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[ThePerfectScore]

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Originally Posted by LoveMU Hmmm, maybe, "Only a dog wants a bone" Saying lindsay lohan looks like a skeletor Commenting on people with "normal" bodies (those that aren't skinny) I don't know, maybe these are just made in jest, but saying that men don't want women who are thin is saying the exact same thing as men don't want women who are big.

That was just one woman's husbands opinion about the dogs wanting bones..

And lindsay Lohan does look like a skeletor ... if you look where she came from her body is not healthy. Its obvious to the casual observer that she is having some diet and health issues.

Plus I said Normal in quotes and pointed out that FEW people can be a healthy size two. I didn't say all Size 2's were unhealthy. I was just making the point that more often than not women in the world have meat on their bones. The average weight of women of the world is probably closer to 170 then 123. That's all I'm saying. Our society has an idea of beauty that is often unattaiable in a healthy fashion for 99% of the population. So when I say "normal" I mean to say average. Not to say that skinnier or bigger girls are abnormal and wrong, just that they are on the ends of the spectrum. It's basic math and statistics to know there every set of numbers has a mean, median, and mode.

 

[Curly1908]

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[M.A.C. head.]

This topic is double posted. I just spent 15 minutes like "WTF happened to my post? Did I get banned?" LOL This was my response from the other copy:

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Originally Posted by M.A.C. head. It's not your job *shrugs* And personally, I wouldn't call her a friend. A lot of cultures have been brain washed by the Euro-centric "standard of beauty. Ex: The comments your friend made are very popular in India, as evidenced by the mass production and consumption of fairness [bleaching] creams; these products are also bought by a number of African Americans. In the African American community, skin color can be an "issue" as well, like darker skinned women being viewed as not beautiful or them receiving compliments like "You're really pretty...for a dark girl..." The truth is, well in my opinion, that some people are just NEVER satisfied. The Euro-centric standards are still there in a lot of people's minds, but these days just look at how many people go to a plastic surgeon and ask for "JLo's butt" or "Beyonce's ass". Or what about all these people asking for "Kim K's make up" and spending hours and hundreds in the tanning salon? It goes both, three, four, an infinite amount of ways because generally, people want what they can't have, unless you can somehow pay to get it LOL It's sad that your friend thinks that way. But ignorance is bliss for some. Maybe she's just insecure and she wants everyone else to be insecure too.

 

[MissResha]

i didnt read all of the last few comments but i'll say this.

i'm pretty sick of everybody wanting to be thin as paper JUST because some celebrity looks that way. if you're skinny then congrats to you. i dont care if you're skinny or if you're fat. but if you're skinny because you're starving yourself to fit into someone elses mold of "beauty", then thats sad. i'll take Lindsay Lolo again. Mean Girls, she was a very healthy weight. Now, she does look like skeletor. sorry but its true. She looks unhealthy. just like any obese chick would look unhealthy. all those Hollywood chicks, starving themselves, taking hella laxatives...and for what? because someone told them that being a size 2 was fat. thats bullshit. i was talkin to my co-worker about this just yesterday about how white women really have it bad in hollywierd because, lets take Jessica Simpson...she recently gained some weight and looked fine. but people started calling her a fat ass and now she's talkin about losing the weight again....all because someone with twisted beauty standards told her she was too fat. thats some bullshit. there's a difference between being thin/skinny, and being a bag of bones. so i dont think anyone here is hating on skinny girls...i think the issue is the BONE thin, ribs showing shit.

i have my own personal preferences...i like curvy women. i dont think skinny chicks are ugly. i dont think fat chicks are ugly. but i PREFER a nice medium. again, thats just MY preference.

everybody has their own definition of beauty when it comes to bodies, but i dont buy into that hollywood shit of you must be a size -9 to be beautiful. PFFT. fuck that.

 

[Sexy Sadie]

So what is beauty all about?
Why are we so fascinated about it?

If we take a closer look, "beautyful people (whereever they come from) share often the same features; big eyes, small noses, huge mouth in small faces.

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[TISH1124]

I have seen some big nose, big head pretty women...just say'n

 

[MissResha]

^^LMFAO yup! i've seen some big foreheaded big eared tiny-tittied hotties too! whatever is appealing to YOUR eye, is what you consider beautiful. i dont believe in ONE standard of beauty. what i find beautiful, you may not, and vice versa.

 

[LoveMU]

Well, I already said that everyone has their own preference. I don't know why you're saying that I am personally offended, as I didn't say anything about myself in my posts. I just recognize that some girls I know and have known are very thin and then people pick on them for it or make jokes about them being anorexic or what not. It's hurtful in the same way as making fun of a big girl.

I def don't think people should starve themselves, and that is a bad thing. Women of all different sizes are beautiful. it's crazy that Jessica Simpson gets a lot of flack, she is hot either way. I have two friends that are super skinny (and they're not white either, one is Black and the other one is Latina) and I think they are beautiful, like seriously, no one would argue with me. but I also think that a lot of my curvy friends are super hot as well, and i love Kim K and Beyone's body as well. I just know that some girls can't gain weight, and I'm looking out for those girls. no offense intended towards anyone here.

 

[TISH1124]

^^ We understand....and I agree....Beauty comes in all sizes...I personally wish I could eat and never gain weight, I would so be in HEAVEN...but for now I have to eat and work it off...

 

[fash10nista]

Not to be cliche' or anything but "Beauty is only skin deep."...It really is a kind of discrimination when people, society, culture, Hollywood/Bollywood, etc. get so hung up on physical beauty or what is defined as 'beautiful'...

