Sex Post * Personal Question

[mzreyes]

I've with my bf for almost 2 years. We used to have sex every other day (if I wasnt too sore) in the begining of the relationship. But now we've calmed down about bit and its probably like 2 or 3 times a week. But, the sex is just as great now as is was before

Nowadays our schedules clash horribly.. I work when he's off, he works or is at school when I'm off. But we find times.. I recently switched my BC. I didn't want to go back to planned parenthood because they were just plain RUDE on the phone. lol... so I went to the hospital instead. These new pills may have a side affect of "breast enlargement". gaaaaah I hope so!!! hahahah..

 

[asnbrb]

I've been with the BF for a little over 4 years and we have sex about once a week. I work a regular day job (745-430) and he works all kinds of crazy ass hours and we don't live together. We even have a regular night (Fridays) where I sleep over.

and mzreyes-- which bc are you using?! I could use a side effect of breast enlargement, too!!

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by asnbrb and mzreyes-- which bc are you using?! I could use a side effect of breast enlargement, too!!

Haha...

Just remember, it's not JUST your boobs that gain weight if you get that side effect

Other places gain weight too.

Gawd LOL... I WISH I could only gain weight in my tits and ass LOL!

 

[hoemygosh]

well i usually only see my boyfriend on the weekends because he lives in san diego, & i live in LA, but for the past month he's been in iraq (where he will stay for 6 more months =[), so there's been no sex recently. and boy am i sexually frustrated lolol. we usually have sex a few times a day, but im sure thats understandable bcuz we never see eachother. my ex & i were together for a year, we had sex usually once a day. unless we were tired. but everyones different.

 

[mzcelaneous]

In the beginning of our relationship it was pure lust. 3-4 times a day, 4 times a week (we lived in different cities). After having our daughter, it dwindled down to probably once a week. We're like a roller coaster. On certain weeks we have sex everyday or just once.

ETA:
I forgot to mention that we've been together for almost 8 years this June.

 

[mzreyes]

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Originally Posted by asnbrb I've been with the BF for a little over 4 years and we have sex about once a week. I work a regular day job (745-430) and he works all kinds of crazy ass hours and we don't live together. We even have a regular night (Fridays) where I sleep over. and mzreyes-- which bc are you using?! I could use a side effect of breast enlargement, too!!

norinyl!!! I need the breast enlargement. and the... pretty much everywhere enlargement. lol!!

 

[MissMarley]

man...i really suck.

been together over 5 years, married for 3...

we have sex once a month.

BUT, I am on a high dose of Zoloft, which has effectively killed my sex drive. It's the only antidepressant that's worked for me (I've been on Effexor, Cymbalta, Paxil, Welbutrin, Elavil...etc) so I'm staying on it- but I have absolutely no sex drive. When we do have sex, I basically have to force myself. I love my husband and think he's so attractive...but I don't like being touched. At all.

I went to a doctor, who just changed my medicine around (to Welbutrin, which caused a seizure and I ended up in the hospital). After that, the doc told me to stay on Zoloft and basically just deal with having no sex drive. I hate it. I want to want sex! And I want to have an awesome sex life with Nate.

Any advice?

 

[DevinGirl]

I've been with Davey for over 4 years. We just had sex, lol. Sometimes we're like rabbits (like when we first met multiple times a day), sometimes we're not. On average I'd say 3 time a week. Although we've never held out for more than a week

 

[YvetteJeannine]

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Originally Posted by MxAxC-_ATTACK Oh thats me too.. the BC ruined everything.. I discovered thats how it works.. it just keeps you from doing it.

HeHe...That made me smile...

When I was on Ortho, I didn't lose any sex drive per se...but I DID lose the ability to orgasm regularly....It was SO frustrating...My poor husband was inconsolable, and thought he was doing something wrong; which only spurred him to work harder (hour and a half long oral sex...I started falling asleep at times when I was tired)....

Then, I got off the Ortho, and lo and behold, my orgasms came BACK!!! How strange, I thought....but I guess not really, 'cause BC fucks with hormones...

