Really Embarrassing Sex Problems

[puncturedskirt]

Pretty much all woman discharge but like someone said, Some just discharge more than others. You and Him just need to understand that it's normal and there's nothing gross about it.

Hope you get your little situation resolved.

 

[Daphne69]

If there is nothing wrong, and you'd be smart to get a few different opinions, then it is probably just a stage you are going through...could last a few months, could last a few years. As for your boyfriend, I think he has some issues with the female body. Especially if you both know for sure that there is nothing WRONG with you. So what you have to do is decide if you can live with that or if you want to be with someone who is a little more "relaxed"

 

[a7xforlife]

Is it thick or more like foam after sex? If it is like foam, then it is just your fluid and your b/f that has mixed together causing this to happen and nothing to worry about.

If you doc says you are okay, then maybe you should have your b/f go on a visit to the doc with you so he can hear it for himself. Guys are odd that way and some need to hear it from the doc.

 

[lisaclaire]

ok I had the same thing and mine actually came out in like clumps. I finally went to the gyno and durning the exam she starts pulling the stuff out and showing it to me (gross) and I said yeah thats the stuff that is coming out and she said it is nothing to worry about that I will produce it when I am ovulating.

 

[VeXedPiNk]

Don't worry, hun. You're totally normal!

Every woman's discharge is different and it changes as often as your hormones change (which is all the time!). Try drinking more water or cutting down on your yeast-y products (breads, etc). If that still doesn't work and your doctor is giving you guys a clean bill of health then I would say it's normal. Try to incorporate you into your sexual pleasure... pick up some toys (like a clitoral stimulator) which will get your "juices going".

Hopefully your man can come to realize that this is the way your body responds to pleasure. Toys and gentle experimentation can ease him into the idea that you produce thick juices.... you're not a freak and you're not dirty.

 

[CantAffordMAC]

he has been telling me lately "oh you're not dirty" But then he tells me that I don't ask the right questions when I go to the doctor (which he wouldn't know) and he says I need to go to someone else. Like I said, I got a few diff. opinions and they were all telling me that it was a yeast infection until the last lady (who actually made sense)

Now he's telling me that I shouldn't go to a regular gynecologist and that they don't know what they are talking about. That there has to be a "discharge specialist that i can see somewhere" because he's never heard of anyone having discharge for a year and it being normal.

I am going to make an appointment soon and have him wth me in the room. I don't want to leave him for something so silly but I can't deal with this much longer. It just makes me feel like a hopeless freak. Everyone's telling me its normal and I want to tell him to shut the hell up, but our sex life and what he thinks of me is important. I don't think I can forgive him for this. not anytime soon

 

[V15U4L_3RR0R]

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC because he's never heard of anyone having discharge for a year and it being normal.

I think I damn near laughed out loud at that. Every woman on the planet has a vaginal discharge!

I think it's a good idea to take him with you to shut him up once and for all. And it does sound like he has issues with lady parts. You should just tell him to shut up next time he starts going on about it or give him a good kick up the bum lol. Hope you two can sort this out *huggles*

 

[Evey]

Don't feel bad. I have the same problem. I have to wear pantyliners so that it won't get on my undies but it doesn't mean your dirty. Personally my husband has never had a problem giving me oral. I do feel self concious sometimes but he always reassures me that everything is fine and he loves to do it. And when I feel EXTRA self concious I wash up before hand and I'm all good. Maybe it just depends on the person? If it's something that your boyfriend finds nasty or a turn off then he doesn't have to do it but, let him know that HE also has white stuff that comes out in larger quantities when YOU give HIM oral. LOL...and if he doesn't want to do it to you, then don't do it to him. That's not fair...to me anyway...but anywho, don't feel bad about it. I bet you a lot of girls have the same problem as you and I but they're just too embarrassed to talk about it. You're not alone honey. =D Just be glad it's not anything more serious.

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC Now he's telling me that I shouldn't go to a regular gynecologist and that they don't know what they are talking about. That there has to be a "discharge specialist that i can see somewhere" because he's never heard of anyone having discharge for a year and it being normal.

