Interracial relationships.. whats ur opinion?

[MAC_Pixie04]

I'm Black and my boyfriend is Mexican/Jewish (essentially, he's considered "white"). We get along amazingly, he always tells me I'm the best gf he's ever had and we have a lot in common. He's also my first serious relationship, so I can't speak from prior experiences, but I'm not particularly attracted to Black men. No particular reasons at all, if a nice, respectful man of my own race was interested in me and we had things in common, sure, I'd date him. But it's not a must for me. I don't look at race when it comes to matters of the heart. My parents adore my boyfriend and I'm deeply in love with him, and to me that's all that matters.
He lives in an upper-middle class community, the majority of the occupants are white and older (40s+, lots of seniors) and we get the awkward stares from time to time. But honestly, it's 2007, none of us are purebred to one race. In ten years, a good majority of the population is going to be intermixed in one way or another, so people need to just move on. In a short while, race won't exist, we'll all be checking the "Other" box.

 

[Dark_Phoenix]

I don't think I'd ever date anyone of a different race. It's not because I'm racist, I just don't know any non-white guys. Don't know anyone where I live who is of a different race.

My parents probably wouldn't like me dating someone of a different race, but whatever. They can't really say anything.

I look very European (European/Arab decent) and I think all of Jordan is Arab (Bahrain was pretty mixed). My last boyfriend's brother HATED me (not here, back in Bahrain). And I think it was for the sole reason of not being the same ethnicity or religion. I mean, my boyfriend and I were awesome together (a year older then me, originally from Yemen, but also going to school overseas). I never knew a guy that I could just TALK to, and my parents liked him alot which is always a plus.

But it didn't work out. His brother wouldn't stop harrassing us and I moved this year anyways *sigh*.

 

[vina]

i'm a product of an interracial relationship. Father "black" and mother is "white". 9 out of 10 people think I'm latina. I always get the most interesting reactions when people find out i'm half black. In terms of dating outside your "race" go for it. Sure you may feel uncomfortable but we do live in a very race conscious society.

 

[MACgirl]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 In a short while, race won't exist, we'll all be checking the "Other" box.

Love this, so true....anywho here's my lil story lol.
I'am half puerto rican and mexican and have been with my man who is irish (white boy blue eyes!) for three years. I never really gave a thought as to being an interracial couple becuase before him i had two boyfriends who also were white boys with blue eyes (all three to this day have fallen in love with me and truly mean it) and went on a few dates with some other white boys ( trust me i didnt whore out lol). Anywho this is my dating pattern so it never was strange to me, then about 6 months ago i was lying in bed and i said soemthing in spanish and he awsnered back in broken up spanish being funny (we always do this, he's actually getting good with spanish lol), and i realized at that point my langauge was fluent for me but funny to him and i said babe how do u feel abotu being interracial couple? he just said it didnt matter becuase we have love and thats something that doesnt come by so easily,, then to lightne things up he said besides who else would teach me spanish? lol. Not to say i wouldnt date anyone but white, im open to any race or sex. Besdies my family is waaaaay not judgmental, two of my sisters married black men, and my oldest sister just had a child with a white guy, while my other sister had her first child with her hispanic husband and is currently preggers with a white boys baby, my little bother is dating a vietnamese girl and my other brother is dating a black and white mixed girl, so alot of diversity, but whenver we get otgether i have never even seem or heard anyone discuss race, its not an isssue really. As for my and my man, i never had people give us stares or say something, mayeb we will but as for now we havent noticied if thier has been.

 

[glamdoll]

My husband took spanish class in college!
I helped him alot thou and he always tries to learn
I love the fact he takes interest

 

[tania_nia]

I am bi-racial myself (part german and part African american my adopted parents are both African American) and my boyfriend is Chinese. I don't think people really look at us strangely probably because my boyfriend has long hair and looks kinda like a girl!! Obviously I'm all for interracial relationships.

The bottom line is this: if people are giving you looks and saying crazy stuff, it's their problem. Sounds harsh but it's true. If you're happy and your partner is happy then what's the big deal?

Another thing if they're looking at you and/or talking about you and/or your relationship then think of it this way: they're giving someone/some other people a rest. 4 Generations of women in my family have said that and it's something I carry with me till this day.

I hope this helps!!

