Interracial relationships.. whats ur opinion?

dollbabybex

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Originally Posted by frocher
The vast majority of people in America, and I am basing this on personal experience, have no issue with interracial relationships either. But some do, just like everywhere else. I have know people from Britain that have had problems with this as well. To say America has more issues with this than Britain is a gross generalization, and untrue.

fair enough i didnt mean to offend anyone...its just my friend who moved to florida said its very rasict compared to britian so i guess im just goin on that... sorry! x
 

SparklingWaves

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As a fair person, I question what exactly is a "white person". I have done my genealogy and have Native American and Oriental in me. You would never know it from looking at me.

If you look into someone's family tree far enough, there are many colors of the rainbow. There is the genotype (what you don't see) and phenotype (what you see). I know of a lady who is as fair as me, very blonde naturally and blue eyed. She was having a great deal of trouble having a child. She found out she had a rare chromosome disorder that was only found in Chinese people. Hmmm, so much for "just a white person theory". She never could have children, because of this serious chromosome disorder.

So, it bothers me... when some one says they are this or that and nothing else. They only look like this or that on the outside. What their chromosomes, DNA, say is a better picture. How many people have traced all their ancestry (going through the mother's names too) for over 2,000 years to know they are just one thing and nothing else. Hardly any people have never migrated are gone to war for over 1,000 years with another kind of tribe of people. In most situations, when another tribe of people took over; they took over the tribe by mating with the women too. So uh, what happened there? (To men, it was a form of domination of that tribe. They weakened the opposing tribe from coming back to life and taking over again).

Our eyes are biased. We are all drawn to certain things in a mate and even friends. It's just how we are & opposites do attract - Tall/short, Blonde/Brunette, Dark complexion/fair, etc.

In America, interracial is really being going for well over 200 years. It just getting a bigger melting pot all the time. It's not going anywhere. Look at Peru. It is a melting pot too. We will look more like Peru in less than 50 yrs. So, we might as well enjoy the Mardi Gras here too.

I just think for now its an adjustment time. People think others are rebelling from their kind (phenotypically) or tribe, but what kind (genotype) or tribe is that? The gene pool is being changed like that of a tribal war, some things are not going to be seen on the outside due to mating outside of familiar genetic pool. But in this case, it's a personal choice and not a war to eliminate or encourage whatever genetics you want. You are being the tribal leaders now.

So with that - Party on my friend like it's Mardi Gras all year! Cheers and much love to all.
 

aziajs

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Originally Posted by dollbabybex
fair enough i didnt mean to offend anyone...its just my friend who moved to florida said its very rasict compared to britian so i guess im just goin on that... sorry! x

Actually, I agree with you. I think America is one of the most racist countries in the world. The difference between the U.S. and other places, I feel, is that racism is not as overt here as it once was and it's more institutionalized. I think this leads people to feel that race relations or racism is "better" than it once was or is better than it is in other areas of the world.
 

frocher

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Originally Posted by aziajs
Actually, I agree with you. I think America is one of the most racist countries in the world. The difference between the U.S. and other places, I feel, is that racism is not as overt here as it once was and it's more institutionalized. I think this leads people to feel that race relations or racism is "better" than it once was or is better than it is in other areas of the world.

I disagree, I am multiracial, and have family in a few different countries. Racism is just as big a problem in those countries as it is here, more in some of them, and it is pretty much legal in some, so there is no protection. I don't think we have an ideal system/society, but then who does. I think that racism is alive and well in just about every country, and to think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, or pond, is wishful thinking.
 

anaaliyahfan03

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i dont really care as long as they really like/love each other..where i am from, its horrible...the black guys there prefer going out with non-black girls or if they are black, they gotta be mixed..they think that is sexier than a fully black girl..they also say that they wanna be with them because incase they marry that girl..they want their babies to come out with "GOOD HAIR"..what is that?...im as black as they come and my hair is perfectly fine...i have seen some women act like that too..i even saw a talk show on that subject..i think it was TYRA...interracial relationships are perfectly fine to me as long there are real feelings..not just image
 

