Virginity

[darkwater_soul]

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Originally Posted by lvgz i'm a virgin by choice as well. i dont see anything wrong with being one or not being one, but personally.. its rare these days in mho. i'm 18, and i can say more than half (wayyy more) of my friends are not virgins. its not that i dont have the sex drive (which everyone knows i do... HAHA at dirty jokes and dirty minds) but i just rather wait. im like the unexpected virgin out of my friends. i see it as a test for myself. i have such a sex drive (dirty mind, okay lol) and whatnot that i just want to see how long i can hold out. it'd make sex more special for me, and its something for me to look forward to. sometimes the 'been there, done him' really just isnt motivating hahahah and plus. im scared to SHIT of having a baby at my age. i definitely give props to the ppl who have done it because taking care of a kid is hard work. its just not for me right now. i know there are condoms, birth control pills, and whatnot. but i rather not take the chance. AND uh, at 18 STDs are everywhere. can you imagine how many highschool or in my case, college students have slept with someone? then with someone else? ....

I wish more high school students were like you. Bravo. I mean that.

Be proud of your informed decision.

 

[darkwater_soul]

I hate saying I "lost" my virginity, I know EXACTLY where it went, thankyouverymuch.

I made the decision to be a consensual intercourse practitioner at the ripe age of 16. My first boyfriend, after about 4 months of dating. I don't regret it, I regret what HE became after the event - very dominating, very rude, and domineering... I wasn't "allowed" to wear lipstick or tight clothes to school, for fear of other boys seeing me as hot. And sadly, I stayed in that relationship for 9 months. Ugh. I finally saw what an ass he was, dumped him, and went after my VERY HOT best friend Mike... and we did the deed after about 3 months of dating. After that though, I didn't sleep with another bf until college... and I only had 2 bf's in college, the latter I am still with (3+ years... where's my platinum diamond ring??????) and going strong. Sex becomes better as you become more comfortable with them, and I couldn't IMAGINE waiting until marriage... It's one of the fundamental blocks of being a mammal, and as humans we add another layer to that, the ability to give love and emotion to an otherwise purely procreational act... it's such a beautiful thing.

 

[FlashBang]

Urgh still got my v here and I hate it.

Im 22 soon and Im not saving it for marriage, for me its just one of those things I want to be careful with. Im quite insecure and the thought of a guy seeing me nude and whatever makes me cringe and feel really uneasy.
Its weird though, I tell lots of dirty jokes and act rude/crude and make puns/innuendos about virtually everything but deep down Im the exact opposite.
I think its becoming a problem for me since the longer I wait at this stage, the worse it gonna be for me. Most guys I talk to now have had some experience and I think I must seem pretty weird to them.

I went on a huge trip to LA recently with a bunch of people and ended up hanging out with 50+ people (mostly guys...like 5 girls and 45 guys) like we were all one big family lol. It got out that I was still a v and that was it, there was a ridiculous amount of fuss made which made me feel worse, I dont like people knowing that kind of stuff about me, especially guys.

 

[sunrisesunset]

defitnitley! i jjust dont get kids these days!! im 17 and i take pride in the fact that im not following the crowd

 

[chocolategoddes]

I'm not waiting til marriage, I'm waiting until I turn 18.
Then I'll be a total slut and then I'll probably regret it later on.

 

[MissResha]

^^LMFAO i love it!

i lost mine at 18, and lemme tell you...he literally came in like, 45 seconds.

i looked at him like "wow...so is that it??" and he said "uh...yea...sorry"

i was pissed OFF. i waited all this time, for 45 seconds of nothing? you've gotta be shitting me. man, talk about a disappointment. he wasn't the virgin, i was, so wtf. jerk.

what a waste of time, i could have made a peanut butter n jelly sandwich and gotten more pleasure from Smuckers than that dickless idiot.

 

[claralikesguts]

^ LOL!


i'm a proud virgin. don't plan to lose it anytime soon. i think sex in your teenage years is so pointless... and i'm trying really hard to not do anything i will regret, like sex!

 

[MACandie2012]

i lost mine at 17. bad choice b/c it was just casual sex. i wish i had saved it 4 my fiance

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

I think the whole virginity issue can be as serious as you make it be. Some people will say its not that big deal while others will disagree. I'm kind of in between about it. In my opinion it is considered a big part of my life whether or whether not I liked the guy or enjoyed it or whatever. It's sort of a right of passage type of a thing I guess for me? Then again sometimes I do regret it cause it just caused a lot of drama for me plus the guy was a total pressuring ass. Idk, whatever its happened and I can't change it now. So I try to enjoy it as much as I can now =p

 

[ashley8119]

I am a virgin also. I am very happy with my decision to remain one, it's the only thing in my life that I have absolutely no regrets about.

