Man slaps stanger's child.....

[User67]

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This story really enraged me! This man better be glad it wasn't my kid that he touched or he would have left that Walmart in an ambulance!

But this brings up a subject I have been thinking about a lot & I would love to get some opinions from other parents. How do you handle strangers who try to butt in? I have had strangers try to scold my child when I am already having a talk with her about her behavior & I don't see how it is any of their business. Just the other day my daughter was stomping her feet at me in Walmart & before I had a chance to say anything some lady goes "Don't stomp your feet at your mom, that's rude!" I completely ignored the lady & made my daughter stop. But, I felt like maybe I should have let her know that it's my place to discipline my daughter & not hers. But, then at the same time when I have given my daughter a slap on the hand I have gotten rude glares from people. I'm sorry, but how I choose to punish my child is my choice & not theirs. I just don't know why people can't mind their own business. So how do you all feel about this subject?

 

[BeccalovesMAC]

Girl, I feel you. If some stranger touched my kid, I would fucken lose it. I have no problem going to prison for beating the crap out of an idiot.

 

[User38]

Ditto !!

 

[chynegal]

I have seen people who let there kids walk all over them and let them talk to them like there equals or a piece of shit. And the parents don't say a word....sometimes I don't say anything and sometimes I have I could never dream of talking to my parents like that

 

[TISH1124]

I guess I must have that "Don't even try it Look" No one has ever tried to "help Me" out with disciplining my child in any manner or saying anything to Alex for the way he is behaving ...But then again My son has never acted out on me in the store or anywhere else to be honest...Because he knows if I have to give him the eye, call his name more than once, or say, "Just wait til we get to the car"....It is not gonna be pleasant for him for the remainder of the day....

I see some kids tho that I do want to snatch the crap out of them...But i just look and Thank God for mine

 

[Shimmer]

There was a kid on my son's baseball team, mean little shit. Rude, backtalking, sniping, insulting, illmannered, just all around poorly raised and allowed to act the way he did.

One day he was being an ass to my son and one of the other kids. I looked at him and very calmly said, "You're being very rude, and very mean. You need to stop. It's unbecoming." His mother overheard and jumped my ass for scolding her son, telling me repeatedly, "I've got him. You don't worry about him. I've got this."
My answer? "Obviously."

 

[makeba]

I Wish A Motha Would!!! IT WOULD GET REAL UGLY!

 

[TISH1124]

I can also see a parent asking a child to stop doing something if he/she is clearly misbehaving....But to put your hands on someone else's child and physically slap them...That is taking it wayyyyyyyyyyyy to far with your concern...and if you would slap someone else's kid...Lord knows what you do to your own....

 

[n_c]

1. I would go to jail if anyone touched my kid.

2. I don't care about how others raise their kids.

But like shimmer and Tish...I would def. say something to a kid if they were misbehaving and it directly affected my kid.

 

[Boasorte]

Well obviously it was wrong for him to slap the kid, and if that were me, I would have gotten my brothers and uncle for F*** him up!

But to answer your question, I really don't care when strangers butt in, I mean, I don't have any kids, I'm only 20, but when I'm out and I see kids acting out of control, yes I usually do say something to the mother and the kids.
Just the other day, while I was waiting for the ferry in the terminal, these 4 kids were running all around, pushing people to get in the front. ( Mind u this was rush hour, and l'd say a good 200 people waiting for this boat, so yea very crowded.)
So the kids were pushing me, and other people, until I turned around and told them to chill the f**k out ( not in those words, I said something to the effect of " Yo, watch where you're going, stop running, there's people around you, and learn to say excuse me")
The mom gave me a look, and I told her to control her kids. So yea I see nothing wrong with it if the parent is looking helpless. Especially when kids are litterally cussing at the adults.
But when ur punishing ur child and someone goes " you shouldnt do that" tell them to buzz off

 

[stronqerx]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer There was a kid on my son's baseball team, mean little shit. Rude, backtalking, sniping, insulting, illmannered, just all around poorly raised and allowed to act the way he did. One day he was being an ass to my son and one of the other kids. I looked at him and very calmly said, "You're being very rude, and very mean. You need to stop. It's unbecoming." His mother overheard and jumped my ass for scolding her son, telling me repeatedly, "I've got him. You don't worry about him. I've got this." My answer? "Obviously."

Stuff like this happens often to me. I tend to come across loose parents and loose kids. It leaves you in such an uncomfortable situtation cause it's like they are not your kid, but they're so rude and they parents don't give a crap. One example, we had a party for my lil cousin at my house and these two bad ass kids (one about 7yrs old and the other 10 yrs old) were feeding my dog candy and beating the crap out of him with tennis rackets, his mom is just watching and not saying anything. So I calmly told them "Don't feed him candy, he's gonna get sick, and stop hitting my dog..". Their mom then just stares at me really nasty, lol but she didn't say anything, just grabbed her brats and said 'LETS GO'. On another note, putting your hands on others kids is a big NO NO, especially if they're not doing anything...I mean this man is just a psycho.

