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Shimmer
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Re: Getting approached by guys??
You probably are intimidating. Smile more. Flicker your eyes around your interest's face, collar bone, and mouth. (assuming you're interested...) and be approachable.
Guys are usually less afraid to approach a girl who's smiling and laughing at something than they are girls who are deeply meshed into their 'clique'.
You probably are intimidating. Smile more. Flicker your eyes around your interest's face, collar bone, and mouth. (assuming you're interested...) and be approachable.
Guys are usually less afraid to approach a girl who's smiling and laughing at something than they are girls who are deeply meshed into their 'clique'.
Beauty Mark
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Re: Getting approached by guys??
If you're shy, you probably give off a reserved vibe. Don't over do it, but you have to be more of an extrovert. You have to show some interest to get some interest.
If you're shy, you probably give off a reserved vibe. Don't over do it, but you have to be more of an extrovert. You have to show some interest to get some interest.
xolovinyoo
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lol, im a shy person and i get approached by alotta guys. But then i guess i dont look shy if you first saw me. so i guess walk with confidence? wear something that guys find attractive.. not something slutty but something that makes you feel beauitiful. Also, if a guy looks at you, and if hes attracitive, try not to look away and give him a cute smile :]
lol, im a shy person and i get approached by alotta guys. But then i guess i dont look shy if you first saw me. so i guess walk with confidence? wear something that guys find attractive.. not something slutty but something that makes you feel beauitiful. Also, if a guy looks at you, and if hes attracitive, try not to look away and give him a cute smile :]
luvsic
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I have become more extroverted in terms of approaching people...and I have landed guys before by being extroverted. I just never get approached.
hmm that may be. People have told me before that I give off the "stuck up" vibe when they first see me...
hopefully that can change. I just don't really know how to change that about myself, because when people meet me, they tell me that I'm not what they expected me to be.
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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark
If you're shy, you probably give off a reserved vibe. Don't over do it, but you have to be more of an extrovert. You have to show some interest to get some interest. |
I have become more extroverted in terms of approaching people...and I have landed guys before by being extroverted. I just never get approached.
hmm that may be. People have told me before that I give off the "stuck up" vibe when they first see me...
PMBG83
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um let me think about that one. NEVER. havent been in a relationship since 2005 and havent had or went on any dates since that time as well but in order to be technical, since January that was the first (and last) time id been on a date since a breakup. wont even get into how awkward that date was.
um let me think about that one. NEVER. havent been in a relationship since 2005 and havent had or went on any dates since that time as well but in order to be technical, since January that was the first (and last) time id been on a date since a breakup. wont even get into how awkward that date was.
Raerae
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Hehe...
Catching a guys attraction... I guess it depends on the guy but there are a few pretty easy ways to go about it...
Go out alone more. Not talking about going to a bar or a club (although not saying you can't), but there are plenty of social places to go spend time during the day that are great places to meet men. Foodcourts at malls are always packed, coffee shops in the mornings/evenings around colleges, places like piers at the beach, etc. And when your there, smile and make a lot of eye contact. A lot of men are just as shy as you. So if your in your clique and oblivious to everyone around you, it's going to be a lot more intimidating for him, than if your single and giving him positive signals. Use your smile! It's seriously like a green light for most men LOL.
Mix up your routine. If you go to the same places, your going to see the same guys. You can do the same stuff, just do it at different places, even if you have to go a little bit out of the way to do it. I've met guys at all sorts of random places, from Kinko's Copies, to grochery stores. Just smile and make eye contact! Notice a trend here?
Don't turn anyone down. I know it's sounds strange. But if your in a serious dating drought, don't turn down dates from anyone, even if he's not your type (excluding really creepy guys LOL). Dating gives you CONFIDENCE. Even if you know he's probably not your prince charming, your getting out of your regular routine for few hours. Worst case scenario, you get dinner, coffee, lunch, a drink, whatever and never see the guy again. It's just a date, it's not a life time commitment. But your dating again, and it's a lot easier to get approached when you know guys like approaching you. Confidence is so sexy, and it's easy to see who has it, and who doesn't.
Hehe...
Catching a guys attraction... I guess it depends on the guy but there are a few pretty easy ways to go about it...
Go out alone more. Not talking about going to a bar or a club (although not saying you can't), but there are plenty of social places to go spend time during the day that are great places to meet men. Foodcourts at malls are always packed, coffee shops in the mornings/evenings around colleges, places like piers at the beach, etc. And when your there, smile and make a lot of eye contact. A lot of men are just as shy as you. So if your in your clique and oblivious to everyone around you, it's going to be a lot more intimidating for him, than if your single and giving him positive signals. Use your smile! It's seriously like a green light for most men LOL.
Mix up your routine. If you go to the same places, your going to see the same guys. You can do the same stuff, just do it at different places, even if you have to go a little bit out of the way to do it. I've met guys at all sorts of random places, from Kinko's Copies, to grochery stores. Just smile and make eye contact! Notice a trend here?
