dollbabybex
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look how different we all like it
no wonder were never pleased!
no wonder were never pleased!
How fast does your man...ahem..finish?
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Bonbonroz
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I couldn't agree more!
Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC
lol...I think I'm the same way. I love for him to be extremely rough with me, thats a turn on. But if we're actually mad at eachother, and one of us did something wrong, its not going to happen. He tries to have sex with me while I'm still mad about something, but he quickly realizes that I'm not having it. I just sit there and watch tv while he tries to initiate foreplay. Then we just have to resolve it, so it all works out. HA lol 
Of course, he doesn't care if we fought earlier. If he wants sex, he wants it. So that works out good if he was mad at me. Cuz oral pretty much cures everything 
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I couldn't agree more!
a914butterfly
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too fast!!! the problem is we go without sex for so long (sometimes 1 or 2 weeks apart) that he comes so darn fast when we do "the deed". I tried to teach him about controlling himself, but you can't teach an old dog new tricks. the most we go for is maybe 10 minutes if im lucky. Before the birth of our daughter (which is 1 of the reasons that sex slowed down) we could go for maybe 30 minutes. i usually have to go in the bathroom afterwards with my vibrator and finish it myself.
aziajs
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I couldn't do it for hours. I'm just not into it. I couldn't even imagine. It gets to a point after about 20 minutes or so when I get distracted and sore and I am ready for him to get done. I remember I was on top one time. I was soooooooooooo tired. That shit was like a work out. Geez. It's the same thing with oral sex, giving or receiving. 20 minutes either my vagina gets sore or my mouth and I'm over it.
SparklingWaves
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Well, let me just quote a woman who was a friend of my mother's. She was in her late 30's. "You are not finished! Did you think this was for you?" I think that's good advice.
user79
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Damn, why go to the bathroom? Hand your man that vibrator and tell him to get you off with it! No rolling over and falling asleep til you're done as well.
| Originally Posted by a914butterfly
too fast!!! the problem is we go without sex for so long (sometimes 1 or 2 weeks apart) that he comes so darn fast when we do "the deed". I tried to teach him about controlling himself, but you can't teach an old dog new tricks. the most we go for is maybe 10 minutes if im lucky. Before the birth of our daughter (which is 1 of the reasons that sex slowed down) we could go for maybe 30 minutes. i usually have to go in the bathroom afterwards with my vibrator and finish it myself. |
Damn, why go to the bathroom? Hand your man that vibrator and tell him to get you off with it! No rolling over and falling asleep til you're done as well.
lethaldesign
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I would say 10-45 min on average... depending on the mood & type of sex we are having (meaning slow, fast, rough, different positions, etc). If we do alot of foreplay, the "deed" usually gets "done" faster. I have multiple orgasms so I honestly don't mind how long it lasts because I always come. If he finishes though, and he knows I want to keep going, he'll give me oral or use my vibrator on me. Its important that BOTH partners are satisfied!!!
BTW... we've been together 3.5 years & we live together now. Although we don't have sex as often as we used to (a few times a day!!), we try to make up for that on the weekends &when we have alone time. Give him a 30 minute break &he's usually roaring to go again!
BTW... we've been together 3.5 years & we live together now. Although we don't have sex as often as we used to (a few times a day!!), we try to make up for that on the weekends &when we have alone time. Give him a 30 minute break &he's usually roaring to go again!
n_c
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Lucky YOU!
Man, i wish i managed to have several orgasms. I do come about 90% of the time i have intercourse...hearing you though makes me feel like im losing out
| Originally Posted by lethaldesign
I would say 10-45 min on average... depending on the mood & type of sex we are having (meaning slow, fast, rough, different positions, etc). If we do alot of foreplay, the "deed" usually gets "done" faster. I have multiple orgasms so I honestly don't mind how long it lasts because I always come. If he finishes though, and he knows I want to keep going, he'll give me oral or use my vibrator on me. Its important that BOTH partners are satisfied!!! BTW... we've been together 3.5 years & we live together now. Although we don't have sex as often as we used to (a few times a day!!), we try to make up for that on the weekends &when we have alone time. Give him a 30 minute break &he's usually roaring to go again!
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Lucky YOU!
