Queefs...

[Verient]

Ok, this is really bugging me now! I'm getting sooo nervous about having sex. I'm so nervous about fanny farts/queefs...Boyfriend has never mentioned anything, and it's only ever happened once, but I can feel it's going to happen...so I just can't carry on. I can't get in the mood because it's all I think about :S

 

[KeishaG14]

How old are you?

 

[banana1234]

lol, it is quite mortifying, but sex is pretty embarassing and messy when u think about it, just whack on some music so ur not so self concious..
also, being tense isnt going to help! RELAX!

 

[Verient]

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Originally Posted by KeishaG14 How old are you?

Almost seventeen.

 

[Tahti]

It happens, lol. I doubt there's a woman in the world who it hasn't happened too...
I got over it quickly though, when you think about it sex isn't 'serious' at all... it's totally awkward and sweaty and messy with ridiculous noises even minus queefs xD
If you're embarrassed though, just blast some music and then pounce on him, he won't hear a thing ;D

 

[KeishaG14]

I really want to say something, but I'll come off sounding like your mother so I'll refrain!

 

[glassy girl]

It happens 2 the best of us girl! Im sure thats the last thing on ur man's mind while ur guys r together!

 

[blackeneddove]

^^ I agree. Once you're really comfortable with your man you can just laugh it off, thats what me and my boy always do. I can't think of a single guy I know who would be like "UGH, gross! We're done.. get off me.." if it happened. He'll probably be so into it he won't even notice, just relax.

 

[Shimmer]

[mother moment]Please be safe having sex. Understand that your reproductive health is YOUR responsibility. Your birth control options are YOUR responsibility. Never do anything with anyone that you can't fathom having a child with, because it's always a possibility. Protect your body.[/end mother moment]

Queefs happen. Usually because you're in a position where air slips into the vagina. Change positions, or be a little less boisterous in your boofing.

 

[LMD84]

yep it happens... i'm not bothered by it and neither is my hubby. makes us have a giggle sometimes so i guess that means we're pretty comfortable.

if you're worried about random stuff like this are you really that comfortable to begin with about having sex?

 

[KeishaG14]

Okay, someone else said it before me, but it's what I was thinking and feeling. 16 (no matter how close to 17) is WAY to young to be having sex. And this is definitely shown by your question. When you're MUCH older and you're with you bf and you're more mature, you will know that you should never sexually be with someone you're not totally comfortable with... PERIOD...

 

[BEA2LS]

^^ I knew what you were getting at and i agree.

 

[Tashona Helena]

It's not even that is young, cause I lost my V at 16 and I"m 20 almost 21 now, but I never had sex with anyone I wasn't comfortable with. When even it happened, I laughed, hard. He laughed. We laugh because we're comfortable with each other and it happens. If he's mature enough he'll know why it happens and that it's not all you. You have to be comfortable with you body before you share it with someone else. I can't have a mom moment I'm too young call this a big sister moment lol.

 

[KeishaG14]

I'm fairly new here so I don't want to step on anyone's toes, but reading certain things really bothers me. At 16, you have your WHOLE LIFE to have sex. At 16, I didn't know what a queef was or that it even existed. If I could do it all over again, there is so much more that I would be spending 16 doing. Life hasn't even begun at 16.

 

[LMD84]

^exactly! life hasn't even begin at 16 and you're already worried about something that you really shouldn't be!

 

[banana1234]

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Originally Posted by Tashona Heléna It's not even that is young, cause I lost my V at 16 and I"m 20 almost 21 now, but I never had sex with anyone I wasn't comfortable with. When even it happened, I laughed, hard. He laughed. We laugh because we're comfortable with each other and it happens. If he's mature enough he'll know why it happens and that it's not all you. You have to be comfortable with you body before you share it with someone else. I can't have a mom moment I'm too young call this a big sister moment lol.

i think that is more or less what she came on here for, not to be lectured about how she shouldnt be doing something she's already doing
i lost my v at 16 also, there's nothing wrong with it, sex when your 16 is nerve racking, its uncomfortable, its akward, you dont know what to do, if the other person thinks ur rubbish etc etc, it doesnt mean her and her boyfriend arent in a loving relationship, it just means that she is just like every other teenager! unsure, embarassed and akward!

mother talk is good, from your own mother

that being said, this is just my opinion, you are all entitled to your own, i just remember what it was like being 16 and embarassed about your body!

i think shimmer had the best advice, mother moment, followed by advice

 

[supermodella]

I think we should focus on her question rather than judging how old/young she is to be getting intimate with someone.

When it comes to queefing, I think it's hilarious, not even during sex, but in real life. It's funny, but I don't think it's loud enough to interrupt anything. When you're in the moment, I guess nothing else matters.

 

[banana1234]

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Originally Posted by supermodella I think we should focus on her question rather than judging how old/young she is to be getting intimate with someone.

that is what i wanted to say, but couldnt figure out how to say it

 

[KeishaG14]

I don't think it has anything to do with judging how old she is. When my daughter gets 16, if she's on a board worried about queefing, I would hope that someone would say the same to her. And like I said, when I was 16, if I were bringing this subject up, knowing now what I know, I wish someone would have said the same to me.

I just feel some kind of way about sex talk with a 16 year old. It just feels crazy in my spirit to tell a 16 year to just relax when it come to sex and enjoy it. I mean, I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination. But when my daughter or my daughter's friends get 16, I am not going to tell them how to enjoy sex. I will tell them about the consequences of sex and about safe sex, but how to enjoy it, nope.

And maybe this is 30s versus 20s talking...

 

[gildedangel]

Ummm....can we get back to her question? She didn't come here to be lectured or judged, it's her body and she can do what she wants with it, whatever age she is. It is her decision as to when she wants to have sex, give her some credit. Mother moments like Shimmer's are fine but if you aren't going to answer her question; don't post.

Anyways, this happens to me sometimes too, my bf thinks that it is hilarious, which annoys me a little. It's normal, don't let it get to you. Like Shimmer said, try a different position or slowing down the pace. Have you talked to your bf about it? If you learn that he doesn't notice or mind, that might help you calm down and stay in the mood.