Queefs...

[banana1234]

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Originally Posted by gildedangel Ummm....can we get back to her question? She didn't come here to be lectured or judged, it's her body and she can do what she wants with it, whatever age she is. It is her decision as to when she wants to have sex, give her some credit. Mother moments like Shimmer's are fine but if you aren't going to answer her question; don't post. Anyways, this happens to me sometimes too, my bf thinks that it is hilarious, which annoys me a little. It's normal, don't let it get to you. Like Shimmer said, try a different position or slowing down the pace. Have you talked to your bf about it? If you learn that he doesn't notice or mind, that might help you calm down and stay in the mood.

 

[TISH1124]

I think everyone is entitled to their opinion whether all of us agree with it or not...Threads shouldn't be started if all opinions aren't welcomed. Threads Stray off course...battle of the beast...if it's personal don't post it...don't want to hear all sides don't ask...I personally don't care what anyone does with their body as long as it's not my daughter.

But queefs happen...it's a part of sex...if you are embarressed by just the thought of it happening...then you might need to reconsider if you are ready for sex.

 

[chocolategoddes]

Try not to do a lot of positions that require your ass in the air (like doggy style). Those will cause more air to get pushed in there.

As embarassing as it is, I doubt it's even that big of a deal for guys. Just laugh it off.

 

[AmiS4ys]

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Originally Posted by banana1234 i think that is more or less what she came on here for, not to be lectured about how she shouldnt be doing something she's already doing i lost my v at 16 also, there's nothing wrong with it, sex when your 16 is nerve racking, its uncomfortable, its akward, you dont know what to do, if the other person thinks ur rubbish etc etc, it doesnt mean her and her boyfriend arent in a loving relationship, it just means that she is just like every other teenager! unsure, embarassed and akward! mother talk is good, from your own mother that being said, this is just my opinion, you are all entitled to your own, i just remember what it was like being 16 and embarassed about your body! i think shimmer had the best advice, mother moment, followed by advice

i agree ^^^

she didn't ask to be chastised. just to get some advice from more experienced chicks.

OP: Queefs are natural and they happen. Try to use more poses that involve less thrusting (for him, silly). Thrusting hard forces air to get caught in your vagina and thus, you queef.

 

[supermodella]

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Originally Posted by TISH1124 I think everyone is entitled to their opinion whether all of us agree with it or not...Threads shouldn't be started if all opinions aren't welcomed. Threads Stray off course...battle of the beast...if it's personal don't post it...don't want to hear all sides don't ask...I personally don't care what anyone does with their body as long as it's not my daughter. But queefs happen...it's a part of sex...if you are embarressed by just the thought of it happening...then you might need to reconsider if you are ready for sex.

I don't think a fear of queefing is grounds to completely forget the prospect of having sex. Everyone has a dislike of being embarrassed, and I'm sure if she was asking something like "I'm afraid my fly will be open if I keep wearing jeans", people wouldn't say "well maybe you should reconsider wearing denim".

If she thinks she's ready, is sure she's ready, then she's ready, I guess. Everyone's curious their first time.

 

[TISH1124]

^Ok and I still say "She might need to reconsider if she is ready for sex." My opinion standing by it...Thanks

I wasn't 100% sure my first time as far as that goes....Just because I thought I was didn't make it so.

 

[KeishaG14]

I agree 100% Tish.

 

[Tashona Helena]

As soon as I left this thread I knew I was gonna come back and see people saying we're "judging" her. No one's judging her. I don't see anyone of age, and I've been on a lot of forums, and never seen anyone of age being embarrassed about a queef. I've had plenty of dirty conversations with people in my age group, never had friends of age, mature, be embarrased about a queef. It's just something when you're mature enough to handle sex you just laugh it off and not be embarrassed, it's kinda like...um...having a period? Bad example but it's just something that naturally comes with the territory of having sex, like having a period comes with being a girl. Bad example but whatever.

So we're just saying that maybe she SHOULD rethink if she's comfortable enough with her body and sex. I can't believe people are sitting up here thinking we're slapping this girl's hands and judging her. It worried me to the fact I thought about her later. I know how it feels to be scared and young. the first time yeah, I was nervous but like I said I felt comfortable with this guy and I knew what ever happened I'd be fine, but never was I embarrassed about my body and stuff. We're trying to be here for this girl, yea she asked about a queef but it worried us that she was embarrassed and tried to offer her RELATED advice. Like Tish said, if you post something on a forum, expect it.

And comparing it to jeans...Didn't know wearing jeans could take your life if you wore them wrong, or impregnate you if you get the wrong size. Not to be bitchy but sex is a serious topic, especially when it comes to our youth. You can't fault us for worrying about her she didn't come here to ask about the weather.

 

[L1LMAMAJ]

i don't think anyone's judging her. it seems like a lot of the posters here in this thread are older than the OP and they just wanted to give some of their advice/opinion on the topic. and yes people stray away from the original topic but it can't be helped.

 

[Verient]

Can I just say I've been with my boyfriend 9 months. We're both very mature about it all. I'm on birth control and we still use condoms. This is only an issue that has become a problem recently, it never used to bother me.

