There are some places your children just should NOT be...

[MAC_Pixie04]

And this is not to offend or condescend people with children; but this is basically a little vent towards people who take their children places where they know damn well their children aren't wanted.

I dunno what it is about this past weekend and the beginning of this week, but everywhere I go I'm surrounded by horribly behaved children and apparently colic in babies has become an epidemic. And I started school this morning and a girl brought her TODDLER to class. We have a daycare facility for a reason; drop your brat off there. I'm sitting trying to ask questions in STATISTICS class, the hardest class ever, and this chick brings her 2 maybe 3 year old son to class. And he's screaming and trying to walk around and making noise and he's got noisy toys, and he's on a LEASH. Whhhhyyyy would you bring your child to class? Even if there were some unexpected circumstances, we have a centrally located daycare center on campus, and it's very very low cost, if not free. but needless to say I was annoyed to death. So I've been thinking about all the places I keep running into small children where they shouldn't be.

1. A bar/lounge; that's just BAD PARENTING. Period.
2. Houseware stores where things can and will get broken due to the fact that Mommy is gushing over a glass centerpiece while Li'l Badass runs around like it's Toys R Us.
3. Very upscale restaurants. If it doesn't have a children's menu, your children don't belong there. Would you really spend $50 on a steak for your 5 year old?
4. Dave And Buster's after 8pm. If I can't go in after 8pm (not 21 yet) then neither the hell can your toddler.
5. The hair salon/nail salon. Unless they're being serviced, leave them at home. They're a ridiculous annoyance to the stylists, technicians, and other patrons.
6. Adult Bookstores; I was appalled to see a father and his daughter shopping at HUSTLER...the girl couldn't have been any older than 8. I'm going to dub that pseudo child molestation. Exposing your kid to that much sex at that age is just as bad as molesting them yourself.
7. The car dealership. It's really hard to negotiate financing your new car if your baby is screaming in the salesperson's office. And it can cause a nasty wreck if you're doing a test drive.
8. A ballet, stage play, musical etc. Just...no, don't do it. Unless it's family oriented, like the Wiggles or Disney on Ice, or the Icescapades.
9. Movies rated PG13 and up...they're not usually family oriented, and bringing a crying baby to a move that people have paid up to 10 dollars to watch is just rude. I've had people removed from theaters, I'm not ashamed to say it.

Now, don't take this as me hating parents and hating children. I love children. I'm part time nanny; would I be doing that if I hated children and parents? No. If I were a parent, I certainly wouldn't be taking my baby places like the ones I've listed. And a lot of those are common sense, but I keep seeing people with very small children in places where it's like "Duh, call a babysitter." Hell, I'm a babysitter, call me! But for heaven's sakes, be considerate. I'd do the same for people with babies. I wouldn't smoke at Chuck E. Cheese or swear up a storm at a Toy Store full of kids.

So that's my vent for the day. I hope I didn't offend any proud parents here, because that certainly wasn't my intention.

 

[YvetteJeannine]

With you %150 on this one!!!!!!!!!

 

[girlstar]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 8. A ballet, stage play, musical etc. Just...no, don't do it. Unless it's family oriented, like the Wiggles or Disney on Ice, or the Icescapades.

Totally agreed. I've always told parents.. if you're bringing a child, they aren't allowed to sit on your lap, they must have their own seat, and you must buy a ticket for them. They usually decide to get a sitter instead. If not, they learn their lesson, and next year they get a sitter.

 

[Professor Fate]

the recent outbreak in misbehaved infants and kids in general is the pussification/glorification of this country. parents worship their damn kids and let them do whatever they want because they are scared of CPS,what their neighbors will think,or maybe their kid will have "issues" when they grow up..i remember when i was younger and i got spankings and punishment for doing/saying the wrong thing.i have no issues and now i am told by my parents that i was a great kid. now, i rarely see any of that with parents and their kids these days. if it isn't the rampant scare of child abuse, then it's the glorification of the kids.parents are spoiling kids more than ever,it's sickening.children are our future,no child left behind,save the children...blah blah blah. there is a fine line between good parenting and poor parenting.there are parents out there that treat their child like they are the god damn savior of the human race.


yes, i am totally sick of dealing with people bringing their 2(or younger) year old to an action/thriller movie and having to listen to the god damn kid cry and talk during the movie.the same goes with the other places that mac_pixie04 has listed.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

I notice a lot more spoiled children now than I ever have before, it disgusts me. I was never spanked/punished as a child, because I didn't need to be. My mom always brags that I was a very well behaved child and never gave her any problems. But I wasn't worshipped either. But kids today I swear, they get treated like effing royalty then grow up to be royal pains in the ass. It's like an episode of Sex And The City I saw, where they girls go to a baby shower and this woman walks by and says "My son Harry is a God and I tell him so every single day." And Carrie says "What are the odds that in 30 years a woman will be able to make Harry happy?" Miranda says, "I'm gonna say zero?"

