Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[Alysse011]

@pixiedancer, linenwhite7, HerGreyness, ajigglin, glitteryvegas, naynadine, walking dead - thank you all so much! I am soooo excited for the new opportunity and the kind words made my day! @Mosha010 - I love what you said about lowering your standard of living and getting a job you love! I have been miserable at work for 1.5 years but was under contract. I am so happy to be moving on from all that! Preach girl @Kerry-jane88 - I love that Lana del Ray look! It is beautiful @HerGreyness - everyone here is right. He's jealous because he knows how amazing you are! But it's still not a fun situation to deal with...Good luck with the talk!

 

[User38]

I have no patience for controlling men, but a little bit of assuming other men still want this aging mother of three? I can deal with that. Means somewhere inside he still sees the young twenty-something me.

He obviously finds you desirable and assumes (rightly) that you have options. And maybe he is concerned that history is repeating itself. He's an intelligent man; I'm sure he can be made to figure out that holding on too tight will only bring about what he's afraid of. Apart from that, independent self-reliant women don't tend to give off 'I need you' vibes. I don't either, but I can tell once in awhile that I need to do something more overt to make my husband feel necessary and he's a very laid back, non high-maintenance guy.

I hope you can work things out. You've figured out by now that we're all flawed. He sounds like a good guy from what you've described, just might need to feel that you're still into him but this is who you are and how you operate.

Thank you Audrey.. I hope so too. And yes, you are right, which is what scares me. Obviously I am 53, not a mom, and can still lie and pass for 40 something.. lol. But that is not the case .. I know he loves me and is just nervous about me and all the talk about great looking Italians.. He knows that I don't need him for anything other than companionship, love and kindness -- and possibly for the future comfort of having a partner in life. Right now as much as he hints at the future, I am still skittish and probably fuel his fears. He has had "complicated" relationships -- divorced 2x and widowed (one of his ex wives died).. and lots of irrelevant relationships which wound up in the trash bin. I think I want to place our friendship first and foremost and make him know that I do care for him and will find a way to work this out.. somehow.


To all my Specktra ladies..

many many thanks for kind words and letting me vent. My mother said: If you would just marry him.. none of this would happen. LMAO. See? this is life.

 

[MadTheologian]

Grr.

I've subscribed to Le Metier De Beaute's VIP program, and this month is a bust. The powder they sent me is too light for my skin. I am hoping for a response from LMdB, as I left a Facebook post. Does any of us have a similar problem with the makeup you get from various places?

 

[mosha010]

Guys. Will be still be friends when we fall off the wagon during these forsaken collections coming up? I called naimies and almost ordered stuff from proenza. (just mangrove. But I didn't. Out of waiting for the blush to come out but still I almost almost did lmao.

 

[mosha010]

@pixiedancer, linenwhite7, HerGreyness, ajigglin, glitteryvegas, naynadine, walking dead - thank you all so much! I am soooo excited for the new opportunity and the kind words made my day! @Mosha010 - I love what you said about lowering your standard of living and getting a job you love! I have been miserable at work for 1.5 years but was under contract. I am so happy to be moving on from all that! Preach girl @Kerry-jane88 - I love that Lana del Ray look! It is beautiful @HerGreyness - everyone here is right. He's jealous because he knows how amazing you are! But it's still not a fun situation to deal with...Good luck with the talk!

@pixiedancer, linenwhite7, HerGreyness, ajigglin, glitteryvegas, naynadine, walking dead - thank you all so much! I am soooo excited for the new opportunity and the kind words made my day! @Mosha010 - I love what you said about lowering your standard of living and getting a job you love! I have been miserable at work for 1.5 years but was under contract. I am so happy to be moving on from all that! Preach girl @Kerry-jane88 - I love that Lana del Ray look! It is beautiful @HerGreyness - everyone here is right. He's jealous because he knows how amazing you are! But it's still not a fun situation to deal with...Good luck with the talk!

HG, I was going to weigh in, but Mosha and Pixie have it covered. Guys are big babies, but you don't want to negate his feelings or make him feel stupid for having them. One good talk like Liba suggested should do the trick. Be even more gentle if he's been cheated on before. Oh, and I totally agree with the anger at the shrinks who are quick to label after two seconds of talking to someone. Poor practice. Lazy practice. Less meds, more talking.