 

[OfficerJenny]

So my school newspaper is running an article about sex/virginity and i was asked where I would rank virginity on a scale of importance

I said 3 places under getting a dog.

:C

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

What bothers me is how some cultures place so much emphasis on female virginity before marriage. I understand that this has been going on since the beginning of time all over the world. But the thing is that it's still happening especially in more remote or less developed areas in the world. They usually are punished if found out and it can often be pretty severe. This can sometimes even apply if they have been raped which itself is already a traumatic experience but to be punished for it is just beyond cruel.

I'm chinese and my parents were born in china and are still a bit traditional in some ways. And when I was 13 and still a virgin I was having pretty irregular periods as it was still adjusting and was complaining about it. A few days later my mom all of the sudden freaks out when I get home from school asking me if I had sex and maybe pregnant and I told her no. Then she goes on a rant of how important it is to stay a virgin til your married and that its something your husband "deserves". Just wow.

 

[LMD84]

my family is catholic and they don't believe in sex before marriage. now i am not catholic and even if i was i don't think i'd agree in no sex before marriage. i personally see no issue in sleeping with whoever i want. it doesn't matter if i'm married to them... or heck even if i'm in a relationship with them! it's all personal choice. if people want to wait for marriage then good for them. but for me it wasn't even something to concider.

now i didnt loose my virginity until i was 18. this was much later than my friends however i'm pleased i waited untill i was with somebody who i loved and was 100% comfortable with. many of my friends lost it while drunk at random house parties. which is up to them - however a few of them really regretted it and got upset that they'd done it. i guess that's what made me wait a little longer too because i saw how messed up some of them got over it all.

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

^^Yep. It's all about what YOU want, not what your parents or whomever wants. As long as your being responsible I don't see the issue.

 

[caffn8me]

Well, I'm definitely a virgin but I probably don't count as I'm also asexual. I've never had the slightest sexual attraction to anyone - male or female.

I've had plenty of offers from guys and girls but just couldn't do it.

I'm absolutely happy with the way I am and wouldn't have sex just to please someone else.

 

[saki]

I lost my virginity in Nov 06 to my boyfriend. I was going to stay a virgin until our wedding day but well... LOL damn temptation! Funny thing though right before he was going to pop the cherry, the cops came and interrupted us! I was scared shitless and thought he'd call our parents even though we are both over 18.

He told us that we should get a room and then said that if we weren't gone in five minutes he'd give us a ticket and 'take us to jail'. The minute he left we moved to another place and finished doing our deed. ^^

It was beautiful and sweet and very funny.

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

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Originally Posted by saki I lost my virginity in Nov 06 to my boyfriend. I was going to stay a virgin until our wedding day but well... LOL damn temptation! Funny thing though right before he was going to pop the cherry, the cops came and interrupted us! I was scared shitless and thought he'd call our parents even though we are both over 18. He told us that we should get a room and then said that if we weren't gone in five minutes he'd give us a ticket and 'take us to jail'. The minute he left we moved to another place and finished doing our deed. ^^ It was beautiful and sweet and very funny.

Omg, I know all about cops just showing up when your about to do your thing! I almost died lmfao. I was like half naked and so was the guy and all we see is a car pull up and COPS. Luckily they didn't call my parents or anything, I was like 16 and the guy was 19. The guy was actually pretty cool, he gave me some privacy and let me get dressed and then just gave us a warning.

 

[saki]

@X4bidden: We've been caught three times by cops and luckily they've been nice about it. Only once was I half naked and just used my hands/arms to cover but the rest of the time I was undressing. LOL The third time we got busted my boyfriend and I were like, "Oh hello there officer... yeah we know we know.." We didn't really say it to the cop but that was basically our attitude.

Cars are just so much fun... sometimes.

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

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Originally Posted by saki @X4bidden: We've been caught three times by cops and luckily they've been nice about it. Only once was I half naked and just used my hands/arms to cover but the rest of the time I was undressing. LOL The third time we got busted my boyfriend and I were like, "Oh hello there officer... yeah we know we know.." We didn't really say it to the cop but that was basically our attitude. Cars are just so much fun... sometimes.

3 Times?!!! I seriously was about to just die right there and then the first time lol.

I have to admit also that yes cars are indeed so much fun, especially with tinted windows haha. Now that I'm 18 I've gotta watch out though! lol.

 

[caffn8me]

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Originally Posted by X4biddenxLustX 3 Times?!!! I seriously was about to just die right there and then the first time lol.

I guess some people like to live damngerously

All part of the thrill I imagine.