Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

NaomiH

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Thank you for those who helped me decide what sort of makeup to wear with my dress. I hope y'all don't mind the photos. I really like the look though I think I would have liked to go a little bit more highlighter crazy haha.  Makeup Used: Holika Holika Aqua Petit BB Cream Cargo Tonga Blush MAC Soft&Gentle Too Faced Chocolate Soleil Bronzer MAC Brun (eyebrows), Woodwinked (all over lid), Expresso (outercorner and bottom lashline) Urban Decay 24/7 Pencil in Perversion Benefit They're Real! Mascara Rimmel Kate Moss Matte Lipstick in 101 MAC Abalone Suntint
You look beautiful!
 

awickedshape

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@veronikawithak  @Glitteryvegas  @shellygrrl  @awickedshape  @PixieDancer  @dodotheextinct Thank you guys so much for the kind words and advice today. I took some time to think it through and a lot of you brought it up too - what's this kid bringing to my life. Right now, nothing. He's bringing negativity to me and I'm unhappy and frankly life is too short. I'm cutting the cord but I'm not deleting his number. If he ever needs me for something other than proofreading or just to talk, I'm not going to leave him hanging in the dirt, that's just not me. But I'm going to make an effort to just move on... and certainly not put my frustration into shopping. Instead I went for a run, which I hate. I hate running. But it felt good to pound the pavement as they say and although I felt like I was gonna puke, I felt better.  So thanks!!! :hug: :heart:
Sounds good! Glad you found some peace after that discomfort. Wish you all the best :)
 

NaomiH

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[@]mel33t[/@]I think this friend of yours thinks that it is okay to only pop around when he needs something from you and you are too good for that kind of treatment. I know it's always a hard thing to cut people from your life and is almost never a decision that comes easily, but you seem to be such a smart, sweet and all around lovely person and you don't deserve to have a schmoe like that in your life . :hug:
 

mel33t

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@mel33tI think this friend of yours thinks that it is okay to only pop around when he needs something from you and you are too good for that kind of treatment. I know it's always a hard thing to cut people from your life and is almost never a decision that comes easily, but you seem to be such a smart, sweet and all around lovely person and you don't deserve to have a schmoe like that in your life .
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Thanks girlie! Right back atcha!

By the way, I need to bring "schmoe" and "schmuck" back into my vocabulary.
 

shellygrrl

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Are any low-buyers Sephora VIB members? I check the site but is it really anything particularly special?
I’m a regular Beauty Insider. Sometimes the sample choices are nice, but I wish the programme was a hybrid of Ulta’s rewards programme and their own: no expiring points, and the ability to turn points in for either deluxe samples OR for discounts.
 

PixieDancer

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Thank you for those who helped me decide what sort of makeup to wear with my dress. I hope y'all don't mind the photos. I really like the look though I think I would have liked to go a little bit more highlighter crazy haha.  Makeup Used: Holika Holika Aqua Petit BB Cream Cargo Tonga Blush MAC Soft&Gentle Too Faced Chocolate Soleil Bronzer MAC Brun (eyebrows), Woodwinked (all over lid), Expresso (outercorner and bottom lashline) Urban Decay 24/7 Pencil in Perversion Benefit They're Real! Mascara Rimmel Kate Moss Matte Lipstick in 101 MAC Abalone Suntint
You look so beautiful! And you used Woodwinked!! Yay! One of my favs! You did a perfect makeup job!! What a gorgeous complete look! It's so nice to have seen this evolve! We should do these more often!!
 

awickedshape

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I’m a regular Beauty Insider. Sometimes the sample choices are nice, but I wish the programme was a hybrid of Ulta’s rewards programme and their own: no expiring points, and the ability to turn points in for either deluxe samples OR for discounts.
Hi Discounts would be great. I'm not sure if it's going to be worth it to try to move from BI to VIB. I've only shopped from Sephora three times and only since April so I'm not sure about their sales and whether there will be a discount for BIs later this year so I can save a bit.
 

Ajigglin

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Welcome back @janette9687 ! Looks like you're doing a great job! Good for you! And CONGRATS on the move-in with the BF!! Glad he understands your "little thing!" HeeHee As for me... Confession time.  Nothing too major, but I'm feeling conflicted. I have been doing really well with my collection purge and decided to let myself use some of my sale money to get 2 NARS Audacious lipsicks. Problem is, there are just SOOOOOO many shades to choose from. And I tried to be really responsible and research so I wouldn't buy close dupes. Well, THAT led to me buying 4 instead of 2. Now I know the shades I picked are unique to things I already own. And I went with Fall Season shades that I will use right now. Which could potentially help me weed out and purge more things from my currant stash that may not be getting love due to these new additions. And I DO get a discount at NARS, so it wasn't too horrible. BUT... I hate that I'm making excuses... I should have stuck to my 2 limit. And I'm disappointed that I hauled two too many lippies. I think I will force myself to part with at least 2 more lipsticks from my stash before the NARS ones arrive. It's probably the only way to get past the nagging feeling of guilt. Just a word of warning. DON'T "research" the NARS Audacious lipsticks. Just don't. They are expensive. Not a lot of product.  IF you fall victim to them. Just pick a shade you think you'll like. You most likely will. They all got great reviews and look to be nice quality. Just DON'T research swatches. OR you'll end up with more! And in some cases LOTS more. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!! In my Palette Challenge news: No new updates since I haven't worn any eyeshadow the last 2 days. Kept things pretty simple. I did use my Revlon Matte Balm in Elusive, which made me feel good about skipping MAC Hoop. I already had the Revlon one before Hoop came out. And I resisted when they said Elusive was a dupe. The old me would have bought Hoop anyways. But the new me skipped it! And now, everytime I use Elusive I feel good for holding my ground and having a cheaper, just-as-good version of another lippie!
those NARS lippies are sinfully delicious. I tried 3 on while waiting for a train a few weeks ago. I plan to get them during a Sephora or NARS sale.
 

