Mothers who buy LV's for their 8 yr old daughters. URGH!

[*Stargazer*]

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Originally Posted by Uchina If I EVER, in my LIFE, asked for an LV bag my daddy woulda taken a baseball bat to my knees.

Mine would have laughed til he puked. And he had more than enough money to buy me whatever I asked for. But I was taught the value of money and had to work to get things I wanted that were above the norm. The greatest gift my parents gave me was an understanding of the real value of money and the ability to make it for myself.

 

[mzcelaneous]

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Originally Posted by Juneplum i mean i waited until i was working and earning a salary befor i treated myself to my very first LV..(which then created my LV addiction) hee hee.

Me too

I believe in earning luxury items and that you shouldn't rely on anyone other than yourself for items like that. Receiving them as gifts are great as well

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Originally Posted by martygreene My parents didn't let me have anything really worth much as a child either, besides my violin (which is hard to get around the expense and still learn properly, etc.) and my drawing supplies.

Me too....again. I rarely had clothes purchased for me, received a lot of hand-me-downs. Not that it's bad or anything. My parents just didn't purchase anything "for fun" for me other than my piano and clarinet. I provide my daughter with lots of books, toys, games, clothes and such but if my she asked me for an LV, Juicy, or whatever couture purse now, I'd say heck-to-the-NO!

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Originally Posted by aziajs 1. I personally don't care about women spending up their husbands money. That's between them. If it works for them fine. If I married wealthy I would probably do the same thing - just keeping it real. 2. You can't assume the money was her husband's. 3. An 8 yr old doesn't need a LV purse. But to play devil's advocate, for people who can afford it, buying a LV purse for their daughter may not be any different than the average person buying their daughter a $20 purse from Target, for instance. Just put it into perspective. Just imagine what the mother and father must be accustomed to and the luxuries they spend money on. 4. I do believe that you have to teach children the value of money and to appreciate what they have. If you don't you'll have children who will take for granted that they will always get what they want and they won't value anything.

The money could've been her hard earned cash. And I'm not telling anyone how to spend they're money as long as the child is well taken care of and all is good & gravy. It's their money to spend however they choose. I personally wouldn't purchase my daughter anything luxurious, even if I had the money, simply because I don't think she needs it. If she wants it, she gotta work for it.

 

[sheaspearl83]

LV, Coaches, Dooney, etc for daughters

I have an 8 year old and a 16 year old which I have spent $200 bucks for a purse for...as for my 8 year old, it was the ugliest purse to me because it has a fish on it. However, she has balanced straight A's along with competition cheerleading and keeps a wonderful attitude. She will also save her own money to contribute. It's really about the upbringing of the girls and that purse could have been the only thing she's ever gotten expensive or it could have been a special reward for something. I think that we become envious and past judgment way too fast.
By the way, not every woman needs a man to spend his money...many women today are paving their own way. Especially me, my husband would never purchase a $50 purse for our girls, so I work for I want. However, I have witnessed too many women falling as prey to men that will buy them nicer things because they didn't have these things growing up. I am teaching my 16 year old that remember what you had at home so no man can ever hold anything over you head, starting with LOVE.
And even my mom thinks we are insane for the money that we spend on makeup. But I tell her, remember it's my money, I've earned it, and I love MAC and I'm not neglecting my family so be it.

 

[iheartcolor]

I think many assume the woman was using her husbands money because that is what she WANTS you to think. It is such a trend and status symbol these days (no matter how repulsive and belittling) that you need/have a man who can buy you all the fancy crap your materialistic little heart desires. I saw this at Sephora once with a football players wife and her stupid brats running around mucking stuff up.

-Lauren

 

[MsCocoa]

Personally I see nothing wrong with buying children luxury items if you can afford it; if I had the money my baby would have diamond studs as their first earrings etc...why not? The LV bag sounds a little OTT, I mean since when did 8 year olds even carry bags but for this lady it was probably like her daughter asking for a bag of sweets at the till, and if she's spending her husbands money (which I think is a crazy assumption)...good for her!

 

[lilMAClady]

I agree with an earlier post on this page. Why assume it was her husband's or bf's money, and not her hard earned cash? It only seems like an absurd amount of money to spend because most of us don't have it. If I did I would. Like a woman said a few posts up her baby would have diamond studs. So would mine if it were possible and I had children. Money doesn't equal spoiled or bratty. It's easy to say what you wouldn't do if you don't have/or never have had it to do it with. I hate to see other people tear other people down especially when all they have to go on is a 1-2 minute glance. I think jealousy plays a role here...good for her if she has it and bless those that don't . Move on. It's just my opinion.

 

[purrtykitty]

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Originally Posted by lilMAClady I agree with an earlier post on this page. Why assume it was her husband's or bf's money, and not her hard earned cash? It only seems like an absurd amount of money to spend because most of us don't have it. If I did I would. Like a woman said a few posts up her baby would have diamond studs. So would mine if it were possible and I had children. Money doesn't equal spoiled or bratty. It's easy to say what you wouldn't do if you don't have/or never have had it to do it with. I hate to see other people tear other people down especially when all they have to go on is a 1-2 minute glance. I think jealousy plays a role here...good for her if she has it and bless those that don't . Move on. It's just my opinion.

