HeavenLeiBlu
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Eff a ring. Put a down payment on a nice house. Seriously... that's what I prefer.
What is/was your ideal engagement ring?
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hhunt2
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lmao... thats what I'm talkin about.
But seriously... lol
My dream, engagement ring would be a BLACK DIAMOND!
Big black diamond on a white gold band. Maybe small white diamonds on the band (?); maybe the extra diamonds are too much. Maybe a gothic, victorian look. Maybe an oval, square or princess shape.
Oh, and nothing sharp! Omg, I once had an engagement that was a freakin weapon. It was a small princess cut, and it could cut up anyone (including me). I needed to sand it down or something.
What can I say?! I've got my goth roots, lol.
Originally Posted by HeavenLeiBlu
Eff a ring. Put a down payment on a nice house. Seriously... that's what I prefer. |
lmao... thats what I'm talkin about.
But seriously... lol
My dream, engagement ring would be a BLACK DIAMOND!
Big black diamond on a white gold band. Maybe small white diamonds on the band (?); maybe the extra diamonds are too much. Maybe a gothic, victorian look. Maybe an oval, square or princess shape.
Oh, and nothing sharp! Omg, I once had an engagement that was a freakin weapon. It was a small princess cut, and it could cut up anyone (including me). I needed to sand it down or something.
What can I say?! I've got my goth roots, lol.
darkorchid
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HAHA I totally agree with the house comment. My bf's friend proposed to his girlfriend with a $20k engagement ring - like WTF ? Who is even going to know its worth that much? Are you going to keep the price tag on it? Is that your starting line when you show it to people? I just thought it was a spectacular waste of money.
Personally, I've told my bf I want an engagement CAR!! Yeah baby! Like an Audi R8 in white or a done up Supra in black with red pearl
Then put a nice ruby ring inside
Just so I have something to show people when my car isn't around hehe.
Personally, I've told my bf I want an engagement CAR!! Yeah baby! Like an Audi R8 in white or a done up Supra in black with red pearl
JoeyEmma
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We've already got the house though so I can have the ring!
What I also don't get though is people who let their parents spend fortunes yet live in a shut hole. My friend who had a £50k wedding said now that she is pregnant she looks back & although she loved her wedding she would rather have had a small one and used the rest of the money to pay off a chunk of the mortgage.
Some friends of my parents did something similar for their daughters wedding, while her & her husband were living in a grotty flat with damp!!
What I also don't get though is people who let their parents spend fortunes yet live in a shut hole. My friend who had a £50k wedding said now that she is pregnant she looks back & although she loved her wedding she would rather have had a small one and used the rest of the money to pay off a chunk of the mortgage.
Some friends of my parents did something similar for their daughters wedding, while her & her husband were living in a grotty flat with damp!!
doll.face
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Omg! A $20K ring?! That's insane. I mean, unless they have that type of money but I'm going to guess that most of us don't.
I'm not sure exactly how I want my ring but I do want it to be nice. It's ok though, I want a small, simple wedding so all the extra money will go towards the ring
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I'm not sure exactly how I want my ring but I do want it to be nice. It's ok though, I want a small, simple wedding so all the extra money will go towards the ring
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cupcake_x
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Oh my word. I'd honestly rather have a decent place to live than a crazy huge wedding.
I honestly wouldn't want my parents to pay for my wedding, I think it's strange when parents do. The parents aren't the ones getting married!
| Originally Posted by JoeyEmma
We've already got the house though so I can have the ring! What I also don't get though is people who let their parents spend fortunes yet live in a shut hole. My friend who had a £50k wedding said now that she is pregnant she looks back & although she loved her wedding she would rather have had a small one and used the rest of the money to pay off a chunk of the mortgage. Some friends of my parents did something similar for their daughters wedding, while her & her husband were living in a grotty flat with damp!! |
Oh my word. I'd honestly rather have a decent place to live than a crazy huge wedding.
I honestly wouldn't want my parents to pay for my wedding, I think it's strange when parents do. The parents aren't the ones getting married!
JoeyEmma
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All my friends have had big weddings paid for by their parents. My mother has said things like "I heard the So-And-So wedding was rather sparse" just because she heard that there weren't enough canapes to go round! I put her in her place when she says something like that.
My versions of what a wedding should be are very different from all my friends. My dad died several months ago and I can't imagine having a big wedding. I never wanted 100+ people staring at me, and now without my Dad to give me away, I know its something I definitely don't want. I already feel married to my boyfriend as we've been through so much together. I want to be married but don't need a big public display of affection to show that we love each other. I only want the people that mean something to us and have added something to our relationship and lives with us. I can't stand the whole, "well we got invited to their daughter's wedding 10 years ago, so they have to come" kind of affair.
I still want a fab ring though!!!!
