Re: My Issue With Speckta.net
I agree with the comment that specktra is intended to be a supportive community. If someone doesn't specifically ask for CC, then I don't think it is necessary to leave it. I look at FOTDs often and totally appreciate those who post them; however, I don't often respond to them.
That being said, I find that for the FOTDs that I am not a big fan of, the responses are typically not the "you're gorgeous" posts, but are more often the "Great lip color", "nice eye combo", etc. So, I think people are utilizing positive reinforcement versus "sugar coating".
Do you really think it's necessary to point out someone weaknesses instead of highlighting the good points when they didn't ask for CC? I guess I don't see the point of that; is it really important to make them feel bad about when they share a passion for makeup or they are already tentative about sharing? I know that when I look back at older FOTDs for many of the regulars here, I see so much improvement over time, and no one posted CC on their older posts. Much of it comes from practice and having the opportunity (such as here on specktra) to see others work/skills.
Also, so much of makeup is personal preference. There are a lot of FOTDs where I am self-aware enough to recognize that it is just not my thing (such as overly defined brows that overtake the look instead of simply enhancing beauty and shape of the face); does that mean someone who posts that the look is "gorgeous" is lying? No, it means that their definition is different than mine or what they are seeing/looking for in FOTDs is different than what I am seeing/looking for.
I would hate for people to stop posting FOTDs because they were concerned with overly critical responses when not requested. Even when someone's skill is still on the learning curve, I often pick up things from their FOTDs, such as new color combos, seeing lip colors, etc., and even just the swatch component of seeing colors "in action".
I do not feel it is our job to tell them how to improve unless they ask for that kind of input, otherwise I am just as happy to "thank" them for posting. And if someone else wants to tell them that it's "gorgeous", it doesn't affect my life at all.
More power to them.
I think this "sugar coating" (although I don't really agree that is what is happening per se) is what makes specktra a safe place for people of ALL skill levels to share.
