i went to a strip club last night lol

[user4]

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Originally Posted by lovemichelle I most defiantly am not boring. I don't need to be in strip clubs and clubs every night to be happy and having fun. I rather be with my boyfriend and get all the love I want at night then watch other people dance around and go home and go to bed. I'm not the type who see's men in porn or anything like that and goes yeah babe lets have sex now because they have totally turned me on. He turns me on and he knows that and the same goes for him. We have an amazing sex life and never once did we need to watch or see other people in order to make that happen. I don't care what other people do, but because I don't agree doesn't mean I'm close-minded or boring. I won't say anything about people thinking I'm anti-female because yeah I do have a great dislike for women. I never met a women I could trust nor have I met a women who I thought was upfront and honest. I'm the type of person who is going to tell you if you look like a slut or not. And shit if I look like that one day I rather someone tell me. My boyfriend was the one who changed the way I dressed. When I met him I wasn't all covered up, but by no means was I on stripper status. Dressing like a slut had nothing to do with strippers anyway because thats what they wear for "work" and lets hope they dress more casual on their off time. Dressing like a hoe or slut is some chick you see in Wal-Mart with her tits hanging out and ass cheeks flapping. There is no need for that. If you need to show off in order to feel good then I find it very sad. I used to show a little boob but I find men like me better now then before because I have respect for my body and myself. Men will respect a women who respects herself. That's why I think a lot of relationships go down the tubes. Women feel the need to show off their shit and be on other men so yeah your man is gonna treat you like a hoe if you act like one. Maybe you guys think showing your tits and ass is fine and dandy, but not from the way I was raised. If having respect for myself is boring that I rather stay that way.

who's talking about dressing in no clothes and walking around with their boobs and ass sticking out??? i thought the convo was about strippers and their jobs...

 

[kaliraksha]

yeah, after seeing a lot of different people describe strip clubs... i think its based a lot on expectations and their personal local strip club experience.. im taking my bf to a transvestite club next week where they strip.. so that should be fun =)

 

[Chelly]

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Originally Posted by lovemichelle I most defiantly am not boring. I don't need to be in strip clubs and clubs every night to be happy and having fun. I rather be with my boyfriend and get all the love I want at night then watch other people dance around and go home and go to bed. I'm not the type who see's men in porn or anything like that and goes yeah babe lets have sex now because they have totally turned me on. He turns me on and he knows that and the same goes for him. We have an amazing sex life and never once did we need to watch or see other people in order to make that happen. I don't care what other people do, but because I don't agree doesn't mean I'm close-minded or boring. I won't say anything about people thinking I'm anti-female because yeah I do have a great dislike for women. I never met a women I could trust nor have I met a women who I thought was upfront and honest. I'm the type of person who is going to tell you if you look like a slut or not. And shit if I look like that one day I rather someone tell me. My boyfriend was the one who changed the way I dressed. When I met him I wasn't all covered up, but by no means was I on stripper status. Dressing like a slut had nothing to do with strippers anyway because thats what they wear for "work" and lets hope they dress more casual on their off time. Dressing like a hoe or slut is some chick you see in Wal-Mart with her tits hanging out and ass cheeks flapping. There is no need for that. If you need to show off in order to feel good then I find it very sad. I used to show a little boob but I find men like me better now then before because I have respect for my body and myself. Men will respect a women who respects herself. That's why I think a lot of relationships go down the tubes. Women feel the need to show off their shit and be on other men so yeah your man is gonna treat you like a hoe if you act like one. Maybe you guys think showing your tits and ass is fine and dandy, but not from the way I was raised. If having respect for myself is boring that I rather stay that way.

first off - thats wayy to much writing - i dont even feel like reading that


SECOND - you think you have every right to go up to a girl and say shes dressed like a whore? - WHY DONT YOU MIND YOUR DAMN BUSINESS! shit! listen to yourself - taking out your women hatred on other girls - calm down mama its ok!!

