Resolution "LOW-BUY" 2014! Who wants to play?

[Ajigglin]

What? Let me get this straight - if a table sneaks out without paying while you're in the kitchen putting in/picking up an order, they expect YOU to pay for it? That doesn't sound right - is it even legal? That would be like saying that a retail employee is responsible for paying for any items shoplifted. My son is working as a cashier in a grocery store and he had someone run out with a small bag of expensive seafood after he rang them up. They're specifically trained not to give chase (he's a fit 6"1" and it was a petite woman so no question that he could have caught her). He called out after her but he's not allowed to leave his cash. He didn't have to pay for the order (I'd have coached him on how to fight it if they'd asked him to). When a teller in a bank is robbed (even without a weapon being shown) s/he is not responsible for paying the money back. I don't see how they get the right to make a server personally responsible for the criminal actions of a customer that the restaurant admitted. I understand that there's a loss, but a business owner has insurance and is the one who should be bearing the risk of theft - not an hourly paid employee. It makes me crazy when businesses take advantage of employees this way. I was working retail (for minimum wage) in university and the clothing store I was working for wanted me to arrive 15 minutes early to vacuum and clean and then stay an extra 15 minutes after my shift to close up. I had no problem with that, except that they told me that I wasn't allowed to punch in for that time since I only get paid for my shift itself. I punched in anyway, and when the manager told me that I couldn't I pointed out that she was breaking the Labour Code. She tried to swish that off, so I brought in a copy of it (I minored in Business Law) to show her and told her in no uncertain terms that if the practice continued that I was going to call the Labour Board and report them on behalf of all of the employees who worked there. At a minimum, that would result in retroactive back pay if not fines and penalties. I also pointed out that terminating someone for exercising their rights under the law is seen as a BFD by Labour Board types. She couldn't stand me after that, but I kept my job and hours got paid for the time I worked from then on. Thankfully this happened just a few months before I graduated and found full-time work in my career, so I wasn't there long. I don't know anything about labour law in the U.S., but it might be worth checking out.

This is pretty common, sadly. It really shouldn't be this way.

 

[User38]

It must be the stars.. sheesh

there seem to be problems and hurt all around right now.

earlier it was L'Wren Scott's death (she was on my twitter) and the passing of LeLe here on Specktra.

I am getting some wine and calling it a day.

 

[Ajigglin]

@SleepingBeauty   - Hey Lady! Thanks for the shout out!  I've been reading for a few days and following along with all the posts, but haven't felt like commenting too much as we had to put our little girl kitty down on Wednesday.  It was the hardest day of my life and it was terrible to have to witness, but we couldn't have her be alone when she really needed us.  We get her back this week I think and have a little urn for her, all picked out.  To say that this week has been shitty would be a huge understatement. Luckily work has been steady so that has kept me busy and my mind off of things.  We are grieving together and leaning on each other, so that is the important thing.  When our hearts are ready, we will be ready to love again and adopt another senior kitty!  I've cried myself to sleep every night so far, so hopefully tonight I'll feel a bit better.  This type of grief seems overwhelming and misunderstood by well meaning people.  I don't remember feeling this devastated when my grandparents passed and we were close. I think the element of choice is weighing heavily on us too and the fact that animals only love, they don't judge or withhold their love at all, unlike humans.  Oh, how we miss her so much - we keep looking for her and expecting her. Sometimes I almost call for her before I remember.     @singer82   - girl, that can't be legal. What a bunch of bull. I worked as a server and when we would have a dine and dash it would be covered by the restaurant.  You have had some good advice here about labour laws, etc.  Thinking of you girl.  To everyone being successful on your low buys and use it up challenges, Way to Go!  I've been trying the 'week product basket' where I'm only using stuff in the basket for one week at a time.  Not bad at all!   This funk has kept me out of the stores at least, and I am re-examining many parts of my life.  I keep thinking about how much I spend and how I could refocus that onto things that matter to me - like maybe charities to do with animals, for example.  How can I give back to the causes that I care about?  How can I honour myself and those that I care about in the best possible way?  How can I save money for things that really matter, like money for adopting animals in need, for my future, for my education?  How I have been frivolous in the past - sometimes it's hard to believe.  I feel like I am waking up out of a long stupor.    

