Would you be upset?

[MAC_addiction<3]

I also agree, i don't think he's to blame for the situation he's in but i do think he needs to understand your feelings and try to imagine how he would feel if it was your ex! Obviously he would feel the exact way you do and the fact he doesn't understand your efelings probably isn't helping the situation. The line "i would be mad as hell too" kind of gives the impression she knows this is going to upset you but she still took the job? so maybe she is playing games, i really don't know

but you seem like such a lovely girl he would be mad to hurt you and i'm sureee it won't come to that! Sorry i'm not much help! But Atleast it proves we all have our individual relationship problems and situations like this bring out the worst in even the most laid back of people! But i can TOTALLY understand why you would be angry! Also the "she stil has a piece of my heart" would be really hard for me to live with aswell! Maybe one day when he'd put in a similar situation he might begin to understand

x x

 

[NicksWifey]

In spite of everything that's happened to me recently, regarding my thyroid and all, I just honestly don't care if I upset people. I know, that sounds horrible.
Today, his ex started blowing up his cell phone. I could hear it ringing when I was getting out of the shower. I figured it was his family, since they have a tendency to let it ring off the hook. So I checked the phone and saw this 547 # that has came into his phone quite a few times, always unanswered and ignored. I remember him telling me that when she was trying to get re-hired back at work, she had called him from a 547 # cause I had asked him it who it was then too.
So I'm like "You know what, FUCK YOU, I pay this fucking phone bill and I'm gonna set this shit straight." So I call the number back and some bimbo goes "Hello?" and I said "Who is this? You keep calling my phone." and then nothing, just really quiet. So I was like "Quit fucking calling this number!" Yeah, really wise. I don't care about curse & abuse on the phone, let the bitch bring it.
Then I hung up and woke him up and demanded from him, why does she keep calling you? I told him I called her and set her straight and if it keeps up, I'll be making a trip down there to set her ass straight face to face. I have no qualms whatsoever in doing that, I'm not afraid to get this shit out in the open. He was like "She's not calling here to fuck with me" Well excuse me, but what else does she want?! Her damn work schedule? If so, she can call the store and get that!

Seriously, it just frustrates me to no end. It's like, you know what, go fucking cheat on me, I just don't care anymore and I've had it up to here with this shit. The way I feel, nothing could make me feel worse, I already feel like I've hit rock bottom.
Sorry if I'm coming across as a total drama queen, but I'm just tired of this bitch. She goes through his phone at work, to look at pictures of me...what the hell for? A few nights ago, one of his friends came by and dropped off some food at the house and he said she grilled him about where we live, "Tell me what street, what apartment complex." and he told her to step off. I don't need her gold seal of approval. She needs to move on and quick before she regrets even moving back to VA.

 

[Malena]

Hi,

I´m new here (so I´ve been reading on Specktra for quite a while), but I just had to add my 2 cents:

Honestly, I feel for you - I´ve been through a similar situation & I simply hate when men behave like your fiance! Men are quickly flattered when another woman seems to be interested in them & honestly, I´m pretty sure she wouldn´t mind to screw him.

But you cannot change the situation, you already told him how you feel, that you´re insecure & all that. If he doesn´t care then so be it!

I really don´t want to sound cruel or anything, but there´s nothing you can do - if he really loves you he won´t play games behind your back!
Sometimes men don´t want to deal w/ the problems in a relationship, then it seems tempting to date another woman who´s into them, who isn´t arguing w/ them & stuff like that.

If he really loves you he won´t do anything to upset you - all you can do is wait & see.
That´s hard, I know & I really wish I´d tell you something better & more helpful!

Stay strong & don´t let that shit bring you down!!!