Glad @alysse411 you got out of that contract and decided to seek your happiness. At the end a calmer life leads to a longer happier life. @hergreyness. Love you too my darking. Wish our timer zones were closer and some wines could be had. Some day. And I'm so happy u talked to him and things are being worked on. Relationships are like a big tug of war you give a little you get a little. You budge he pulls back and forth. But you gotta keep that cord up in the air by both holding onto it. So I'm glad you both talked it out. (NOW KiSS) @ajiggling hehe everytime I see you posting I feel like jiggling my shoulders. Teeehee

 

[mosha010]

It's gotta be the best username ever

 

[liba]

Thank you Audrey.. I hope so too. And yes, you are right, which is what scares me. Obviously I am 53, not a mom, and can still lie and pass for 40 something.. lol. But that is not the case .. I know he loves me and is just nervous about me and all the talk about great looking Italians.. He knows that I don't need him for anything other than companionship, love and kindness -- and possibly for the future comfort of having a partner in life. Right now as much as he hints at the future, I am still skittish and probably fuel his fears. He has had "complicated" relationships -- divorced 2x and widowed (one of his ex wives died).. and lots of irrelevant relationships which wound up in the trash bin. I think I want to place our friendship first and foremost and make him know that I do care for him and will find a way to work this out.. somehow.


To all my Specktra ladies..

many many thanks for kind words and letting me vent. My mother said: If you would just marry him.. none of this would happen. LMAO. See? this is life.

You may or may not be able to help him snap out of all the past hurts (men are so much more terrible at getting over the past than women for some mysterious reason), but you'll be able to get your message across to him for sure, even if he might backslide every now and then and act up. He'll appreciate you all the more for not letting him get away with being a big baby, even as he sees you still sticking with him, bad baby behavior and all.

It's hilarious that we live in an era where a 90 year old mother is telling her daughter the words only fathers told their sons 50 years ago. I truly had a laugh attack! Go MOM! and go HG!

 

[liba]

Oh P.S. …...

Day 24: Playtime! Hadn't pulled this one out in a long time. I love it with a khaki green outfit.

 

[LinenWhite7]

Thank you Audrey.. I hope so too.  And yes, you are right, which is what scares me.  Obviously I am 53, not a mom, and can still lie and pass for 40 something.. lol.  But that is not the case .. I know he loves me and is just nervous about me and all the talk about great looking Italians.. He knows that I don't need him for anything other than companionship, love and kindness -- and possibly for the future comfort of having a partner in life.  Right now as much as he hints at the future, I am still skittish and probably fuel his fears.  He has had "complicated" relationships -- divorced 2x and widowed (one of his ex wives died).. and lots of irrelevant relationships which wound up in the trash bin. I think I want to place our friendship first and foremost and make him know that I do care for him and will find a way to work this out.. somehow. To all my Specktra ladies.. :frenz:   many many thanks for kind words and letting me vent.  My mother said:  If you would just marry him.. none of this would happen. LMAO.  See?  this is life.

Haaaaaaaaaaahahahhahahahahaha!

Guys. Will be still be friends when we fall off the wagon during these forsaken collections coming up? I called naimies and almost ordered stuff from proenza. (just mangrove. But I didn't. Out of waiting for the blush to come out but still I almost almost did lmao.

I hope so! It's been a little haul-y around here this past week and will continue this weekend - I blame my birthday coupled with Ulta, Sephora, It Cosmetics and Too Faced having sales! Plus MAC launches, ermahgerd. You know, I don't regret the purchases I made last year during VIB, Urban Decay F&F, Ulta 20% sales, even MAC (EXCEPT Riri winter)... It's the random purchases, especially drugstore junk, that cluttered up my collection. I have always been very careful with higher-end purchases. If I keep my purchases on track for the rest of this year, I'm set to spend 1/3 of what I did least year on beauty. That's a big victory to me!

 

[Starlight77]

Bad sephora! Bad bad bad! they stole money out of my wallet and put makeup in there instead. I'm innocent! Actually I didn't spend that much. Just got a blush and a nailpolish and a makeup bag full of more samples I don't need but the bag is super cute! Oh and a young girl behind me was there for her bday gift and she wanted to buy a few of the 100 pt perks but had no points so I got them for her. Ehhh I never use them. She was so happy and appreciative it was nice to make someone smile. Than my son saw how happy she was so he offered to get lipglosses and nail polishes for everyone on line ughhh "my mommy has magic points, she buys a lot. Pick something and she will make it free!" Oh dear... Embarrassing? YES!!!! Than he lost a tooth so we had to stop in every mirror on the way out to see his new smile LOL love him so much Day 23: MAC Raspberry Swirl Lipstick Too Faced Chocolate Bar Palette Clinique Berry Pop Blush I never liked raspberry swirl until today. Weird. Had fun with my kids today. Although my real low but should be the Disney store

 

[Starlight77]

Haaaaaaaaaaahahahhahahahahaha! I hope so! It's been a little haul-y around here this past week and will continue this weekend - I blame my birthday coupled with Ulta, Sephora, It Cosmetics and Too Faced having sales! Plus MAC launches, ermahgerd. You know, I don't regret the purchases I made last year during VIB, Urban Decay F&F, Ulta 20% sales, even MAC (EXCEPT Riri winter)... It's the random purchases, especially drugstore junk, that cluttered up my collection.I have always been very careful with higher-end purchases. If I keep my purchases on track for the rest of this year, I'm set to spend 1/3 of what I did least year on beauty. That's a big victory to me!

