Mothers who buy LV's for their 8 yr old daughters. URGH!

[cupcake_x]

Congratulations on your job offer!

Yikes. That's insane that some people would buy such an expensive item for such a young girl. She could lose it or mess it up, seeing as she's only 8. Yes, for some $400 isn't a lot of money, but the part in me that likes donating to charities and is very aware of the worlds poverty, is saying "WHY??? Why not donate that money?"

Even if I had the money, I wouldn't spend that much on one item. I'd rather splurge at MAC or Sephora. I plan on going into a job that pays well and I know I'll always buy my clothes second hand or at Forever 21. I just wouldn't trust myself with a really expensive item. Knowing me, I'd lose it.

However, I doon't think that's as bad as the lady I saw at the mall who was with her 10 year old (just an estimate) daughter picking out PLAYBOY purses.

PS., What makes you think she's spending her husbands money? She sounds ridiculous looking but she could be very successful herself. Sorry, I just felt like I needed to say that.

 

[sinergy]

^^my friend that I was talking about? Her daughter had playboy earrings and a t-shirt on the other day. I was like, ookkaayy...

 

[cupcake_x]

Oh lord. Hopefully she won't be one of those girls who say, "When I grow up I wanna work at Hooters! Or be a Playboy model!"

 

[Lapis]

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Originally Posted by cupcake_x Congratulations on your job offer! Yikes. That's insane that some people would buy such an expensive item for such a young girl. She could lose it or mess it up, seeing as she's only 8. Yes, for some $400 isn't a lot of money, but the part in me that likes donating to charities and is very aware of the worlds poverty, is saying "WHY??? Why not donate that money?" Even if I had the money, I wouldn't spend that much on one item. I'd rather splurge at MAC or Sephora. I plan on going into a job that pays well and I know I'll always buy my clothes second hand or at Forever 21. I just wouldn't trust myself with a really expensive item. Knowing me, I'd lose it. However, I doon't think that's as bad as the lady I saw at the mall who was with her 10 year old (just an estimate) daughter picking out PLAYBOY purses. PS., What makes you think she's spending her husbands money? She sounds ridiculous looking but she could be very successful herself. Sorry, I just felt like I needed to say that.

ok the bold
At what point are people allowed to say I've done all I can for the poor I'm going to do something for me/my kids?
Because truthfully I know that people see our makeup collections and think, "those vain, low self esteem bitches! They need to stop buying all that makeup and donate to the less well off!"
I know I hear it all the time from ppl who see my kids closets, and it doesn't make them happy that 100% of my son's clothes are donated when he out grows them and quite a bit of my dd's, you will piss someone off! it's a certainty!

On the other part, I think only you know you but there is a point where going to hunt for the perfect second hand outfit takes more money because your time is more valuable

On playboy, I'm not a fan of it, but just look at how much the mac playboy line goes for, it's sorta moved out of the realm of porn and into a cultural icon, it's up to mothers to explain the company to the kids esp girls and why when you walk around with the logo plastered on them what it signifies

I'm not defending raising brats, but you can raise respectful kids who know how to treat ALL items well, yes they will lose/break something they are kids but all kids lose/break something thought to be valuable.

 

[QueenEmB]

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Originally Posted by Onederland So i was in MAC today, buying some paints, pigments, eyeliner, and stuff... While i was in line, this HUGE breasted italian woman with stilletto's a tighter than spandex shirt, and a white fur coat, with Chanel Sunglasses came in with her 8 yr old daughter, Carrying with her a 400 dollar Louis Vuitton Bag, thats no bigger than 5" x 5" x 3", i kidd you not! It wasnt even big enough to hold a cell phone. And 400 bucks for that?!!?!?!?!?! Urgh i HATE women like that, women who feed of their husband's money. Just had to get my rant, how many of you have seen the type, and know what im talking about? And all the MAC MA's were all "oohing and awwing" over the little LV, except my MA, she just stood there and whispered to me, "Urgh..."

There's a whole load of judging / generalising / assuming going on on this post!

 

[iadoremac]

First of all alot of women these days have their own cash. Secondly if she wants to buy her 8 year old LV there is nothing wrong with it. WHen i was growing up my parents got me everything i wanted and i mean everything because they could afford it and i was a good kid.