 

[d_flawless]

no offense but leave your kid @ home when you shop, unless you're shopping only for them, or you're @ the grocery store. i can't tell you how fucking annoying it is when people come in and want a make up demo and they have their kid with them, screaming and drooling and then i have to clean up after them. straight up, i will be rude to you because you're being rude to me, and when you leave, rest assured we will all talk shit about how dumb that was.
unless if your kid's an angel, i don't want to deal with them.

 

[mzcelaneous]

Was that a one time thing? Maybe the girl in your class didn't have a last minute babysitter. When I was in school, I brought my then 2 y/o to my Sociology class because her father had to work, we don't have family in town, and our daycare center doesn't allow "drop-ins", the child had to be previously enrolled...which she wasn't at the time. But then again, call me biased, but my daughter is well behaved. She sat down and colored for the whole 90 minutes.

Anyway, I totally agree with that list. Either leave your child with the other parent/care taker or don't go at all!

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by d_flawless no offense but leave your kid @ home when you shop, unless you're shopping only for them, or you're @ the grocery store. i can't tell you how fucking annoying it is when people come in and want a make up demo and they have their kid with them, screaming and drooling and then i have to clean up after them. straight up, i will be rude to you because you're being rude to me, and when you leave, rest assured we will all talk shit about how dumb that was. unless if your kid's an angel, i don't want to deal with them.

how could i forget! don't take your damn kids to a cosmetics counter! that's like plopping them in front of a bunch of very expensive crayons and finger paints. all those colors within reach? that's heaven to a child. and they'll touch. My niece knows better because she goes with me all the time, but I've been to MAC and seen kids putting on make up with their hands and messing with things, it's disgusting!

And hopefully that girl bringing her baby to class was a one time thing, but her child was being too noisy, she should have gotten up and walked out to calm her child down before coming back. it's one thing to bring your kid and they're well behaved, it's another to bring your kid and they're a hellion.

 

[caffn8me]

I'm something of a night owl and I regularly go shopping at my local ASDA (UK's branch of Walmart) which is open 24 hours at 3am. What on earth are parents doing with children awake at this time? They should be in bed!

 

[bluegrassbabe]

I want to add some more to that list...

Do not take your child to weddings. I work in wedding planning, and this is a huge pet peeve for me. If they are too young,restless, or active to sit still and be quite for a long period of time, leave them with a sitter. It is extremely disrespectful to the couple. Also, the crying and screaming can ruin a video. On several occasions I have had to ask a parent to remove a child from the ceremony because of crying. Without fail, the parents get pissed at me. How dare someone not coddle their adorable little angel? Please also note, if the kids name is not on an invitation, they are not invited. So many people bring uninvited children (and also dates and friends), and it's a huge pain in the ass to deal with.
My next gripe, people bringing kids to my home and not exercising any control over them. My friend did this a few weeks ago, and I'm still finding little bits of hard candy that she left all over the place. And of course, mom got mad when I told the kid to sit down and behave. She even wanted me to lock my dog away, when he was laying perfectly still and not bothering the kid or anyone else.
It's so obnoxious how some parents expect everyone around them to bow down to a little child.

 

[Wattage]

I used to go to a lot of raves. I will never forget one of the first raves I went to - it was outdoors on this island, just a ferry ride away from my home-town. I am standing there and this mother comes up, wheeling her child in - in a wheelbarrow. The child is probably 4 or 5, and the mother of course, well let's just say I am glad she wasn't my mother.

I also think that people really shouldn't take their kids to the grocery store. They just go nuts in there. I know I did when I was younger - caused all sorts of shit!!

 

[Throwaway Style]

Haha, according to that my parents have done a lot of stuff wrong.

My parents always took me to the pub in Ireland starting when I was like 3 (we go there for a month every summer) It was mainly because this was the only place to see people, since people would be working the entire day then come straight to the pub. It was kind of a polite thing to go, to stop in and say hello, and have a drink, hang around for a while. Personally I LOVED it, there were other kids to play with and I just chilled for a bit there.

I also used to always take my youngr sister (she's 4 now) to MAC. She was AMAZING. I would just tell her not to touch and she was fine, even when she was younger.

My sister also comes to the hair salon a lot, she sits quietly and watches whats happening, occasionally asking the stylist a question like what their name is and how she's cutting her sister or moms hair.

 

[Shimmer]

I'm sorry, I disagree.
It's not about leaving the kids at home, it's about teaching them how to behave.
Example?
From my kids you will not have these issues. They know just from THE LOOK that one hand goes where it's not supposed to, one outside voice gets used, one thing that they KNOW they're not supposed to do happens, they're going to answer to me.
It's quite unreasonable to expect that parents simply stop doing ANYTHING upon having a child.
It's quite unreasonable to expect a child to comport him or herself years above the maturity level by putting the child in a difficult situation.
There is a middle ground...it's called raising the kids. Knowing how muchy your kids can handle and for how long. Laying down rules and then enforcing them. It can be done, believe me.
Obviously there are places a child should not be, however, it's important to maintain perspective I believe.

