Children -- yay or nay?

[Ms.Amaranthine]

Never!

Actually, I'm already the mother of a one year old. I've always wanted children and because of it, I used to have a hard time taking care of my niece. It was depressing to me. I ended up raising her for a year, but it still saddened me that she wasn't my own.

I accepted a long time ago that I'd never do anything truly profound. Now, as a mother, I've realized that the legacy I leave behind will be through my children. If I raise them right, prepare them and teach them the ways of the world, I can live two lifetimes. Through them I have the potential to change society as we know it.

As it so happens, I'm about to have my second child. Despite being young, I couldn't be happier about it. I'm not the partying type, never wanted that, so I'm not missing out on anything. The daughter I have now makes me happy and any future children could only add to that happiness.

 

[PMBG83]

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Originally Posted by lhorgan This is so true I hate this.......no offense, but it's just annoying when people ask "why dont you want to have kids" it's just offensive, like we have to explain ourselves or something......we didnt do anything wrong lol. Well anyways I dont mean to make anyone mad. I'm sorry if I did. My reason is pretty much exactly what your's is in your 1st post on this MAC_Whore.

It is annoying when they ask that. So I ask just as dumbfounded "Why would/do you want to have them?". then they look all crazy like um "because I/were suppossed to". Id rather keep my money for myself and be able to live a happy -no pressure -to worry about -someone else -life.

 

[dollbaby]

I've always loved children since I can remember, even when I was a child. I was fascinated by babies & loved to be around them. Whatever the reason. They were just tiny little beings with so much love and life, it just felt good to be around them. Whenever I got the chance to be around a baby I would just light up inside lol. We used to vacation with my fathers friends in the summer and most of them just had babies. I would play with them on the beach all day & want to rock them to sleep at night and I was only 12. I've always wanted children, & I've always wanted a lot. This lead me to the career of wanting to be a pre-k teacher, which is still in process & will be for sometime but I will never give up on the dream.

My decision of wanting a child has not changed at 23 years old, especially since I've been in a serious, loving relationship for the past 6 years. I am definatly saving that part of my life for marriage because i want both of us to experience the joys & hardships of parenting together; we created life, so we should take part of it 100%

 

[user79]

I'm starting to warm up to the idea of kids lately!

Maybe it's the internal clock ticking or something.

 

[Raerae]

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Originally Posted by MissChievous I'm starting to warm up to the idea of kids lately! Maybe it's the internal clock ticking or something.

Wait till your co-workers and friends start haveing kids... Then you really get the urge lol... At least thats what happened to me. I was always turned off (to be totally honest I still go back n fourth) until I got in my mid 20's and into my current career where many of the people I'm working with are parents, getting married, or expecting. And like i dunno... Sometimes I REALLY want to get pregnant, and other times I'm totally turned off by the idea.

Regardless I know right now I'm not ready. I know if I got pregnant on accident I would have the child, but I'm not planning on a pregnancy for several more years.

 

[iio]

YAY for me...im only 19 and want one now but i know financially i wont be able to have one YET! I want the best for my kid or kids. But yeah I love them...well some of them haha and I cant wait to have that feeling of having my own child.

 

[CantAffordMAC]

I cannot WAIT to have children. I think being a mother is such a blessing. I love children, I love babies. I love my boyfriend, and I can't wait until we're ready to have kids. we'll probably be married first but I don't care. I know he is going to be a good father--even if our relationship failed.

I sometimes feel like I'm stupid, or worthless or like I can't really do anything special, but then I think that I'll be someone's mother someday. I'm not going to have kids for that reason, but I don't know. I just can't wait to be a mom. I always ask my boyfriend when he's gonna get me pregnant lol. Personally, I'm already done high school, and once I get my job really started, then I'll be set. I don't think it matters what age I have a child, because I already have my career in the works, and I may not go to college.

i'm always thinking of baby names, and what my baby will look like. I just get so excited and even teary sometimes thinking of it (sounds corny but its true)

 

[karen diggins]

I couldn't wait untill I got pregnant. when I finally did I was so happy. But my son came 3 months eairly and its been very hard. But I love him to death and can't wait to have more.. My only problem is that I worry about my age. I am 31..

 

[kiss_love_kill]

no. no. and no. never ever would i want kids >.< ick

 

[xsnowwhite]

i don't like kids, and i don't do well with them. I have a very short temper and little patience for 95% of kids. I dont think they're cute or anything either like most people do. Kids are just not something I like to deal with and be around, but of course when I am I don't show my dislike for them I'm still very sweet I jsut would never want kids.

 

[captodometer]

Hell no! I've never liked children and like them less the older I get. The noise, the smell, the sleep and money deprivation. No. No. No.

Children are fine....as long as they aren't around me.