Ajigglin

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Alright ladies, need some advice/help/support. Apologies in advance for the long posts. I've been doing really well lately with makeup and other material goods. I'm making sure to use cash with everything (I never use my cc anyway but I wanted more of the feeling of here's $100 for the week. That's it). So far its working and I'm really thinking through my purchases and I've found that sometimes I can just swatch and leave without purchasing. Recently, I've had a bit of a falling out with a friend. We didn't get into a fight or anything like that, honestly we've both just been busy and haven't had time for each other. Completely understandable. We used to date for a few months and agreed it wouldn't work out. This was like two years ago. And it really hurt me, not gonna lie. But I don't have feelings for him in that sense anymore. What hurts me now is that he remained friends with people who hurt me, who I've forgiven and moved on. He's also gotten into the habit of rubbing in how much he makes, where he's going on vacation, how nice his apartment is etc. Its gotten to the point where I've blocked him on social media because I don't want to see the pictures. It even bothers me more because I've literally clawed my way to where I am and he makes significantly more than me and is able to do these things without effort it seems. The last time he talked to me was about a month ago, right before my CPA and he asked me to proofread a paper for him for grad school. No hey, how are you. No how's the CPA studying. Nothing. I called him out and said that I wouldn't help him. He got pissy and whiny about it and we haven't really talked except for a few texts. Again, Nome of which he's asked me about how I'm doing or anything. Its always all about him and advice/favors. Part of me is saying just cut the cord and move on. This kid is seriously an ass hole and I have no clue what I'm holding on to. I'm no longer friends with that group so its not like we are in the same circles. I just don't feel like I deserve this. Bringing this back to makeup, I want to shop. And shop hard. I'm really trying to hold off. I'm doing really well and saving for the holidays and for my own vacation. I've cleaned out my stash again, staying away from Instagram, really playing with all my shadows, etc. But I just feel shitty. How do you guys let go of people? How do you deal with losing a close friend?
I haven't read the responses yet, so sorry if these are repeat questions/suggestions: Have you told him how you feel? Guys aren't the most perceptive in my opinion, and nobody is a mind reader. He might view what's going on between you differently. I'd talk to him if you haven't already about how one-sided you think the friendship is. I'd also be honest as to whether or not you actually are over him romantically. That might cloud your perception of things. In terms of the folks he hangs with that you don't like, just let him know that you don't feel comfortable being around them, and you are fine to hang with him solo. You won't be able to dictate who he can and can't be friends with, so make sure it doesn't come off as an ultimatum. As for the social media stuff, the muting is good. You shouldn't begrudge him for what he has. For all you know, he might be overcompensating for something else. My husband and I talk about this incessant need to share that people engage in. Sometimes, it comes from loneliness. That's why I say you shouldn't trip about the posts. Just mute them and keep it moving. Just because he posts doesn't mean you have to be forced to see them. Good luck with the CPA stuff! That's not a game from what little I know about it.
 

Ajigglin

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[@]Glitteryvegas[/@], your pictures! I adore them. My faves in the engagement batch are the ones of you guys carrying the vintage luggage and hanging by the plane as the other flew overhead. In the wedding batch, I love all the bridal party pics. The colors are fantastic against the sunset. I also love how you all wore flats. I wore some Bagdley Mischka stilettos in blue. :) you make me want to post mine! As for the job stuff, still no offer, but we soldier on. That company did invite me for a second interview with the CEO, so that's good. I had another interview Tusday and one today. When I tell you I am tired of this shit...
 

MissTania

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Quote: Originally Posted by Glitteryvegas
@MissTania- You are so right about the 'hoarding' aspect girl - I can't tell you how many products I've given away or thrown out recently because I didn't need them or I had dupes of them. Just remember- ONWARD AND UPWARD! As we all know cosmetics have an expiry and we need to keep that in mind when we're purchasing! As Peter Walsh says, every item takes up 'real estate' in our homes and we are paying for this by paying for rent/mortgages - so really every item in our home is costing way more than the sticker price. He says "Never throw good money after bad money,' meaning don't waste your good money (mortgage/rent/mental energy/etc) on bad money (items that we've purchased that we don't need).