You said it all! Would I buy my kids LVs at the age of 8, no, but my kids might be doing other stuff that costs loads more...like taking piano lessons or playing sports. My parents spend well over $400/yr. to pay for piano lessons for me. Now granted, it's an enrichment activity, but nonetheless, it's money my parents earned and chose to spend on a luxury for me. To someone who can't afford it, piano lessons are a luxury, albeit not on the same level as an LV.

I generally agree that a child of that age can't comprehend what that LV really means and thinks that since mommy has one, it must be cool, so she wants one too. But as long as that parent is teaching the kid about the value of money, etc. and she's not spending her welfare checks to buy the stuff, it's none of my business what she does with her (or her husband's) income.

 

[MiCHiE]

I'm a (reformed) purse FREAK. I didn't buy my first LV until I was 29. I just bought my niece a D&B for her 12th bday, but there is NO WAY I'm funding someone else's LV habit.

 

[jillianjiggs]

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Originally Posted by koolmnbv Ok I understand its not good to spoil your kids, but if someone is wealthy why is there child not allowed to have nice gifts,things etc.? I also do not think its fair to assume because someone has alot of money or expensive things they are spoiled etc. I know lots of down to earth ppl. that have ALOT of money!

i agree, thanks for saying this.

or as mac_obsession said, going off to school and not knowing how to do laundry. i'm sorry, but i don't equate that with being spoiled.

i don't mean to use you as an example for this, but you did bring up a lot of things that i hear a lot from people (so this isn't all a reply to just your comment, just in general!

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i didn't do my own laundry when i lived at home, same goes for most of my friends (who also weren't rich) - it was just the way our families were. my mom didn't mind. my mother (and sometimes father) also prepared dinner for us every night - but if we didn't like it, tough. we ate it or we had to make something else. but it was never our primary responsibility to feed ourselves, and i don't think it should be for someone as young as 10.

just because someone's experience at home differs from yours does not mean they are spoiled, or had things given to them on a golden platter. i still learned how to do the laundry, so i know how to do it now that i don't live at home. i also learned how to cook.

my college education is paid for due to my parents' planning ahead and putting a little bit of money into an education fund every year, and i constantly get sarcastic and bitter "lucky you

"s from people who have to pay out of their own pocket. and i really resent it. i am not going to apologize for my parents thinking ahead for my future and wanting me to be all set and on my way to prepare for my own life. it really bothers me a lot.

and even though i got new toys every christmas and birthday, i still understood and was taught the value of money and taking care of my possessions. i have always saved my money from my jobs and never spent friviously - i even feel guilty if i leave MAC with more than one item.

again, different upbringings =/= spoiled, irresponsible and incapable people.

of course there are people like that, since you have encountered them and as have i, but i also know people who had nothing handed to them and had a hard life and are miserable whiney people who act like the world owes them something.

not having a family that did things like laundry or cooking for you as a child doesn't guarantee that you will grow up to be an independent, hardworking, grateful adult.

my friend's parents are constantly struggling financially, and my friend has to cook and do her own laundry and whatever else.

you know what she's doing right now? sitting in her room on her computer all day, barely graduated from high school, no plans or dreams to continue her education, intends on getting a factory job (as her lifelong career) but has never had a job for more than 2 weeks her entire life and isn't even trying to get one right now and she's been out of school for over a year. doesn't look like she'll be changing her ways anytime soon either.

here is someone who had nothing handed to her, no opportunities shown to her, and now she is an uninspired bump on a log who is depressing to be around.

imo it all comes down to parenting and not necessarily how much money you have.

 

[Honey B. Fly]

honestly if i had the $$$ i would buy my daughter an LV. i let her carry her own purse just to be cute n girly anyways so if i had the dough i'd def get her the best just because i could. i love fashion an that would be the main reason behind it, not because of the label.

 

[chameleonmary]

In Sydney, for every 100 LV bags you see, maybe 1 or 2 are authentic. They are sold for $20 in the markets. Heck, my aunt bought 2 for my cousins for a Christmas a few years ago. Someone mentioned earlier that it may be fake; if I were to come across that scene in my area, I would think it was fake too!

 

[Shimmer]

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Originally Posted by jillianjiggs my college education is paid for due to my parents' planning ahead and putting a little bit of money into an education fund every year, and i constantly get sarcastic and bitter "lucky you "s from people who have to pay out of their own pocket. and i really resent it. i am not going to apologize for my parents thinking ahead for my future and wanting me to be all set and on my way to prepare for my own life. it really bothers me a lot.

Let me just say that there are parents who simply didn't have the money to set aside, for whatever reason, and it's not always lack of forethought on the parents' part. Sometimes there just isn't anything to set aside.

 

[user79]

^ Very true Shimmer.

