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Originally Posted by lovemichelle
1.I don't have to do that. I have a boyfriend for helping me in that area.
2.As for what Risa said I won't even say everything I feel like saying, but I don't think my boyfriend asking me to cover up means I have no self respect. I had no self respect when I was in a grocery store with a low cut top on. I think of it as there are kids around also almost everywhere you go and they dont need to see it. You work in Macys so I'm sure you see kids and I bet someones mother would be happy to see your boobs. Being in the privacy of my own home or his I wear whatever I want. I wear see-through shirts and short ass shorts at home, but never in public. And if you say you showing your tits is for yourself why is that? You don't know what your own boobs look like? I believe its for other people to notice. I once was that kinda dresser so I know why its done. I don't think I'm any different from anyone else so I'm sure its for other bonuses then for your own enjoyment or empowerment. Women feel as if they need to prove themselves and I am not one of those women. We should dress any way we want and because we wear low tops and tight jeans that doesn't mean were a hoe. Of course it doesn't, but wouldn't you rather be covered up and have people see you as classy and not the bimbo at macys showing boobs and legs. I don't know maybe I am different. Over the years I have changed a lot and noticed those things aren't flattering.
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1. I have sex with my "boyfriend" on a pretty regular basis but masturbation has nothing to do with that. It's about loving yourself, not needing to bust a nut and not having someone to help you out in "that area"
2. I didn't take what you said as you calling me a bimbo. Though I do think what you said was offensive to women as a gender. While I'll agree with you that there's an appropriate way to dress when you're in public vs. private and at work (for some people) vs. not at work, your "standard" is just that - it's yours. Other people's might be (and probably are) different and it's not your place to sit there in judgement and tell them they shouldn't be wearing that or it's not appropriate or they have no self-respect. The funny thing about this to me, is that I'm a straight tomboy at heart and really only wear heels and/or a skirt maybe a few times a year. I'm comfortable in my jeans, shelltoe adidas and a hoodie. 9 times out of 10, when I'm off work, I wear something along those lines. Even when I go out (to gay clubs) I dress more like a tomboy than a girly girl. But I do like changing it up. Just like with my makeup, I wear different styles depending on my mood. If I'm in a super good mood and it's one of my girls birthday's I'm gonna dress up and rock my mini skirt, heels and tank top to the club or bar. When you look good, (and know you look good), it just boosts your mood that much more. Think about makeup - same thing. Most women like to look pretty, for no one but themselves. After getting your hair done, tell me you don't feel good. Or after doing your makeup to your satisfaction or getting done, same thing. You're dressing up your assets. WHy else do people ask "What colors will make my blue/green/brown eyes pop?" They want to accentuate their assets. Clothes are the same deal. And it's for yourself, not for anyone else. Sure some girls might wear tight, ass hugging pants to get noticed by a guy, but that's not true for all females. Hell, even if I do wear a tight, low cut shirt and I am approached by a guy, 9 times out of 10, I'm not gonna talk to him. No, I'm not stuck up, but if I'm in a club, I'm there to spend time with my friends, not meet a man or in my case, woman. Plus I'm well aware that many guys go to clubs just to try to take women home. I have many male friends and I know how it goes. Not all guys are like that, but a lot are. I went through my stage of meeting guys at clubs and it's not for me. I'm 25 and while I'm not looking for a serious relationship, I'm not looking for a one night stand either. And if someone wants to assume that I am based on the way I'm dressed, let them. I see it as their bad for judging me based on how I'm dressed and I wouldn't want to know them anyhow if they make assumptions about people based on how one is dressed. As for work, I'm well aware of what's appropriate to wear and what's not. In fact sometimes I'll even feel uncomfortable when we're required to wear certain things, so I bring an extra shirt/skirt and then question like 5 of my coworkers who almost always tell me "You're tripping! Just wear the shirt/skirt, it looks fine." I almost never wear skirts, pretty much only when it's required because I walk and take the bus to work. Which means I have to take the bus home . . .and then walk 4 blocks at night. I work downtown, which can turn seedy on certain nights after certain times, and no I don't want attention walking down the street because of how I'm dressed. I may get attention when I am dressed a certain way at clubs, and to be quite honest, when I do decide to wear a skirt and tight shirt, yes I know I'm most likely going to get attention, but that doesn't mean I'm dressing that way because I want it. Because as I already explained, I don't want it. I wear what I want for myself. And while "those things" may not be flattering to you, to others they are. We're all different. No need to make blanket statements. Speak for yourself and try not to generalize.