 

[Chelly]

o n btw for the record = i dont dress like a hoe ... so im not sure where you were going wiht that lol

 

[SonRisa]

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Originally Posted by Chelly o n btw for the record = i dont dress like a hoe ... so im not sure where you were going wiht that lol

I think she was responding to what I said. She had said "if you dress like a hoe, I'll treat you like a hoe." So I asked if women who wear mini skirts and get raped were "asking for it". . . (which she still never answered) and I asked her what exactly a "hoe" wears.

I've written her off as closeminded and judgemental. Amazing that people like that still exsist. If you have no interest in going to a strip club, fine! But get off your high horse with that "We don't need to watch other people get it on to get turned on" bullshit. No one said they needed that. They said they enjoyed it from time to time. If they enjoy it, which I personally do, great! Let them enjoy it and stop acting like you're better than them because you don't care for it - which is funny because you even said you've never been to a strip club so how would you know? Closeminded? I think so.

 

[kaliraksha]

I <3 Sonrisa... a women after my own heart =)

 

[bAbY_cHiCkEn01]

Damn straight Sonrisa!!! Everything you say about this is sooooo correct... You rock!

 

[SonRisa]

And actually, there's varying levels of "strip clubs". The original poster said she went to a gentleman's club. Gentlemen's clubs are normally NOT like what you're probably picturing. Girls are topless, not naked and they dance, normally on a dimly lit stage. Some of the moves are provocative, but they're not on all fours making their ass clap. They may give lap dances or sit and talk to men. Seedy strip clubs on the other hand, have girls sliding up and down the poles naked on a brightly lit stage. . . spread eagle on the floor showing EVERYTHING . . . touching themselves . . . licking their nipples . . . and making their ass clap. And there's those that are in between the two. Women may be completely nude, but not get raunchy. Personally, I prefer to stay away from the seedy joints because they're full of nasty old men with their hands down their pants and often times drunk younger guys who fold dollar bills into paper airplanes and throw them at the girls asshole or whatever. Sorry for being graphic, but that's how it is. I choose not to go to those places, not because of the girls, but because of the environment. The blantant objectification and disrespect. I feel bad for the girls who work in those types of places. Gentlemen's clubs on the other hand are pretty nice. Business men AND women are there. People go there after work to have a drink and chill. Couples go there. The girls put on a performance - and that's what it is. Like going to an art gallery. You can appreciate her beauty, the curves of her body and the way she moves. But then again you wouldn't know the difference because as you stated, going to what you think a strip club is, is beneath you.

 

[SonRisa]

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Originally Posted by lovemichelle I won't say anything about people thinking I'm anti-female because yeah I do have a great dislike for women. I never met a women I could trust nor have I met a women who I thought was upfront and honest. My boyfriend was the one who changed the way I dressed. When I met him I wasn't all covered up, but by no means was I on stripper status. There is no need for that. If you need to show off in order to feel good then I find it very sad. I used to show a little boob but I find men like me better now then before because I have respect for my body and myself. Men will respect a women who respects herself. That's why I think a lot of relationships go down the tubes. Women feel the need to show off their shit and be on other men so yeah your man is gonna treat you like a hoe if you act like one. Maybe you guys think showing your tits and ass is fine and dandy, but not from the way I was raised. If having respect for myself is boring that I rather stay that way.

#1 - you have some serious issues if you "have a great dislike for women". Seriously, go get therapy or something. Basically you hate yourself, because guess what?!? You are a woman!

