Sex workers and strippers ...

[brazilian]

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Originally Posted by ♥MiCHiE♥ Yes, there are "Stripper Sucess Stories", particularly if you work at an "upscale Gentleman's Club". The standards are quite different. A lot of women who don't have the "privilege" of working there find themselves working at ol' seedy ass places where stretchmarks, bullet and stab wounds and fat ass guts are all the "Saturday Night Special".

ROTFLMAO!!!

I am a dancer(I am off until Fall since Summer here sucks) and I just bought a new home( 3000 square feet). Also I got my car and helped my family back in my home country with the money. I am married with a 5 year old boy and my husband is an enginner. I choose to dance because I make great $$$, I work at a very upscale club and nothing mentioned here ever happened to me. I love the attention as well and it keeps me in shape while I make money to retire back in Brazil.

 

[EmbalmerBabe]

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Originally Posted by brazilian ROTFLMAO!!! I am a dancer(I am off until Fall since Summer here sucks) and I just bought a new home( 3000 square feet). Also I got my car and helped my family back in my home country with the money. I am married with a 5 year old boy and my husband is an enginner. I choose to dance because I make great $$$, I work at a very upscale club and nothing mentioned here ever happened to me. I love the attention as well and it keeps me in shape while I make money to retire back in Brazil.

Your husband is never jealous regarding your profession? Does he ever come watch you?

 

[Tash]

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Originally Posted by little teaser yes mostly guys in the military the worst creeps ever with there attitudes and feelings of untouchableness

Your view on military men is laughable. Sure, some are sleazes, but not anymore than every other occupation.

 

[macslut]

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Originally Posted by EmbalmerBabe Your husband is never jealous regarding your profession? Does he ever come watch you?

My question is how she would deal with it or has she dealt with her husband's coworkers coming in asking for her to give them lap dances. What about his boss? If she didn't "perform" could it put his job in jeopardy? (I am not being mean. I am being serious.)

 

[Beauty Mark]

The boss or coworkers could simply out her as a stripper. Like it or not, stripper still has negative connotations to the general population.

 

[brazilian]

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Originally Posted by EmbalmerBabe Your husband is never jealous regarding your profession? Does he ever come watch you?

He is not jealous. I am 23 and he is 46 years old. He is mature enough to know that I choose him over many young guys to spend the rest of my life with him. He never came in to watch me.
His coworkers do not know I strip because we want to have a friendship with their families and kids as well and because most of people are very close-minded about it we both prefer to not disclosure that. They know I model but that's it.
My family knows I dance and model nude and don't have a problem with it. They are very conservative but trust me enough to make the right decisions for my own life.
I think stripping will always carry a stigma but as long the person doing is emotional stable, not on drugs and know how to manage their money it is not a bad thing.

 

[brazilian]

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Originally Posted by macslut My question is how she would deal with it or has she dealt with her husband's coworkers coming in asking for her to give them lap dances. What about his boss? If she didn't "perform" could it put his job in jeopardy? (I am not being mean. I am being serious.)

I know his boss and he is an awesome guy. We are moving into a new house which is very close to his neighborhood and a few other coworkers. I work about 50 miles away from where I live and I don't think they would visit my club since most are married.
They all see to be doing pretty well with the fact of our age difference. We had a lot of issues with people looking down on us especially my hubby's family.
I wouldn't have a problem if any of them find out and I don't think it would compromise his job at all.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by brazilian I don't think they would visit my club since most are married.

Your kidding right?

 

[little teaser]

lol.. this thread is still alive

 

[Raerae]

Not surprising, along with prostitution, stripping is probably up there as one of the oldest professions =p So this thread has some longevity

 

[brazilian]

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Originally Posted by Raerae Your kidding right?

Not at all. These guys wife's call them every 5 minutes. It would be impossible for them to do that. Even at work my hubby says they call them 3 to 5 times per day or when they work night shift.
They would never go to a strip club locally but yes they did visit strip clubs while on business trips out of state. Last time, they were in Florida they all went including my hubby.

 

[TeaCup]

What I truely hate is how sex workers and strippers are judged.

I know a girl who used to be a stripper. She came from a real nice upper middle class family, so it was her own choice.