Well said, this kind of thinking has helped me say no on occasions where I would have just purchased without a doubt. I'm still buying what I really want and will use and trying to be sensible about limiting back ups, but saying no here and there adds up!

Gorgeous pictures, I love how the ties of the groomsmen match the bridesmaid's dresses and are such vibrant colours...and those bouquets are just so gorgeous and striking. You look very pretty and your make up was timeless and elegant. Looks like you and your guests had a wonderful time and lots of fun!
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veronikawithak

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Okay.. starting to feel a little overwhelmed again. This happens every time new info comes out ugh. I made a tentative list of purchases for the rest of the year, in order of most to least coveted and with things I've already purchased in bold at the top. Things will get shuffled around but here's what I'm starting with. Next year I hope to bring my monthly item limit down from 5 to 4 or 3.. 1. MAC VGRII Lipglass 2. Hourglass Blush Palette ( > Tarte ) 3. NARS Dual Intensity Eyeshadow Palette 4. Buxom Roulette Lip Gloss Set ( > Buxom Winner Takes All ) 5. NARS Lipstick (Anna or Anita) 6. MUFE Artist Shadow (?) 7. MAC Rebel (Heirloom) 7. MAC Sin (RHPS) 8. UD Naked 2 Basics 9. Bite Lip Set - maybe 10. Bite Matte Creme Lip Crayon (?) 11. MAC Lipliner (Whirl/Soar/Dervish) 12. MAC Brave 13. MAC VGRII Lipstick - maybe 14. MAC Pink & Plum Gloss Set (Heirloom) - maybe 15. MAC Gold & Beige Pigment Set (Heirloom) - maybe
 

Naynadine

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For anyone who's interested, Pinksofoxy posted "15 Shopping Tips for the Shopaholic" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-Kx9ZKIrUw Great tips for low buy!!

@Naynadine welcome back.. missed seeing you in here! It was interesting to read through what you purchased and what your thoughts were.. It's frustrating when things don't work out. I've been trying to stick to things I know I'll love as well. Usually when I get something because everyone's raving about it I tend to not like it or use it as much as I thought I would. My next purchase will be the Hourglass palette as well. Going to pass on pretty much everything else until the sale and then I'll try to pick out my top few things.
Thank you! Maybe I should've peeked in here earlier, so you ladies could've talked me out of some things, lol.
It's funny, I really thought I already was super selective with what I buy, but I realize I could put even more thought into my purchases. And I should be more patient, too. If a new product launches, it's hard for me to wait, I usually want it immediately. But I know once the product is around for a couple of months my interest often times has faded.
 

veronikawithak

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Thank you! Maybe I should've peeked in here earlier, so you ladies could've talked me out of some things, lol. It's funny, I really thought I already was super selective with what I buy, but I realize I could put even more thought into my purchases. And I should be more patient, too. If a new product launches, it's hard for me to wait, I usually want it immediately. But I know once the product is around for a couple of months my interest often times has faded.
Yes! There's always room for more thought. I'm constantly shuffling around things on my wishlist and I've noticed that if I wait a while even the things I thought were must haves are easier to pass on. Sometimes you just need a reminder! At least now you can go into the holiday season with that experience and come out with only things you truly love. :)
 

veronikawithak

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Thought I'd share some random "pan porn" or in this case empty lipgloss tubes! This marks the halfway point in finishing my Deconstructed Rose set from Bite. I've started working on the two on the right as well.. so it looks like I'll be able to reach my goal of finishing the set before the end of the year. I don't know why looking at empty products is so satisfying or motivating, but it really is.

 

Sandy072

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Okay.. starting to feel a little overwhelmed again. This happens every time new info comes out ugh. I made a tentative list of purchases for the rest of the year, in order of most to least coveted and with things I've already purchased in bold at the top. Things will get shuffled around but here's what I'm starting with. Next year I hope to bring my monthly item limit down from 5 to 4 or 3.. 1. MAC VGRII Lipglass 2. Hourglass Blush Palette ( > Tarte ) 3. NARS Dual Intensity Eyeshadow Palette 4. Buxom Roulette Lip Gloss Set ( > Buxom Winner Takes All ) 5. NARS Lipstick (Anna or Anita) 6. MUFE Artist Shadow (?) 7. MAC Rebel (Heirloom) 7. MAC Sin (RHPS) 8. UD Naked 2 Basics 9. Bite Lip Set - maybe 10. Bite Matte Creme Lip Crayon (?) 11. MAC Lipliner (Whirl/Soar/Dervish) 12. MAC Brave 13. MAC VGRII Lipstick - maybe 14. MAC Pink & Plum Gloss Set (Heirloom) - maybe 15. MAC Gold & Beige Pigment Set (Heirloom) - maybe
I can save you money with one of these.. Nyx lipliner in mauve is a dupe for whirl. I bought mauve and it is great! If you can tell yourself packaging isn't important then you can skip sin and rebel. If you didn't need the lipsticks before they had special packaging do you really need them now? I'm asking myself the same thing about rebel. I have milani sangria as a dupe, do I need rebel just cause it's cute? Prob not.
 
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