Would you be upset?

[NicksWifey]

My fiance told me this last night, but I guess he called work to speak to one of his male co-workers. She answered the phone and told him that she had called his phone and I had called back. Her excuse was, she thought that their work called her on Saturday night and thought Nick wanted to ask her a question so she chose to call him back on his cell. Really, work did call but it was another guy who had a question, not him. She just assumed it was Nick. She said she was really really sorry for any inconvience she has caused, that she didn't mean any harm, and also to apologize to me.
Whatever though. If she wants to play the innocent victim, this naive bullshit of "I'm sorry, I didn't know", I'm just not going to believe in it. I also won't let it worry me either. Because I'm sure she will slip up and do something stupid in time. He asked her not to call him anymore on his phone, that if she had a question, it could wait until they were at work.

 

[MACLovin]

Nice try.. we'll see how well she actually follows the rules. At least he said something to her about calling him though. There's really no excuse for calling his cell when she wasn't 100% sure it was him that called first of all, and secondly that it would be ok to call him when he wasn't even on the clock.

Even though she apologized, it still seems like she's a shady bitch and up to no good. And I question her sincerity! It's like she only said something because she 'got caught' so to speak. You know?

Don't worry girl.. if she tries anything stupid, the Specktra ass-kicking brigade will be ready to trounce on that bitch..

lol

 

[aleksis210]

^lol, I agree!...hmmmm...maybe it's the heat ,but Southern floridians always seem to want to fight really badly compared to everywhere else lmao

 

[babydoll_020]

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Originally Posted by NicksWifey If your fiance/husband/boyfriend, whatever, had an ex that they dated for a long period of time (in my fiance's case, nearly 4 years) and that ex recently started working with your significant other? To make a long story short without going into a ton of detail, my fiance used to date this shiesty ass bitch back in the day who cheated on him with quite a few dudes. They were each others first loves, first everything, if you catch my drift. And then they broke up and haven't been together since 2005. Sooo, she moved to Georgia and now she's just recently moved back to Virginia and just HAD to get a fucking job working with my man at his weekend job. There's just something about this situation I don't trust. You know, maybe I don't trust my man, when he tells me "I was with the bitch for nearly 4 years, she will always have a piece of my heart and I will always have a piece of hers." GAG. Sorry, but I just don't see it and I just want to punch this bitch in the face. I mean honestly, it bothers the living shit out of me on Friday nights when they work together that I have to sit there and think about what's going on. I'm a very insecure person and always have been and that's something I guess I'll need to work on. I have never met her and hope I never do. There are plenty of jobs out there, why can't she roll her shiesty ass elsewhere? It just makes me feel like she wants to fuck up what we have.

I would definately have the shits period. I know it has alot to do with 'trusting' each other, but I believe that situation can really tug at this. As upseting as it has been/would be, I feel like it is a good 'test' for my fiance/boyfriend. As devastated I would be/have been, if it so happend that he cheated on me, then so be it. You might have a person by titles sake (boyfriend/fiance) but one thing you can never control are their emotions/feelings - so if they chose to wander off, then so be it -

however Im quite conflicted with the thought why it is necessary to remove temptation, at the cost of discovering the 'truth'. Not sure if I made sense!

 

[Tasti_Butterfly]

I don't know if they still work together, but maybe he can get a restraining order on her? For getting a job where she knew he works, calling his phone over and over like a stalker, going through his phone, and maybe even get the friend to say she is trying to find out where he lives. I don't really know how that works, but it's just an idea

 

[TamiChoi]

wow, i'm so late, but i know how you feel! what makes me mad is the "apart of my life" bs. pleaseeee. if my boyfriend said that to me, hell will break loose.

but when we fight, he's constantly saying things about his "first love" to piss me off and hurt me. It does hurt me because I don't want him to have feelings for that ugly asss bitch, but I always wonder if whatever he says about her is true. At least your fiance doesn't compare you two. correct? I got it bad... lol.
Anyways, there is nothing to do about it, but if she keeps pullin' off her trifflin acts, beat her assssss! lol
You are my hero

 

[chiquilla_loca]

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Originally Posted by EllieFerris I know it's hard, but do try to take the emotion out of the conversations. I, am a fan of psychological pharmaceuticals and it has helped my relationship with my husband immensley! He is a chef... works every night... with cute college-aged waitresses... they're thin... they're blonde... they have perky boobs... and little asses! (And he's a total hottie - never marry a man more handsome than you are pretty!) But, a little Lexapro each night before I go to bed and I couldn't possibly care any less if he's banging each and every one! (ok, that's not entirely true) But now, I stop and think before I speak and honesly? The thoughts dont' even enter my head anymore. Before Lexapro, I was a crazy psycho bitch from hell on wheels! I constantly accused him of fooling around and one day he told me that I've accused him of cheating so many times, he might as well go ahead and do it! Umm hello! HUGE wake-up call! I called the doc, got the meds and we've never been happier.

My fiance's a cook too & i had to LMAO about you saying that he works with those waitresses. He's very honest to me & has said that some of them hit on him...quite often. (He is a hottie, what can i say, i can't blame him, he's so cute!)
But I do have to say Lexapro def didn't work for me...after taking it...i generally felt worse and often more depressed. But I'm glad that it works for you, cause being happier is all that matters for you & your hubby.

 

[chiquilla_loca]

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Originally Posted by NicksWifey My fiance told me this last night, but I guess he called work to speak to one of his male co-workers. She answered the phone and told him that she had called his phone and I had called back. Her excuse was, she thought that their work called her on Saturday night and thought Nick wanted to ask her a question so she chose to call him back on his cell. Really, work did call but it was another guy who had a question, not him. She just assumed it was Nick. She said she was really really sorry for any inconvience she has caused, that she didn't mean any harm, and also to apologize to me. Whatever though. If she wants to play the innocent victim, this naive bullshit of "I'm sorry, I didn't know", I'm just not going to believe in it. I also won't let it worry me either. Because I'm sure she will slip up and do something stupid in time. He asked her not to call him anymore on his phone, that if she had a question, it could wait until they were at work.

I can really sympathize with you sweetie.

I've been in a similar situation these past couple months, it's uncomfortable to say the least that they are working together, but...
I wouldn't get too caught up with worrying about this girl (easier said than done, right?), because the relationship is between You & Nick, not You, Nick & the ex. Cause really you're just making yourself sick...
As long as he is honest with you & truly loves you, & tells you if something does happen, it'll will get better in time. You'll be able to trust him and not worry about the other girls who decide to be "sluts", who don't respect themselves and try to hit on other people's men.
Violence, although, it's probably the 1st thing you want to do is beat the sh*t out of her, that's not the answer either...think about it...
You get in trouble with the police, have a criminal record for assault/battery and still don't end up feeling better in the long run...You'll be hurting yourself even more.
About him saying that they'll have a special part of each other always, now that's F*ck'd up...i'd be hurt too.

Leave the past in the past!
I hope the best for you!