She was in college and just wanted a fun, nice paying job. She worked Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays and got great tips. They paid for her costumes, which really surprised me. It was a real classy place and she said it was kinda like a big family.

Most attacks on strippers happen as they walk to their car to leave, so they were always walked to their cars by one of the bouncers. There were a lot of other safety precautions, but I can't remember what they were.

It wasn't something she'd do forever, but she always said it was something exciting she was glad she had tried.

I believe choosing to work in the sex industry shows your powerful and confident enough to use your sexuality in a way that benefits you.

I might be crude but...

In my personal belief sex is sex. Humans do it. If a woman is smart, emotionally stable, and in a safe enviroment I have no problem if she makes money suckin' guys off.

I believe prositution should be made legal. Its the oldest profession and it will be around forever. We should atleast make it safe.

 

[little teaser]

ITA with teaup.. besides creeps dont just target strippers they target woman regardless of there profession, the grocery store parking lot isnt any safer..

 

[Beauty Mark]

I just know I don't want to go into stripping or prostitution, whether it's legalized or not. I think prostitution should be legalized, but I don't think it's as glamorous as a lot of newer feminist ideology wants people to believe.

I'm friends with people who were strippers, in different areas of the US. One flat out refuses to talk about it; I don't know what happened while she was a stripper, but it obviously wasn't good. The other I know there were issues with the money and the club owner, plus some other things. It's great when people have good experiences with it, but I don't think that it's as empowering as people think it is.

I think it's overall a very sad profession.

 

[little teaser]

theres highs and lows in all professions.. thers low lifes in all walks of life.

 

[Beauty Mark]

That's true, but selling yourself is a lot different than selling MAC.

 

[little teaser]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark That's true, but selling yourself is a lot different than selling MAC.

your totally right it is diffrent than working for mac.. it pays ALOT more

 

[Shimmer]

http://miminewyork.com

Check her blog out regarding life as a high end stripper in NYC.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark That's true, but selling yourself is a lot different than selling MAC.

People can sell themselves in a lot of ways other than dancing for dollars.

 

[EmbalmerBabe]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer Indeed. It must be a glamorous life to have to worry about a man jabbing his finger in your asshole while licking your ear for a twenty while you grind your sweaty crotch on his thinly covered hard-on. It's truly empowering to consistantly have men lick your breasts and bite your nipples...sometimes even so hard it bleeds!! OH WHAT A HAPPY DAY! Oh, and then when you're giving them a lap-dance and they grab your hips and shove their cock into you through your gstring, that's a real joy right there. What a glamorous job. Stripping isn't fun and games folks, and the people who say it is are either lying or have been lucky or charmed and not had to deal with the reality of doing a line of coke so they can get the gumption to go onstage to dance for two or three songs then come off and hit men up for as much money as they're willing to spend. They've obviously never had to deal with the reality of working up the nerve, so taking three or four shots of Cuervo, to get up there and work the thong, and work the platforms, and ride the pole. They've obviously never had a manager of a club pull them aside and say "Hey, you're chunking up there fatty..." and inform them that if the weight's not lost they can go somewhere else. They've obviously never dealt with their belongings being stolen, their pride being stolen, their dignity being given away...none of it. They've never dealt with the desperation of realizing it's been a shitty night, and they've got nothing to show for it. Or it's still 4 hours to go in the shift, and they haven't made shit...so where's the energy going to come from? I know! Lets smoke some meth to get the buzz going and ride that wave. What a glam life. What a wonderful world *I* am missing out on. Is it all like this? Hell no, it's not. But a lot...a vast vast vast majority of it...is.

Shimmer I was reading a little on Mimi's blog page that you linked.
In this post all of the things that you mentioned, is that stuff that you read from her site?
I had a friend who was a dancer years ago.
She danced at a nude place that was very,very seedy.
We did not want her to work there but she was insistant
and said she needed the $. She told me one night as she
was performing a lap dance, she had her back to the customer
and he grabbed her and pulled her down and she felt his penis
slightly enter her. She freaked out. I asked her you were not paying
attention to him taking his pants down? She said nope, she had her back to him and had no idea. That thought still creeps me out.