Interracial relationships.. whats ur opinion?

[anjelik_dreamin]

This topic is really close to my heart...I'm white (half English/Welsh half Yugoslav) and I've been with my Chinese Camodian boyfriend for over a year. My parents totally WILL NOT accept him. As in my mum will say I'm 'not her daughter' and stuff like that when I mention him. So I pretty much have to deny the relationship to keep the peace (I'm only 18 btw, so I'm still dependent on my parents-not that I would leave if i wasn't). My mum liked him before she found out he was interested in me...just because he looks different and isn't good looking in her books...it infuriates me!! Love is love, people are people...I freaking hate racism.

 

[Loveleighe]

I grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood/ hispanic neighborhood so None of my boyfriends were black until i met my fiance. It really does disgust me that people would have a problem if i married someone who wasn't black. Even now being that my fiance is light skinned i get looks. I honestly hate the fact that people see colors. And what's more i think it's complete garbage that certain races mixing is acceptable whereas others are considered taboo. Like my bestfriend who is korean can date any white man she pleases and it is considered acceptable but my other best friend who happens to be a white european would be ostracized for dating a black man. WHy do you care? if you're not interested in dating someone from another race that's fine don't but why give other people shit for being open-minded and believing that love is not a matter of color. I have standards for the men i date that are already pretty rigourous as far as education and beliefs with all my other standards if i threw race in the mix i would be alone for the rest of my life.

 

[Loveleighe]

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Originally Posted by bebs when we were children we were racial blind, your best friend was just that.. your best friend their background didn't matter. you just had fun running around and playing on the swings and on the slide playing in the grass, they were just a child and it didn't matter because you weren't yet told the differences by society and people around you. and thats how I plan on teaching my children, that it is just another child it doesn't, you still love and feel the same. maybe we should all be children again it would make the world a better place.

Exactly how i feel it's fine as kids we don't see race as anything more than the difference between girls and boys. I won't raise my child to see a difference because we're all people and that's all that matters.

I remember being the only black 2nd grader in my class and having a racist teacher. I mean obviously the other students noticed i ws darker than they were but no one treated me any differently until my teacher made it seem as if it was a bad thing that i ws black and mingling with white children. If she misplaced something she would pull me aside and in a loud whisper would say i know you must've taken it , that's what your people do. She'd call on me to read and make comments like you read better than the rest of them you must be some sort of mutt.

 

[pahblov]

I think it's ridiculous that people in interracial relationships still are treated differently. It's just silliness. Personally, I have no problem with it, especially seeing as I'm a product of one! I'm half-chinese and half-irish...and my boyfriend's caucasian, and I've never experienced any race-rivarly.

 

[badkittekitte]

i think its great...i think it shows progression. i am in an interracial relationship and i see nothing wrong with it, i am white and he is black. the first experience i had in interracial relationships was my dad. when he remarried he married a black woman and then had a daughter who is beautiful and all my step moms sister (2) married a white man..i fall in love with personalities and ambitions not color. i know thats it kinda stereotypical for comedians to make jokes about a black man with a white girl but i dont care and neither does my bf...im actually his first white girlfriend and he has dated asian and latin before. i really feel that its not our place as humans to judge a relationship by the color or colors of the couples...if it makes them happy then thats all that matters.

 

[S.S.BlackOrchid]

I'm for it! I feel that if I am putting too much emphasis on race, I may miss out on a great person. I am from Kerala, India, and many of my relatives (and other Keralites I know), think that guys who are not from India (esp. from Kerala) are beneath them.

I just want to date someone who will respect me, accept my job and my hobbies and like me for me.

 

[SquirrelQueen]

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Originally Posted by Loveleighe I remember being the only black 2nd grader in my class and having a racist teacher. I mean obviously the other students noticed i ws darker than they were but no one treated me any differently until my teacher made it seem as if it was a bad thing that i ws black and mingling with white children. If she misplaced something she would pull me aside and in a loud whisper would say i know you must've taken it , that's what your people do. She'd call on me to read and make comments like you read better than the rest of them you must be some sort of mutt.

That teacher's behavior was disgusting. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Children are children---who CARES about the color of their skin?

Then again, my husband tells me about similar prejudice by teachers against Jewish kids when he was in school. Ridiculous.

Speaking of my DH, he has dated women of many different racial and ethnic backgrounds. I didn't date outside my race---not because I had any problems it but because every single man I met was white. I worked in a hospital and dated mostly men I met through work; all the Black, Asian and Hispanic men (as well as the Jewish guys) were taken!