Don't turn anyone down. I know it's sounds strange. But if your in a serious dating drought, don't turn down dates from anyone, even if he's not your type (excluding really creepy guys LOL). Dating gives you CONFIDENCE. Even if you know he's probably not your prince charming, your getting out of your regular routine for few hours. Worst case scenario, you get dinner, coffee, lunch, a drink, whatever and never see the guy again. It's just a date, it's not a life time commitment. But your dating again, and it's a lot easier to get approached when you know guys like approaching you. Confidence is so sexy, and it's easy to see who has it, and who doesn't.
ndn-ista
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Hahaha...yes I used to get approached a lot more in my younger, thinner days. I've always been the one that got approached first within my girls etc, of course I never took it to my head (at least I hope I never did!) But now, I am like fuck it, Im going to wear that top that is slightly tight and shows some of my rolls....whateva! lol...a few of my guys friends have told me...."so your not that bad once I got to know you." I also think that its because I don't really pay any mind to other people, and just think in my own world, don't really smile and try to make causal eye contact, unless I am spoken to. I have been told that I give up that bitchy, intimidating vibe. Plus, thats just me with my guard up. If the guy actually took the time to get to know me, he will know the real deal.
I think it has a lot to do of being constantly hurt by guys being interseted in me and then I get hurt cause they end up being assholes. Plus, me ex that which was my first love, used to tell me that he doesn't find me attractive in his eyes and this and that. So now, I am like eh whateva, I don't need to try, if the guy really really wants to talk to me, he will make the move. Not such a optimistic way of thinking, but it works for me!
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| Originally Posted by Hilly
I don't get approached either. It's been a rare occurance. I think it's because I am chubby. Whatev. |
Hahaha...yes I used to get approached a lot more in my younger, thinner days. I've always been the one that got approached first within my girls etc, of course I never took it to my head (at least I hope I never did!) But now, I am like fuck it, Im going to wear that top that is slightly tight and shows some of my rolls....whateva! lol...a few of my guys friends have told me...."so your not that bad once I got to know you." I also think that its because I don't really pay any mind to other people, and just think in my own world, don't really smile and try to make causal eye contact, unless I am spoken to. I have been told that I give up that bitchy, intimidating vibe. Plus, thats just me with my guard up. If the guy actually took the time to get to know me, he will know the real deal.
I think it has a lot to do of being constantly hurt by guys being interseted in me and then I get hurt cause they end up being assholes. Plus, me ex that which was my first love, used to tell me that he doesn't find me attractive in his eyes and this and that. So now, I am like eh whateva, I don't need to try, if the guy really really wants to talk to me, he will make the move. Not such a optimistic way of thinking, but it works for me!
Fairybelle
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^^VERY true. Keep your smile on, stand up straight, put on some falsies, a bit of bronzer, and simple lipgloss! You want to be approachable--a smile, good posture, and eye contact are sure-fire ways to get some good attention!
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| Originally Posted by Shimmer
You probably are intimidating. Smile more. Flicker your eyes around your interest's face, collar bone, and mouth. (assuming you're interested...) and be approachable. Guys are usually less afraid to approach a girl who's smiling and laughing at something than they are girls who are deeply meshed into their 'clique'. |
^^VERY true. Keep your smile on, stand up straight, put on some falsies, a bit of bronzer, and simple lipgloss! You want to be approachable--a smile, good posture, and eye contact are sure-fire ways to get some good attention!
dollbabybex
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Re: Getting approached by guys??
i get asked out all the time
but its quality not quantity!
i get asked out all the time
but its quality not quantity!
Fairybelle
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^^Right on!!
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| Originally Posted by dollbabybex
i get asked out all the time but its quality not quantity!
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^^Right on!!
V15U4L_3RR0R
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For me it's 50/50. I don't believe that only guys should do the asking though. If I see a guy I fancy then I tell him. The worst he can say is "sorry I don't fancy you". You haven't lost anything but you haven't gained any either. But if they say yes then you can only gain. So I've never had a problem with asking out guys. I don't tend to get to offended if they say no.
I have been told that guys have found me a little intimidating when I do that but some of the guys I've been with found it really refreshing and to them it made a nice change instead of them having to do all the legwork.
For me it's 50/50. I don't believe that only guys should do the asking though. If I see a guy I fancy then I tell him. The worst he can say is "sorry I don't fancy you". You haven't lost anything but you haven't gained any either. But if they say yes then you can only gain. So I've never had a problem with asking out guys. I don't tend to get to offended if they say no.
I have been told that guys have found me a little intimidating when I do that but some of the guys I've been with found it really refreshing and to them it made a nice change instead of them having to do all the legwork.
Simply Elegant
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I get approached a lot. I'm shy though and picky but seem a bit intimidating to some people. So you don't necessarily have to be extroverted but it does help sometimes.
I get approached a lot. I'm shy though and picky but seem a bit intimidating to some people. So you don't necessarily have to be extroverted but it does help sometimes.
Willa
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I always been the chubby one, and when guys approached me, saddly, they were all freaks
I also been told that I look a little bit snobish... but it's only that I don't smile a lot.
When I stopped wishing/searching for a bf, I met one!