#2/3 - The fact that you let your boyfriend tell you what to wear and what not to wear shows that you're a hypocrite and you in all actuality have no respect for yourself. To let someone control what you wear - he's controlling you. I can understand wearing certain things when it's appropriate and what not, but for fucks sake do you live for yourself or your boyfriend? "I find men like me better now because I have respect for my body and myself". Because you cover your body up, all of a sudden you have respect for it? And for yourself? So men now like you better? Do you realize how brainwashed you sound? I have the utmost respect for myself and my body and I wear whatever I damn well please. And I do it with class. Yes, I wear low cut shirts, and mini skirts for no one else but myself. The way you described dressing like a hoe/slut - sounds more like a trashy chick with no class. You're contradicting yourself. So if I go out wearing a mini skirt and a low cut, skin tight, halter top I do or I don't look like a hoe? No ass cheeks are flapping - trust that, and I know how to dress, so how do I look like a hoe? I don't need to show off to feel good, I dress how I want for myself, no one else. I am a stylish person and I like expressing myself through what I wear, how I dress and how I do my makeup ON TOP of what I have to say. And trust me honey, I don't throw myself on ANYONE so before you box us all into some jacked up stereotype you have in your little head try opening your eyes to the world around you and educate yourself because you're sounding really ignorant and naive right about now. Having respect for yourself is never boring, in fact it's empowering. And it's empowering to do what I want, say what I feel and wear what I want. Being controlled and brainwashed by a man or anyone for that matter is far from having respect for yourself.

 

[pumpkincat210]

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Originally Posted by lovemichelle I most defiantly am not boring. I don't need to be in strip clubs and clubs every night to be happy and having fun. I rather be with my boyfriend and get all the love I want at night then watch other people dance around and go home and go to bed. I'm not the type who see's men in porn or anything like that and goes yeah babe lets have sex now because they have totally turned me on. He turns me on and he knows that and the same goes for him. We have an amazing sex life and never once did we need to watch or see other people in order to make that happen. I don't care what other people do, but because I don't agree doesn't mean I'm close-minded or boring. I won't say anything about people thinking I'm anti-female because yeah I do have a great dislike for women. I never met a women I could trust nor have I met a women who I thought was upfront and honest. I'm the type of person who is going to tell you if you look like a slut or not. And shit if I look like that one day I rather someone tell me. My boyfriend was the one who changed the way I dressed. When I met him I wasn't all covered up, but by no means was I on stripper status. Dressing like a slut had nothing to do with strippers anyway because thats what they wear for "work" and lets hope they dress more casual on their off time. Dressing like a hoe or slut is some chick you see in Wal-Mart with her tits hanging out and ass cheeks flapping. There is no need for that. If you need to show off in order to feel good then I find it very sad. I used to show a little boob but I find men like me better now then before because I have respect for my body and myself. Men will respect a women who respects herself. That's why I think a lot of relationships go down the tubes. Women feel the need to show off their shit and be on other men so yeah your man is gonna treat you like a hoe if you act like one. Maybe you guys think showing your tits and ass is fine and dandy, but not from the way I was raised. If having respect for myself is boring that I rather stay that way.

This is quite disturbing... as most of us are girls here.
Nothing wrong with showing a little boob either.

 

[LatinaRose]

Ok, the members on the board may not like me much, but...I am a STRIPPER! I love my job. I make great money, work 4 hours a night 4x per week, and am quite happy with my life. I don't really care if anyone judges me by what I do. I am not ashamed of capitalizing on my assets to get ahead in life. This is America for crying out loud!

While I cannot speak for every dancer, for me it is a job and just that. I go to work, make my money, and go home. I am not a whore and I am not after your boyfriend (have my own and he's great). I find dancing to be quite empowering as a female. I rarely ever feel degraded or humiliated. In fact, I was treated much worse when I worked retail!

Oh, by the way - strippers LOVE mac!!! I would not be surprised if there were a few other dancers on this board.

SonRisa - thanks for the support!

