Interracial relationships.. whats ur opinion?

[sixpixee]

I'm Chinese, and my fiance is black. We've been together 10 years. It was hard for me at the beginning because we'd always get looks and comments from people while we were out. I'm older now, though, and I don't really care what strangers on the street think. My family had a really difficult time accepting him at first, but we've been together so long and now have two children so they are more accepting.

 

[Face2Mac]

I'm African American and my husband is Irish American. We have been together for 5 1/2 years, married for 4. I didn't set out with the intention of marrying "out of my race" as they say, but my husband approached me. At first I was hesitant, because I the makeup addict, did not think I fit with him, not that I hadn't dated out of party lines, I dated and Irish/Arabic guy and didn't have a problem with it.

But you do have to adjust to the stares but after so long I just started to imagine that people were staring because I am so fresh and so clean, lol.

I don't care, I don't do double takes when I see people together that we are not conditioned/used to seeing together but the world is global now, and everyone needs to just love and be loved.

 

[couturesista]

Love Is Love!!

 

[Mizz.Yasmine]

im in one. and my son is mixed just like me

. hes so beautifu too. ill never let any1 make him question himself just becuz of his race like people did to me when i was younger.

 

[pumpkincat210]

It's absolutely none of my business who falls in love.

 

[pumpkincat210]

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Originally Posted by Mizz.Yasmine im in one. and my son is mixed just like me . hes so beautifu too. ill never let any1 make him question himself just becuz of his race like people did to me when i was younger.

I do agree, mixed people do turn out very beautiful. It's like they get the best traits of both races.

 

[ellienellie]

Well I was with my ex husband for 8 years (he was Asian, I'm white).
And it didn't make a bit of difference (we broke up over entirely different matters). I noticed Asian girls looked at me the same way (like why is he with her) And Asian guys tried it on (even though they knew we were married!)

It's not what's on the outside that matters, it what's inside.
If your happy together and you're not hurting anyone, who cares if they are black, white, purple or green!
Be happy!!

 

[SparklyDiamonds]

I am completely for interracial relationships, I'm in one and I myself and bi-racial. Interracial relationships are extremely common where I live so thankfully I don't see/experience discrimination.

IMO everyone and anyone is entitled to date whoever they want, no matter race/gender/etc. without having to deal with b/s. Racist people really piss me off!

I personally am not attracted to anyone of my race(s) however that is not 'racist' but more of a preference.

 

[mona lisa]

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Originally Posted by glamdoll Hey everyone, The reason Im asking this is because Im latina and my husband is half white and half samoan, and wen ever were walking together Ive seen some cacausian girls look at me like "what the hell is he doing with her?" He looks white mostly but he is half.. and wen were seen by latinos Ive gotten comments such as " you are ashame to ur ppl" and stuff like that. Also one of my friends is also hispanic and her husband is black and some cacausian boys walked infront of then callin him the N word and "representing" their confederate flags.. I think its dumb that people still think like that I think that love is love no matter what race you are. Wen I did date with in my race the guys were mostly jerks! thinkin that the girl had to do as the guy wanted.. and my husband is a total gentleman! but yeah I just wanted to get your opinion on the topic

Glamdoll:

There is nothing wrong with someone older, younger, taller, or shorter (within reason of course). Nor is there anything wrong with someone of a different race or nationality. Those who disqualify others on these factors are morons.

Love does not see the sorts of artificial boundaries we place on things and we often do not choose (at least initially) those we fall in love with.

And it sounds to me like you both have your match so the other can [expletive deleted] off as far as I am concerned.

 

[mona lisa]

As I accidentally double posted, the contents of this post (originally identical to the one preceding it) have been deleted.

 

[cre8_yourself]

im sorry.. but are you seriously asking this question.. its 2008..i think you see where Im going with this... but personally.. IM ALL FOR IT! im a product of an interracial marriage.. my mom is hungarian and my dad is african american...