 

[BEA2LS]

i really do not care how parents spend money, but i do think it cheapens the brand when 8 year olds carry it around

 

[BEA2LS]

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Originally Posted by MeganGMcD I grew up poor, my dad had some really great jobs that were taken out from under him because of the decline of the steel foundaries in the 80s. I won't get into all of it. He scraped his way back up the construction ladder, and now is comfortable, NOT LOUIS VUITTON comfy, but comfy. If I wanted spendy clothes, I bought them myself. My dad learned that from his OBSCENELY wealthy aunt. All of her kids worked to get things in life and now they are all successful in their OWN right. This woman had more money than GOD but was so tight with it, well I won't get into that. But lets just say this woman COULD drop 400 bucks on a purse like I can buy a lipgloss from Walgreens. So this mom buys her 8 yr old an LV, and then will gasp *they are growing up so fast*.

the same thing happened with my family.. my dad lost his job of nearly 30 years with the steel industry and climbed his way back up. once the money started coming in my parents spolied us a bit, but it was nice because we were older and appreciated it a lot more.

 

[sinergy]

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Originally Posted by Lapis ok the bold Because truthfully I know that people see our makeup collections and think, "those vain, low self esteem bitches! They need to stop buying all that makeup and donate to the less well off!" I know I hear it all the time from ppl who see my kids closets, and it doesn't make them happy that 100% of my son's clothes are donated when he out grows them and quite a bit of my dd's, you will piss someone off! it's a certainty! On playboy, I'm not a fan of it, but just look at how much the mac playboy line goes for, it's sorta moved out of the realm of porn and into a cultural icon, it's up to mothers to explain the company to the kids esp girls and why when you walk around with the logo plastered on them what it signifies I'm not defending raising brats, but you can raise respectful kids who know how to treat ALL items well, yes they will lose/break something they are kids but all kids lose/break something thought to be valuable.

I agree with you, really when that same friend of mine sees my 'new' makeup, which I have to save and save for when I want to buy anything, she always makes a comment to our other friends, o yea Im not rich enought to afford MAC, thats expensive stuff for people who like to spend money. WTF?!?!?

also the playboy thing, yea its kind of mainstream now, you walk into hot topic and there are all the little emo kids wearing the 'cool' pink.black/white playboy bunny things, and even the last time we went my daughter picked up some cute bracelets from the clearance rack, but they were playboy bunny and they had little woman figures on them, she didnt really look at them they just had the colors she liked and when she brought them to me i just told her that they were more for older people she could look at some other stuff and she settled for some more kid friendly Keropi ones

so we had a talk about it and i had to explain to her what playboy was and how it wasnt appropriate for her age group thats when she mentioned her friends earrings and tee thats why she picked them up in the first place cause her friends stuff caught her eye with the cool colors and glitter. but she understood thank goodness.

 

[shea_47]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer My kids are going to hate me. They're going to have to pay their insurance on whatever they drive. Or they can make a 200 a month payment to us for whatever they drive. One or the other. *shrug*

I grew up in a small town and in high school, kids called me "rich bitch" because I had a beat up Nissan altima and an LV purse at the age of 16 (both of which I bought myself).

My parents make me pay insurance, and I don't hate them. My family is upper middle class and my parents easily could pay for a new car, all my insurance and tuition. They could have also spoiled me beyond possibility. Instead, they taught me about the value of saving for the future at the age of 8 years old, and all of my allowance went straight into a savings account. I worked super hard in highschool to make sure my grades were high enough I could get some scholarships for uni, my grandma sold me her old car, and I make the insurance payments. It made me realize the true value of money and how much work goes in to make an car payment,etc.

I can admit however, that at 19 years old and in 2nd year uni, I still do not know how to work the washing machine. I can iron and I'm great at folding but my mom still does my laundry. I had never washed dishes until grade 10 foods class either...

 

[Lemonade Lover]

I would have no problem with providing well for and treating my child (if I had one). Not with an endless supply of designer bags or stuff to that tune of money though. Or by tending to their every whim.

I know there's some people that say why not do something nice for your kids if you can afford it. But that's the thing, I don't think it IS nice. All it's doing is setting them up for a life of being a spoiled, materialistic shallow person that places far too much importance on money. People will be turned off by them so they will have few friends, they will be un-motivated to provide for themselves and won't be able to cope in the big bad world when they encounter problems that money can't sort because they've had everything handed to them on a plate and everything done for them.