 

[Tashona Helena]

^ That's what's worrying me...I dunno about other ladies here but I only date/stay with guys who are comfortable with me 100%, that's burping, farting (if it happens, it happens!), queefing, no makeup, whatever. If you can't laugh it off with him it kinda scares me, especially if you guys have been together for that long. Did you just recently start having sex? Is he your first? You don't have to answer these questions. Tell him to slow down maybe? When I experience it, it's usually doggy-style, and the guy is doing it really fast. If you're embarrassed about it, you HAVE to talk about it with him, if this is your boyfriend and he truly cares about you, he should understand.

Oh and I'm happy to hear you still use condoms and on birth control. A lot of girls make the mistake of not doing that (even girls older than me...it's just a crazy world out there, I made the mistake of doing it first but after my mom gave me a stern talking to that changed quick)

 

[Verient]

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Originally Posted by Tashona Heléna ^ That's what's worrying me...I dunno about other ladies here but I only date/stay with guys who are comfortable with me 100%, that's burping, farting (if it happens, it happens!), queefing, no makeup, whatever. If you can't laugh it off with him it kinda scares me, especially if you guys have been together for that long. Did you just recently start having sex? Is he your first? You don't have to answer these questions. Tell him to slow down maybe? When I experience it, it's usually doggy-style, and the guy is doing it really fast. If you're embarrassed about it, you HAVE to talk about it with him, if this is your boyfriend and he truly cares about you, he should understand. Oh and I'm happy to hear you still use condoms and on birth control. A lot of girls make the mistake of not doing that (even girls older than me...it's just a crazy world out there, I made the mistake of doing it first but after my mom gave me a stern talking to that changed quick)

He loves me completely for who I am. I don't have much self confidence, so it's my problem, not his. We've talked about it and he said not to worry because it's natural. It's just a silly mind block I have. He's my first but we had sex in feb, so have been doing it for a while.

 

[user79]

This is an open forum for people of any age to post any question they want. I'm sure if they were looking for motherly advice they would ask their mother, or another trusted adult. Sixteen is a very normal age when most teens get sexually active, statistics prove that. To tell someone they are too young to have sex at that age, is just plain naive and rather rude, imo. I think it's quite condescending when a girl comes here asking for advice from peers, and as soon as she tells us she is a minor, people tell her she's too young to have sex and should apparently still be playing with dolls and prams. And come on, we all had hang-ups about sex when we first became sexually active, I don't believe for a second that anyone was as confident in themselves the first couple years as they are now, years later. Would people be responding the same way if she said she was 22? Doubtful. Yeah, anyone can have an opinion on the Internet, doesn't mean it's always right to share that opinion.

Anyway, back to the topic: It's very normal and I'm sure your guy won't care at all once you're in the heat of things.

 

[kaliraksha]

I see a lot of words throughout this thread that describe exactly what I think all relationships should have to partake in sex: maturity, comfort, and self confidence.

It is very normal... there isn't too much you can do about it, so all you can really do is embrace it.

 

[breezybabe89]

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Originally Posted by MissChievous This is an open forum for people of any age to post any question they want. I'm sure if they were looking for motherly advice they would ask their mother, or another trusted adult. Sixteen is a very normal age when most teens get sexually active, statistics prove that. To tell someone they are too young to have sex at that age, is just plain naive and rather rude, imo. I think it's quite condescending when a girl comes here asking for advice from peers, and as soon as she tells us she is a minor, people tell her she's too young to have sex and should apparently still be playing with dolls and prams. And come on, we all had hang-ups about sex when we first became sexually active, I don't believe for a second that anyone was as confident in themselves the first couple years as they are now, years later. Would people be responding the same way if she said she was 22? Doubtful. Yeah, anyone can have an opinion on the Internet, doesn't mean it's always right to share that opinion.

While I see you're point, just because statistics say 16 is the normal age it doesn't mean it should be. There is a vast difference in the lifestyles of a 16 year old and a 22 year old and while I agree with most people saying sex has to do with maturity I believe it more or less boils sown to whether or not you can handle the responsibility that comes with sex. I started having sex at 16, with the man who is now my husband, and by the age of 18 I was a teenage mother even with protection because the majority of them are only 99% effective. I had just graduated high school, I had no job, and was supposed to be leaving for college. Sure I might have been mature for my age but in no way was I ready to handle the responsibility of a child. I am one of the lucky few who was able to work things out with the person I was with and get my life in order. I think the main point here is regardless of one's maturity or how comfortable with sex they may be unless you can actually handle all the aspects of sex you should probably keep it to a minimum. If your boyfriend truly cares about you and how you feel during sex he'll wait, I know that phrase is so overused but trust me coming from someone who shoulda, coulda, woulda listened had I been told that it is 100% the truth.

 

[user79]

You can certainly have that opinion, but her original question wasn't "do you think I'm old enough to have sex", the question was about something actually to do with sex. I just think it's really condescending and totally unnecessary that some people felt the need to lecture someone who is obviously already sexually active, not to do so, especially when she says she is taking birth control. It's not up to anyone else to tell someone they are not old enough to have sex, especially if you don't even know that person, or their maturity level, like you said. It just comes off as this preachy, holier than thou attitude. Personally, I find it strange that people find 16 as too young to have sex since that isn't exactly out of the norm. Whether 16 should be considered too young or not, is totally irrelevant - it's nobody's choice but one's own, and members should feel comfortable here to ask questions without worrying about a world of judgment coming down on them for their own choices.