I was waiting for a friend, getting ready at home, just got out of the shower, got dressed and put mascara and the door bell rang.
A guy from a Yahoo community, was supposed to come and take a computer desk I was giving away for free. I forgot to put it outside so he couldnt see me, or my place... So he came upstairs and BANG!!!! That was it!
Its been one year now and he's the best guy I could ever find for me!
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| Originally Posted by Hilly
I don't get approached either. It's been a rare occurance. I think it's because I am chubby. Whatev. |
I always been the chubby one, and when guys approached me, saddly, they were all freaks
When I stopped wishing/searching for a bf, I met one!
I was waiting for a friend, getting ready at home, just got out of the shower, got dressed and put mascara and the door bell rang.
A guy from a Yahoo community, was supposed to come and take a computer desk I was giving away for free. I forgot to put it outside so he couldnt see me, or my place... So he came upstairs and BANG!!!! That was it!
Its been one year now and he's the best guy I could ever find for me!
ndn-ista
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Wow, thats wonderful. Yeah, I know, everyone says when you least expect it. But I also think, not EVERYONE is meant to be with someone...maybe your meant to be single and happy.
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| Originally Posted by Willa
I always been the chubby one, and when guys approached me, saddly, they were all freaks
When I stopped wishing/searching for a bf, I met one! I was waiting for a friend, getting ready at home, just got out of the shower, got dressed and put mascara and the door bell rang. A guy from a Yahoo community, was supposed to come and take a computer desk I was giving away for free. I forgot to put it outside so he couldnt see me, or my place... So he came upstairs and BANG!!!! That was it! Its been one year now and he's the best guy I could ever find for me! |
Wow, thats wonderful. Yeah, I know, everyone says when you least expect it. But I also think, not EVERYONE is meant to be with someone...maybe your meant to be single and happy.
aziajs
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LMAO!!
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| Originally Posted by ndn-ista
Hahaha...yes I used to get approached a lot more in my younger, thinner days. I've always been the one that got approached first within my girls etc, of course I never took it to my head (at least I hope I never did!) But now, I am like fuck it, Im going to wear that top that is slightly tight and shows some of my rolls....whateva! l |
LMAO!!
luvsic
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Yeah same with me. I have been approached a few times (like maybe once or twice in my life), but only by the guys who aren't my type (some of them were kind of creepy..)
wow, that's so cute!!
and it's really cool how you guys got together too.
I know it's easy to think "quality, not quantity" but ughhhh I admit it, I'm a little bitter
especially cause I have a lot of pretty friends who always get approached (a lot of the times right in front of me. So I'm just standing there awkwardly while some random dude goes up to ask my friend for her number), and who have a lot of guy friends. I try so hard not to care sometimes, but when my friends talk *cough*brag*cough* about it to me I really don't know how to respond. So I'm just thinking, "What was your purpose of telling me this?"
It's really cool how you guys don't really care if you're approached or not. I wish I was at that stage.
And I HAVE been extroverted in the past...I've put myself out there to talk to people and get to know them, and yeah I've made a few guy friends from it. I'm just saying not one guy ever in my life has made an effort to get to know me (in terms of friendship), and I don't know why. There has to be a reason..whether it's because I'm intimidating or not attractive or something there has to be a reason. Sorry for this low self esteem tirade, just sometimes it just makes me so confused about everything. Urgh.
I don't know if it's just a confidence issue..I don't know if it has anything to do with beauty. I just wish I didn't care so much about it. Sigh.
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| Originally Posted by Willa
I always been the chubby one, and when guys approached me, saddly, they were all freaks
When I stopped wishing/searching for a bf, I met one! I was waiting for a friend, getting ready at home, just got out of the shower, got dressed and put mascara and the door bell rang. A guy from a Yahoo community, was supposed to come and take a computer desk I was giving away for free. I forgot to put it outside so he couldnt see me, or my place... So he came upstairs and BANG!!!! That was it! Its been one year now and he's the best guy I could ever find for me! |
Yeah same with me. I have been approached a few times (like maybe once or twice in my life), but only by the guys who aren't my type (some of them were kind of creepy..)
wow, that's so cute!!
I know it's easy to think "quality, not quantity" but ughhhh I admit it, I'm a little bitter
especially cause I have a lot of pretty friends who always get approached (a lot of the times right in front of me. So I'm just standing there awkwardly while some random dude goes up to ask my friend for her number), and who have a lot of guy friends. I try so hard not to care sometimes, but when my friends talk *cough*brag*cough* about it to me I really don't know how to respond. So I'm just thinking, "What was your purpose of telling me this?" It's really cool how you guys don't really care if you're approached or not.
I wish I was at that stage.And I HAVE been extroverted in the past...I've put myself out there to talk to people and get to know them, and yeah I've made a few guy friends from it. I'm just saying not one guy ever in my life has made an effort to get to know me (in terms of friendship), and I don't know why. There has to be a reason..whether it's because I'm intimidating or not attractive or something there has to be a reason. Sorry for this low self esteem tirade, just sometimes it just makes me so confused about everything. Urgh.