 

[NicksWifey]

Ok, I'm seriously rambling now, but just another update. So before I went to work, Nick and I were able to have a decent conversation regarding this whole mess that should've been resolved a long ass time ago.
I told him what happened, that she kept calling, I called her back and said what I said and that I trust him to tell her when he works with her next week, that we would both appreciate if she would quit calling him. I think he and I are finally fucking eye-to-eye on this situation, it took FOREVER though

He said that last night, she screwed up an order really bad with a credit card. He happened to be outside on his cell phone with me (I was breaking him the bad news about my thyroid) and there were 2 guys at the counter with her. As soon as she screwed up, she apparently started going nuts and crying asking for Nick's help but they told her that he was on the phone with me. What a stupid bitch. She seriously is trying to get back with him, I KNOW IT. It doesn't take rocket science to figure that out. Why else would the girl always turn to him, constantly? It's like she depends on him. When she has to miss work, she will call HIM on his cell phone, even if he's not scheduled to be at work. She needs to call the store, not him.
He said he will break it off in her next week and if she still doesn't get the picture, then I have permission to break it off in her

 

[NutMeg]

Excellent! Finally he's not making you feel like YOU'RE the psycho. You really don't need this shit right now, you should be focusing on your health.

 

[Malena]

Sounds like good news to me

I hope she´ll let you & your fiance alone - otherwise you better tell her a lesson

I absolutely agree with NutMeg, with your health issue having problems in your relationship is the last thing you need at the moment!

 

[User93]

Im really happy to hear this. Oh i know your a tough girl and you gonna show this bitch whos Nick's wifey actually. I completely agree with NutMeg, focus on your health hun! Thats way more important than some bitch trying to get what she will never have!

 

[M.A.C. head.]

Oh BTW if you have to roll on her let Stargazer and I know and we can go too, then we can go make up shopping afterwards to wash away our *cough* *ahem* guilt *cough*.

 

[NicksWifey]

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. Oh BTW if you have to roll on her let Stargazer and I know and we can go too, then we can go make up shopping afterwards to wash away our *cough* *ahem* guilt *cough*.

Let's roll on the bitch! And of course hit up the MAC afterwards

 

[M.A.C. head.]

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Originally Posted by NicksWifey Let's roll on the bitch! And of course hit up the MAC afterwards

Yaaaaaaaay!

Kickin ass and buyin make up, two of my favorite things.

 

[NutMeg]

Ahh Specktra love at its finest. Violence in defense of our brethren, support, and finally make up shopping.

 

[MACLovin]

Quote:

Originally Posted by NicksWifey She goes through his phone at work, to look at pictures of me...what the hell for? A few nights ago, one of his friends came by and dropped off some food at the house and he said she grilled him about where we live, "Tell me what street, what apartment complex." and he told her to step off. I don't need her gold seal of approval. She needs to move on and quick before she regrets even moving back to VA.

OH my fucking god, this bitch is out of control!! Ok, first of all, why the hell does she even have his phone in her grubby little hands? If he isn't on it, then it should be in his pocket for the most part, no? She must have found a way to weasel it out of him which is totally fucked up in itself. Not to mention she is looking through his personal pictures, and he is obviously letting her. Oooh that would piss me off.

And... um, WHAT?!? She's trying to find out where you guys live?? Oh HELL NAHH. That would not only enrage me, but actually kind of scare me too.
What is she gonna fucking stalk you guys and peek in your windows?

This bitch needs a swift kick in the fo'head! For real.

Getting the job was one thing. Now it's personal.. she sounds like a conniving, scandalous whore who will do anything to try and grasp onto any remnant of their past and screw up what he has in the present.. bitches like that make me so mad!





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Originally Posted by NicksWifey He said that last night, she screwed up an order really bad with a credit card. He happened to be outside on his cell phone with me (I was breaking him the bad news about my thyroid) and there were 2 guys at the counter with her. As soon as she screwed up, she apparently started going nuts and crying asking for Nick's help but they told her that he was on the phone with me. What a stupid bitch. She seriously is trying to get back with him, I KNOW IT. It doesn't take rocket science to figure that out. Why else would the girl always turn to him, constantly? It's like she depends on him. When she has to miss work, she will call HIM on his cell phone, even if he's not scheduled to be at work. She needs to call the store, not him.

How pathetic is that shit?

I mean, really. Not to mention completely inappropriate. This is kind of vindictive, but is there any way you can like, make a complaint to the manager about that? Or maybe call in a fake complaint about her from a customer perspective?