 

[user4]

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Originally Posted by LatinaRose Ok, the members on the board may not like me much, but...I am a STRIPPER! I love my job. I make great money, work 4 hours a night 4x per week, and am quite happy with my life. I don't really care if anyone judges me by what I do. I am not ashamed of capitalizing on my assets to get ahead in life. This is America for crying out loud! While I cannot speak for every dancer, for me it is a job and just that. I go to work, make my money, and go home. I am not a whore and I am not after your boyfriend (have my own and he's great). I find dancing to be quite empowering as a female. I rarely ever feel degraded or humiliated. In fact, I was treated much worse when I worked retail! Oh, by the way - strippers LOVE mac!!! I would not be surprised if there were a few other dancers on this board. SonRisa - thanks for the support!

why would you say we won't like you much. please don't have that impression. just because there are certain people who are a bit closed-mided about the world and things around them doesn't mean that everyone is going to give you the evil eye... it is your occupation, it is not all of who you are!!!

and risa... I LOVE YOU!!! thanks for being so openmided and being able to express everything that most of us want to say but can't!!!

 

[libra14]

"Ok, the members on the board may not like me much, but...I am a STRIPPER!"

I bet there's only one closed-minded ignorant jerk here that would feel that way. The rest of us don't care what your profession is. We just like to chat, look at your FOTD's, make friends, etc....

BTW I would do your job if I had a good body. Alas, I do not so I wouldn't make much money

 

[Juneplum]

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Originally Posted by msthrope i dunno...people keep telling my things are different in the states, but around here, each set ends with the girl on her back; stark naked; her legs spread eagled in the air; and guys pelting loonies at her twat. i think it's the height of degradation and humiliation for all involved.

WHAT?????????

that's just wrong.

 

[Juneplum]

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Originally Posted by SonRisa I couldn't agree more. I can't believe I'm reading half of this. "Women look fake and made up" etc. "When you dress like a hoe I'll treat you like a hoe. . ." So I'm just asking but if a women is dressed in a mini skirt and halter top and she gets raped, do you think she was "asking for it"?!? I too am appauled at the anti-women sentiment coming across in these statements. I understand we were all raised differently with different values etc, but jesus christ, I could have sworn this was 2006! And tell me, how does a hoe dress exactly? Do you realize that strippers wear what they do because it's a costume for their job? Yes, they chose that job. Some may have the job oly to make money, others may truly enjoy the empowerment they feel. Many of you may not understand this but I remember reading a paper in college about this in one of my human sexuality classes. It was all about embracing being a woman and having the power to turn a man on. Make him want something he can't have. I could be wrong, but I'm getting the feeling that a lot of these comments are coming from people who are not secure with themselves (not even their relationship), but themselves. If you can honestly say that women disgust you, do you love yourself? How could you and make a statement like that? Women are sexy, period. As a gender we just have more sex appeal than any male ever will. It's in our very essence. I really just don't see the big deal. A healthy sexual appetite is good for the body, mind and soul and if indulging in fantasies is part of that, who are you to judge and say it's wrong?!

AMEN.

 

[Juneplum]

amen, and double amen.


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Originally Posted by SonRisa I've written her off as closeminded and judgemental. Amazing that people like that still exsist. If you have no interest in going to a strip club, fine! But get off your high horse with that "We don't need to watch other people get it on to get turned on" bullshit. No one said they needed that. They said they enjoyed it from time to time. If they enjoy it, which I personally do, great! Let them enjoy it and stop acting like you're better than them because you don't care for it - which is funny because you even said you've never been to a strip club so how would you know? Closeminded? I think so.

 

[Shawna]

If you're a woman who hates women, what do you do when you want to masterbate? Pretend you're a man??

 

[MACmermaid]

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Originally Posted by Shawna If you're a woman who hates women, what do you do when you want to masterbate? Pretend you're a man??

ha good point! although maybe if you are a woman who thinks women are gross you don't engage in this sort of activity lol. . .

the bottom line for me is that it doesn't matter if you are into going to strip clubs or you are not...it's when you start to judge people who hold a different opinion from your own that it matters! i think a bunch of people have expressed this sentiment already; i just wanted to say it too!

 

[LatinaRose]

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Originally Posted by Shawna If you're a woman who hates women, what do you do when you want to masterbate? Pretend you're a man??

hahahaha

 

[Juneplum]

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Originally Posted by Shawna If you're a woman who hates women, what do you do when you want to masterbate? Pretend you're a man??