I noticed the same thing with me. It's the random stuff I get that sits unused cluttering stuff. I stopped buying drugstore products over a year ago because I just don't reach for them ever. Now I try and wait awhile before I actually buy something. The blush I got was one I wanted for a while. The nail polish was random but it was pretty and purpley and screams April/Easter/spring ish season.

 

[liba]

I never liked raspberry swirl until today. Weird. Had fun with my kids today. Although my real low but should be the Disney store

 

[Starlight77]

I loved your adorable story. He wants to make all the ladies smile! And he believes in his mom 100%!!

Raspberry Swirl is a fantastic color if you keep the rest of your makeup really simple - had you slapped it on as part of the challenge without trying to do much else with the whole look?

Thanks! He's awesome.

I had picked the color because of the challenge as I'm doing my 30 days all MAC lipsticks only. So did a simple neutral eye using a little of that strawberry pink from the palette since it seemed to match perfectly. I used the large shimmery shade for 2/3 the lid and put the strawberry pink in the outter 1/3. I used caramel color in the crease and blended into the pink so the pink was very subtle with the milk chocolate brown in outer corner. no idea of names. it was a quick simple look and I liked it. It made the raspberry swirl completely wearable during the day for me. I'm definitely going to play with this palette again after the challenge. everyone raves about the smell of the chocolate. i think it smells like cheap fake cocoa powder. Doesn't smell bad but I don't think it smells as good as others say LOL.

 

[NewChick10]

Quote:Originally Posted by Starlight77

Bad sephora! Bad bad bad! they stole money out of my wallet and put makeup in there instead. I'm innocent! Actually I didn't spend that much. Just got a blush and a nailpolish and a makeup bag full of more samples I don't need but the bag is super cute! Oh and a young girl behind me was there for her bday gift and she wanted to buy a few of the 100 pt perks but had no points so I got them for her. Ehhh I never use them. She was so happy and appreciative it was nice to make someone smile. Than my son saw how happy she was so he offered to get lipglosses and nail polishes for everyone on line ughhh "my mommy has magic points, she buys a lot. Pick something and she will make it free!" Oh dear... Embarrassing? YES!!!! Than he lost a tooth so we had to stop in every mirror on the way out to see his new smile LOL love him so much



lol

 

[NewChick10]

30 lippies in 30 days briefing: I have learned after going through all of my nude lippies which nudes work for me and which nude are duds that I will never buy again. I am currently working on the pinks and reds. I found some beautiful reds that looks good on me and not just a rep lipstick I’m wearing. Some reds make me look like my lips are bleeding and some reds give me a jazz look and some do absolutely nothing for me. Now I am learning which red hue tones and finishes to stay away from. And last but not least the pink lippies oh boy I got some real dudes. There are some pink lippie hues that I should always stay away from. I really want to throw them away but I think I should keep them separated as a reminder of what shades not to buy. I don’t know…..

 

[mosha010]

@Starlight77 in a year I will be getting pregnant and having a little girl. Please have your son wait for her? That's the only kind of in law I want. He's so adorable! Bless him

 

[mosha010]

I lost track of my lippy wearing I know these tho: Day 15: impassioned with candy yum yum on the middle Day 16: lavender whip Day 17: I don't remember Day 18: close contact Day 19 (today): lip tar in femme

 

[jennyap]

Today's lippie (22) is Ronnie Red. Date night! Up to day 30 of no-buy. How long can I keep this going?

 

[Ajigglin]

It's gotta be the best username ever

The funny thing is, it was inspired by LL's Jigglin Baby. Remember that song? I love him. He did a concert at a small venue back in 02 and had girls come on stage. I climbed that man like a tree. Security tapped me on the shoulder. "Um, ma'am? Please get down from him." Meanwhile, he still was performing! Ah, memories. Mother has lived, honey.

 

[Ajigglin]

Bad sephora! Bad bad bad! they stole money out of my wallet and put makeup in there instead. I'm innocent! Actually I didn't spend that much. Just got a blush and a nailpolish and a makeup bag full of more samples I don't need but the bag is super cute! Oh and a young girl behind me was there for her bday gift and she wanted to buy a few of the 100 pt perks but had no points so I got them for her. Ehhh I never use them. She was so happy and appreciative it was nice to make someone smile. Than my son saw how happy she was so he offered to get lipglosses and nail polishes for everyone on line ughhh "my mommy has magic points, she buys a lot. Pick something and she will make it free!" Oh dear... Embarrassing? YES!!!! Than he lost a tooth so we had to stop in every mirror on the way out to see his new smile LOL love him so much Day 23: MAC Raspberry Swirl Lipstick Too Faced Chocolate Bar Palette Clinique Berry Pop Blush I never liked raspberry swirl until today. Weird. Had fun with my kids today. Although my real low but should be the Disney store