She's already screwed up in front of people, it wouldn't be that far-fetched for her to make some other kind of mistake.. hmm.. Ok, maybe that's not the best idea, haha. I just want to sabotage this bitch's stupid game plan to fuck with you guys, what a skank.

ok add me to the ass-kicking/makeup shopping brigade, I'll roll with you ladies too..

 

[NicksWifey]

LOL believe me, I've thought to myself before "How can I get her fired?" I just decided, it's bad karma and I ain't trying to have anymore of that shit come back on me.

He leaves his phone in the back office, where most of the people he works with do, cause they aren't allowed to have it on them while working, so she just rolled into his phone without his permission and he took it away from her. She made the "She is really pretty" comment, but what else is she going to say, that I'm ugly? Stupid cunt.

I trust him to take care of her & her bullshit next Friday but if this crap starts up again, I'm gonna bust her up, with the help of my Specktra-ettes

 

[kariii]

Honestly, I would say go with your gut feelings. I was with a guy for a long time, and we got engaged but ended up breaking up. I moved out of our apartment and he was my 1st love and I was his but we came to the understanding we just weren't happy with each other anymore and we should go our separate ways. we broke up in 2005 and he had a gf since then and they're engaged and all. Sometimes he's msg me like "I've been thinking about you, and how we'd be right now if we hadn't broken up." but it was like whatever.. i never thought much about it. Well, last year on my birthday he called me to say happy birthday and blah blah and I ended up seeing him (I've seriously spent 2 yrs getting over him and not thinking about him, or seeing him because I knew he'd always have part of my heart) and I ended up sleeping with him again only to wake up the next day realizing what a big mistake I had made and he's freakin' engaged. He comes back in the room and he goes "I still love you!" and mind you, at this point I'm totally clueless as to what seriously happened (Hello? birthday drinking!) and he was going on and on about how we talked about him breaking off his engagement and us getting back together and he was just waiting for me to wake up so he can go home to break up with her so she can move out and we can get back to our lives like they were before. I seriously at this point realized what a dirtbag he was and i couldn't believe i took part of it. To this day, this has been a secret, I told him he needs to save his relationship and get over me because I had truly moved on and he needed to do the same (even if part of me still wanted to be with him). So it wouldn't cross my mind that your fiance could do the same. Not to sound like a bitch, but coming from experience.. I'd be worried he was working with her too. Just make sure you have good communication with him and you let him know you truly love him. Good luck!

 

[Beauty Mark]

Is she trying to stalk you? Why does she care where you live?

 

[NicksWifey]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark Is she trying to stalk you? Why does she care where you live?

No kidding! I have no clue what is up with this chick, honestly. She needs to step off and move on, they haven't been together since 2005.

 

[CantAffordMAC]

Quote:

Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. Oh BTW if you have to roll on her let Stargazer and I know and we can go too, then we can go make up shopping afterwards to wash away our *cough* *ahem* guilt *cough*.

hahahaha too bad I dont live in Northern VA anymore, cuz I would be DOWN for a beatdown!! Fairfax was like 15 min. from where I lived...is there a MAC near there??

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. Yaaaaaaaay! Kickin ass and buyin make up, two of my favorite things.

Brittney, you're so hood...I love it! You remind me so much of me, and I think we'd get along soooo well!

 

[NicksWifey]

Hell yes, there is a MAC freestanding store in Fair Oaks Mall in Fairfax...and the girls are wonderful there! So yeah, let's roll on a bitch LOL.

I love you girls!

 

[aleksis210]

I'm so late on this!! Is this girl still working with your boyfriend? I was about to say that I wouldn't be mad.... until I read the part about your boyfriend saying 'she'll always have a piece of my heart....blah blah' lmao GAG is right! My best friend's husband said the same thing b4 they were married about his first love, but I DON'T GET IT, what does that mean?! I don't know I just kind of feel like when you move on...you move on. Does it mean that they will always have a soft spot for the person? because if so then I'd be pissed. lol. There's all kinds of advice I'd LOVE to give you, but I'm not that violent person anymore...haha! Just keep close tabs,(I'm such a spy/snoop lol) and don't be insecure because there's not a less than gorgeous thing about you!

 

[Beauty Mark]

I think that it can mean many things. I think, though, given when he said it, even if it were somewhat true, that it was inappropriate.