Originally Posted by Casadalinnis
That's what got us caught...people saw us having lunch and it was the talk of the Muslim community and his parents heard. I knew better but was fed up with hiding it because it didn't feel like I should have to. You've just proven that meals can be the downfall of a relationship. 
Seriously congrats on pulling through and people can stare, just don't stare back. I find it better to have people think they haven't affected my day and 2 minutes later you're fine again because he's still there with you. My current is fully Caucasian and his family was scared at first then they realized what I'm like....now if they send me one more book on eternal damnation I'll have to flip but I love them regardless. Shoot they're stuck with me and he's stood by me.
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| Originally Posted by 06290714
I believe that interracial relationships are the greatest, IMO. I'm Asian and my boyfriend is Palestinian (muslim). I love it, I've always been attracted to guys that weren't asian because I like the culture difference and I just feel like myself and my signiciant other would be able to learn so much from each other. My parents don't care who I'm with as long as I'm happy HOWEVER I can't say the same about his. All this older siblings are in arranged marriages AND they are super happy. My boyfriend doesn't want to do it because he wants the freedom to date whomever he wants and meet who HE wants. His parents, for the last 10 years and till this day still hopes that he will one day agree to the arranged marriage OR date somebody of his own kind BUT they know of me and I know his Dad has finally said that as long as my son is happy than I'm happy. I know his Mom hasn't reached that point yet and I totally accept that. I'm very family orientated and it hurts me deeply when I sit around and think about how after all these years we've been together I have not attended any of his family get togethers/parties and have never set foot into his house. I pray that one day they will accept me as if I was of their kind. I may not be the same ethnicity and may not have the same culture beliefs/backrounds but I'm a great person with a good heart. *SIGHS*...I'm still waiting for that day to come around but the flip side is that my boyfriend said that he wants to get married & have kids and nothing will stop him from doing so with me. I hope his parents will one day accept me
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| Originally Posted by ForgetRegret
Hey sweetie, I just got around to reading this thread, and when I came across this, I had to ask you why you can't just raise your kids speaking English AND Spanish? Kids start speaking well before they go to school, so it seems to me that you could teach your kids English, and your man could teach them Spanish. I apologize if I missed something you said, and I'm not understanding it right, but I don't see why there'd be any reason you couldn't have your child(ren) speak English and Spanish equally. Given the fact that it's easier to learn languages at a young age, I would think it would be perfect to teach both, and that way neither family feels left out. As for the general idea of this thread I have absolutely no problems with interracial relationships. I've personally never been in one, but I'm certainly not opposed to it either. You love who you love, and why should the melanin content of your skin matter. Science has no place in matters of the heart. |
| Originally Posted by blackeneddove
Hey, sorry I took so long to reply, I've been MIA- I suppose we could teach them both languages, but I'd rather not confuse the kid by teaching both at once.. I've seen how his sister raised her kids, she raised off of Spanish until they were about 4 and then she used flashcards, games, etc to teach them English once they were fluent in one language. So I'm really just basing my thoughts on this, because it's all I've seen. I guess it's worth a shot though, right? My main concern was confusion, but thanks for responding! |
| Originally Posted by AdrianUT
I had never considered race in dating before I met my SO. I gave him a chance b/c he was very nice and respectful in approaching me just like I would any other guy. We have been together coming on 2 years now. I am Black (creole admixture) and he is Asian Indian. My family never mentioned his race and have fully accepted him and he really loves my family. His family is like "eh" about me. There is a very large Indian community in Houston and they usually don't notice or look and continue on with their day when we are in that social setting. Black people are usually either supportive and very interested in our relationship or just plain rude and feel like its ok to speak their mind and they have no clue of our situation. Most close friends can be a little curious about the relationship but, we are both open to questions and I think that has helped a lot. Also learning about one another's culture has help us probably last this long. A majority of people usually don't notice we are different anyway or don't care. I think it's more important to focus on character rather than color when choosing a mate. |
| Originally Posted by L1LMAMAJ
the thing is, i don't date for the hell of it. if i can't imagine myself MARRIED with the guy, there is no point in dating him. i was really into him and i guess he was for a while but it all faded. we broke up eventually (not because of the race issue or family or anything like that) because he cheated on me with a sorority chick he met one night. |
| Originally Posted by kittykit
My parents have no problems with me dating other races. I'm another product of interracial relationship. My bf is a Central European and when we started going out I was afraid his family wouldn't like it because I'm another race. They turn out to be really nice people and his mom loves me. His dad even attended lessons to improve his English so that he can chat with me. I live in a country where Asians are minorities. They do stare at me when I'm out with my bf but it doesn't really bother me... |