 

[User67]

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Originally Posted by n_c 1. I would go to jail if anyone touched my kid. 2. I don't care about how others raise their kids. But like shimmer and Tish...I would def. say something to a kid if they were misbehaving and it directly affected my kid.

Exactly. If it is affecting me or my child I would say something to a child or their parent & if my child was doing something that directly affected someone else I couldn't be upset if someone said something to me. I am just talking about a complete stranger who would butt in on something that is between me & my child only. Like if she were crying or throwing a fit for example.

 

[n_c]

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Originally Posted by Nyla2120 Exactly. If it is affecting me or my child I would say something to a child or their parent & if my child was doing something that directly affected someone else I couldn't be upset if someone said something to me. I am just talking about a complete stranger who would butt in on something that is between me & my child only. Like if she were crying or throwing a fit for example.

Yeah I see what your saying. As long as they talk to my child cool, calm, and collected, its fine.


Ok but what if you saw a parent straight beating up their kid in a public place? I'm talking about punching, face slapping, pulling hair... would you say something then? That is a question for everyone.

 

[TISH1124]

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Originally Posted by n_c Yeah I see what your saying. As long as they talk to my child cool, calm, and collected, its fine. Ok but what if you saw a parent straight beating up their kid in a public place? I'm talking about punching, face slapping, pulling hair... would you say something then? That is a question for everyone.

I have to say Yes, I would....I would probably say calmly, Mam/Sir I really think you need to calm down....I know it's not my business but I don't think this is the time or place for you to be bitch slapping your kid....I personally am not gonna just sit and watch a kid get beat the hell up in a public place....Now if a parent is scolding their child or holding them firmly by the arm, I could care less...But watching someone punch a kid is not working for me..I have jumped in when I have seen a man punching/slapping a woman so I know I would freak over a kid being knocked around

 

[User67]

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Originally Posted by n_c Yeah I see what your saying. As long as they talk to my child cool, calm, and collected, its fine. Ok but what if you saw a parent straight beating up their kid in a public place? I'm talking about punching, face slapping, pulling hair... would you say something then? That is a question for everyone.

Definitely, there is a big difference between giving a kid a swat on the butt & straight up using them as a punching bag.

 

[Dr_Girlfriend]

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Originally Posted by n_c Yeah I see what your saying. As long as they talk to my child cool, calm, and collected, its fine. Ok but what if you saw a parent straight beating up their kid in a public place? I'm talking about punching, face slapping, pulling hair... would you say something then? That is a question for everyone.

I personally never have. My mom on the other hand... different story. She can't stand someone spanking a child with an object like a switch or belt. She says that you can't tell exactly how hard you're hitting the kid. If your hand hurts when you hit them then you're hitting too hard (which I agree with). My father and his siblings were abused when they were young, but that's a story for another place and time...

One Christmas, we were at my grandfathers when my aunt (my dad's sister) started beating the crap out of her son with a belt. Like seriously beating him. Mom just grabbed it from her and and just let my aunt have it with the belt! It was scary as hell at the time because my mom just isn't violent at all... Unfortunately, she apparently didn't get the point and continued to treat her kids like crap. Now they're grown and treat their kids like crap. Cycle never ends. Fortunately my dad decided to raise us right!

 

[User35]

Im gonna say it...sometimes I hate kids and fantasize about giving them a smack in the mouth, and then doing it to their parents.

thats all

 

[COBI]

I have on very rare occasions "corrected" as stranger's child/children in public because seriously when your children are behaving in an uncontrolled and affecting the environment that I am with, it can become my business if you choose to not address it.

Haven't you been places where someone's kid(s) are completely out of control (and I'm not talking about "kids being kids" because I love that) and behaving inappropriately for the environment they're in, and the parents are ignoring them (versus correcting them) and/or the parents aren't even around.

And the kids of close friends? They know that I will call them on misbehaving, and I've had the discussion with this and none of my friends has a problem with it. Granted I don't yell at them, I just call them on the action and/or redirect them to more appropriate choices.

 

[User67]

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Originally Posted by COBI I have on very rare occasions "corrected" as stranger's child/children in public because seriously when your children are behaving in an uncontrolled and affecting the environment that I am with, it can become my business if you choose to not address it. Haven't you been places where someone's kid(s) are completely out of control (and I'm not talking about "kids being kids" because I love that) and behaving inappropriately for the environment they're in, and the parents are ignoring them (versus correcting them) and/or the parents aren't even around.

Oh I hate it when people don't control their children. It's definitely a huge pet peeve of mine. What I am talking about is when a parent is trying to be a parent to their child by scolding them or giving them a pat on their butt & a complete stranger has to but in & give their 2 cents. Like there have been times when my daughter is crying in a checkout line because there is an item she wants to get & I tell her no & while I am explaining to her why she can't get it someone will try to reinforce what I said & go "Your mommy said you can't have that." it's like I am handling the situation, back off & mind your own business. I didn't ask for any help, nor do I want any.

 

[User67]

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Originally Posted by NatalieR429 Im gonna say it...sometimes I hate kids and fantasize about giving them a smack in the mouth, and then doing it to their parents. thats all

Wow, that's really nice. Thanks for sharing.