Great thread!
I'm a lesbian and have been lesbian identified for seven years. I've dated guys but I have never been intimate with a man. The thought of it always grossed me out and I thought that I was weird. I can look at a guy and say "hey, he's cute" or "he seems like a good catch, I'd like to introduce him to my best friend." After I already knew I was a lesbian, I tried dating guys again only to reinforce my disgust.
I have know my partner for six years and we've been together for over two years. I love every single thing about a woman. He smell, her touch, that weird kinda telepathy deal that goes on, her body....it's the best thing in the world.
I remember being a little girl and wanting to play house with other girls. It's kinda funny know that I think about it. Years before I came out my best friend at the time was a lesbian and I remember people being turned off by it and I was her biggest cheerleader. We had this weird kinda sexual like but not sexual relationship that never made me feel uncomfortable --I actually liked it!!!
I have to honestly say that I don't think that every woman has thought about being with a woman intimately. I think guys are cute but I would never want to BE with one, you know. On the flip side, I think that there are women who think about being with a woman but when it gets down to the nitty gritty, kissing probably is the limit.