Anyone else recently broken up?

[FiestyFemme]

Count me in the club. Well I'm not sure it counts as a breakup, but this guy (who I thought was my BF) was actually seeing me on the side. He was still with his girlfriend (who I thought was his ex), and now they're engaged and getting married. I think he got her pregnant. Nice, huh? What makes it even better... I talked to him yesterday and everything's fine. The "I miss you, I love you, I'll talk to you soon" etc. Then about 3 hours later, I get a voicemail that says, "Hey I can't talk to you anymore. I'm getting married, so yeah don't bother me anymore." WTF? We had plans for a life together and everything. Definitely a shock.

Ah well.

I'm ok. Still shocked and sad, but I'm going to make it. I'm cutting that asshole completely out of my life. I'm not ever giving him the chance to make a fool of me again. I don't want to be with someone like that anyway.

 

[nunu]

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Originally Posted by FiestyFemme Count me in the club. Well I'm not sure it counts as a breakup, but this guy (who I thought was my BF) was actually seeing me on the side. He was still with his girlfriend (who I thought was his ex), and now they're engaged and getting married. I think he got her pregnant. Nice, huh? What makes it even better... I talked to him yesterday and everything's fine. The "I miss you, I love you, I'll talk to you soon" etc. Then about 3 hours later, I get a voicemail that says, "Hey I can't talk to you anymore. I'm getting married, so yeah don't bother me anymore." WTF? We had plans for a life together and everything. Definitely a shock. Ah well. I'm ok. Still shocked and sad, but I'm going to make it. I'm cutting that asshole completely out of my life. I'm not ever giving him the chance to make a fool of me again. I don't want to be with someone like that anyway.

???

You obviously don't need this jerk!

 

[florabundance]

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Originally Posted by nunu ???

My thoughts exactly. People can be so shady - what the hell.

 

[banjobama]

I'm not currently going through a breakup but I vividly remember my train wreck of a first "adult" relationship.

You will feel sad for awhile, but eventually you will come to realize that you have grown a lot and learned a lot, more than it seems like now.

The BEST relationship lesson I ever learned is that it's better to be single than be unhappy. And now you know what kind of things you should never put up with from your partner.

hang in there, girl!

 

[FiestyFemme]

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Originally Posted by florabundance My thoughts exactly. People can be so shady - what the hell.

That's an understatement for this situation.

But yeah I'm just gonna take the high road, try to get my stuff back, and forget this ever happened.

 

[florabundance]

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Originally Posted by FiestyFemme That's an understatement for this situation. But yeah I'm just gonna take the high road, try to get my stuff back, and forget this ever happened.

I almost feel bad for the chick he's about to make his wife.
What an absolute loser of a male specimen. Shame on his ass.

 

[FiestyFemme]

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Originally Posted by florabundance I almost feel bad for the chick he's about to make his wife. What an absolute loser of a male specimen. Shame on his ass.

Don't... trust me, they deserve each other.
I've known him for about 3 years, and one time they broke up, she faked a pregnancy to get him back.
So yeah.
They're both crazy liars. Match made in heaven.

 

[TangoMango]

I just cut my now ex out of my life for good.

We had broken up, but tried to be friends. We would also occasionally have sex, which was a mistake on my part. I shouldn't have. So on Saturday (it's so recent it still hurts to say), we meet up, one thing leads to another and we have sex. The next day, he sends me a text saying he needs to tell me something. He reveals to me that he has had a girlfriend for a couple of months, but didn't tell me. He said they're not together at the moment but they will get back together soon.

As if things couldn't worse, the day after he tells me that the only reason he's getting back with her is because she's pregnant! Then he sends me texts saying he wished it was me instead and that girl ruined his life. I told him congrats on being another statistic.

He kept asking me to forgive him and if we can be in a relationship in the future, and I told him no, so this fool changes his number on me. I'm glad he did, so I can cut him out of my life.

He's the only boyfriend I've ever had, and I had waited such a long time to get a boyfriend, just to avoid a guy like him. I recently made a post about being lonely and missing relationships, but now, I don't think I want any sort of relationship. Guys are too much drama and I'm sure I'll be happier by myself.

 

[Kayteuk]

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Originally Posted by Kalico I dumped my loser ex about a month and a half ago (were together 2 and a half years, we were engaged), and have ignored all his attempts at contact since. He was abusive and an all around bad person. I've acquired a lot of clothing, make-up, shoes, even a laptop since the break-up. I've also decided I need to fix my brain probably through therapy before I get in another relationship, because I tend to have low standards, and turn down wonderful men for abusive ones. You'll be okay! Keep your head up! Sounds like you're handling it pretty well.

Trust me, therapy works. I have seen a councillor for a ex a while back and it cleared out all my problems and just put everything nice and neatly back in to order in my head.
I can highly recommend it, I have never done anything so good for myself in my life

Go for it girl!

I'm sorry i haven't been a active poster much on this topic. Just trying to deal with some stuff with him right now.

 

[Kayteuk]

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Originally Posted by TangoMango I just cut my now ex out of my life for good. We had broken up, but tried to be friends. We would also occasionally have sex, which was a mistake on my part. I shouldn't have. So on Saturday (it's so recent it still hurts to say), we meet up, one thing leads to another and we have sex. The next day, he sends me a text saying he needs to tell me something. He reveals to me that he has had a girlfriend for a couple of months, but didn't tell me. He said they're not together at the moment but they will get back together soon. As if things couldn't worse, the day after he tells me that the only reason he's getting back with her is because she's pregnant! Then he sends me texts saying he wished it was me instead and that girl ruined his life. I told him congrats on being another statistic. He kept asking me to forgive him and if we can be in a relationship in the future, and I told him no, so this fool changes his number on me. I'm glad he did, so I can cut him out of my life. He's the only boyfriend I've ever had, and I had waited such a long time to get a boyfriend, just to avoid a guy like him. I recently made a post about being lonely and missing relationships, but now, I don't think I want any sort of relationship. Guys are too much drama and I'm sure I'll be happier by myself.