BTW I never understand why accidental pregnancy is often "explained away" by saying they were that 1% that protection somehow or magically didn't work for. Nearly every single person who I know personally who had an accidental pregnancy early on in life, claims that somehow birth control didn't work for them. Kind of odd, don't you think? I mean let's just call a spade a spade, probably the majority of accidental or teen pregnancies are due to human error, such as incorrect use (skipping a pill, incorrect use of condoms, etc.) Not saying anything about accidental pregnancy, but I just think we should face the facts here and be honest that in today's age, unwanted pregnancy can be almost completely prevented, unless of course in circumstances like rape, etc. That point seems to be used often as a scare tactic to force teens into abstinence, with the insistence that sex leads to unwanted pregnancy, when that doesn't necessarily have to be true at all. In fact, preaching abstinence often leads to more teen pregnancies. Oh also about keeping it to a minimum, just cause I thought was kind of a funny statement: You can have unprotected sex once and get pregnant, or use protection correctly and sleep with a different guy every night and never get pregnant. So I don't think the number of times is really relevant in that case?

Anyway this is getting totally off topic...poor girl just wanted some info on queefs! LOL

 

[KeishaG14]

So just to be clear, this is not an open forum? We are not to give our opinion in a non-offensive way? We are only to respond if we agree with the person's post? And if we don't totally agree or if we're not in the majority of those responding, then we should keep our thoughts to ourselves?

I'm just trying to be clear because I'm new around these parts. And if the above is true, I'll stay my behind in the beauty section and not wander out to give my opinion on threads where I'm not wanted. I'm used to open forums as long as everyone is being respectful. But if this is a forum where everyone is expected to think alike and respond alike, I need to know that as well.

 

[xxManBeaterxx]

The first few times it happened with my boyfriend we bursted out laughing. It's nothing to feel ashamed about--its normal and it happens to everyone, more than likely your boyfriend wont think twice about it.

Having been a teenage mom, i know that preaching abstinence is unrealistic, there is just too much outside pressures: you hear your friends talking about it, the media, curiosity, etc... With teenage pregnancy on the rise once again, the best thing you can do is educate teens with the correct information and hope they practice safe sex. Teen's aren't dumb, they know having sex will get them pregnant, they know about STD's.. sadly i know a lot of them who just don't care what happens or don't believe it can happen to them..

 

[TISH1124]

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Originally Posted by breezybabe89 While I see you're point, just because statistics say 16 is the normal age it doesn't mean it should be. There is a vast difference in the lifestyles of a 16 year old and a 22 year old and while I agree with most people saying sex has to do with maturity I believe it more or less boils sown to whether or not you can handle the responsibility that comes with sex. I started having sex at 16, with the man who is now my husband, and by the age of 18 I was a teenage mother even with protection because the majority of them are only 99% effective. I had just graduated high school, I had no job, and was supposed to be leaving for college. Sure I might have been mature for my age but in no way was I ready to handle the responsibility of a child. I am one of the lucky few who was able to work things out with the person I was with and get my life in order. I think the main point here is regardless of one's maturity or how comfortable with sex they may be unless you can actually handle all the aspects of sex you should probably keep it to a minimum. If your boyfriend truly cares about you and how you feel during sex he'll wait, I know that phrase is so overused but trust me coming from someone who shoulda, coulda, woulda listened had I been told that it is 100% the truth.

I Agree

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Originally Posted by KeishaG14 So just to be clear, this is not an open forum? We are not to give our opinion in a non-offensive way? We are only to respond if we agree with the person's post? And if we don't totally agree or if we're not in the majority of those responding, then we should keep our thoughts to ourselves? I'm just trying to be clear because I'm new around these parts. And if the above is true, I'll stay my behind in the beauty section and not wander out to give my opinion on threads where I'm not wanted. I'm used to open forums as long as everyone is being respectful. But if this is a forum where everyone is expected to think alike and respond alike, I need to know that as well.

I guess only if the opinions agree with certain individuals should we discuss so I am no longer discussing..Making a point to stay out of Discussions/Chatter from this point forward

 

[xxManBeaterxx]

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Originally Posted by KeishaG14 So just to be clear, this is not an open forum? We are not to give our opinion in a non-offensive way? We are only to respond if we agree with the person's post? And if we don't totally agree or if we're not in the majority of those responding, then we should keep our thoughts to ourselves? I'm just trying to be clear because I'm new around these parts. And if the above is true, I'll stay my behind in the beauty section and not wander out to give my opinion on threads where I'm not wanted. I'm used to open forums as long as everyone is being respectful. But if this is a forum where everyone is expected to think alike and respond alike, I need to know that as well.

I've been a member for about a year now and specktra is a place where all opinions are welcomed, as long as it's done respectfully. And this includes other members freely debating with one another when there is a difference in opinion.