Anyway, to answer the first posters' question; Matthew and I have been together for almost six years...we'll be married three years in AUG. We have sex about four times a week, to daily..depending...We just got back from an 11 day cruise to the Carribbean, and I'll be damned, we were rockin' that ship!!! We had to be having sex at least twice a day...I guess the low-stress/high-romance environment is really conducive to sex...And damn....I had some of the BEST orgasms ever.....Hey...you asked....

 

[mzreyes]

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Originally Posted by DevinGirl We just had sex, lol.

tahahahahaha!! me too!

 

[user79]

It depends. Judging from these posts so far, I've been with my SO the longest, at going on 8 years. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd have sex every day, at LEAST once. That went on for a long time....lol...only breaks if I had my period or we were, um, sore. :x

But it's definitely waned off over the years, we have sex maybe like once a week now, or even less sometimes. He wants more, but often I'm not in the mood, I also think some personal issues I have with myself is the problem though. So sometimes when he is really horny and I'm not, I'll just give him a BJ or something. I don't want him to be frustrated just because I don't want to.

Ok that was pretty explicit. lol

 

[DevinGirl]

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Ok that was pretty explicit. lol

But informative!

 

[prettipolish]

Well the guy I was dating from october till dec , it was a weekly thing now it's only once a month :S

 

[glued2mac]

i've been with my Bf almost 7 yrs. now and we've had our highs and lows- in the beginning it was nonstop- 3-4x a day everyday, then it went to once a day, then it went to 3-4x a week. Now it's like every other day or every 2 days. Then when things aren't going right- it could be two weeks between sessions. It can be frustrating. I can go for long periods without sex but I know he'd like it everyday. I'm always trying to find ways to spice things up a bit. Now that I've read the posts on here, I'm thinking it has something to do with my BC- anyone take Microgestin FE? What are your side effects? Maybe I should switch?

 

[kaliraksha]

my question was already answered- I obviously am impulsive at times

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by MissChievous only breaks if I had my period or we were, um, sore. :x

lol... you know it was good if your sore the morning after haha...

 

[MisStarrlight]

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Originally Posted by MissMarley I have absolutely no sex drive. When we do have sex, I basically have to force myself. I love my husband and think he's so attractive...but I don't like being touched. At all.

I suck too....

Been w/ my bf for 4 years & it's gotten really bad lately. We've been having problems for about a year and a half & all through that time the sex has gotten less & less...we're down to about once a month-if not less. I really just can't stand to be touched at all-even when he sleeps w/ his arm around me or tries to cuddle, I just can't get comfortable & feel smothered.

It definitely started with our issues a year and a half ago, but I chalk most of it up to my own problems in my head & with my body & all of that. I should go on meds, but no health insurance kinda puts a stop to that one.

When things were good, it was 3+ times a week.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by MisStarrlight but I chalk most of it up to my own problems in my head & with my body & all of that.

I know it's easier said than done, but the fact that he's with you, touches you, wants to touch you etc, should in some small way tell you that he's happy with your body even if deep down inside your not.

 

[butterflydream]

Ive been with mf Bf for a year and a half, we had sex every chance we could get until I was about 6 months pregnant, then I found out he cheated.We worked things out, but sex was kindof ackward for a while. Well I had my son 12 weeks early via c-section, but I was not able to do anything for a while. We now have sex almost everyday, but sometimes it's kindof painful because my muscles are still so weak. Im currently on Depo, and have gained about 12 pds and it sucks. I lost pretty much all of my weight after the baby but now im packing on the lbs. I was about 125-130 and im 5'6. I fell so awful, but he say's the weight is sexy....ugh. I have had bad luck with pills and my insurance won't cover the patch. I also have hypo-thyroid disease. Any one know of a better B/C?​

 

[dmenchi]

You also may try exercise, and keep in mind, the less you have it, the less you want it. :/[/quote]

so true!!!sometimes you just forget how good it is and then when you finally do it ,you wonder 'why don't we do this all the time????"