'My Space' hoax ends with suicide....

[~Valerie~]

I think it's horrible that they are now divorcing over it (although who knows, maybe the divorce was coming anyway and this was just what pushed it over the edge). I hope at least one of them can stay sane and realize they still have an obligation to their other daughter or she could easily end up in the same mental state.

 

[Beauty Mark]

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To be honest if it ends in violence I could care less. Look at how it ended for the other family. These people were playing a deadly game, and far worse, they show no remorse. I'm certainly not the one who is going to go out and physically hurt them, but I will say that if something happens I am just going to look the other way and consider it justice. If anyone else wants to see them as victims after that, it's fine with me because at that point it's an eye for an eye.

I don't believe I'd feel bad for them, but one of the articles stated that the parents of the deceased fear being blamed for any kind of violent action towards them.

I also think that mental torture of these people is more fitting. Taste of their own medicine

 

[jillianjiggs]

i'm sure the parents are able to sue, or at least try to.

 

[Dizzy]

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Originally Posted by jillianjiggs i'm sure the parents are able to sue, or at least try to.

I'm sure they could sue, but they have to ask themselves if it is financially responsible to sue (since it does cost quite a bit of money in most cases) when they're in the midst of a divorce, and still have another child (11 y.o) to raise.

I think other factors might prevent it.

 

[lipstickandhate]

First, let me state that I think the Drews are horrific individuals who are certainly morally culpable for Meagan's death. I think they're bizarre and cruel. Personally, they are the sort of people I enjoy describing in strings of expletives. And they're the type of people who just get worse with every press conference, every statement, every explanation. They just dig themselves deeper.

HOWEVER- I think its strange that the girl's parents allowed any of this to go this far. Regardless of whether or not the girl had ever attempted suicide before, she clearly had some serious mental health problems. She suffered from low self-esteem; she was deeply emotionally involved in Myspace with a "boy" she didn't know; she was unfortunately bullied and suffered emotionally as a result.

Let me be clear: I am not judging Meagan or blaming her. I remember well how tough it was to be a teenager and how cruel children can be. While I certainly believe the Drews are mostly to blame, her parents appear not to have gotten her any meaningful help for her mental health issues (it sounds to me like she was seriously depressed).

They pulled her out of Catholic school yes and took away her Internet privilieges but it doesn't seem from the article that they ever addressed what was beneath everything: self esteem issues and depression, both things I don't believe can be overcome without a lot of help, usually in the form of a doctor. If someone can point me elsewhere, to evidence of mental health aid, I'd be thrilled to see it so I can fully lay this on the Drews.

In regards to laws, I'm sorry, but I don't think we need more laws that will be unenforceable. I do, however, think we need better parents, less social stigma on psychological help, and less willingness to let teenage girls bully one another.

I feel bad for this girl and her family but I don't think legislation is the answer. This sort of knee-jerk stuff always comes back to haunt people later b/c it was passed on an emotional lark.

Also: I just realized that this thread is quite old. Sorry for bumping it up! Hope none of you are annoyed, I sometimes move slow on these things.

 

[NutMeg]

While I normally get annoyed with someone resurrecting an old thread, it doesn't bother me if they have something meaningful to add. Which you did.

Good points. Plus it's under a month old, I think you're fine.

 

[Beauty Mark]

I'm not sure if they got her help in the past, but this particular incident- it's hard to gauge the difference between teenage melodrama and the real need for therapy. I mean, how many women here have honestly had low self esteem at one point? Been really upset because someone called them a slut or insulted them?

Depending on what kind of person Meagan was, she could've covered it up. A lot of people will hide their mental illnesses the best they can, in order to fit in and seem normal. Some of my friends have suffered from depression and gotten help, and it was unbeknownst to anyone until after the matter.

 

[Love Always Ivy]

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Originally Posted by knoxydoll There's a picture of her in this article. She was beautiful and didn't deserve an once of the teasing she got.

SHE WAS GORGEOUS. WTH.

this is senseless and stupid. this is exactly why i do not go on myspace anymore.

 

[toxik]

Megan is so sweet looking

oh my, im tearing now.

it hurts me so much to see these

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Before Megan's death, the Meiers were on top of life, neighbors said. Court records show they had a 40-foot, $123,000 motor-yacht, a $300,000 house in a gated community in Florida, and a neighborhood they loved. Now, they have the bills. Their Florida home is on the market. They've each filed restraining orders against the other. They're getting a divorce. "Our family's broke up," Ron said. Tina moved in with her mother. Their other daughter, 11-year-old Allison, spends most of her time there.

im so upset that her parents ended up in divorce..

man. why do people do weird things like that?

RIP Megan...

 

[lipstickandhate]

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Originally Posted by Beauty Mark I'm not sure if they got her help in the past, but this particular incident- it's hard to gauge the difference between teenage melodrama and the real need for therapy. I mean, how many women here have honestly had low self esteem at one point? Been really upset because someone called them a slut or insulted them? Depending on what kind of person Meagan was, she could've covered it up. A lot of people will hide their mental illnesses the best they can, in order to fit in and seem normal. Some of my friends have suffered from depression and gotten help, and it was unbeknownst to anyone until after the matter.