What an ass! I would seriously just ignore him, your far far above his standard and if you see him, just walk on by with a big smile.
Be thankfull that it didnt go on any further, he could of wrecked your life!

Its nice to see a good strong girl with a smart head on her shoulders. Your a inspiration to me

. And trust me, its sometimes better to be alone....Hello MAC

 

[Snow_White]

I broke up with my ex a month ago and I'm taking some time for myself now. It was a rather difficult relationship, so this break is welcome.

 

[LP_x]

**hugs** to all the ladies who are better off without those assholes!

 

[tyga_baby]

I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. It has been really hard because he was my first boyfriend/first love/first kiss/ first everything! I had been with him 3.5 years until I found out he is a compulsive liar. I found out he was seeing another girl for 3 months; she called me when she found out about me, she asked me who I was after she went through his phone. She has a 5 year old child; I found it funny that he would gamble everything we had over having a fling with a girl who had a 5 year old child to take care of. She isn't with him either anymore. I feel so sorry for that girl that he used...and I am thankful to her for calling me.

This guy lied to me about so many things over our whole relationship, about things that he didn't have to! (He told me he and his family were Christian after 3.5 years of him leading me to believe he was Muslim. He is Pakistani and I am Guyanese/Trinidadian. I am not religious and neither is my family! :S He never had a reason to lie...)
I really thought I would marry him and we would be together forever. I have so much anger in me right now. I hope all guys don't lie and cheat like this! I don't have much experience with guys :S I just feel very used and taken advantage of. This is my first break up

Ahhh I just wrote so much...

 

[florabundance]

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Originally Posted by tyga_baby I really thought I would marry him and we would be together forever. I have so much anger in me right now. I hope all guys don't lie and cheat like this! I don't have much experience with guys :S I just feel very used and taken advantage of. This is my first break up Ahhh I just wrote so much...

Mine too, hon. And I was exactly the same, thinking we'd be together forever, fantasising about marriage. Try not to be angry for too long though, thank the gods, the universe, fate or whatever you believe in, that you didn't end up marrying a liar and a cheat.
And lying about his religion - WTF????? That's so odd.

 

[FiestyFemme]

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Originally Posted by florabundance Try not to be angry for too long though, thank the gods, the universe, fate or whatever you believe in, that you didn't end up marrying a liar and a cheat.

Yes, exactly!
I know it sucks now, but you don't really want to be with someone who's like that. It's hard to reconcile this bad person with the person you thought you were in love with... but the person he really is is not the person you loved! Trust me, I'm going through the same thing right now.
I haven't dated a lot of guys, and while the ones I have dated wound up being assholes, they are not all like that. There are plenty of truly good guys out there. It's just a matter of finding them!
Just be glad you dodged that bullet... that's always, ALWAYS the way I think about it.
Like WHEW... thank goodness for that!

 

[tropical_smiles]

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Originally Posted by FiestyFemme Yes, exactly! I know it sucks now, but you don't really want to be with someone who's like that. It's hard to reconcile this bad person with the person you thought you were in love with... but the person he really is is not the person you loved! Trust me, I'm going through the same thing right now. I haven't dated a lot of guys, and while the ones I have dated wound up being assholes, they are not all like that. There are plenty of truly good guys out there. It's just a matter of finding them! Just be glad you dodged that bullet... that's always, ALWAYS the way I think about it. Like WHEW... thank goodness for that!

ha ha well said I loved the "dodged the bullet"...it's true...right now it's been hard...but i know..and even this weekend I had told him when we talked that I deserved to be with someone who puts me first and is considerate of my feelings and me.

 

[tyga_baby]

Ya it was like I was with a complete stranger that whole time! I swear If I come across a picture of him the only emotion that goes through me is --OMG who is that guy :| ahhhh who was I really with that whole time!?-- Speaking of that I still need to go through my computer and get rid of all the pictures of him...maybe copy them to disk..LOL then throw that disc down my vent! Haha

I don't know who would lie about religion? I am even confused about that, I mean... for example...this guy lied the first time he brought me in his house he said "oh this isnt my house it's a friend's house he said we can chill here for the day"...and I found out 5 months later that really was his house :| AHH lol compulsive liar. Like I would have cared if he had a big huge house or not :|???? wtffffff Oh why me whyyyy did I have to go out with the most screwed up one

lol

 

[strickers]

I definitely need this thread right now

I just broke up with my loser, and found out that the guy I was seeing (sorta) in the summer was dating this other girl (they've been together for a year now!) so I feel terrible both for me and for her. Blahhhh. I've been moping around all day.

 

[Patricia]

I'm very very very very sorry for you girls, really am. I totally know what you feel. I promise it gets better. I PROMISE.

 

[shimmyshimmyya]

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Originally Posted by Kayteuk I just ended it with my bf today after weeks of torture. Anyone else in the same boat...Support group here. My ex was a asshole who picked faults in all my modeling shots to the point where I couldn't improve. Anyone else?

I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you.

This has probably already been said, but a person who constantly finds faults, flaws and plays on your insecurities, is the one who usually has the issues and is trying to project them on to you.

Why would someone who is suppose to love you, flaws and all, try to break you down? That is not love and you should not shed one more tear over him. There are good guys out there (I've seen them).

My ex attempted to do that with me, but I was too strong and smart of a person to let that shit fly. I could NEVER love someone who would purposely do that. That's why he stupid ass got straight DUMPED (the writing was on the wall, but he was too busy being a jackass to notice) and he was the one crying over me.