this is long. but when are my posts ever short?
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Originally Posted by MissResha
speakin of which, i saw a pic of Lindsay Lohan recently...she looks like Skeletor from He-Man. fucking gross. she needs a CC's of bacon grease STAT
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GIRL THAT SERIOUSLY MADE ME
But I'm going to kill the humor on this thread for a second and just be a party pooper
all of those comments really made me laugh though lol...you guys are so funny!
I would also like to mention, Lindsay was not naturally that that skinny. Before she had curves, and she looked healthy and beautiful to me. She became that way gradually, after mean girls I noticed. Although I can only speculate, I do feel like she had a lot of media pressure to become extremely thin. So, just in my opinion, Lindsay wanted to lose the weight, and I feel like she went overboard. Same with hillary duff, she was cute and healthy when she was young, and when she saw a tabloid of her saying "DUFF PUFFS UP" she started working hard to melt off the pounds...but now, I think she looks too thin, unhealthily thin.
It's one thing when a girl is naturally that skinny, but it's another when you see someone become that weight by choice.
ok, anyway, onto my thoughts about this whole topic...I would just like to add my two cents as an Asian girl growing up with a white beauty standard she held for herself...I know, throw tomatoes at me if you will. But I know I am wrong and I'm working to very hard change that.
A lot of what your friend said was what I used to think, but she was much more extreme about it. Deep down inside, I wanted to see beauty in every color and race, but FOR ME I always, always, always thought that being white (or at least mixed with white) was the best and prettiest, and I, as an Asian girl, would never be the best cause I don't have a drop of white in me. I grew up having mostly white friends, living in a predominantly white neighborhood, watching TV with mostly white characters, reading magazines that were directed towards (mostly) white girls. Thus, I grew up feeling, I guess, out of place. When I started looking at movie stars from Asia, hoping to see girls who looked at least a little more like me, I was still bombarded by images of women who held their image up to a white beauty standard. Sad, isn't it?
I am sad that I still feel this way at times. I wanted a nose job for so long. It is an internal struggle I deal with almost every day...I wish I could see the beauty in diversity, but I feel like when I look at girls of different colors sometimes, I still find the ones who look more white prettier. What a twisted mentality I have developed, haven't I? I always felt sad that I couldn't look prettier (which to me, meant "more white"..and when I say this, I mostly mean my face.) I thought that was why I could never attract a guy. Little did I know that had little to do with anything, and most of my problems were in the way I thought, not necessarily the way I looked (not saying i'm a knock-out, but I'm just saying now I want to feel like I AM worthy and not think that I can't land a bf cause I'm Asian!)
As for what guys prefer...it all boils down to preference. My dad told me this, actually, and I think his words were very wise. Even if white was "perfection", who's to say that all guys only want "perfect" girls? Every guy has a different perception on what THEY find beautiful, and the same goes with us - we have different preferences in what we are physically attracted to in a mate as well. I won't go any deeper than this because I don't want to open the can of worms known as my thoughts on the subject, but I still firmly believe this simple point: Not all guys only like one type of girl, be it white girls, black girls, asian girls, etc. (unless they have fetishes. But let's not get into that.)
POINT: It is sad your friend, and I, feel this way. There is beauty in every color, and we all should be able to see that, not hold ourselves up to one beauty standard and say the rest are completely inferior. If the world continues to think this way, it'll be messed up for a while.
thing is hun that there are some women who are naturally thin,who maybe would like to put some more weight on and vice versa.. We must embrace all different sizes etc what i don't approve of is when you open a newspaper ( I live in UK) such as Daily Mail ,Sun etc and you see photo of say Posh and in my OH,opinion she looks like she could do with good "english GUTBUSTER brekkie" which incl:2 sausages,2 rashers of bacon,baked beanz,2 fried tomatoes, 2 eggs,mushrooms, 2 hash browns,fried slice of bread, round of toast!!The dress she wore to BRITS,was hanging off her
I have an 18 year old who says she would love a body like POSH!! (my daughter is size 8 dunno whats that in US sizes),i always have to repeat to her that she is fine as she is and there's no need for her not too eat or to aspire to look like Posh!I do blame the media as we are being bombarded with these images of "yummy ,skinny mummy" type who looks so effortlessly slim,elegant etc!
real life is not like this especially when you are woken up at 2 am in the morning to comfort your crying child who has not been feelin well and decided to vomit all over you