My versions of what a wedding should be are very different from all my friends. My dad died several months ago and I can't imagine having a big wedding. I never wanted 100+ people staring at me, and now without my Dad to give me away, I know its something I definitely don't want. I already feel married to my boyfriend as we've been through so much together. I want to be married but don't need a big public display of affection to show that we love each other. I only want the people that mean something to us and have added something to our relationship and lives with us. I can't stand the whole, "well we got invited to their daughter's wedding 10 years ago, so they have to come" kind of affair.
I still want a fab ring though!!!!
amishmethlab
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I always wanted a ring with more meaning than a picked up at whatever Jewelry Store ring. There's a few goldsmiths that exhibit at artshows who's work I'm pretty fond of. So ideally, I'd want a custom ring with a small maybe 1/4 karat off center blue diamond accent.
siameserosa
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Thats my style too. But then I keep thinking about the princess and I just think it would make my small hands look stubby, I love the vintage styles as well, i just don't want to go with classic I want something unique! Any suggestions!!
malaviKat
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I want to applaud this comment. It neatly sums up my ongoing confusion (and feelings) on this very topic.
| Originally Posted by silverbelle282
i vacillate between wanting to wear one and not wanting to. here are some of my thoughts...when i think of engagement rings i think about the legal and historical significance (we're just chattel, honey). that's a turn off. i tell my boyfriend if i'm wearing one, he needs to wear one, too. that being said, i feel there is a lot of social pressure and significance placed on it, maybe too much to ignore? i've had people grab my and ask where my ring was and stuff like that gets to me. my friend got married in october, she didn't have an engagement ring, and when people would ask her why she'd say she didn't support the diamond industry right now. i had another friend do a 7 karat peridot. it was gorgeous. i'm thinking i'd enjoy a platinum or white gold set princess or cushion cut. i flirted with the heart cut for a little while, and then decided maybe not. but it is a super cute cut... :-/ what's in style now anyway? sex and the city still has me turning my nose up at pear shapes and yellow gold. |
I want to applaud this comment. It neatly sums up my ongoing confusion (and feelings) on this very topic.
malaviKat
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As mentioned above, I have had a very difficult time figuring out whether or not I want to wear a ring, much less what sort of ring I wish to wear. I don't think I really need to go into all of my feelings on the issue here (it's a confusing mixture of social, ethical and environmental concerns) but I feel at some point my bf and I will just get an engagement puppy instead.
After nine years together we've been all over the map on the ring issue (from no diamonds to Canadian or "conflict free" diamonds to tension settings to reclaimed metals to "something totally unique"). I've looked at everything from wood to glass to recycled platinum and everything in between and it has only served to frustrate me (and to a lesser extent, my bf, who has insisted that I provide some sort of input in the selection process). I kind of feel that that has eliminated whatever "romance" is involved in the ring selection, but I can also appreciate his desire to not disappoint me (though to be honest I think the gesture is more important than the ring itself).
I have told him if he wishes to propose he can do so without any physical tokens but that doesn't seem to sit right with him. As a result, we recently picked out a lovely three-stone diamond which is about as far removed from any of our initial plans as one could imagine. Due to my ongoing ethical concerns, however, we haven't finalized everything and I (because I am crazy!) have sent the company on a little fact finding mission to provide any/all information on the source of both the diamonds and the gold used for the piece. Neither I nor my bf have qualms about turning down this ring if it doesn't meet ethical expectations. *sigh*
So yeah... It's pretty likely that my "ideal" engagement ring is the dog we will hopefully adopt from a shelter together. Now the only question is... what's our ideal dog?
After nine years together we've been all over the map on the ring issue (from no diamonds to Canadian or "conflict free" diamonds to tension settings to reclaimed metals to "something totally unique"). I've looked at everything from wood to glass to recycled platinum and everything in between and it has only served to frustrate me (and to a lesser extent, my bf, who has insisted that I provide some sort of input in the selection process). I kind of feel that that has eliminated whatever "romance" is involved in the ring selection, but I can also appreciate his desire to not disappoint me (though to be honest I think the gesture is more important than the ring itself).
I have told him if he wishes to propose he can do so without any physical tokens but that doesn't seem to sit right with him. As a result, we recently picked out a lovely three-stone diamond which is about as far removed from any of our initial plans as one could imagine. Due to my ongoing ethical concerns, however, we haven't finalized everything and I (because I am crazy!) have sent the company on a little fact finding mission to provide any/all information on the source of both the diamonds and the gold used for the piece. Neither I nor my bf have qualms about turning down this ring if it doesn't meet ethical expectations. *sigh*
So yeah... It's pretty likely that my "ideal" engagement ring is the dog we will hopefully adopt from a shelter together. Now the only question is... what's our ideal dog?
snugglebear4now
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Im gonna hold out for a Tacori ring. They are so intricate and amazing. If I ever get one (crosses fingers) I have a feeling I will spend too much time staring at it and not into the eyes of my betrothed lol jk maybe ; P