Also even if all of the above wasn't an issue I just don't see the point. How many kids would actually get any more enjoyment out of a designer bag than they would a cheap faux leather one. Or any more enjoyment out of Juicy sweats than cheap rip-offs. The majority don't even know the difference until they are in full time education and mixing with other kids that are old enough to be knowledgeable on the subject. Plus they could destroy stuff without a second though and the idea that a mother would buy her kid something so expensive knowing that is just obscene when some people struggle to buy food. I'm not saying these people should be donating their money to others. Just that I can't believe it doesn't make people feel guilty enough to put their money to better use for themselves. Rather than spoiling their kids for the future just to use them as a status symbol in the present.

Also a LV, I would never buy my kid one of those anyway. I think they are just about as tacky as the Playboy brand.

 

[SolarWhite]

What if it was her mothers and she just wanted to carry it? Or maybe it was a hand-me-down?
I guess it isn't a big shock to me because as a child the amount of that purse was my weekly allowance. I am piss poor now but I can see how that amount is practically pennies to some people, that's all.

 

[Lapis]

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Originally Posted by Lemonade Lover I know there's some people that say why not do something nice for your kids if you can afford it. But that's the thing, I don't think it IS nice. All it's doing is setting them up for a life of being a spoiled, materialistic shallow person that places far too much importance on money. People will be turned off by them so they will have few friends, they will be un-motivated to provide for themselves and won't be able to cope in the big bad world when they encounter problems that money can't sort because they've had everything handed to them on a plate and everything done for them.

So in your mind buying your child the best you can afford makes them super spoilt?
Sorry I think that's a bunch of crock!
Providing the best for your kids does not necessarily make them spoilt brats who are anti social and incapable of bonding with others on a respectful level, with no type of self starting determination.
There are plenty other factors that determine how screwed up kids will be.

 

[Lemonade Lover]

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Originally Posted by Lapis So in your mind buying your child the best you can afford makes them super spoilt? Sorry I think that's a bunch of crock! Providing the best for your kids does not necessarily make them spoilt brats who are anti social and incapable of bonding with others on a respectful level, with no type of self starting determination. There are plenty other factors that determine how screwed up kids will be.

As I said I don't think there is anything wrong with treating kids. I said that I think tending to their every whim and constantly buying them everything they want including expensive designer handbags. Will make them spoilt and give them other issues.

It really depends what you mean by the best you can afford and your reasons for buying it. If we're talking about the best schools, organic food, quality clothes or the better bike etc because it's their birthday then fair enough. But then I never said it was money being spent on those type of things that caused problems. So can't really understand why you've replied reacting as if that is what I've said. I was talking about buying your kid something everytime they ask simply because they want it and/or because it is the most expensive. When it is something they don't even need and costs loads of money, like a designer handbag.So yes I think that more often than not that will lead to problems later on and professionals tend to agree.

Also it's not really a case of determining whether that makes them a spoiled brat or not. The fact they are demanding these things in the first place makes them a brat and the fact they are receiving them makes them spoilt. No need for any more analysis.

 

[Lapis]

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Originally Posted by Lemonade Lover As I said I don't think there is anything wrong with treating kids. I said that I think tending to their every whim and constantly buying them everything they want including expensive designer handbags. Will make them spoilt and give them other issues. It really depends what you mean by the best you can afford and your reasons for buying it. If we're talking about the best schools, organic food, quality clothes or the better bike etc because it's their birthday then fair enough. But then I never said it was money being spent on those type of things that caused problems. So can't really understand why you've replied reacting as if that is what I've said. I was talking about buying your kid something everytime they ask simply because they want it and/or because it is the most expensive. When it is something they don't even need and costs loads of money, like a designer handbag.So yes I think that more often than not that will lead to problems later on and professionals tend to agree. Also it's not really a case of determining whether that makes them a spoiled brat or not. The fact they are demanding these things in the first place makes them a brat and the fact they are receiving them makes them spoilt. No need for any more analysis.

Actually you didn't say that you made a VERY general statement and I gave a general reply and I stand by my reply
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I know there's some people that say why not do something nice for your kids if you can afford it. But that's the thing, I don't think it IS nice. All it's doing is setting them up for a life of being a spoiled, materialistic shallow person that places far too much importance on money. People will be turned off by them so they will have few friends, they will be un-motivated to provide for themselves and won't be able to cope in the big bad world when they encounter problems that money can't sort because they've had everything handed to them on a plate and everything done for them.

With no specifications of what was nice I thought your comment was crappy, even with definitions I don't think it's the best

The fact is that we don't know anything about the family, people are assuming based on what the OP said and excuse me if I don't find her impartial; we don't know if the bag was a fake or the mothers, yet people tore down the mother as a gold digger! and the child as a spoilt brat.
We don't know crap about this family and yet people were tearing down a woman and her child!