CantAffordMAC

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Originally Posted by anaaliyahfan03
i dont really care as long as they really like/love each other..where i am from, its horrible...the black guys there prefer going out with non-black girls or if they are black, they gotta be mixed..they think that is sexier than a fully black girl..they also say that they wanna be with them because incase they marry that girl..they want their babies to come out with "GOOD HAIR"..what is that?...im as black as they come and my hair is perfectly fine...i have seen some women act like that too..i even saw a talk show on that subject..i think it was TYRA...interracial relationships are perfectly fine to me as long there are real feelings..not just image

my boyfriend has always been attracted to lighter girls. He's never been in a relationship with anyone but me, and in his sexual relationships some of the girls were spanish and some were black. He doesn't have a specific reason for liking lighter girls, he just always has (i'm mixed with black and white but i'm pretty light).
But see, its funny because I'm the same way when it comes to black guys. I've always liked black guys more than anything else, and not mixed or anything else, just black. i dunno if i could ever date someone that WASN'T fully black. weird?
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belldandy13

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i'm asian, married to a white guy and we have a beautiful baby girl.

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i've pretty much dated all races but i wound up not marrying a race or colour, but the man who makes me feel happier than i ever knew i could be, and makes me feel like i'm the only woman in the world. my father (a very traditional, strict korean with firm beliefs) initially wanted me to marry within our race, but once he met my husband he realized that he was a great man and was most deserving of not only my heart, but my family's as well.

i still get a lot of dirty looks and sometimes my husband does as well when we're together (especially when I was pregnant) but I learned not to let those things bother me because these ignorant people are not worth my time. And remember that they are miserable and have nothing better to do with their lives. It's sad really.

i think that everyone should just be with whomever makes them happy, and remember that love is unconditional.
 

anaaliyahfan03

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC
my boyfriend has always been attracted to lighter girls. He's never been in a relationship with anyone but me, and in his sexual relationships some of the girls were spanish and some were black. He doesn't have a specific reason for liking lighter girls, he just always has (i'm mixed with black and white but i'm pretty light).
But see, its funny because I'm the same way when it comes to black guys. I've always liked black guys more than anything else, and not mixed or anything else, just black. i dunno if i could ever date someone that WASN'T fully black. weird?
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not weird...im not racist, id date almost any race, as long as they look good with a nice personality...i prefer my brothas cause thats all i have ever been around, but ya cant help who ur attracted to no matter what their skin is..
i have thought about hispanic, native american, some sexy asians, white men..i actually dated a hispanic guy before and he dumped me cause his friends told him, not to date a black girl..
 

CantAffordMAC

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Originally Posted by belldandy13
i'm asian, married to a white guy and we have a beautiful baby girl.

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i've pretty much dated all races but i wound up not marrying a race or colour, but the man who makes me feel happier than i ever knew i could be, and makes me feel like i'm the only woman in the world. my father (a very traditional, strict korean with firm beliefs) initially wanted me to marry within our race, but once he met my husband he realized that he was a great man and was most deserving of not only my heart, but my family's as well.

i still get a lot of dirty looks and sometimes my husband does as well when we're together (especially when I was pregnant) but I learned not to let those things bother me because these ignorant people are not worth my time. And remember that they are miserable and have nothing better to do with their lives. It's sad really.

i think that everyone should just be with whomever makes them happy, and remember that love is unconditional.


Thats great! you're daughter is so PRECIOUS. She must make you guys so happy.
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You truly made a beautiful baby girl.
 

belldandy13

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Originally Posted by CantAffordMAC
Thats great! you're daughter is so PRECIOUS. She must make you guys so happy.
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You truly made a beautiful baby girl.


thanks! she brings us to a level of happiness i can't even describe!
 

Macnarsandlove

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I am black and I have dated black, white, asian, and spanish men and it never surprizes me the dirty looks I get. I am a pretty diverse person due to my upbringing and other stuff and I think if u look good then u look good. Ppl can be so close-minded about this subject it's gross. I think that y should I limit myself to one race when there r so many hot ppl out there.