Man, i wish i managed to have several orgasms. I do come about 90% of the time i have intercourse...hearing you though makes me feel like im losing out
CantAffordMAC
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LoL well usually he does give me an orgasm in other ways, so its fine. Sometimes I don't really want to have an orgasm. Just havin good sex can be enough for me, depending on my mood. I don't feel like I always have to come
But we'll continue to try everything we can. I'm not a quitter
| Originally Posted by MissChievous
As for the girls who posted "they can't come during sex", you shouldn't settle with that! I know it's harder for women to orgasm during intercourse, but there are ways to get an orgasm through other methods like foreplay, using toys, trying out different positions, thrusting methods... I wouldn't give up on trying to figure out how to have an orgasm with your partner, seriously, having a simultaneous orgasm or at least somewhat together is pretty darn amazing. But it takes a lot of trial and error (but who's complaining) to figure out what it is that can get you off. Don't be afraid to speak out to your partner that you want to change things around when you have sex, if it's just some 5 min ordeal and you're like, "damn I can't wait til he's finished since I'm not really enjoying this anyway", you should seriously considering trying something new. |
LoL well usually he does give me an orgasm in other ways, so its fine. Sometimes I don't really want to have an orgasm. Just havin good sex can be enough for me, depending on my mood. I don't feel like I always have to come
But we'll continue to try everything we can. I'm not a quitter
SparklingWaves
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I think if women were really honest. They would admit that they have had some really sad experiences in the bedroom, because many men are totally ignorant on how to please a woman or just don't give a damn. Men can be really selfish in that department and/or they think we are wired like them.
All the while, we are thinking about shopping, our jobs, work around the house, kids, worrying about pregnancy, worrying how we look nude, or even watching the tv, etc.
While we can set the timer for Speed Demon to finish at so many laps, we are trying to use our imagination to stay focused on the race.
Of course, I am not talking from experience. LOL
All the while, we are thinking about shopping, our jobs, work around the house, kids, worrying about pregnancy, worrying how we look nude, or even watching the tv, etc.
While we can set the timer for Speed Demon to finish at so many laps, we are trying to use our imagination to stay focused on the race.
Of course, I am not talking from experience. LOL
user79
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Well, that may be true, but I think women are equally as responsible in letting their partner know what they want and to help him please you. I mean, a lot of men just don't really know what their partner wants because the women don't say anything and just keep quiet because they don't know how to voice their concerns. Every woman - as is obvious by this thread - likes something different, so it's hard for a guy to know what to do with each partner he may have. I think it's often not an issue of being selfish, it's that the male partner doesn't know what he is doing isn't giving the woman any pleasure, and she doesn't speak up. With all the partners I've had (granted, it hasn't been that many since I've been in a relationship for a long time), they seemed very accomodating and responsive when I let them know I didn't like what they were doing, and showed them how I did enjoy it.
| Originally Posted by SparklingWaves
I think if women were really honest. They would admit that they have had some really sad experiences in the bedroom, because many men are totally ignorant on how to please a woman or just don't give a damn. Men can be really selfish in that department and/or they think we are wired like them. |
Well, that may be true, but I think women are equally as responsible in letting their partner know what they want and to help him please you. I mean, a lot of men just don't really know what their partner wants because the women don't say anything and just keep quiet because they don't know how to voice their concerns. Every woman - as is obvious by this thread - likes something different, so it's hard for a guy to know what to do with each partner he may have. I think it's often not an issue of being selfish, it's that the male partner doesn't know what he is doing isn't giving the woman any pleasure, and she doesn't speak up. With all the partners I've had (granted, it hasn't been that many since I've been in a relationship for a long time), they seemed very accomodating and responsive when I let them know I didn't like what they were doing, and showed them how I did enjoy it.
landonsmother
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drunk sex is always good. LOL. it seems to last longer than usual & for some reason it always feels 10x better. hahaha.
on average though, i'd say it lasts anywhere from 10-45 minutes. the 10 minute ones are the ones we call "quickies." those are usually done before we go to work, really tired after a long day or just a "pick me up" kinda thing.
& makeup sex is just WONDERFUL! after having a huge fight & no talking for a couple of days then making up is the best feeling in the world. having sex after a huge fight feels 50x better. hormones are up & we're both in the mood. anything goes with makeup sex
on average though, i'd say it lasts anywhere from 10-45 minutes. the 10 minute ones are the ones we call "quickies." those are usually done before we go to work, really tired after a long day or just a "pick me up" kinda thing.
& makeup sex is just WONDERFUL! after having a huge fight & no talking for a couple of days then making up is the best feeling in the world. having sex after a huge fight feels 50x better. hormones are up & we're both in the mood. anything goes with makeup sex
SparklingWaves
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After the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over, all roads lead to the fast track. Yep, you can communicate and have those long talks about what pleases you. But, it still happens. I am not saying that it can't be romantic sometimes or great others. But, I am being real.
Yeah, I know you have to work at it. This is the real picture. He is going to meet your needs every time, every week, for the rest of your life while you two work, pay bills, raise a family, get old, get fat, get skinny, get ugly, get sick, etc. I just don't believe it. I am not saying this man doesn't breathe somewhere. I just don't believe it.
For some, I actually believe this very issue leads them to commit adultery. They got tired of trying to spell out their needs to a person with a tv remote in his hands or a dude that works out four hours a day, so they got a new guy. The new guy had a porn problem or a drinking problem, but he too didn't listen to what they wanted.