 

[caffn8me]

I totally agree with you Shimmer. I have no problems whatsoever with well behaved children of any age. Most of the problems with children's behaviour is a direct result of the parents' behaviour.

 

[mzcelaneous]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 My niece knows better because she goes with me all the time

Although I agree with the above listed that those are places you definetly should not bring your child, I believe that the child's behavior is more of an issue than where they are.

I've seen a lot of well-behaved young, children at weddings, high end stores, movies, the grocery store etc. Granted they weren't there @ 3am or anything lol, but they were good.

If you KNOW your child can't sit still at an 'adult' place/event and your bring them anyway.....that's a different story.

 

[Shimmer]

It's really wrong, IMO, to fault a c hild for being a child.
Children are naturally self absorbed, curious, querying, active, tactile, inquisitive little individuals.
It is inherent in their nature to learn as much about their environment as best as they know how: experiencing it.
That said, it's incumbent upon the parents of the children to make sure that their (the children's) behaviour is appropriate for the situation at hand.

 

[AllINeedIsMac]

How about your kid in the damn casino! I work there and get off everyday at around 3am, and yep, there's kids getting rocked in a stroller with momma's foot, while her hand is pulling the slot machines.

THANK GOD! Borgata's getting ready to have a "No Stroller" policy, they already have an 18 and under policy: if you're under 18, you can't be in the casino unless with a parent, if your under 21 you MUST be dining at a fine restaraunt or with a parent!

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

I dont have a problem with children, just there are some places where they don't need to go. And it is reflective upon behavior, but most of the places children shouldn't be period, like bars and adult oriented movies. I went to see Talladega Nights, which isn't the most adult movie out, but this lady had her two year old twins with her and they were just screaming up a storm. What two year old wants to see Will Ferrell in his underwear? Should've taken them to see Ant Bully or Barnyard or whatever's out for kids that age. I'm not saying ban children from everywhere, but like weddings and funerals and you KNOW your child will be restless or uncomfortable, then you should have the decency to take it upon yourself to hire a sitter or leave them with another caretaker.

 

[Beauty Mark]

I'll probably be the only person in this thread who doesn't like most children. I don't like how a lot of them behave, as well their parents. They act like their kids aren't accountable for anything or worse, blame it on the unfortunate witness. The cult of parenthood scares the hell out of me.

I agree you can take your children out. You should, it's good for them to learn how to behave in public. My parents took me places so that I learned not be a jerk in public and scream and cry. If I did, I went home and was punished. I was able to go to the hairdresser with my mother; I just sat there and looked at the books or magazines. I was fine.
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1. A bar/lounge; that's just BAD PARENTING. Period. 6. Adult Bookstores; I was appalled to see a father and his daughter shopping at HUSTLER...the girl couldn't have been any older than 8. I'm going to dub that pseudo child molestation. Exposing your kid to that much sex at that age is just as bad as molesting them yourself.

For #1, I don't know why you would think that's a good idea. To me, a lounge or bar is a place for grown people to relax away from their lives.

For #6, ewwwww. Who does that? Why would the store allow it? All of the stores I've been to have 18+ ONLY signs. When I've gone into smoke shops with my parents, I wasn't even allowed in the 18+ part, and I wasn't even going to buy anything (I was also week away from my 18th.)

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark I'll probably be the only person in this thread who doesn't like most children. I don't like how a lot of them behave, as well their parents. They act like their kids aren't accountable for anything or worse, blame it on the unfortunate witness. The cult of parenthood scares the hell out of me. I agree you can take your children out. You should, it's good for them to learn how to behave in public. My parents took me places so that I learned not be a jerk in public and scream and cry. If I did, I went home and was punished. I was able to go to the hairdresser with my mother; I just sat there and looked at the books or magazines. I was fine. For #1, I don't know why you would think that's a good idea. To me, a lounge or bar is a place for grown people to relax away from their lives. For #6, ewwwww. Who does that? Why would the store allow it? All of the stores I've been to have 18+ ONLY signs. When I've gone into smoke shops with my parents, I wasn't even allowed in the 18+ part, and I wasn't even going to buy anything (I was also week away from my 18th.)

when i saw the guy and the kid at hustler, they were being kicked out of the upstairs area where you have to be 18 with valid ID, the other 2 floors are open and viisble to the public, they just sell clothes and swimsuits/lingerie. the upstairs is where the porn and toys are, but the fact that he even tried to go up there with her just disgusted me. he went up with her and they were escorting him out of the building, they told him if he came back they'd call the police. i woulda called anyway. there has to be some kind of misdemeanor(at least) charge for introducing such young children to pornographic material.