all you are to me is a p*ssy...
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kristina ftw!
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I know you probably care about him a lot since you're still with him, but PLEASE reconsider this relationship. It IS abusive, and an abusive relationship is never healthy. No matter what his "reasoning" for saying this to you is, it's still not right. He's obviously not saying it to make you feel good about yourself.
*KT*
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Sounds like he's hurting you emotionally to make himself feel better. That is not a healthy relationship and adding alcohol to the mix certainly doesn't help. Verbal abuse is about power and control. No amount of alcohol is an excuse for being verbally abusive.
Please be careful with this relationship and where it goes from here. Verbal abuse not only can be very harmful to your own self-esteem, but often escalates over time into physical abuse.
Take care of yourself and dump him if he can't pull his head out of his @ss and give you the respect you deserve.
Please be careful with this relationship and where it goes from here. Verbal abuse not only can be very harmful to your own self-esteem, but often escalates over time into physical abuse.
Take care of yourself and dump him if he can't pull his head out of his @ss and give you the respect you deserve.
Beauty Mark
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Dump him! You deserve to be with someone who respects who you are and doesn't treat you like that.
He is an asshole. I imagine he treats you badly, though not as blatantly, when he's sober.
It's fine to dress up for someone else every now and then. If you like someone, you do want them to find you hot. However, it should never always be about having that person like you (and your SO should find you just as beautiful barefaced as he would with a full face of makeup).
This guy doesn't sound like he's worth even washing your face for. Please take care of yourself and find happiness without him
He is an asshole. I imagine he treats you badly, though not as blatantly, when he's sober.
It's fine to dress up for someone else every now and then. If you like someone, you do want them to find you hot. However, it should never always be about having that person like you (and your SO should find you just as beautiful barefaced as he would with a full face of makeup).
This guy doesn't sound like he's worth even washing your face for. Please take care of yourself and find happiness without him
MxAxC-_ATTACK
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f**k that.
I'd give him the finger and send him out the door.
I'd give him the finger and send him out the door.
SparklingWaves
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Here is a website that I would like you to take a look at for now
Symptoms of Emotional Abuse
Notice the cycle. Under the reconciliation phase of the cycle, some people have the "great sex/makeup sex", go out for dinner, and/or he gives you gifts in this area. This makes the partner think everything is alright (feel loved), but the cycle keeps going and the good times get shorter and so does the cycle.
Notice the descriptions of the abuser - dual personality, their mate is a symbol, and they have superficial relationships.
Please click on links & look at the left side of the website under information for more examples & signs.
If you don't feel not strong enough to leave, please get help to support you. There is help out there for you. You aren't alone.
I don't know if any of this information fits for you exactly, but I am very concerned about the manner in which you are being treated.
Please do not allow it this to continue for the excuse it was the alcohol talking. It is his choice to get drunk & be abusive for whatever the reasons.
Isn't he in all actuality abusing himself and you at the same time?
Symptoms of Emotional Abuse
Notice the cycle. Under the reconciliation phase of the cycle, some people have the "great sex/makeup sex", go out for dinner, and/or he gives you gifts in this area. This makes the partner think everything is alright (feel loved), but the cycle keeps going and the good times get shorter and so does the cycle.
Notice the descriptions of the abuser - dual personality, their mate is a symbol, and they have superficial relationships.
Please click on links & look at the left side of the website under information for more examples & signs.
If you don't feel not strong enough to leave, please get help to support you. There is help out there for you. You aren't alone.
I don't know if any of this information fits for you exactly, but I am very concerned about the manner in which you are being treated.
Please do not allow it this to continue for the excuse it was the alcohol talking. It is his choice to get drunk & be abusive for whatever the reasons.
Isn't he in all actuality abusing himself and you at the same time?
nunu
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If anyone let alone my bf talk about me that way he did then he is out the door full stop! I wouldn't even consider talking to him anymore!
How rude is that??? He is looking at you as a sex object and you are letting him do that to you!
If he had feelings for you or cared about you he would never dream of saying such stuff!!! I am really shocked and gobsmacked by these nasty mean hurtfull comments!!
How rude is that??? He is looking at you as a sex object and you are letting him do that to you!
If he had feelings for you or cared about you he would never dream of saying such stuff!!! I am really shocked and gobsmacked by these nasty mean hurtfull comments!!
lazytolove
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There are plenty of fish in the sea and there are many guys looking for girls like you and they know how to appreciate it. Your boyfriend such a jerk. I'm not saying you should break up with him but if i were you... i will move on.
Simply Elegant
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I think you'd be better without him. Abuse can escalate quickly and it'll be hardder to leave then.
_trimm_trabb
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I can only agree with what everyone has already said. Drinking doesn't make you lie or make you mean. It just makes you an exaggerated version of yourself. Like a previous poster said, when my fiance is drunk he just talks to me (and everyone around) about how much he loves me and how beautiful I am and yadda yadda. Normal, loving companions don't turn into hurtful insensitive pigs just because of alcohol.