Aww. I'm so sorry about your kitty.

 

[Ajigglin]

Thank you, but right now I'm not really feeling too bad for her.  She has done some things that I would consider unforgivable (to her husband, his daughter and to me).  I'm pretty torn up right now but it's not really for her marriage.  I've been either crying or fighting back tears for days.  I'm not even sure how I will get through work today tbh. Thank you I'm sorry that happened to you at work.  I think making you pay the tab is just terrible. I had gotten into the habit of a face a week instead of a face a day too lol.  Doing this l/s challenge is forcing me to switch it all up daily.

WELP! Good for her husband, then? Sounds like she wasn't too deserving. Sucks for the kid, though...

 

[Ajigglin]

It must be the stars.. sheesh there seem to be problems and hurt  all around right now.  earlier it was L'Wren Scott's death (she was on my twitter) and the passing of LeLe here on Specktra. I am getting some wine and calling it a day.

Oh, hell! LeLe?!?! Are you serious?!? I'm scared it's who I think it is. What happened?

 

[Ajigglin]

Goodness, what an f-ed up few days this has been. Nothing yesterday; MAC Sin today. Ran a few errands. I had to get out of the house. Both of us are pretty somber. Things got worse and I asked him to make a choice because I'm not doing all the heavy lifting for this marriage anymore.

 

[liba]

I just googled it... and I have to admit I'm intrigued... as I was when I bought it. For some reason it got neglected. I think I was wearing Party Parrot a lot at the time and couldn't imagine another bright pink taking its place. Maybe next time I go to reach for my PP, I'll grab FoL instead! I'm thinking I'll want to do this lippie challenge again in late Spring/ early Summer to get my brighter, statement lipsticks some love too!! Right now I still seem to be reaching for fall-ish reds and berries or nude shades. Maybe that will change as the days go on though.

The funny thing is, after thinking about FoL, I pulled it out again today and am wearing it right now!!! I didn't even pat it in with a finger - I slathered it on and I'm really loving it. What I had to do was do a little skin perfecting. I whipped out the trusty lavender CC compact and a tiny bit of Sakura MB on the cheeks for a little more dimension, and just some of that wonderful Counterfeit Brown Zoomlash for a softer look than black - nothing else. Looks great! Getting the skin just right makes all the difference and just keeping all the rest of the makeup at almost zero is the right balance for that megawatt color. I've got a pastel yellow shirt on too, which is a good look with it, rather than my usual black or red clothes. FoL's going in my Spring 2014 bag!!!

I was more of a Party Parrot person that year too, btw. I think the blushes that were out at the time were all a little too strong for FoL.

 

[Prettypackages]

The funny thing is, after thinking about FoL, I pulled it out again today and am wearing it right now!!! I didn't even pat it in with a finger - I slathered it on and I'm really loving it. What I had to do was do a little skin perfecting. I whipped out the trusty lavender CC compact and a tiny bit of Sakura MB on the cheeks for a little more dimension, and just some of that wonderful Counterfeit Brown Zoomlash for a softer look than black - nothing else. Looks great! Getting the skin just right makes all the difference and just keeping all the rest of the makeup at almost zero is the right balance for that megawatt color. I've got a pastel yellow shirt on too, which is a good look with it, rather than my usual black or red clothes. FoL's going in my Spring 2014 bag!!!

I was more of a Party Parrot person that year too, btw. I think the blushes that were out at the time were all a little too strong for FoL.

It's funny that you all mentioned force of love, I puti it in my get rid of pile last night. I'm going to try these tips.


What happened to Lele? I had no idea.

 

[shellygrrl]

Oh, hell! LeLe?!?! Are you serious?!? I'm scared it's who I think it is. What happened?