 

[Kimberleigh]

I spent my first 28 years not wanting kids or being rather indifferent to them...and then I got tired of being on BC, so I went off of it. 2 months later I was pregnant. I'm due in 7w 1d I'm excited and terrified all at the same time. Kids are a lot of work, but there's nothing I enjoy more than a challenge. Plus, I figure if my parents could do it at 17 and 21 (and they're still married), my husband and I will be able to handle it at 29 and 36.

 

[Evey]

YAY...I'm pregnant with our first baby. I'm so in love with him/her already =D I love kids and I can't wait to be a mommy.

 

[Cosmopolitics]

I'm a fence-sitter. As of now, nay. I'm a college student -isn't that enough said? Babies are a large monetary drain, and, well, I have hardly any capital to speak of. Plus, they are a huge responsibility. I'm in my early 20's - I still have a lot of life to live before I even think of bringing a child into the world.

I was the oldest sister and my sisters are much younger than me. So, as a kid, I had to change diapers, put up with their temper tantrums (in fact I had to deal with that until I was 19, when I moved out), watch them constantly, especially in my teenage years, educate them on stuff they should and shouldn't be doing.
I have had my fill of child-rearing for now.

It's been nearly three years since I moved out, and my sisters are now teenagers. When I visited my family over a week in the summer, I witnessed first-hand how bad the 15-year-old's tantrums could be. Remember: They may be AWWW CUTE LITTLE BABIES at first but they grow up to be hormonal monsters like my sister

I'll re-evaluate my position when I hit 30, but as of now, my decision stands.

 

[alien21xx]

Another fence-sitter. I love kids! Like for serious, I can take care of them, watch over them, play with them, change their shitty pampers, etc etc. I've had practice with a much younger sister, a nephew, an adoptive brother, and (the newest addition to my huge huge family) my half-brother.

BUT! I think I can only care for kids in that outsider/not-the-mama kind of way.

And also, for extremely selfish reasons: I'm super afraid of how its going to affect my body... I don't want to go from a size 0 to size 6 like what happened to my mom and stepmom!

Building a new wardrobe is expensive enough!

 

[iheartcolor]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Whore Do you notice that a lot of people try to talk you into having kids? Or ask you why you don't want to have children? Or they feel that it is so unnatural to not have kids that they assume it is a medical problem? I ask because that has happened to me a lot. Especially in the mid-late 20s. The worst persuasion/piece of "advice" someone gave me was: "How do you know you won't like having kids until you try it." Ummm... and if I don't like it, can I return the child for a refund? And I have to say that I hate it when people say its selfish to not have kids! Why is it selfish? Its not as if it is some duty that I am failing to fulfill. Its just a lifestyle choice.

I completely understand where you are coming from. I am almost 29, and I *still* hear, "Well, when you are older you'll change your mind."

So, just HOW OLD do you want me to be? 31? 45? 67? How old is old enough?

I find it frustrating having to explain why I do NOT want them, where as I NEVER question peoples' choices to have kids. (Well, most people! We always question the crazies!)

-Lauren

 

[Arisone]

A big NAY from me due to many different reasons. It take alot of money to take care of them and right now I'm struggling to finish college. I believe my own experience like being raised in a poor family and watching my mother and sister raise children on their own had a big effect on me. I would want for my kids to have a better life than I had (live in a better neighborhood, have access to better schools, and never have to worry about money).

I do not trust any man to actually be responsible enough to be a father (due to my own experiences: my father not being around, most women I know are single parents). I don't have the patience for kids. The pain of child birth would be unbearable for me since I could barely get through a gyno appointment. I feel uncomfortable around most children the only exceptions are my niece and nephews. Oh most children tend to annoy me.


Also, I suffer from depression and I fear I would pass it to my children. I don't want to subject any children to my mood swings. I'm also afraid of the weight gain. I'm trying to lose weight right now so the idea gaining weight frightens me. I'm finally able to shop in regular stores now. I don't have the "bounce back" genes like my sister.


The lifestyle I want to live (traveling around the world) wouldn't be stable for children.

 

[Beauty Mark]

While I do not want children ever, I will say this. You're likely to gain weight from aging. I don't know everyone's dietary and exercise habits, but you don't have to be a celebrity to bounce back. Shimmer has given birth a few times, I think, and she appears to be in great shape

 

[M.A.C. head.]

I've just always felt that my main purpose in life was to be a mother. I've always loved children and have had motherly qualities since I was a child. My greatest joy and achievement is in taking care of my family, so motherhood was only natural. Now that I have a child I'm just so happy and amazed at every day that I'm blessed with her.

It's hard for me to understand why a woman wouldn't want to have children but everyone has their own life to live. I just hope that they have their tubes tied so that they won't get pregnant. Children being aborted or coming into this world unwanted is very sad.

 

[Beauty Mark]

Even though I don't want children, in some cases, it is almost impossible to find a doctor who will tie your tubes at my age (22). My friend practically had to beg hers in order to perform the procedure, and she had a fairly compelling case (going blind completely, no job, two kids with two different fathers, both fathers in jail).

I mean, I'm on the pill and take it religiously and on time, but it still isn't 100% effective