Hell I know total adults that never got what they wanted their families could not afford it, it's just their personalities never to be happy with what they have and to be discontented bitches
I see it with 2 kids I know, one will be like it's not pink sparkly or shining out my ass, the other will be like thank you I love it, the one who's grateful is the one with who should be a spoilt brat, the other has a single mother who can't afford to spoil, yet that one won't be happy for the world and always want more and they are being treated by others.

There is also the fact that parents don't have to have a reason to treat their child, what can seem to the world as catering to whims, may be a child who rarely ask for anything, but their mother buys them everything in a mac line and nothing else extra for 6 months, is that child spoilt because I happened to see her mother buying the line? no! now if she cops an attitude I'd be tempted to call her a little twit, but if she ask politely and her mother says yes who am I to judge?

As a mother my reason for buying certain pricey items goes like this
they wanted it -- I felt like giving them it/good grades/good behavior/my high needs toddler didn't puke in the car

why should I have a life or death thought process over a toy? I don't over my mac collection.

 

[blurpleberry]

hell, if i was rolling in money like that.. why not spoil my kids a little with it? at least the lady wasn't spending it ALL on herself. now, if the little girl was acting like a brat, too... then that's a different story... we don't want another one of those teen b*tches you see on MTV's my sweet sixteen that like have to have this car or that dress or else they whine like no tomorrow... but if she's a sweet lovely girl, then why not

 

[hello_my_apple]

if she can afford it why not? i dont see anything wrong with it .. it seems ridiculous to us because im sure we arent rolling in Donald Trump type of money. what makes me upset is when people who live in government fianced homes, drive around in BMW's and buy them and thier kids designer/ higher end stuff. you have to realize that living within your means goes for poor, rich, and inbetween.

and .. and if she's living off her husbands money so what? atleast she's married to him it's her husbands money therefore half of hers.

 

[Boasorte]

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Originally Posted by jfmuni hell, if i was rolling in money like that.. why not spoil my kids a little with it? at least the lady wasn't spending it ALL on herself. now, if the little girl was acting like a brat, too... then that's a different story... we don't want another one of those teen b*tches you see on MTV's my sweet sixteen that like have to have this car or that dress or else they whine like no tomorrow... but if she's a sweet lovely girl, then why not

And that's where it all starts, at that young age. I remember one sweet 16'er who bragged on the Tyra Show she got her first credit card at 11. Seriously?

And others are right, it could have been a hand me down or she just wanted to carry her mom's pocketbook, whatever.
But, you know, in this day and age, it's just common I guess for people to want to look hot in the most expensive stuff.
I remember talking to this 2 wealthy ladies about something like this a few months ago, and I remember them saying " I buy my kids Target shi*, who spends $100 on shoes or whatever for their 2 year old?"

It's not only wealthy people doing this, I find it's more broke ppl or ppl with not so much money, especially in a state like New York. Everyone in my high school wore Prada, Gucci, and Louis Vuitton sneakers , and bought $400 Marmot coats, when no one there was making any "real" money to actually afford it.
Young girls getting pregnant would buy Bug-A-Boo strollers, and Burberry dresses for their daughters.

So don't blame "rich" people, it's everyone doing this

 

[hello_kitty]

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Originally Posted by hello_my_apple if she can afford it why not? i dont see anything wrong with it .. it seems ridiculous to us because im sure we arent rolling in Donald Trump type of money. what makes me upset is when people who live in government fianced homes, drive around in BMW's and buy them and thier kids designer/ higher end stuff. you have to realize that living within your means goes for poor, rich, and inbetween. and .. and if she's living off her husbands money so what? atleast she's married to him it's her husbands money therefore half of hers.

I agree with you! If they can afford it, it's theirs to do as they please (even if I do think some things are silly). My problem is the people on welfare/government services that spend it on designer stuff and luxury cars... because that's my money they're using... and I wouldn't mind a BMW, too!

I agree about the husband thing, too... American society use to be very "wife is housewife, stays at home" and now it's basically a crime to be a housewife in today's society. If the family has the means for the wife to stay home, why is that a BAD thing? And who knows, maybe the woman in question in this thread really does have a job, you can't necessarily just tell by looking at someone if they're just spending their husband's money or their own.

 

[funkychik02]

I don't get the big deal. I was rocking furs before I could tie my shoe. I'm not rolling like that anymore, though! haha