What happened to Lele? I had no idea. 

There's a thread in Chatter. http://www.specktra.net/t/187753/beautybylele-passed-away

 

[mosha010]

I just saw pictures of force of love. O. M. G. I wanna cry. I wasn't around for this. This lippy is sooooo beautiful.

 

[Naynadine]

So many posts I wanted to quote, it's hard to keep up! Will go back later.
Sending hugs to everyone!!

 

[mosha010]

It must be the stars.. sheesh

there seem to be problems and hurt all around right now.

earlier it was L'Wren Scott's death (she was on my twitter) and the passing of LeLe here on Specktra.

I am getting some wine and calling it a day.

Same here. It was not a good day today.... Lwren's death was very shocking too given the circumstances

 

[lyseD]

Haven't used my Force of Love more than once. I'm not sure what I was thinking with that purchase.

 

[mosha010]

Haven't used my Force of Love more than once. I'm not sure what I was thinking with that purchase.

No way !? Why? Bad quality ?

 

[lyseD]

Haven't used my Force of Love more than once. I'm not sure what I was thinking with that purchase.

No way !? Why? Bad quality ?

No. It just looks ridiculous on me.

 

[PixieDancer]

Day 7 Lipstick: Revlon Lip Butter in Pink Truffle

I want to send a HUGE hug to all my sweet ladies in this thread (and throughout Specktra) who are struggling right now. Losing LeLe should be a real eye opener to us all and a gentle (yet sad) reminder of how precious life is and how there is always someone out there in the world struggling more than ourselves. Take every breath as a reminder that you are living. And that your life has value and purpose. That the bad times will pass, and give way to wonderful moments. That without life's curveballs and tribulations, the amazing moments and bountiful blessings wouldn't seem as great. Look in the mirror tonight before you go to bed and tell yourself that you are beautiful on the inside and out, that you are loved and thought about (even in your darkest times), and lastly, there is life you are meant to live and it is full of splendor... you just have to believe that you deserve to live it!

Love you ladies!!

 

[liba]

It must be the stars.. sheesh

there seem to be problems and hurt all around right now.

earlier it was L'Wren Scott's death (she was on my twitter) and the passing of LeLe here on Specktra.

I am getting some wine and calling it a day.

There are problems and hurt all around, but there is also the beauty and love of this community, and the new life that is growing all around us under the springtime skies. Love to all.

 

[ILoveMakeup84]

Day 5: Jordana Twist and Shine in Candied Coral. I LOVE these so much and you cant beat the price! So today we had a huge meeting with a Mall that wants decorations for Mother's Day and it went great! They loved everything we designed for them so yaay!! [@]Glitteryvegas[/@] I am so sorry for your loss! Sending you lots of hugs and kisses!! [@]HerGreyness[/@] I am sorry you had a bad day! Hope tomorrow is a great one! Hugs!

 

[Debbs]

We just have to remember that time spent here is a distraction from our real lives and struggles. So glad for all the support and community spirit derived from been on this site. Disagreements, petty fights and disputes may occur but isn't that normal amongst family? Hug your love ones and appreciate time spent with each other. As a cancer survivor I have been in a reflective solemn mood re-evaluating what and who really matters. LeLe's poise, grace and dignity throughout all her struggles is beyond amazing and extremely commendable.

 

[ILoveMakeup84]

We just have to remember that time spent here is a distraction from our real lives and struggles. So glad for all the support and community spirit derived from been on this site. Disagreements, petty fights and disputes may occur but isn't that normal amongst family? Hug your love ones and appreciate time spent with each other. As a cancer survivor I have been in a reflective solemn mood re-evaluating what and who really matters. LeLe's poise, grace and dignity throughout all her struggles is beyond amazing and extremely commendable.

You are so right! We need to appreciate the little things in life! Sometimes we get so caught up on things like work etc that we forget what a blessing having a great family and friends is. We need to pause and think on whats really important. I am so sorry about LeLe! I didn't know her much but I know she was a wonderful, beautiful person!!