 

[juicyaddict]

race is also not an issue with me. as long as there is love and understanding (mainly culture differences) it should work. i don't understand people who do it just because they hate their own race. i agree that is a whole different issue. i am filipino, but part chinese. i know a lot of people who are 100% chinese who are forced by their parents to marry another 100% chinese. not only that, their parents won't let them have friends who are not 100% chinese. i don't get it. and i know some people who are in this situation who tend to rebel and go against their parents by marrying the opposite. but this should not lead to hating your own race. i love my culture, my race.
i also don't understand people who intentionally plan to marry a different race just because of the idea that marrying their own race won't produce beautiful kids. it is all in the genes... i personally know some filipinas who think their kids are more beautiful just because they married a caucasian and their kids have fairer skin. whenever they bring their kids to the philippines, their kids stand out because of their skin, but in the states their kids look normal and my kid who's sooo tan gets more attention. beauty is in the eye of the beholder... hello!

 

[KAIA]

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Originally Posted by juicyaddict i know a lot of people who are 100% chinese who are forced by their parents to marry another 100% chinese. not only that, their parents won't let them have friends who are not 100% chinese. i don't get it.

And this is everywhere I think, one of my best friends is peruvian, but has chinese parents, and I saw her struggling because her ex was peruvian, they were together 2 years! and he never even went to her house, they had to hide.. that's crazy, they're not together anymore.. but that was just nuts!

 

[frocher]

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[SingFrAbsoltion]

I'm Russian and my boyfriend is Korean/Chinese. His parents are okay with it, but mine are against it and are very rude about it. Like for example I mentioned to my mom that I really like Korean food and she goes "What do they eat? Dogs?" and one time during a really bad fight with my stepfather he said that I need "a real man not someone with a tiny dick who looks like a girl" I desperately hope that I never ever become as horrible and close minded like my parents. But they are very horrible people and everyone besides them likes my boyfriend and thinks that we make a good couple.

 

[frocher]

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[Lissa]

I've dated a mixture of men from different races. We are all human and all share the same human qualities, in differing levels depending upon individual personality. Race has in no way ever influenced the outcome of any of these relationships. A jerk is a jerk, and a decent man is a decent man.

 

[giz2000]

I think that interracial relationships are great. As long as there is love and respect between the couple, it shouldn't matter what color/nationality/etc you are...unfortunately, not everyone is that open-minded.

 

[giz2000]

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Originally Posted by Miss Pumpkin Yes, but we look extremely different and it could lead to people critizising. :chillpill:

..and I know it's cliched...but you'll have beautiful babies!!

 

[Leopardskinny]

When it comes to race (and even religion, culture etc. for that matter) I actually couldn't care less. Hell, I don't really notice what race people are to be honest. I am white, blue eyes blonde hair- the typical 'white girl' steryotype and I have dated white guys, and a latino/scottish mixture! I really don't think about race when I date. I just date who i am atrracted to, whatever colour. I am lucky that my family are accepting- however one set of grandparents are quite racist. It really upsets me because racism is something that I really hate. Whoever I fall for in life, I would love to be a part of their culture and beleifs whatever race or colour they are. Black, white, asian, latino- it doesn't matter to me as long as I love them!

 

[tsukiyomi]

To each their own. I personally, have only dated a Hispanic guy once but now I'm married to my husband and he and I are the same race.

 

[xiahe]

i completely agree with it!!! if it works, then go for it! my relationship doesn't really count but i'm 1/2 chinese & 1/2 polish and my b/f is mostly caucasian with like, 5% native american in him

 

[dollbabybex]

i think rasicm is more of a big deal in america?

as in britian most of my friends are in mixed relationships!

my best friends boyfiend is black, shes white

my mums best friends husband is white and shes black

my friend is half persian goin out with an italian

my other friend is half black her bf is white

god i could go on forever and no one over here even really cares!

 

[CantAffordMAC]

My mom is white, my dad is black. They had 5 children together....I've never heard too many negative things about it.

People mistake me for spanish ALL the time. I've also been mistaken for italian, hawaiian, even asian. My boyfriend is black. I work in a salon (owner is colombian...everyone else is white) i've never seen any black clients, only white and very few spanish ones. When my boyfriend comes to pick me up, a lot of people look at him like "what is he doing here" I also live in a very white, rich town, and walking down the street with him or driving, i see many people either staring or just giving looks. It pisses me the hell off. It's not 1930, its 2007!! black people are everywhere, get used to it.

i don't care who anybody is with and my personal preference should not matter to anyone

 

[frocher]

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Originally Posted by dollbabybex i think rasicm is more of a big deal in america? as in britian most of my friends are in mixed relationships! my best friends boyfiend is black, shes white my mums best friends husband is white and shes black my friend is half persian goin out with an italian my other friend is half black her bf is white god i could go on forever and no one over here even really cares!

The vast majority of people in America, and I am basing this on personal experience, have no issue with interracial relationships either. But some do, just like everywhere else. I have know people from Britain that have had problems with this as well. To say America has more issues with this than Britain is a gross generalization, and untrue.