My DH's United Nations approach to dating actually did cause problems for me because my self-esteem was kind of low when we met and I wondered how he could be attracted to me when he had dated so many beautiful AA, Asian and Latina women. Then again, those ladies are in the past---waaaaay in the past---and I'm with him now.

BTW, I do like to look at interracial couples. I also like to look at same-sex couples, older couples, younger couples, couples who look just like each other and couples who are each other's opposites. I love watching people and I enjoy seeing couples who are in love, no matter who they are.

 

[laguayaca]

i am my beloved and my beloved is mine --- i am latina he is full white i have my parents blessing and gods blessing ---what else matters? yeah i get stares mostly from white people like others have posted above its pure ignorance to judge a person by their color!

 

[gatsby]

My opinion is that there isn't an opinion to have. It's like having an opinion about the sky being blue. The sky is blue, interracial relationships happen. Who cares?

 

[britty_bear]

it think interracial couples are THE cutest thing! my girlfriend laughs at me cause she says i get all googly-eyed. race doesn't matter to me. i'm weird though. i like white guys and brown skinned black men but i don't really care for the LOOK of latinos or light skinned black men. that's just a preference tho.

 

[Moonspell]

The interracial preconceit it’s just pure ignorance talking… love doesn’t pick the colour of your skin, the colour of the eyes, the hair type, etc.
Sometimes people forget, inside we look all the same!

Screw what other people say, be happy!

 

[itsJADEbiitch]

i'm a northern cali latina and my fiance is a (cOuntry) mississippi black man lol. we get some looks here in cali.. but that make me go out of my way even more to smile big and grab his hand/arm lol then whoever was staring just turn their head.

he has prepared me for our visit down south to meet his family.. doesn't look like we will be AS accepted their.. but it's okay-- we in this for life ;]

...or they could be staring at the fact that he's 6'7 ??? lolll

 

[DigitalFaery]

i don't get why people make such a big deal about it: we're all humans, we all have the exact same amount of chromosomes, why bother?
Besides i think you should look further than the colour or typical racial features. it already happened that i liked boys from another race, not because they looked different than me, only because i thought they looked cute.

And finally: people who stare at others for having an interracial relationship are just too conservative and need to grow up and open their eyes.

The rainbow also has more than one colour right? Thats just the beauty about it

 

[_ohmygosh]

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Originally Posted by juli I am ALL for it!!! 200% if not more. I dislike my own kind and unless its meant to be by destiny I am not marrying my own kind. (I am not trying to be racial or descriminating) I am Asian & I refuse to date/marry asian. It took me yrs to convince my parents that I refuse to date/marry asian. Now they don't care who I marry as long as I get married someday! Thats another issue for me! Plus, people that are asian+caucasian mix, they are better looking. (IMO/that is just one ex. I am not trying to start any fights, just so you guys know.)

Agreed!
It's the same with me; my parents don't have a problem with it.. .maybe because we live in aus?

Do you think asian guys are heaps sleasy? I do... not stereotyping but most are....

Not being racist, just my opinions.

 

[deven.marie]

who isnt mixed nowadays? im black and east indian and my boyfriend is black/white/japanese. If we had kids they would just be like a huge mush of every race. haha.

 

[mocha_queen]

Well my boyfriend and I are an interracial couple...me being Indian and he being Caucasian.
I think its about time that we put aside pre concieved notions and differences and stop looking at people who belong to different races, differently.
As long as there are true feelings between two people...I dont see why they shouldnt be together.

 

[lil_kismet]

I am also in an interracial relationship and I've never been happier. I am Chinese and my boyfriend is Indian. As long as there is mutual love and respect for one another and you share common values and want to be together, then who cares what others think? In the end it is *your* happiness at stake. You shouldn't have to settle for less just to appease other peoples' opinions. I think finding and choosing your life partner is the one thing in life that you ought to be selfish over.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by MACgirl Love this, so true....anywho here's my lil story lol. I'am half puerto rican and mexican and have been with my man who is irish (white boy blue eyes!) for three years. I never really gave a thought as to being an interracial couple becuase before him i had two boyfriends who also were white boys with blue eyes (all three to this day have fallen in love with me and truly mean it) and went on a few dates with some other white boys ( trust me i didnt whore out lol). Anywho this is my dating pattern so it never was strange to me, then about 6 months ago i was lying in bed and i said soemthing in spanish and he awsnered back in broken up spanish being funny (we always do this, he's actually getting good with spanish lol), and i realized at that point my langauge was fluent for me but funny to him and i said babe how do u feel abotu being interracial couple? he just said it didnt matter becuase we have love and thats something that doesnt come by so easily,, then to lightne things up he said besides who else would teach me spanish? lol. Not to say i wouldnt date anyone but white, im open to any race or sex. Besdies my family is waaaaay not judgmental, two of my sisters married black men, and my oldest sister just had a child with a white guy, while my other sister had her first child with her hispanic husband and is currently preggers with a white boys baby, my little bother is dating a vietnamese girl and my other brother is dating a black and white mixed girl, so alot of diversity, but whenver we get otgether i have never even seem or heard anyone discuss race, its not an isssue really. As for my and my man, i never had people give us stares or say something, mayeb we will but as for now we havent noticied if thier has been.