And since when did he become an expert on women's health?! He's just talking out of his ass because he has no clue what's going on and he obviously has no clue what's normal. My ex boyfriend was like that by the way. He was a fkn idiot for lack of a better term...lol If the gyno is telling you you're fine...YOU'RE FINE....in fact, tell him I said to suck it up and quit being a little punk...jk don't tell him that LOL

 

[NutMeg]

Now that I think of it I've always had lots of discharge.. As in when it gets bad I have to use toilet paper. I've never really considered it an issue, and neither has my boyfriend. I think when you're having sex with someone you have to accept that they won't have a picture perfect body that only does incredibly attractive things. Sorry, our bodies do some stuff that's kind of gross and you just have to deal with that. I hope you can start to feel like this isn't something that you have to apologize for. Good luck!

 

[Hilly]

Girl...ditto over here with the issue. My man accepts it and that's it. It is super common and it's just part of owning a cooch.

 

[Evey]

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Originally Posted by Hilly Girl...ditto over here with the issue. My man accepts it and that's it. It is super common and it's just part of owning a cooch.

LOL!!!

 

[Beauty Mark]

No offensive, but he sounds like he's being an asshole.

Pretty much every woman on earth has some kind of discharge that happens daily or so.

Does he know how his comments are making you feel? If not, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt that he doesn't know he's being a jerk and tell him so.

 

[tara_hearts]

Wow.. you have alot of patience. I'd have laughed in his face for trying to act like it is SUCH an issue for him. It's your body. He has no idea how you feel. And also has no idea what is normal for a womans body. I mean wtf did he read an issue of cosmo and now he is a gyno? Work on making yourself feel better <3

 

[CandyKisses1018]

im guessing its the hormones running. i think the show suggestion is a good idea

 

[persephonewillo]

i know i'm a newb here, but i have to reply.

it's perfectly normal to have vaginal discharge. some times i have very little, other times i have to wear a panty liner to keep it a little under control.

i've had the exact same thing happen during sex... white discharge on s/o that's from me. s/o has never mentioned being grossed out by it... it's never been brought up in conversation at all. and he continues to have sex with me.

sounds like this is HIS problem... not yours. i'm sorry his issue is making you feel badly about yourself

(((hugs)))

 

[marsgirl23]

Like the girl above me, I'm new yet feel compelled to respond.

If your doctor says you don't have an infection, then everything is fine - that's just how your body is! And your boyfriend should really understand. I personally would NEVER give oral to someone unwilling to reciprocate, and I certainly wouldn't request/demand something I wasn't willing to do in return - fair is fair!

As far as the discharge goes (as others have suggested) try drinking more water and eating more fresh fruit and vegetables. Diet and hydration can have a huge impact on your girly bits, along with everything else!

I know it has been a while since someone commented on this, and hopefully something has helped - but I thought I'd offer/second some suggestions.

And you're a smart girl for refusing to douche - the vagina cleans itself, and by douching you're destroying it's carefully cultivated environment.

 

[CantAffordMAC]

Thanks for replying. No, nothings really changed. he says he doesn't notice it as much anymore, so i guess it comes and goes. He is starting to get like...fed up with himself I guess, and I know he wants to give me oral but we haven't done it yet. lol I don't even care anymore, honestly. We'll see what happens.

 

[aeni]

I have the same thing w/ my bf whenever we use a condom or not (I'm on BC). In his mind it's proof that I came (next to all other normal signs). He doesn't go down on me b/c I personally could live with or without it.

Whenever my bf and I have arguments over these things, we give each other internet reading to do.

 

[Violent Pink]

I have a bit more discharge during some times of the month than others. It's your vagina's way of cleaning itself out, sloughing out dead cells and is totally normal and healthy. My boyfriend and I laugh about it and call it my "glue"!

You shouldn't feel dirty and if your boyfriend is making you feel gross, please remind him that you don't shoot it all over the place. Jeesh.

And maybe this is a little personal, but, do you shave down there? That might be a contributing factor for why he would be hesitant about oral sex. Hair is not fun to get in your mouth, and it likes to harbor residue and smells more than bare skin. Try getting a little frisky after a fresh shave and shower, and I bet he will have no second thoughts !

 

[jdepp_84]

I have the same thing, specially when im super horney and super wet. The doc said it was just my cum

Which is good cuz it means that my o's are big as I thought. hehe. My bf dosent mind, he actually get turned on by it, I think it makes him feel like a man or sm

making me orgasm and all.
But ser honey, if its such a problem for him then try to go to another doc to see if they can do anything about it. Also, do the shower stuff. Trust me, sex in the shower is awesome