My Issue With SpecktRa.net

[MACATTAK]

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i have seen fotds and i think what the hell is this person thinking posting this shit on the website there is NO way this chick thinks this looks good.

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i saw ANOTHER fotd of some chicks make up today it was horrid

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seriously my 23 month old nephew could do better than some of the people i see on this site

You didn't outright say to leave rude comments, but damn, it sure seems like you are being rude.

 

[pinkkvintage]

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[sharkbytes]

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The thing is, some people are more thick-skinned than others, and there's no telling how badly you'll hurt someone's feelings. I don't think it's fair to outright lie and say something looks amazing when it doesn't, so when I see a FOTD that I'm not crazy about, I simply don't comment. And I don't begrudge a beginner positive encouragement, because no one is perfect and it takes a lot of guts to post your FACE on the internet for critique.


Specktra isn't an elitist community, where only MAs and those with superior skills get to play. I do get your point though, that people won't learn if they're told what they are doing is already stunning, but the simple fact that they come here shows that they're willing to learn new things. Being mean about it only salts the wound, I think. And besides, who's to say that isn't the best they can do?

 

[jd-jd]

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So you're saying, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so long as I'm the beholder?"

While some people may not be Fox-TV pretty around here, standards of beauty are quite subjective.

The more interesting thing is why you felt the need to make someone else possibly feel bad about what they post as an FOTD here? Your post is not kind and not meant as constructive criticism; it is thinly veiled hostility.

While some people put on makeup in a way I don't care for, I would not post anything about how I hate it--I'd ignore it. I wouldn't even offer a suggestion unless I was asked.

 

[OfficerJenny]

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK You didn't outright say to leave rude comments, but damn, it sure seems like you are being rude.

Our thoughts about an FOTD and what we actually post are two completely different things

 

[chocolategoddes]

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I agree with you to a certain extent.
The vibe Specktra gives off is a very supportive community of people who share the same love of makeup. So when some one logs on to Specktra, it's kind of hard to be 100% honest in a harsh manner, especially when it comes to FOTDs, because that's just not what Specktra's about.

Personally, when I post an FOTD, I want people to be straight up with me and I even will post "CC is encouraged and welcomed". But I don't want people being mean or rude about it.
A lot of people tend to be really sensitive about their makeup and it takes a lot of courage to put your face and makeup out their for random people to comment on.

Keep in mind that their are several other makeup sites where you can be brutally honest , but expect others to be "brutally honest" toward your face as well.

 

[Ciara]

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You cant go wrong with this.....
If you dont have anything nice to say .. dont say anything at all.

I just keep it moving .. to the next thread that is. =)

 

[MACATTAK]

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Originally Posted by OfficerJenny Our thoughts about an FOTD and what we actually post are two completely different things

So you might "sugarcoat" it then?

 

[rbella]

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I don't know why, but I kinda feel this might be directed to my FOTD's.

I know I'm not up to par & you're more than welcome to give me cc anytime. My pics don't ever look the same as irl, but I'm fine with cc. Most comments that annoy you are the ones I get.

 

[pinkkvintage]

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[sharkbytes]

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Originally Posted by rbella I don't know why, but I kinda feel this might be directed to my FOTD's. I know I'm not up to par & you're more than welcome to give me cc anytime. My pics don't ever look the same as irl, but I'm fine with cc. Most comments that annoy you are the ones I get.

I really hope that's not true, because I love your FOTDs. I actually look forward to them.

 

[SuSana]

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I think you should leave CC if they ask for it, in an actual constructive way. But like NicksWifey said, if I don't like someone's color combos or something, just keep moving, no need to comment on it.

 

[Willa]

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Originally Posted by pinkkvintage i dont remember what thread you are referring to... can you tell me what it was? and your right alot of people cant handle the truth and thats why most of the time i never even leave comments because SOME people cant handle hearing you need to improve.. all they can tolerate is YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL OR NICE COLOR COMBO... im just not a person who likes to sugar coat..... but yeah i know if i left a comment to someone saying you need to improve on this or what even if i was being as generic as i could be they would get offended...

I just can't remember right now, sorry

 

[OfficerJenny]

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Originally Posted by MACATTAK So you might "sugarcoat" it then?

Not like OH THAT LOOKS IS FANTASTIC

but i won't say it's complete crap. I'd say something more like "I love the lips! But I don't think they compliment the eye makeup as well as they could" in a case where i liked both the eyes and the lips, just not together.

 

[pinkkvintage]

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[frocher]

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Originally Posted by pinkkvintage i completely agree.

If you agree then I don't understand your stance. We all have different tastes, if others leave comments you don't agree with that doesn't make them false nor are they necessarily sugar coated. They just differ from your own.

 

[pinkkvintage]

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[frocher]

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Originally Posted by pinkkvintage this has nothing to do with 'fox tv' pretty its a matter of people lying or sugar coating what they REALLY think about fotds YOU CAN NOT PROGRESS IF NO ONE TELLS YOU WHAT TO WORK ON its not a matter of what I think is beauty... its a matter of ANYONES opinon on someones fotd and sugarcoating it

But who are you to tell others what they mean? If they are or are not being sincere? I don't know about you, but I can only speak for myself.

 

[pat]

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I completely understand pinkkvintage's (p.v.) point of view is and I understand the other side of the situation as well.

I've posted a couple, if not many FOTDs before and I see the point p.v. is trying to make.

I've actually stopped posting FOTDs for the mean time because I feel that at times, I don't feel that what I post is the "standard". haha... Why? I feel that I do a pretty decent job(crosses fingers) haha, but I don't get enough love as "x" member does. It's kinda discouraging when you see 3 comments rather than 200. LOL

I do believe there are some members that leave comments, just so that they could leave a comment for numbers sake. Get me? hahaha

On the other hand, I do agree that most people sometimes can't take the heat of CC very well.

I know there is a wide range or artist on this page and this is the main reason why I joined specktra in the first place...

*eeeeek! mom's yelling dinner! haha i'll post more on this topic once i get back! (i'm not finished)

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[rbella]

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Originally Posted by pinkkvintage sweetie this is not directed at anyone in particular its just an observation ive made over my time of being a member on this website... and ive never seen your fotds and i just looked and they are definatly NOT the type of fotds i was talking about... im lookin at yours and i actually like them

Just for reference, I'm not pissed or being overly sensitive. I truly am ok with cc. I was just wondering if perhaps you wanted to give me some feedback and felt scared to. I'd welcome it, actually. I honestly felt you were wondering about mine because the "great lip color", "you look great" comments are what I get. I don't feel confident in my application of makeup.

I am open to criticism, but I can see how some might get offended. I was definitely nervous about posting my FOTD's.