 

[Shoegal-fr]

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Originally Posted by TISH1127 That is a quote that my husband says.....Do you consider youself a Bone or just thin? If you consider yourself a bone then I guess you would find that hating...But that you will have to take up with him like I stated...He is entilted to his preference....even if you don;t like it. and as far as the Lindsay Lohan comment..I honestly did not read that one...But I do skip around ... This is only personal if you make it so... I am thinner myself...But I don't consider myself a bone....My husband does prfer thin women....However he does not prefer BONES.....

Exactly Tish!! As always!
Anyway, there is an obvious difference between skinny and anorexic. "Bone" and "lindsay lohan" are referring to the anorexic thing. But if skinny and anoxeric are the same in your mind, well that's just too bad.

 

[Tashona Helena]

I'm skinny and I'm definetely not the biggest fan of my body. People think I'm crazy because I am constantly trying to gain weight...but when it comes down to it I'll never be happy unless I have a body with curves. So I of course think the skinny women vs. big women thing is crazy, especially when you see someone like me that yeah, ok I think being skinny is ok, but I"m not happy with myself as a "skinny woman". But i would NEVER say anything to put anyone down on either end of the spectrum, because when it all comes down to it, it's your own personal perception of what you thing is beautiful, not what's "wrong or right". I too envy women like Kim's body, I hate reading comments on gossip sites calling her fat.

 

[TISH1124]

^^^ Wanna trade???? We can just switch heads!!

 

[ThePerfectScore]

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Originally Posted by Tashona Heléna I'm skinny and I'm definetely not the biggest fan of my body. People think I'm crazy because I am constantly trying to gain weight...but when it comes down to it I'll never be happy unless I have a body with curves. So I of course think the skinny women vs. big women thing is crazy, especially when you see someone like me that yeah, ok I think being skinny is ok, but I"m not happy with myself as a "skinny woman". But i would NEVER say anything to put anyone down on either end of the spectrum, because when it all comes down to it, it's your own personal perception of what you thing is beautiful, not what's "wrong or right". I too envy women like Kim's body, I hate reading comments on gossip sites calling her fat.

Child, I say work your skinny. You can wear stuff that would look obscene on me. everybody type has a perk.

 

[carandru]

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Originally Posted by Tashona Heléna I'm skinny and I'm definetely not the biggest fan of my body. People think I'm crazy because I am constantly trying to gain weight...but when it comes down to it I'll never be happy unless I have a body with curves. So I of course think the skinny women vs. big women thing is crazy, especially when you see someone like me that yeah, ok I think being skinny is ok, but I"m not happy with myself as a "skinny woman". But i would NEVER say anything to put anyone down on either end of the spectrum, because when it all comes down to it, it's your own personal perception of what you thing is beautiful, not what's "wrong or right". I too envy women like Kim's body, I hate reading comments on gossip sites calling her fat.

I can definitely relate b/c I too fall into the "skinny" category and remember wishing so badly that I had some curves. After being constantly compared to my sister, who has gigantic boobs, I wanted curves even more. My boobs came in college so that made it, but when they did I didn't want them anymore! Lol, I was like wtf am I supposed to do w/ this? None of my bras fit anymore ugh!!

But, that desire was a direct result of what is seen as beautiful within your culture. As an AA woman, I often felt my thin frame wasn't attractive to black men. Most of my friends are guys, so I knew all about their fascination w/ big butts, hips, and breast which I was definitely and still am lacking. It didn't help that I often got comments from other AA's like "You have a white girl's body" (said w/ a hint of disdain as well). So, of course, I'm like I want a black girl's body!!! Then, I realized that I had no idea what either a white girl's or black girl's body looked like in reality. I've seen so many variations in all races how could I or anyone else really pin a body type down like that? Clearly, you can't.

Now, I pretty much love my body. I really got over it when I started really hanging out w/ other races and saw that everyone has their own definition of beauty. So, for my skinny no ass having body, I've learned what does and doesn't work for it. Of course there are things I would change, but those are one that I can change through exercise.

But yea, my hips can get a wee bit bigger any day now just to balance out my top half, lol.
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Originally Posted by TISH1127 ^^^ Wanna trade???? We can just switch heads!!

 

[Shoegal-fr]

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Originally Posted by carandru But, that desire was a direct result of what is seen as beautiful within your culture. As an AA woman, I often felt my thin frame wasn't attractive to black men. Most of my friends are guys, so I knew all about their fascination w/ big butts, hips, and breast which I was definitely and still am lacking. It didn't help that I often got comments from other AA's like "You have a white girl's body" (said w/ a hint of disdain as well). So, of course, I'm like I want a black girl's body!!! Then, I realized that I had no idea what either a white girl's or black girl's body looked like in reality. I've seen so many variations in all races how could I or anyone else really pin a body type down like that? Clearly, you can't.

Geezzzzzzzzz, i've just figured out that AA = Afro American, i was like "what the hell being in Alcoholics Anonymous has anything to do with this"... lol. I feel so ashamed.

 

[ThePerfectScore]

hahhaha Oh my that was fun!!! I'm an AA!!

 

[Shoegal-fr]

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Originally Posted by ThePerfectScore hahhaha Oh my that was fun!!! I'm an AA!!

I know, right! I'm still laughing at myself and my parents are passing by my room with the look "oh my god, she is going insane".

 

[TISH1124]

I'm not even gonna admit I didn't know at first either.....

 

[Shoegal-fr]

But Tish, you have to admit it! As an AA, it's the first step, remember what we talked about at the last meeting?? lol