 

[lucia_la_latina]

Although not in a relationship now i have dated spanish, white and black boys, btw i am latina and yes i have had looks, and no one cared, i dont think interracial dating is even an issue anymore, in 5 years no one will care!
enjoy life and enjoy the person you love

 

[sweetbabyblue]

I'm chinese and I've been going out with my bf (viet) for 2 years now and I'm ashamed to say I still let my parents get to me.
My mum thinks that 'vietnamese are evil' even though my boy's born and grow up here in Australia (not that I would care anyway) and she keeps saying how she's so disappointed.
My dad thinks he 'looks dodgy and stupid' and isn't good enough for me.
I told my mum I was going out with the boy once and she made me feel horrible about it for days going 'your dad had his hopes on you and you're going to destroy him!'. Sorry? since when did I say I was dropping out of uni and abandoning all other aspects of my life?
I felt so horrible for upsetting her after a few days I lied and said I broke it off with him.
My dad never knew but he keeps saying to his friend that 'my daughter didn't fall for your set up! She's got higher standards than that!' because he somehow thinks that his friend got his daughter to set my bf and I up just because they were jealous I got better High School exam results than his daughter?!

(My parents seem to believe the world revolves around them)

I know I shouldnt let my parents bother me this much, but with my sister's mental condition causing alot of stress to them they've pinned all their hopes and pretty much rely on me to make them happy and I don't want to hurt them.

wow that was alot off my chest. I'm sorry for the long spiel, it's just bothered me for years

 

[anjelik_dreamin]

You and me are in a very similar situation sweetbabyblue. My parents think he's dodgy and is just using me...so I have to pretend we're just friends. He's Chinese/Cambodian and I'm white so that probably doesn't help matters...he's the BEST guy though. Parents should learn to stay the hell out of their kid's love lives and just let them be happy.

 

[sweetbabyblue]

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Originally Posted by anjelik_dreamin You and me are in a very similar situation sweetbabyblue. My parents think he's dodgy and is just using me...so I have to pretend we're just friends. He's Chinese/Cambodian and I'm white so that probably doesn't help matters...he's the BEST guy though. Parents should learn to stay the hell out of their kid's love lives and just let them be happy.

Yes! My boy is the sweetest guy ever. I moved interstate not long after we started going out (it's been almost two years since I moved now) and we're still together and he talks to me every night on msn (we're too broke to afford expensive phone bills haha!)

The time I told my mum I liked him she said 'Are you just going out with him because you feel sorry for him??' as if it's that hard to believe I can actually like the boy!
Also my parents only met him once 4 years ago briefly before they wrote him off!

 

[anjelik_dreamin]

Omg that's exactly the same as me! My dad's barely saw him and now hates him. Wtf? And my mum thinks it's because 'I have no confidence and feel I can't do any better'.

 

[nursee81]

well me and my hubby have been married for 2 yrs now and been together for 9. hes jamiacan and i'm hispanic, when we started dating it was such a to do with my family. that i had to move out of my parents house and i was 18 at the time. I agree with you guys that parents should let their children have their own love lives and let them be happy with who they want. we used to get looks all the time by either spanish guys or black girls. it use to make me pissed like wtf are you looking at. i dont know if people still look at us funny b/c i learned to ignore it.

On another note even though its 2008 their are alot of sterotypes with interracial dating to this day. Our daughter are mixed and i'm always told by people that they dont look mixed, thank god they have good hair, their complexion is really light and so on. So WTF would they not be beautiful if they had bad hair, dark skin i swear some people are sooooo stupid.

 

[Mabelle]

I'm a white girl dating a white guy, so idon't have anything toodeep to add to this conversation.
But on the ote of what the poster above said about intteracial couples and sterotypes, i saw an episode of the tyra banks show (dont laugh!!!) talking about that. They asked people of all diffrent races what they thought of interacial couples (the couples were behind glass). Some of the things they said were DISGUSTING. I was so shocked and saddened.

 

[sweetbabyblue]

It is true though that some people want to have mixed kids just because they think they're more beautiful.
My friend is going out with a ski lankan guy and she's happy but she says she cant see herself marrying him or having kids because she doesnt think they'll be good looking and she wants to marry a white boy with blonde hair so she can have 'pretty kids with blue eyes'.
Personally I think that's pretty shallow but it's her choice

 

[miss_supra]

They can be super hard.

I date Asian guys only because I find them attractive. I always have the moms hating me. One time it even caused my boyfriend to break up. At least that was for the better!