Funny! My boyfriend is half Mexican, but I'M the one who speaks Spanish! He only knows cuss words and hellos and goodbyes and please and thank you. It's really funny, my aunt's Puerto Rican and speaks fluent spanish and so does her adopted daughter. When they met my boyfriend she started speaking Spanish to him and he goes "Yeah...I'm more of a Jew so I have no idea what you just said....but I can keep track of your finances!" lol



*I do no promote stereotyping, but I found it a really hilarious save.*

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by angelique☆ ^^That's so bizzare, its a very backhanded compliment. I don't know what he meant by that, Black women are stunning! I saw this girl at the shops the other day, she looked like Iman, she was absolutely exquisite. I was tempted to say something to her but didn't because she'd probably think I'm weird! Interracial relationships are so common here, and there are people with all sorts of interesting backgrounds because of this. My cousin's husband is originally from Ghana, and (to my knowledge) no one has commented on their relationship or thought anything unusual of it. I can't wait till they have kids they're going to be absolutely gorgeous! Of course there are a few ignorant people out there (a prominent politician made a comment about a Premier's wife calling her a mail order bride )but you get that everywhere. I can't for the life of me understand why people have a problem with interracial relationships. We're all the same species, for God's sake! I see it as an oppotunity to embrace a whole new culture and experience something different.

Backhanded compliments are a part of my everday existence unfortunately. I work in the same upper-middle-class predominantly white/asian area that my boyfriend lives in. I'll be putting makeup on a client, who usually is white, and I always here people saying "We're all tanning because we want your skin color. Everything looks good on you guys..." Who the fuck is you guys? I'm Black, I'm not another species. Sorry I have more melanin, just the way it works.

"Is your hair real?" yes, bitch, I grew it myself. "You have such pretty hair for a Black person." I didn't know Black people all had shitty hair? I've seen some non-Black women with pretty pathetic excuses for hair. It's all about how you take care of your assets, and I happen to invest a lot of time and effort into upkeeping my natural hair.

"You have lovely skin! Most Black women have pretty skin though..." well, maybe in your observation but I spend about 20 minutes a day on my skin and plenty of money on replenishing product to keep it nice.

And I dunno why pretty hair and skin means I must be mixed. People are always asking me if I'm mixed. Can someone who isn't completely mixed have nice features? Personally I think native African women are gorgeous, or should we mix them up and make them better?

It's pretty stupid, I'm stunned no old woman has called in and called me "Colored" or a "Negro" yet.

 

[RaynelleM]

I think interracial relationships are great! Love really is blind and someone's ethnicity doesn't really matter when two ppl love each other. Most times it's everybody else that seems to have a problem with the couple's race/background/etc. not the two ppl in the relationship.

I'm from India and my bf is a Canadian born Jamaican. My younger sisters' bfs are from Guyana (although he's of Indian descent) and the other one is half white/half Maltese. At first my parents didn't like my bf but not bc of who he is just bc he's black! They would have liked me to go out with a Goan (part of India where I'm from, used to be part of Portugal) guy but I have never been attracted to Indian/Goan guys and have been telling them that since I was 12! They once even suggested that it would be better if I dated a white guy!! Now they don't seem to have a problem with him, ofcourse it's been over 4 years and we live together, so maybe they just gave up. Or maybe it's bc they've moved on to worrying about my sister as her Guyanese bf is also Hindu and we are Catholic. Funnily enough they don't seem to have a problem with my youngest sister's bf but that's probably bc he's white and Catholic.

As for how other ppl see my bf and me, I gotten a few stares but not really anything too ignorant which is probably due to the fact that Toronto is a very multicultural city and almost every other couple is interracial. Also, it could be that most ppl think I'm from the Caribbean and I've been confused (by some Indian ppl even) for S. American, Spanish and even black!!

The only time anyone has actually said something to me is when this older Jamaican lady at my work commented that we (meaning non-black girls) were stealing all the black men!! She's single, never been married so I guess that's why she feels that way. I just ignored it.

I think that ppl that have a problem with interracial relationships need to mind their own business. I mean if you only want to be with someone who's of the same race or culture as you that's great but that doesn't mean that everybody should. I find that way of thinking so outdated!!