I guess my point is that she seems like a mentally fragile person before the Drews did this. I agree that some of the behavoir seems to be typical teenage girl melodrama but the part about being so involved with the online "guy" seems strange to me.

I find it weird that her parents were both aware of her attachment and even kind of happy about it- I think of that quote about how her self-esteem soared as a result. That's just creepy to me. To know your child is getting really emotionally involved with a myspace friend and not worry? Especially given what her background of self-esteem issues. I don't see healthy self-esteem as being inextricably intertwined with attention from males or online friends.

I don't know, I'm not a parent but I think I would be suspicious. I also think I'm less willing to dismiss things as "teenage angst"... I know my parents shouldnt have dismissed my problems as a teenager as quickly as they did. It took me quite a while to iron myself out and although I managed to do it, I could've used some help along the way.

 

[AliVix1]

Lori Drew and Curt Drew, O'Fallon Missouri, Megan Meier suicide, myspace, Josh... so this might not be really ethical to post but im just saying im thinking about writting a letter

 

[kaliraksha]

She was a beautiful young girl! I wonder who the picture of the boy actually is and I wonder how he feels about all of that.

Oh, yay the Drew's address from the crime report:

Lori J Drew
269 Waterford Crystal Dr.
St. Charles, MO 63385

I wonder how much hate mail they are receiving.

 

[lipstickandhate]

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Originally Posted by AliVix1 Lori Drew and Curt Drew, O'Fallon Missouri, Megan Meier suicide, myspace, Josh... so this might not be really ethical to post but im just saying im thinking about writting a letter

Sorry but I don't think this is appropriate to post at all. Everyone who needs their phone number and address has it and nothing good can come of harrassing them just b/c you read a story about this. I would advise you not to become personally involved.

I would request you take it down but moderators for the site will know what is best.

 

[Beauty Mark]

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I guess my point is that she seems like a mentally fragile person before the Drews did this. I agree that some of the behavoir seems to be typical teenage girl melodrama but the part about being so involved with the online "guy" seems strange to me.

It's not behavior I choose to indulge in myself, nor do I find it particularly safe, but quite a few people involve themselves with people online. Many people on this board have divulged intimate information about themselves, and I know of other boards where young women have made "friends" with people via lj, people they've never met in their lives.

I'm not a parent either, but in terms of looking at this from an internet weirdo/psycho perspective, a person who has put no pressure on meeting you in any way, shape, or form doesn't sound inherently dangerous.

Parents genuinely want their kids to be happy. IT's great to say that you should find happiness within yourself, not measure it upon friends, etc., but sometimes you do use markers like "Does this person have any friends" to figure out if they're doing all right in life. Considering the amount of interaction done on the internet, her parents may have been trying to be open-minded. Someone recently wrote an article about how Second Life might be good for people and help them interact.

 

[prettygirl]

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Originally Posted by kimmy if the boy was a real person, not a fabricated one, his parents could sue on his behalf for false impersonation...but even that would end only in a fine to the woman, not jailtime. if megan's family got a good enough lawyer, they even could probably take her for false representation, but again, that will only result in a fine, not jailtime.

I think this is a really smart idea!! If the boy that they impersonated was actually a real person... they should definitely find him, and try to press charges against Lori Drew!

 

[maggiep07]

This is really sad and disturbing and I'm angry I read it

 

[Beauty Mark]

I just saw the numbers and addresses of those people. Something bad is going to happen to them. I just can't support that, beyond boycotting their store and making them social pariahs.

I hope, if something happens to those people, their daughter isn't injured.

 

[CandyKisses1018]

i saw this on bill oreilly and on 2020.. what kind of mother would be so cruel as to fcuk with a little girl like that? especially knowing shes depressed? this makes me sick.. whenever i see that little girls pic i feel so sad. she was beautiful

 

[makeup_wh0re]

People can be so cruel. I had a little boy a year and a half ago. I always think about if he will get picked on by other kids at school. I never think about this kind of stuff. This is such a horrible story. I can't believe stuff like this is allowed to happen. I can't believe those people had the nerve to call the cops about them breaking their table after what they did. It just goes to show you there are some cold-hearted people in this world. Also, everyone don't take your family for granted. I just had a very close uncle to me die in a car accident. Family is family, you forgive and forget, always make sure the last thing you tell someone is you love them. Life is too short for anything less. God bless all of you and Merry Christmas/ Happy New Year.

 

[Kiseki]

Very rarely am I at a loss for words.

People are twisted and evil, and like someone else mentioned, karma will give them their dues... I can't help to feel sorry for Megan, like I feel sorry for so many teenagers and young adults who are bullied at school or on the internet.

It's just shocking...