afterwards!

LoL I'm gonna try it. The "slow thing" will probably last 5 minutes..if that lol.

 

[NicksWifey]

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC hmm...looks like i'm by myself then lol. Maybe its because I've always "had sex/fucked" and I can't tell the difference. Out of all 3 guys, I only loved one of them, yet we all "fuck" the same way. It has only really been great with my boyfriend now, and its more passionate and just..better. But still...I have never ever done it slow. Ever. And I was always under the impression that making love was romantic and...sensual. Obviously the one you are making love to/with is gonna be a person that you're in love with. But I would NEVER consider the kind of sex I have romantic at all. I have disgusting kinky pull my hair smack me around f*ckmef*ckmef*ckme kinda sex (TMI) haha hey as long as its good right

Nothing wrong with this at all sweetie! It's just what y'all like, but like Iridescence said above me, maybe try it slow and see how you like it. And if it's not working, well bring out the good shit, LOL

Hell, I envy you for having the kinky stuff anyway! Kudos to you

 

[jenii]

I can't stand the phrase "making love," honestly. It sounds so cheesy.

Also, I don't like it slow, and saying mushy things during it is guaranteed to ruin the mood for me.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

Piggybacking on what others have said...
Making love, in my opinion, is when there are emotional attachments involved with the person you're being intimate with. You're both into each other, connecting on more than a physical level, and you simply find yourselves in synch.
Having sex is simply intercourse between a two people, and usually there isn't a whole lot more. "Fucking," along similar lines. But when you "fuck" someone, it's usually one sided. To him, it's about getting himself off and hearing you scream about while he does it to boost his own ego. And vice versa (if you like screaming men) to boost yours.

I like to have a delicate balance. Whether my boyfriend pops in Robin Thicke and "makes love" to me, or rips my clothes practically in half and "fucks" me, we're emotionally attached to each other (in and outside of the bedroom) and satisfaction is a priority for him and myself.

Basically you can have sex or fuck anyone, but you can only make love to someone you're bonded to.

 

[belldandy13]

i'm married and i love my husband to pieces...when he goes out of his way to make me feel like i'm the only one in the world and romances me to get me in the mood then i totally feel like we're making love.

on the other hand, sometimes if it's been a while and we both want it and don't have much time and are in a hurry, i feel like we're just having sex.

and finally, sometimes when i feel super sexy and totally in the mood, i just want to eff. does that make sense? *blush*

nevertheless, it is always great for us whenever we get intimate and i love him before, during, and after regardless of which mood we're in!

 

[KAIA]

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Originally Posted by jenii I can't stand the phrase "making love," honestly. It sounds so cheesy. Also, I don't like it slow, and saying mushy things during it is guaranteed to ruin the mood for me.

I completely agree with you.

 

[kimmy]

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Basically you can have sex or fuck anyone, but you can only make love to someone you're bonded to.

word.

i personally feel that sex is about power and "making love" is about intimacy. but i have to agree with jenii too, "making love" is kind of a lame term hahaha and talking during the act is never really a good thing. that's what the morning after is for if you really hunger for conversation.

 

[addicted2mac]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 Piggybacking on what others have said... Making love, in my opinion, is when there are emotional attachments involved with the person you're being intimate with. You're both into each other, connecting on more than a physical level, and you simply find yourselves in synch. Having sex is simply intercourse between a two people, and usually there isn't a whole lot more. "Fucking," along similar lines. But when you "fuck" someone, it's usually one sided. To him, it's about getting himself off and hearing you scream about while he does it to boost his own ego. And vice versa (if you like screaming men) to boost yours. I like to have a delicate balance. Whether my boyfriend pops in Robin Thicke and "makes love" to me, or rips my clothes practically in half and "fucks" me, we're emotionally attached to each other (in and outside of the bedroom) and satisfaction is a priority for him and myself. Basically you can have sex or fuck anyone, but you can only make love to someone you're bonded to.

well said!! and i agree!

my bf and i engage in both fucking & making love. it just depends on the mood, or whatever sets the mood. but either or, it's all good!

 

[MsButterfli]

well to me havin sex and makin love can differ, if that night we straight pardon my french "fuckin" im sore as all hell the next day, there was a lot fresh talkin, spankin, bodies slappin and me doin my cowgirl routine like i was in the rodeo. on the other hand if i tell him do it nice and slow and deep its more intense, the fresh talk is a little different not as vulgar as usual more sensual than usual, my breathing is different and i seem to have longer deeper orgasms when we are "goin slow" as i type im recover from two back to back "hardcore" sessions, i swear ima never need to hit the gym with that kinda cardio lol

 

[Amber*Christine]

Um this'll sound weird maybe...but were as I've never "made love" I have had it made to me...make sense? I remember one time in particular, it was "ex sex" and it was very much selfish "lets get Amber off sex" for me and afterwards my ex...who still had feelings for me told me he felt used afterwards and to him it meant more, I said "it's just sex!" and he goes "but it was making love for me!" aww, lol. I know that's kinda off topic but I thought I'd add it
Oh n to jenii! I thought I was the only girl on earth that couldn't utter "making love" w/o choking on the words! lol good to know theres others out there so I don't feel so unfemme about it

 

[Shimmer]

I've never understood 'making love'. It seems so weird to me. I'd rather just fuck like I've got something to prove and make sure his (or her) knees wobble every time the memory surfaces.

 

[pdtb050606]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer I've never understood 'making love'. It seems so weird to me. I'd rather just fuck like I've got something to prove and make sure his (or her) knees wobble every time the memory surfaces.

I totally agree..I'm married and my husband knows that I don't do the making love thing or the sweet and slow thing, I'm glad I'm not the only one--he always said I was like a man when it came to sex

idk I guess I'm kind of weird like that

 

[Shimmer]

I admit, romance is rather lost on me.

 

[NutMeg]

Morning sex is making love for me. If I'm still half asleep, or drunk sometimes, it ends up being slow and loving and whatnot. Otherwise one or both of us is going to have bruises and nail marks.

 

[chocolategoddes]

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Originally Posted by jenii I can't stand the phrase "making love," honestly. It sounds so cheesy.

I know what you mean:

"Ah, yes. My lover and I made love under the sunsetting sky as the wind blew gently though our hair while we rolled around in a lush meadow of lilacs.
We arrived in unison, passionately embraced as our lips lightly brushed each others bodies, and lied in each others arms with a satin sheet draped over our nude bodies, feeding each other grapes, freshly picked off the vine, and watched the night sky rise,"

Cheesier than a bowl of fondue!

 

[amyzon]

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Originally Posted by chocolategoddes I know what you mean: "Ah, yes. My lover and I made love under the sunsetting sky as the wind blew gently though our hair while we rolled around in a lush meadow of lilacs. We arrived in unison, passionately embraced as our lips lightly brushed each others bodies, and lied in each others arms with a satin sheet draped over our nude bodies, feeding each other grapes, freshly picked off the vine, and watched the night sky rise," Cheesier than a bowl of fondue!

Lol... Perfect!

 

[nursee81]

I guess for me, my hubby and I do both. When we make love its more on the slow side lots of kissing touching and caressing. To me you can have the best of both worlds when your in love with the other person.

B/c we can have the best kinky sex when we are ready. And with past relationships its been straight f*cking.

 

[Stephy171]

i think there is a big difference lol i mean like you said its harder to come across makinng love.....but its not something really like you plan pero it is something special and when you do make love for the first time you will notice the difference. i think its much more emotional {obviously}

and its kind of about pleasing your partner and getting to know one another on a different level. i mean im sure its different for everyone but its the most beautiful thing i have ever experiencedd!!