But it makes me mad when someone says " u know I kinda wonder what it's like w/ a black chick" What the hell do you think? Just last week when I was out someone was like " U r such a pretty blk girl". l dont kno y he said that like blk women r walking around like ogres or something. I didnt know whether to be offended or what. Maybe it's the south or something but thats just sad.
 

angeliquea~+

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^^That's so bizzare, its a very backhanded compliment. I don't know what he meant by that, Black women are stunning! I saw this girl at the shops the other day, she looked like Iman, she was absolutely exquisite. I was tempted to say something to her but didn't because she'd probably think I'm weird!

Interracial relationships are so common here, and there are people with all sorts of interesting backgrounds because of this. My cousin's husband is originally from Ghana, and (to my knowledge) no one has commented on their relationship or thought anything unusual of it. I can't wait till they have kids they're going to be absolutely gorgeous!

Of course there are a few ignorant people out there (a prominent politician made a comment about a Premier's wife calling her a mail order bride
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)but you get that everywhere.

I can't for the life of me understand why people have a problem with interracial relationships. We're all the same species, for God's sake! :confused: I see it as an oppotunity to embrace a whole new culture and experience something different.
 

Carmelita

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I'm Latina, Native American and White all mixed together, so yeah, I've definitely dated outside of my race(s), lol. I like darker skin on guys tho, but that's doesn't exclude white guys, there's alot of darker toned white men out there. If you're hot to me, you're hot, doesn't matter what your race is. My current bf is White, and I think he's gorgeous, the guy I dated before him was Black, doesn't make a difference in how I see them.
 

CaraAmericana

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I date human beings. Race of my love interest should not be an issue others need to concern themselves with to associate with me.

Stop me if I try to date a kangaroo, otherwise MYB.
 

MAKExMExUP

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Originally Posted by CaraAmericana
I date human beings. Race of my love interest should not be an issue others need to concern themselves with to associate with me.

Stop me if I try to date a kangaroo, otherwise MYB.


haha i luv it!
 

kimmy

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Originally Posted by Shimmer
Do you love him?
Does he love you?
Do you treat each other right?
Are you happy in each others' arms?

If the answers are yes, that's what matters. Everything else is a matter of how much sunscreen you need to use.


couldn't have said it better myself.

i don't really think anything of interracial couples when i see them...i guess it's just so commonplace where i come from that the colour isn't what you notice when you see a couple walking on the street.
 

leslie

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I am in a interracial marriage. I'm Filipina and my husband is Salvadorean. I've never really dated Filipino guys because to me they seemed conceited and I wasn't really attracted to them. Hispanic guys always caught my attention. It's the greatest thing to be in this type of relationship because you get to learn a lot about each others cultures. And since my family talks to our kids in Filipino my husband uses some of the words to talk to them too. Also, our kids our soo beautiful and depending how you look at them they either look Filipina or Salvadorean, which I think is pretty cool.
 

leslie

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I am in a interracial marriage. I'm Filipina and my husband is Salvadorean. I've never really dated Filipino guys because to me they seemed conceited and I wasn't really attracted to them. Hispanic guys always caught my attention. It's the greatest thing to be in this type of relationship because you get to learn a lot about each others cultures. And since my family talks to our kids in Filipino my husband uses some of the words to talk to them too. Also, our kids our soo beautiful and depending how you look at them they either look Filipina or hispanic, which I think is pretty cool.
 

komischkatze

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If you don't think race is still an issue in America, you must not live near me. I don't know that I would say people in America are necessarily more racist overall, but we talk about the issue so much that it's going to seem prominent either way.

So far, I've only dated white guys simply because I grew up in a city that was only 5% black and less than 1% anything else. When I was growing up every time I mentioned a friend who was a guy, the first words out of most of my relatives mouths (not my parents, but cousins/aunts/uncles) were "is he white?" I heard a lot of trash talk from those same family members over the years about interracial couples involving (and sometimes ending in) violence. Most of it was anti-black. For that reason, even though I *would* date a black guy if I liked him I would definitely be afraid of physical violence from a few family members. The thing that really gets me the most is that the most racist branch of my family has a LOT of 1/2 to 1/8 Native American members who are also VERY against Native Americans. How sad is that?

I think it's way more important to find someone you care about who treats you well than worry about race. But I can definitely see how environmental factors might curb who you actually go for in the end. But hey, if I find a non-white boy I like and the family gives me trouble, I'll just pack him up and move elsewhere.
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