Emotional and verbal abuse escalates so quickly. Please end it before you feel physically trapped. You deserve much better.
Emotional and verbal abuse escalates so quickly. Please end it before you feel physically trapped. You deserve much better.
nics1972
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All the earlier posts are very well said.
1. Ask him, doesnt he want to look/feel attarctive ? And also ask him, if he dresses up, is he doing it for p*&%y ??? !!!!
Its human nature to feel appreciated if the opposite sex gives her/him some kind of attention.. it could just be a fleeting glance, but enough for you to catch it and know that the person thinks you are attractive
2. You have a problem right there.. he gets drunk and then starts shooting off his mouth. What if it gets to more than just "shooting off his mouth" in a fit of drunkenness ? What about the multitude problems that go with an addiction ? Do you REALLY want to deal with that, not to mention the verbal abuse you are already enduring AND the possible physical abuse it could lead to ? There is SO much more to life.. dont waste it with this good for nothing.
3. Like everyone else said, LEAVE HIM. Better to be alone than to be with a man who doesnt respect you, talks trash about you and plainly humiliates you. The damage is being done to YOU and you deserve MUCH MUCH better. You dont want your self-esteem/confidence going down the toilet. Believe me, once that happens, finding it back it one helluva job. Get out. Its not too late..
1. Ask him, doesnt he want to look/feel attarctive ? And also ask him, if he dresses up, is he doing it for p*&%y ??? !!!!
Its human nature to feel appreciated if the opposite sex gives her/him some kind of attention.. it could just be a fleeting glance, but enough for you to catch it and know that the person thinks you are attractive
2. You have a problem right there.. he gets drunk and then starts shooting off his mouth. What if it gets to more than just "shooting off his mouth" in a fit of drunkenness ? What about the multitude problems that go with an addiction ? Do you REALLY want to deal with that, not to mention the verbal abuse you are already enduring AND the possible physical abuse it could lead to ? There is SO much more to life.. dont waste it with this good for nothing.
3. Like everyone else said, LEAVE HIM. Better to be alone than to be with a man who doesnt respect you, talks trash about you and plainly humiliates you. The damage is being done to YOU and you deserve MUCH MUCH better. You dont want your self-esteem/confidence going down the toilet. Believe me, once that happens, finding it back it one helluva job. Get out. Its not too late..
nics1972
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Good point. No... VERY good point.
Originally Posted by _trimm_trabb
I can only agree with what everyone has already said. Drinking doesn't make you lie or make you mean. It just makes you an exaggerated version of yourself. Like a previous poster said, when my fiance is drunk he just talks to me (and everyone around) about how much he loves me and how beautiful I am and yadda yadda. Normal, loving companions don't turn into hurtful insensitive pigs just because of alcohol. Emotional and verbal abuse escalates so quickly. Please end it before you feel physically trapped. You deserve much better. |
Good point. No... VERY good point.
Honey B. Fly
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the thing is that we've been together for over 4 years now so it will be VERY hard for both of us to say goodbye, he just started drinking in the last year and this is when all the emotional abuse started, it doesn't happen as often or as extreme while he is sober. i know hes an a**hole and i hate him for it but i really do still love him. i feel really stupid for loving him too because i know he dosen't deserve a girl like me who goes through hell for him. i know i should leave but i still can't.
it was just SO f*cking perfect the first years we met, i thought i f*cking dreamed this man alive
it was just SO f*cking perfect the first years we met, i thought i f*cking dreamed this man alive
nunu
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honey, you seem like a great gf but he doesn't appreciate what you are doing for me. I know it's going to be hard to leave him because you've been with him for so long so you kind of got used to seeing him there. But honestly there are better guys out there, and i know for sure that if you chose to get out of this relationship and meet someone else who totaly respects you and cherishes you, you wouldn't regret letting the first guy go.
Good luck with what you wish to do.
hugs
| Originally Posted by Honey B. Fly
the thing is that we've been together for over 4 years now so it will be VERY hard for both of us to say goodbye, he just started drinking in the last year and this is when all the emotional abuse started, it doesn't happen as often or as extreme while he is sober. i know hes an a**hole and i hate him for it but i really do still love him. i feel really stupid for loving him too because i know he dosen't deserve a girl like me who goes through hell for him. i know i should leave but i still can't. it was just SO f*cking perfect the first years we met, i thought i f*cking dreamed this man alive |
honey, you seem like a great gf but he doesn't appreciate what you are doing for me. I know it's going to be hard to leave him because you've been with him for so long so you kind of got used to seeing him there. But honestly there are better guys out there, and i know for sure that if you chose to get out of this relationship and meet someone else who totaly respects you and cherishes you, you wouldn't regret letting the first guy go.
Good luck with what you wish to do.
hugs
