my boyfriend keeps on messing me around :-(

[User93]

Damn Laura, listen up! There is nothing wrong with you, absolutely nothing. You are a gorgeous pretty sexy girl. The only thing which is wrong is your boyfriend messing around with you. I dont say he doesnt feel for you, yet i say he obviously has some problems and some "thing" for such internet fun. He needs help, or he is just still undefinied with what he wants in life, his goals and his sex preferenses. Bottom line you cant stay in a relationship like that. How many times he promised you he would stop? Girl, i dont wanna sound harsh, but you'd better get out of this. How can there be a future with a man like that? I understand you so good, he is your 1st serious relationship, but please, take care of yourself! Dont let anyone hurt you like that. You deserve so much better. Hugs for you. Dont let him hurt you no more.

 

[trollydolly]

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Originally Posted by Alibi Damn Laura, listen up! There is nothing wrong with you, absolutely nothing. You are a gorgeous pretty sexy girl. The only thing which is wrong is your boyfriend messing around with you. I dont say he doesnt feel for you, yet i say he obviously has some problems and some "thing" for such internet fun. He needs help, or he is just still undefinied with what he wants in life, his goals and his sex preferenses. Bottom line you cant saty in a relationship like that. How many times he promised you he would stop? Girl, i dont wanna sound harsh, but you'd better get out of this. How can there be a future with a man like that? I understand you so good, he is your 1st serious relationship, but please, take care of yourself! Dont let anyone hurt you like that. You deserve so much better. Hugs for you. Dont let him hurt you no more.

i just know that im not going to leave him but i dont know why if you know what i mean.
im so sick of all of this. ive been trying to talk to him about our lack of a sex life and then he goes and does this?
perhaps im just being a bit dramatic about him paying for a girl on a webcam.

 

[Ms. Z]

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Originally Posted by lilMAClady Not only do I agree with the other posters, but you mentioned that you have noone else in your life to turn to. I'm assuming that you told him this. Since he knows this he knows that he can do whatever to you because you (think) you need him. All he has to do is cry and tell you what you want to hear and you'll stay. Leave him. Heed this saying: I can do bad all by myself. The last thing you need in your life is some jerk that doesn't appreciate you. And you weren't being sneaky so don't think you were. You were acting upon your natural sixth sense that something illicit was going on. You have someone else to turn to in your life. YOURSELF! You deserve SO much better!

Very wise advise.

She sure hit the nail on the head. He feels that since you have no one you will continue to accept his bad behavior.

What are you still doing there? This man is no good, and if things are this bad so early on in the relationship it will only get worse Stop wasting your time and the best years of your life. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Hilly]

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Originally Posted by trollydolly perhaps im just being a bit dramatic about him paying for a girl on a webcam.

Please don't compromise your morals/values for this guy!! You are worth so much more than having a guy that doesn't give you his 100%!!

 

[Ms. Z]

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Originally Posted by trollydolly perhaps im just being a bit dramatic about him paying for a girl on a webcam.

Now you are making excuses for him.....like a physically abused mate. Don't downplay his actions.

It is a bid deal; this is not what you want in a relationship, don't settle.

 

[trollydolly]

im so frustrated and fed up of crying about this. hes obviously not going to change but i think ive known that all along

 

[Hilly]

Is there someone that is a friend who can help you move and get out of where you are? Because living with him is going to make it o much harder to leave..because not only leaving him is going to be a struggle, but moving your stuff out and all that (unless you boot him out!)

 

[User93]

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Originally Posted by trollydolly i just know that im not going to leave him but i dont know why if you know what i mean. im so sick of all of this. ive been trying to talk to him about our lack of a sex life and then he goes and does this? perhaps im just being a bit dramatic about him paying for a girl on a webcam.

hun, enough said above by other ladies, NO you are not dramatic, no, you are not overeacting, no, its not normal to play with a girl on webcam as you have a girlfriend. I know you love him. I know thats hard, but girl, you wanna get hurted for the rest of your life? Please, respect yourself, he doesnt seem to do that and care about your feelings. Maybe he loves you in his own special way, but this is not healthy. I know you are attached. I can imaging how are you feeling. But he screwed up way too much. You gonna find someone so much better, that gonna appreciate you, treat you like a princess, bottom line respect you. Please stop finding excuses. Hugs. We are all here for you.

 

[jasminbarley]

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