I am really getting on my own nerves.
Yeah, I know you have to work at it. This is the real picture. He is going to meet your needs every time, every week, for the rest of your life while you two work, pay bills, raise a family, get old, get fat, get skinny, get ugly, get sick, etc. I just don't believe it. I am not saying this man doesn't breathe somewhere. I just don't believe it.
For some, I actually believe this very issue leads them to commit adultery. They got tired of trying to spell out their needs to a person with a tv remote in his hands or a dude that works out four hours a day, so they got a new guy. The new guy had a porn problem or a drinking problem, but he too didn't listen to what they wanted.
I am really getting on my own nerves.
Raerae
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The guy I was with last night lasted for like a few minutes lol... Which was fine, since I really wasn't into it anyways, it was one of those hookup's that just kinda happened. I dont even remember his name lol...
Worst part was when I was leaveing with him, we were in the private elevator that casino's have for the people with rooms, and all my friends knew I didn't have a room since I was driving back that night. And when the elevator got to the bottom floor and we got out, my friends were there with my purse in hand. Talk about bad timing... Or good timing lol, I was glad they grabbed my purse lol. I guess I had been gone longer than I thought... Since the VIP part of the club was closed by the time we came down from his room, and they were all going back to theirs. lol...
Worst part was when I was leaveing with him, we were in the private elevator that casino's have for the people with rooms, and all my friends knew I didn't have a room since I was driving back that night. And when the elevator got to the bottom floor and we got out, my friends were there with my purse in hand. Talk about bad timing... Or good timing lol, I was glad they grabbed my purse lol. I guess I had been gone longer than I thought... Since the VIP part of the club was closed by the time we came down from his room, and they were all going back to theirs. lol...
Raerae
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I totally agree with you! If anything, a guy will WANT to do it how you like it. Chances are, he's gonna get his regardless of what position you do it in. So you might as well do it in a position that's good for you!
Another thing that i've found helps, is you can always touch your spot while he's taking care of you. If how he's doing it, isn't hitting the right spot, help yourself out. He's not going to care, he might even notice, and do it for you
If your into it (although sometimes you just want it to be over with), you might as well enjoy it.
| Originally Posted by MissChievous
Well, that may be true, but I think women are equally as responsible in letting their partner know what they want and to help him please you. I mean, a lot of men just don't really know what their partner wants because the women don't say anything and just keep quiet because they don't know how to voice their concerns. Every woman - as is obvious by this thread - likes something different, so it's hard for a guy to know what to do with each partner he may have. I think it's often not an issue of being selfish, it's that the male partner doesn't know what he is doing isn't giving the woman any pleasure, and she doesn't speak up. With all the partners I've had (granted, it hasn't been that many since I've been in a relationship for a long time), they seemed very accomodating and responsive when I let them know I didn't like what they were doing, and showed them how I did enjoy it. |
I totally agree with you! If anything, a guy will WANT to do it how you like it. Chances are, he's gonna get his regardless of what position you do it in. So you might as well do it in a position that's good for you!
Another thing that i've found helps, is you can always touch your spot while he's taking care of you. If how he's doing it, isn't hitting the right spot, help yourself out. He's not going to care, he might even notice, and do it for you
SingFrAbsoltion
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Hahaha drunk sex. So good. But we have to be somewhere very private with no one at all around cause I get loud. Like really loud. Good times
regarding how it takes.. usually he goes for 15-30 min but sometimes he tries to stop cause i guess he doesn't want to finish that early but i tell him to just go ahead when he feels like it. I'd rather do it a couple of times than once with all those pauses.
| Originally Posted by landonsmother
drunk sex is always good. LOL. it seems to last longer than usual & for some reason it always feels 10x better. hahaha. |
Hahaha drunk sex. So good. But we have to be somewhere very private with no one at all around cause I get loud. Like really loud. Good times
regarding how it takes.. usually he goes for 15-30 min but sometimes he tries to stop cause i guess he doesn't want to finish that early but i tell him to just go ahead when he feels like it. I'd rather do it a couple of times than once with all those pauses.
j_absinthe
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Which man?
huhHAW!
But seriously, the longest I've gone with a guy is a couple hours.
huhHAW!
But seriously, the longest I've gone with a guy is a couple hours.
labellavita7
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My last boyfriend was just like yours. First time would be like max 3 minutes. I'm the only girl he's slept with though so he's still learning. I'd always make him have sex with me again because... COME ON... that's not fair haha. Second time would normally be like 15-20 like you said. I had the same exact problem, our parents were ALWAYS home, so it's not like we could do it on a regular basis long enough for him to get used to it. Get your boyfriend drunk, he'll last sooo much longer lol