But still, no one should have to feel apologetic for having their college education paid for by family members. Education is a worthy investment, no matter who pays for it, some are just lucky to have parents who have enough money to afford a good education for their children. It's no reason for other students to be bitter and rude about it, simply because they had to take out a loan or something.

 

[Shimmer]

It doesn't excuse bitterness, but it helps to remember where we're all coming from.

 

[Evey]

I feel if you have the money to spend and want to spend that money on buying your kids nice things go ahead. But at the same time, teach your children about the importance of handling money responsibly and teach them that material possessions are just that, material possessions. If I had the money to blow on nice things, I can't say I would buy my 8 year old daughter a 400 dollar purse but, I can assure you that she would have nice things. If she kept her grades up in school and behaved the way she is supposed to behave I would reward her with nice gifts. Because that would teach her that she is EARNING those things by doing good in school and minding her parents and teachers. Once she got older I would make her get a job so that she could learn the value of a dollar and working to earn that dollar. And when she's ready to go to college I would happily pay her tuition so that she could either keep working part time only and have some extra money for herself or just go to school full time and I would provide her with enough money for the bare necessities and every once in a while give her extra spending money if she keeps her grades up in school. I would never spoil my child to the point where they think they are higher up on the totem pole than I am, like the kids I see on My Super Sweet Sixteen. If it's one thing I hate, it's spoiled children. Not only does that make your child look bad it makes the parents look even worse for not putting a stop to that behavior early on. I'll be damned if you're going to yell and curse at me and I'm going to throw you a million dollar party and give you a brand new car you damn sure don't need.

 

[Loveleighe]

I don't even trust myself with an LV purse and I'm 23. Let alone an 8 year old who really has no sense of value. It makes me sick because her daughter's going to more than likely grow up to be a gold digging label whore 9 that sounds so harsh but i've seen it on more than one occassion.

 

[liv]

I try not to judge other's on how they manage their own money, because I don't like when people do it to me, but buying a designer purse for a child is more for the mother than it is the child carrying it. I see it as a way for the mother/parent to boost her own self esteem/self worth, knowing that her child is carrying a designer bag that girls double or triple her age would love to have. The child only places importance on it because of the mother's influence, only continuing the cycle of materialism and the "gimmes."

 

[FullWroth]

I'm not necessarily against giving a small child an expensive designer label bag - kids like to emulate their parents, so it's actually kinda cute if mom can afford to get herself a big LV and a little mini one for her daughter to cart around and play with. If you make enough that you can afford to do that? Hey, good for you!

I'd be more worried about the underlying principles though. If the girl's being taught to appreciate it as an expensive thing that she needs to take good care of because it cost so much and she's one of the lucky people who can have one, I'm down with that. If she's just being trained to be a plastic label queen with no appreciation for how lucky she is, not so much.

And also, I'm seconding (thirding? fourthing?) indignation at the assumption that the woman was spending her husband's money rather than her own.

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Originally Posted by kaliraksha I agree that for insanely rich people it's easier to drop 400 on whatever but you aren't teaching your kids the value of money and posessions.

See, I disagree with that. You can very much explain to your child that this is waaaay expensive, that they are ridiculously lucky to have it, and teach them to take good care of their awesome expensive present, make it a lesson in responsibility. My parents spoiled me as a kid when they could, still spoil me as an adult, and I have never stopped appreciating everything they do for me. I don't brag about what I have, I don't constantly expect more and more, I love to share my goodies with my friends, I don't give a hoot about labels or designers, I pay attention to the price tag on everything and how it relates to the average price on the market, and now that I'm old enough and have a job, I try to spend my own money wherever possible.

I've known some people who were way more well-off than me, and some of them appreciated their wealth and others didn't, and yes, it was obnoxious to hear them being so ungrateful for the stuff they had and so oblivious about how other people live. But I've known far MORE people who looked down on all of us because they didn't have it as easy as us, and that hurts a lot more - the constant assumption (not specifically from you, or from Specktra, but in general everyday life) that I'm a spoiled, clueless little rich girl who has no idea about life or the value of things, just because my parents can afford to get me stuff and I haven't had to struggle to get by. It's incredibly demeaning.

 

[jillianjiggs]

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Originally Posted by Shimmer Let me just say that there are parents who simply didn't have the money to set aside, for whatever reason, and it's not always lack of forethought on the parents' part. Sometimes there just isn't anything to set aside.

oh of course! i didn't mean for it to sound like people's parents who don't put aside money are just thoughtless. i just hate that people assume that i am spoiled or they act bitterly towards me because my parents were in such a position to be able to put money away for me.

 

[sandyyyy <3]

I also wonder sometimes too how like a young girl can take care of LV purse especially when they're so expensive! I see alot of young girls here carrying a Coach bag, Gucci bag, Juicy Couture bag, and sometimes LV. I know that the parents may have alot of money but you can do better things for your child rather than buy them a LV purse which they will probably toss around. I do have one myself only because I saved up my money for it and I have a job! It's nice to buy yourself some kind of luxury when you're older because you know that it was your own money and not your parents.